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@ValiantSalvatoreI have the same problem. I am just now looking into letting go/releasing/revealing from looking at this guy: https://www.youtube.com/c/Thefearlessman but the same technique is also found in the books sedona method and letting go. Also a key concept is the 1% rule found in "the slight edge". I don´t know if this works though but send me a pm in a month or so if you want to find out. The idea is that if you can observe and welcome your emotions and then let them go that they turn into higher emotions, making attaining stuff easier. I mainly just wrote this because I wanted to collect my thoughts but feel free to look into it, my first experience with it has been that I have felt my whole body just pulsating with good emotions. But if you don´t want to spend the time looking it up, just pm me in a month or so (makes me feel responsibiliy to actually so this). This guy´s meditation has also helped me in just a week: https://www.youtube.com/c/MichaelTaft108 Never had good meditations but this actually makes me feel calmer, more confident and more loving instantaneously. But the sessions can be really fucking frustrating if you haven´t meditated in the past. I´m sorry I didn´t include a measuring tool or somehting of that sort, but honestly (and this comes from a emotionally low place I am in) I don´t think there is a perfect measuring tool for you. When you are emotionally aligned with your passion and you can let go of all your fears and insecurities (or atleast gaining confidence and security in feeling those hard emotions) then attaining your true passions and goals will be effortless.

Sup guys. I am trying to develop myself socially from lifelong ignoring that facet of life. I have basically not been interested and/or too traumatized to want to take action. So I am taking action, but I have really bad clothing and I want to feel better in my clothes. I am not expressive at all and I don´t really have anything I like in terms of clothes and I think that it would be really nice to have some nice clothes and to develop some kind of personality and being me. So what would you do to find clothes and start to find this stuff out? I am probably going to ask some friends for some help as they are into fashion a lot, but any help here is appreciated too. I don´t have many clothe shops around where I live so I will have to find it online for the most part (I live in a small place). Atm I want to dress in a one colored t-shirt and jeans, like all guys and I just feel so boring doing that. And always black cuz expression hasn´t been me previously. I know that is one of the outfits I like but I just want to expand my wardrobe.

what´s up guys. I have had acne for like 6 years now (from like 12 to now, 17 soon 18). I have gone to check it out and I have taken antibiotics for it, and also something called "epiduo", don´t know if that´s the same all over the world but that´s what it´s called in Sweden. So right now the skin care routine I have is basically just putting on a moisturising cream before bed which has settled it down a little, but not much. I think my skin is just pretty disgusting from not cleaning it properly, I also have blackheads on my nose. Any reccomendations are appreciated, as I don´t know what to do because it seems like it never ends. Btw, epiduo and the antibiotics didn´t do anything long term, my acne slowed down for a week or two and then came back. And my skin also got super irritated by epiduo

Hypothetically, what does this mean? Like I have been on this forum for about 3 months and many of my questions has been really stupid, but they have led me to a better understanding of this work today. Do you mean repeatedly asking the same stupid questions or just if someone asks general stupid questions? Because I am definitely asking stupid questions, stemming from a deep inseurity about whether I am correct or incorrect (coming from a lot of failures). I think this is good, I have posted without much thought a bit too much and posting more thought out and responsible questions/answers is something I think will benefit everyone

thank you for that suggestion!

@RoyI drink water, lemon water and milk (no more milk now though). But lemon water can´t possibly be bad? I will change my food consumption pretty radically from now on. Actually got my parents to accept this new diet of mine so they have agreed to let me do my stuff, do you think that will be hard? Honestly I´ll do it anyways cuz I´m sick of feeling bad and food is something I really want to change to healthy.

@K Ghoulwhy do you dress the way you dress? don´t you care? What I mean is I don´t really intend to please everyone around me, I am just wanting to have clothes I actually like. Feel free to dismantle that if you wish as I see how I can be lying to myself but I think this is a genuine desire to just have some decent clothes

@Lyubov unfortunately no holiday in sight. Need to grind and shine to get out of my situation I am in rn. Guys, I discovered that my bed is basically broken, the metal springs have kind of collapsed in my bed. So going to get a new bed. Does it matter what bed or just get one? Also I got a weighted blanket and it makes me toss around less at night (saw this on my oura ring statistics and I have also felt this). Any advice on getting a good pillow is also appreciated, my neck is kind of fucked up and maybe a good pillow will alleviate some of that pain.

@slicketygiggedy never heard of animal fats, what could that be? Is soy beans a bad source of protein? I have heard contradicting evidence on whether it´s good or bad, but my family had a period where we mostly just ate soy beans (organic) and I felt so good. Are they good though? Also one more question: how do I make it so that I am getting all the nutrients I need? Like all the vitamins and stuff, how could I think in my veg, meat and all the other food choices I make. I know this is a bit of topic but I didn´t think that acne depended on diet so much, so it would be better to just have that discussion here. @Michael569 would love your saying on this, your posts on other stuff has been amazing

I googles rancid seed oils, and apparently rapeseed oil is one of them and I use that. So just olive oil instead?

additional question: my parents own a farm and therefore I have loads of lamb meat which is basically free. But is lamb meat good for you? edit: it might be called mutton in english when I think about it

@slicketygiggedy what´s wrong with carbs?

@slicketygiggedyHow do I do with dinner? I can probably resonate forth something with my parents. Just some kind of meat or some other vegetarian protein source, but then what? what do I eat besides the protein stuff? Because I can obviously not eat pasta and not white rice or any of that shit either. Do I need carbs? if so from where? Would quinoa, potatoes be a good choise? How do I do with vegetables? I would appreciate advice to what veggies to start with and how to cook them since I haven´t really had much veggies to my dinners. Steaming? boiling?

