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For every girl I talk to who is more interested in me than the other way I feel awesome and liked and all that bullshit. But if a girl is ignoring me it eats me up inside and I wanna know how to properly deal with this. If im texting a girl and she isnt responding or gives me dry answers ill go fucking nuts and I hate this about myself. I know I shouldn’t be so desperate and just have enough self respect and all that. I just cannot deal with it and I wanna help myself so this stupid thing wont stop me from finding a girlfriend or have a girlfriend who is also just as fucked up as me so we both end up in this toxic relationship. I just wanna be normal and not freak out when she leaves me on read (even if she is just busy i keep thinking the worst thing) fuck this is so tiring and I just wanna be normal im 25 and it might come from childhood trauma i dont know bro just please tell me how i should fix it

https://www.akapasupay.com/blog/andrewtate

If you don’t know his name, you’ve definitely seen his face before. As of lately, he’s been showing up on every social media platform and is continuing to grow his audience. In my personal opinion Andrew Tate is the new Tai Lopez of social media. Andrew Tate uses mostly the same marketing tactics as Tai, but he tends to push his unpopular views of todays societal norm. The first question you may be asking is “Who Is Andrew Tate?”. Andrew Tate is American-British former professional kickboxer and Internet personality. His rise to fame began with business scams, kick boxing, and tweets that held controversy with the Harvey Weinstein case. Despite most of the things mentioned, he is truly known for what many call his outdated and misogynistic views on gender roles in society. So I think the big question is “Why Men Are Easily Manipulated By Andrew Tate?”. In order to really understand why men swear by him, we must look from the ground up. Out of all the skills Andrew Tate may have, the only important skill he has mastered is marketing. In many ways marketing is manipulating the public into purchasing your services. There are a lot of psychological factors that go into marketing. For example, understanding consumer behaviors is a key factor that falls into the psychology of marketing. Consumer Behaviors Reveal what consumers think and how they feel about various alternatives (brands, products, etc.) What influences consumers to choose between various options Consumers’ behavior while researching and shopping How consumers’ environment (friends, family, media, etc.) influences their behavior. 4 Types Of Consumer Behaviors Complex Behavior: This type of behavior is encountered when consumers are buying a luxury type of product. They are committed to the purchase process and consumers like this research before committing to a high-value investment. Dissonance Behavior: The consumer is committed in the purchase process but has difficulties determining the differences between brands. ‘Dissonance’ occurs when the consumer worries that they will regret their choice. There is a slight doubt before they purchase your product. They may buy that product, but then research after if this was the right product to purchase. Habitual Behavior: This consumer is characterized by the fact that they have very little commitment in the product or brand category. For Example: you go to the store and buy eggs, but do not care for the type of brand being sold. You are exhibiting a habitual pattern, not strong brand loyalty. Variety Behavior: In this situation, a consumer purchases a different product not because they weren’t satisfied with the previous one, but because they seek variety. I would say personally that Andrew Tate’s consumers would be the complex behavior type. The products he offers have no true value, due to him not having true credibility in anything he offers. He recently has a course he sells called “The Hustlers University” which teach you how to invest. This would be considered a luxury type of product. A luxury item is classified as: an item that is not necessary for living, but it is deemed highly desirable within a culture or society. Luxury items tend to be sensitive to a person's income or wealth, meaning that as wealth rises, so do purchases of luxury items. You may be asking how this falls into the complex behavior, but these are the people willing to research before purchasing. This means that their eyes are easily manipulated into purchasing a product or image being sold to them. These buyers see how Andrew talks confidently, how he dresses, the girls he flexes, cars that he shows on social media, and they become easily manipulated into thinking this makes anything he says legitimate. 5 Ways Andrew Tate Manipulates Men Money: Andrew Tate always talks about how much money he has, and he has even made claims to be a Trillionaire. Usually once someone hears key words like millionaire or Trillionaire the average person tends to believe them. Clothes: His clean cut image, always smoking cigars makes you visually associate himself as someone “important”. You will notice in most high end businesses, all the employees are clean cut. This is to indicate you are in a high valued space. Mansion: He always mentions his Mansion in Romania. Just like when you hear the word millionaire, your mind next goes to mansion. Girls: He always talks about being polyamorous which manipulates the men who always have a fantasy of being with multiple women. He states this is one of the behaviors of true masculinity and being “Alpha” Services: He makes you believe he is fighting against the grain of todays society saying that masculinity is under attack. This is a type of manipulating behavior to suck you into thinking he is a man of service, as opposed to someone who wants your money. Note: it has been proven he was in fact scamming people. Hustlers University is a Multi Level Marketing Scheme. If you watched several of Tate’s videos, he constantly talks about Living in Romania. Compared to the United States, Romania is 48% cheaper to live in than the United States. Romania is the CHEAPEST European country to live in. The U.S dollar is worth more than the Romanian Dollar. To those who are not financially literate, this makes Andrew look like he is a trillionaire! For 200k in U.S Dollar you can get a mansion in Romania with no problem. For example this is like an American going to Thailand who makes 40k bragging about their house. If the U.S Dollar is more expensive it is EASIER to live in than Romania. To people financially literate, we are not impressed by this. All in all Andrew seems to make smart financial decisions like living somewhere cheaper. Him and His brother originally acquired money by scamming sex workers on “Myfreecams”. Where he had 75 cam girls working for him, with a business plan to benefit off of 30-40% of their pay. Let’s not forget to mention him and his brother were accused of sex trafficking these women, which you can read more about here. Although another key word trend to follow is labeling someone a narcissist. Could Andrew Tate be a narcissist? If you read the symptoms below you will see he even fits the criteria, and these people make the best con men. Don’t take my word for it, you can read this Harvard research here. If you have fallen for what he stands for, it’s safe to say you’ve been manipulated. They Symptoms Of A Narcissist Are A grandiose sense of self-importance Preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love Belief that one is special and can only be understood by or associate with special people or institutions A need for excessive admiration A sense of entitlement (to special treatment) Exploitation of others A lack of empathy Envy of others or the belief that one is the object of envy Arrogant, haughty behavior, or attitudes Andrew Tate preys on the men who think “nice guys finish last”. His idea of masculinity is warped. He believes masculinity is under attack in todays society. The type of people who watch Andrew Tate are sexist, misogynist, and are in fact beta males. One characteristic a true Alpha male would have is the ability to think for themselves in order to lead. In fact to look up to someone like Andrew or to admire someone like this would be signs you are easily manipulated, and are in fact what Andrew would call “Beta”. The type of people who watch him are the same guys in high school who would do anything to just “look cool”. I’ll close this article with this last statement. If Andrew Tate was truly “Alpha” he wouldn’t feel his masculinity being attacked. A true Alpha is someone confident in who they are and can not be swayed. I did not write this. This came from a blog. But I 100% agree with everything written. I watched this video and it was very clear he is using alot of marketing manipulation techniques that makes you agree with what he is saying so you are inclided to buy into this scam. I must say I agree with some things this guy has said. I do believe most people are living a mundane life of a 9 to 5 and that only a few can escape that. But the way of doing that is not buying this shit.

