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Focus on #1 specific goal that will solve 90% of your problems. Probably, the answer is money.

We do not have rites of passage, older wise men to guide ourselves. Wisdom is extremely rare. Where do men get their information nowadays? Reddit? YouTube? Blogs? Books? There is not tribal cohesion, sense of community, experimentation, healthy emulation, strong ideals.

Sure. They do not interact with woman directly. They spent all day on reddit/YT.

I want to discover/build new pathways to humanity. My real focus is about originality, innovation, invention, intelligence, creativity, science fiction, psychic/consciousness research, R&D.

There are multiple factors for the dating crisis. (economy, psychology, physiology, sociology) Man are not taught to develop their masculinity on a healthy way. If you are a man, follow curiosity, strength, adventure, service, mastery. Of course, learn how to sell.

If you are a normal man with no money, skills or talent - the #1 skill to develop is delusional self-confidence.

You gotta be delusional. There is no way out.

Pessimism is your worst enemy in dating. Direct experience is king. If you really want, you will have to pay the price.

Yeah. You are on a perpetual cycle of self-loathing.

I can't make a global argument to solve dating for everyone. What I see is that people do not want to conform to effective actions that lead them to get what they want. Do you want a girlfriend? Stop being stubborn, hit the gym, learn to socialize, go out and stop watching online hateful content.

If you are doing what PUAs call daygame, you do not need money to ask for a girls number. Of course, time is essential.

Critical thinking is a essential skill to learn. Are they making questions?

😉 Addiction comes from not-knowing what you want, what you are, what you really love, how you want to spend your time, who you really admire. Pleasure becomes a kind of anesthesia.

Asking advice is conformity.

Sure, this is a great complementary view. If you are really connected to your life, passions, hobbies and people that you respect, you will be fine. Fixation on making sex with hundreds of woman is not a healthy pursuit. Knowing your values, building a rich life, doing what excites yourself, going on adventures - this is really cool. When you make your life all about woman/sex, sooner or later you'll discover a unbelievable pain in your soul.

I was caught up in this dilemma about dating. What can truly heal men is finding what they really love or feel passionate about doing every day. You’ve got to love your life. You’ll find that chasing one girl after another is often just an escape to numb your pain.

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Connirae Andreas is an American psychotherapist, author, and pioneering trainer in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). Wholeness Work is a structured self-transformation method developed for inner healing and spiritual awakening, created after her personal health crisis through modeling teachings like those of Ramana Maharshi. It is a combination between NLP + Self-Inquiry. I really recommend her work/books. On the last months, I got deep on different kinds of spirituality. Here is a great conversation to understand Wholeness Work more deeply. [00:17] Introduction to Connirae Andreas and her book, The Wholeness Work Essential Guide. [02:48] Defining "wholeness" as undivided presence and explaining "wholeness work." [07:22] Connirae shares the story of her personal crisis (a jarring breakdown experience) that led to the discovery of Wholeness Work. [13:29] The influence of Ramana Maharshi's teaching ("Who Am I?") and the search for a precise, teachable method for awakening. [17:06] The benefits of Wholeness Work: deeper psychological healing and an integrated, gentle awakening. [22:58] Using the composting metaphor to explain how difficult feelings enrich the field of awareness. [25:28] Examples of the work's impact on a CEO's anger, therapists in conflict zones (Gaza/Ukraine), and relationship healing. [34:52] Guided Practice begins (A quick version of the Wholeness Work process). [40:55] Phase 2 of the Practice: Finding the "Eye" (the location of the perceiving self). [51:32] Phase 4 of the Practice: The Invitation—Relaxing the "Eye" into the full space of Awareness. [57:26] Discussion: The centrality of the "Perceiving Self" and how it holds limiting beliefs. [01:02:34] Addressing complex issues like shame and the need for Authority Structures (which are covered in the full process). [01:10:16] Key Principles for Transformation: Inclusion (Rumi poem), No Force, and going the easy, gentle way. [01:13:43] The foundational principle that the system already longs for wholeness. [01:14:55] Conclusion and final thoughts on the book and applying the principles globally.

After contemplating the hell out of this episode, I got that being limited by your life story is one of the marks of conformity. Your past is a distortion/illusion that keeps you addicted to being yourself. Contemplate: Is it possible to live without a life story? Is it possible to generate different kinds of life stories? is it cheating? is it a lie?

Max Hodak is one of the best neuroengineers working on BCIs, Neuroengineering, Human Augmented Capabilities. (Science, Neuralink) He is trying to map "phenomenal consciousness" to engineer reality using new kinds of BCIs where you can possibly experience each others POVs, telepathy, becoming a mutant. Keep an eye on that guy.

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Sure. The forum is extremely valuable but it makes you lazy. The real work is alone doing contemplation or meditation. It is not about debates, spiritual bypassing or watching videos/making bullet point notes of what Leo said.

I know it hurts hearing that you are wrong. I am wrong. What do you think is more pleasurable: watching a video or working your ass off to have deep insights for yourself? Real spirituality is painful, working alone, suffering, hours of contemplation and meditation, being wrong, looking into your dark shadow. Real spirituality is about learning to walk alone. This is where the real game begins.

The truth is: Real spirituality is not about external reality, debating on forums or watching videos. The real sages would not watch Actualized.org Leo spoiled all of us. He is extremely developed but we as members are just bullshitting ourselves thinking that we are really developed. Read Ralston's work and walk alone. Insight and understanding is all you need.