@slicketygiggedy What do I eat instead then? I usually eat oatmeal porridge as a quick "healthy" meal. But what do I eat? meat and vegetables?

@Leo Gura are other grains as bad as wheat or is wheat the one to look out for? And do I need to look out for any other fats than the fats in diary? Like are there bad fats or is fats pretty good overrall?

@Leo Gura right, I don´t eat that much sugar. Maybe once every two months or so. What do I eat instead of diary and wheat and stuff? where can I look into diet more? Because I am really serious about this but a lot of what I eat has diary and wheat in it so I need to substitute it for something

are there any other things that could be damaging me? @Leo Gura there is probably a lot more than that that is bad for me which I don´t even think of as bad. One thing of the top of my head is sugar from fruit and stuff but that can´t possibly be damaging me that much if I eat in moderation

@Leo Gura@slicketygiggedyhmm, didn´t think it was like that but it makes sense since creams and antibiotics didn´t work. I don´t eat that much processed food, but I eat a lot of diary and wheat and stuff like that so what would be a good start to change my diet?

@ZenSwift Just had my first session, and it was basically talk therapy and I talked about my problems and so on and explained it to the therapist. And then I got "assigned" to challenge myself in socializing (which is what we talked about). So it´s basically just some kind of goalsetting and accountability from the therapist. Will try one or two more sessions and otherwise I will find other ways to heal myself. What would a session of "good therapy" look like? So I can determine a bit better what I am doing rn.

@slicketygiggedywell, I live at home and can´t really decide for myself what to eat. Atleast not to a carnivore diet. Could I maybe do a reverse approach and remove things from my diet and see if that works? Also just posted a thread on diet as I want to change that up too to the extent I can. A question: such a elimination diet, if you find something which is making your skin bad would that offer other benefits too? Because that would make sense right?

@Kksd74628 So I know this is a tough question to answer, but I guess spirituality is fundamentally where you discover truth? And does that lead to happiness in the end? I just want to know for the sake of it at this point, but it seems so weird to me to be at ease with absolutely nothing and my mind resists that deeply, but I guess when you are in it you don´t really feel like that. My mind intuitively wants things and experiences and a "good life", and enlightenment is then happiness no matter what happens?

Hey, so I am meditating atleast 30 min a day, and 2 hours on saturday and sunday. I just did this meditation: And I am a bit cautious about going for enlightenment or anything since I am only 17 and I don´t want that. And during this meditation and other sessions done by myself I usually start up with not feeling my body (hands, feet, arms etc.) But a few times I have lost identification with my head and it felt like my head whooshed through space. The thing is that I haven´t gotten much results from meditation (what I am mainly "seeking" is more control of my mind and being able to choose where to focus instead of getting stuck, aswell as the effortless focus along with some other things). I am wondering if I am doing this wrong if I am only wanting more "self help results" with meditation rather than enlightenment. I don´t know but I have felt repellent from enlightenment as I have heard of how it can go wrong. But with the goal of becoming more developed is this approach (doing meditation) the right way to go? Btw, feel free to send me any resources that can maybe help me to atleast understand a bit more what people mean when they talk about enlightenment. Also, maybe I have done meditation wrong in the past? When I did the one above today I actually felt loving and more aware and all of these positive things just instantaneously after the session, whereas I usually just feel a bit numb in my body if I do it on my own. What do ya think?

@Loving Radiance thank you for that message. I will look into what you said more as I am already starting some other stuff so I need to take it a bit chill. @Kksd74628 thank you @Breakingthewallyeah I recognize that now, the meditations by michael is superior, I feel so loving and caring and good after his sessions and so centered. I have never felt that before. @Ulax I have mainly done breath meditation. But the last couple o´ months or so I started doing some weird "meditation" where I basically just sat and felt good and allowed myself to think whatever thoughts came up. But now I see that wasn´t really helping me as that didn´t increase awareness or anything, that was just a "daydreaming meditation". But you live and you learn right? I have started to keep my eyes open thanks to you and I think that I will continue doing so because that just feels better. And I guess only because michael names his meditations "nondual meditation" maybe I don´t need to worry about that either. I don´t even know what nondual is, and I don´t really know what all this worry is all about. Probably a fear of being suicidal as I have never been suicidal but it scares me a bit that you can come to a place where suicide feels like a right thing to do and I have kind of associated that with going deep spiritually. I guess the increasing connectedness and centerdness and clarity I feel with meditation is basically what it´s all about, atleast in this stage. Thinking about it scares me though, so I guess no intellectual spirituality for me. Embodying meditation feels a hell of a lot better than thinking about the possible changes meditation can bring, that´s my thesis atleast and you can confirm it or change my mind if you wish

Hi! So I know now that the most important on this self help journey is to change my mind. Like changing my beliefs, past conditioning, self-image and perspectives about everything. While I think this is correct I do not know how to make these changes, do I do meditation, contemplation, self-inquiry, affirmations, visualizations, journaling, shadow work? and I guess it is dependent a bit on the situation and so on, so could anyone help me with sifting through this? Like with what I can do and what resources I can use and so forth.

@JonasVE12 So you´d recommend just following his channel, watching him everyday and trying to understand it that way and not take up the books or anything? It´s just I have done similar things like this, albeit not as intentional so maybe that will make it different this time. But I am scared that I am just going to end up watching his channel for a couple of months and then wake up again and discover "hey, I haven´t done nor developed shit". I just get so unsure about things and questioning whether I am doing it wrong or whatever (atleast in this period of my life). I don´t know how to approach it even after you narrowed it down for me, I am so afraid to look back in 2 years when I´m out of high school and just see that nothing fucking happened. Edit: also he has like 600 videos so the narrowing down is not that narrow. I can sort some of them out but I would deeply appreciate if you could just guide me a bit, I just feel completely incapable tbh