Then I think it has to do with social intelligence. I myself can see pretty fast when a person is manipulative or toxic. Not always because some are good at hiding their true face. I have some friends for example that are exactly what you are describing. And they are my friends so I know but that’s how I can tell easily when a guy has toxic personality. Sometimes I catch myself being toxic but am also on the same crossroad of being calm vs having things my way whatever the cost.

How about thinking twice before falling for the toxic guy that will leave you crying? There are plenty of excellent men, aswell as women. Nobody is perfect. Except me

She is 21 thank you all for the feedback it has really helped me. Still not sure if I should text her to see her again or just take my loss and thats it. What do you guys think? If yes, what should I text her? Just what im really thinking or be playful and keep conversation light hearted and not too serious

Met the girl on a dating app. I first thought well maybe just sex and thats it. Went to her place and saw a beautiful girl. We clicked instantly, lots of talking, lots of serious talking as well. Did not expect it to go like this. We went outside for a walk and she was constantly touching me and it felt nice, so we were walking and she was talking alot so I just shut her up with a kiss and it felt kinda special. We kissed alot during the date and she could not stop touching me and yada yada. Ok so second date comes, 4 days later. We went out to a restaurant and I sense she was becoming kinda dominant. It felt weird because usually I am the dominant one with a woman. I didnt had alot to say and wasn't being witty or making jokes like I usually do. I sensed that she saw that and didn't like it. Was not paying alot of attention to me, constantly looking away to other people etc. This actually made me a bit insecure as I was thinking im fucking it up. (Did not have this feeling at all before, I 100% knew she was into me and wasn;t stressing about it.) Ok so afterwards went to her place, started drinking a bit and lots of talking. It went a bit better but still she throw 100 shit tests on me to proof if I can dominate her socially. It all was a bit too much and I felt attacked in a way lol. Could not handle the amount of punches she was throwing. And maybe they weren;t but I could'nt take apart which where punches and which were just fun little jokes. So instantly went back to overthinking if I was fucking it up or not. Surprisingly we started kissing again and she was biting my lip insisting she wanna fuck, so we did and it was pretty ok. She is rough in bed as hell but I didn't let her take control in the bedroom. The sex was actually nasty disrespectful and she liked it ALOT. Anyways afterwards we started talking about the date and she told me what I was already feeling. I was very dominant with sex, but outside the bedroom she felt like she couldn't be herself as she had the feeling she was insulting me or having me on defense mode. I understood and told her I was feeling the same. Told her OK maybe we are no match, still went on chilling with her and having a bit of fun with drinking. Next morning I wake up next to her and just thought whatever Ill pack my shit and leave. I was very distant to her and just left. What I want to know is why the fuck did I fuck up the second date? It felt like an insult when she told me I wasn't dominant socially enough. It actually hurt my pride and ego a bit. And I know thats not good and need to work on that.. I didn't felt masculine at all anymore and thats where it went downhill fast.

So here I (25 M) am again sitting again on my couch. Contemplating every little thing I did and said. Being insecure about everything and just have no way to take control over my life. My financial situation has changed and im facing having no income and possibly losing my appartment im renting. I cannot seem to think straight and fix my problems. All I do with my last money is going to party's, drinking and doing alot of drugs. Just tryna escape reality. I just need to plan out my life and take action. Don't know how because im losing myself in alcohol and drugs. I know what im good at and thats making music. Actually made a few bucks and have a fairly big connection in the underground music industry in my country. I'm not making good use of it, which I should be doing. It seems to be that when I have the confidence, I can do anything I want and feel energized to do so. I lost that confidence and now im stuck on my couch contemplating life and if its worth living. How do I unfuck myself and go do the shit I need to do and stop with the self pity once and for all. thank you

funny, anyways..

Hey thanks bro, always nice to read, or in this case watch, your thoughts on my shitty life problems lol. I watched the video and I gotta say it got me thinking. Most people I met lately at party's are fun people, but only fun when I'm drunk and they're drunk. That tells alot I guess. I'm done having only fun conversations and my social needs met when i'm drunk and coked out as fuck. Tomorrow I will start lifting some weights and stop feeling sorry about myself. It's just not a good way to go through life feeling sad about myself all fucking day. Especially as before summer started, I was on a very good path on making money in my career as a musician and just that natural high I got was amazing. I want that back. To everyone reading this and going through the same shit or similar; TAKE ACTION and get addicted to the dopamine high you get from fixing your life and doing the hard things in order to feel proud and motivated afterwards. Dankjewel man je video heeft me gemotiveerd. also that metal intro was really the least thing I expected but funny as hell

You were too invested.

Cocaine

Be assertive think for yourself and sometimes that means cutting people off if they do not see or fuck with your vision. Stick to the plan and learn as you go never give up (this particular career will challenge you ALOT and you will want to give up at some point. Never give in to this fear and keep going

Just wanna say thank you for your contribution to this forum. Since signing up here and knowing the Actualized channel I had alot of insights and positive mental improvements. Your posts have been a big part of that thank you bro

So been talking to this girl over a week. Found her on a dating app. All was going really well and we had some cool conversations about alot of interesting topics. We called for hours just talking about stuff and she was constantly flirting with me. Its safe to say her interest was definitely there and so on. She was the first to begin messaging every morning lol So we did a video call and I immediately saw a switch in her behaviour. I reacted by asking some questions but definitely saw the vibe was off. She was kinda shit testing me by asking questions like with how many women I had sex with & implying that she had sex very often and had no trouble getting boys. So I just cut it off and told her I had to go. Afterwards another girl came to my house and so I thought whatever. But then she (girl i videocalled) got very silent after that. Next day asked her if the weekend was still on (that we planned) and no reaction. I then thought yea she is not attracted to me. Which is fine I guess. Id say im average looking and I get girls. Some hot some not so hot. But this one girl who ghosted me is triggering this deep rooted insecurity I have. This stupid insecurity that I know does not matter but still is haunting me and making me angry and sad. I shouldn’t even be because the same night she ghosted I was with another girl (that was actually hotter) and we fucked twice that night. Still it keeps triggering my insecurity about my looks whenever I get confronted with any girl not finding me attractive. I need some healthy realistic perspective to get this out of my head. Why does this opinion of 1 girl matter to me so much? Its not necessarily this particular girl but any girl dismissing me cuz of my looks. I got good game and Im very talkative with women. No problem texting but this little insecurity of mine is extremely limiting of how I live my life and stop me being the confident self I need to be. Any insight to this problem or people that experienced the same and overcame im interested in your story

Lol what did he say I think his posts got deleted ?

Thanks I needed this lol. Went out yesterday after reading some thread replys here and definitely it clicked in me that it absolutely has nothing to do with my worth if a girl fucks with me or not. Im still walking around with great energy and looking girls in the eyes. I just sometimes can get in my head and perhaps should see a therapist to heal some childhood trauma. I even had that insecurity before we made the video call so I think during the video call I was subconsciously aware of that which made me act insecure and thus my vibe was off. Anyways thanks leo

@Etherial Cat So you’re going against all men trying to prove them wrong on dating advice and when actually asked how to attract a girl you’re not going to give an answer. please im actually really interested in how u think men should approach women.

Dont show interest in her: she will get attracted and you’re interesting show any interest in a needy form: she will dry up very quickly and bounce women are weird like that. If you want to get your dick wet, dont show her too much interest. Act like you’re annoyed with her. inb4 girls replying with alot of anger: i do this and it fucking works everytime edit: even if she was attracted to you in the first place and was wanting to get her guts rearranged, at the moment you act needy, she will control alt delete all those feelings and you’re basically at ground zero again. Have to build the attraction from start again.

So, how to attract women?

This is not the way. 2 hours nd she was in ur bed? Damn. op the girl is playing games with u. Dont ever get played by a girl. Ignore her for a week and game other women. You’re teaching her how to treat you with u still sticking around while she is playing you.

really dont know how to best describe it but it seems to be a mental loop for me where one day I feel very confident and really not giving a fuck about shit and having this strong feeling I can do the things I want to do (and act towards it) maybe sometimes even be an asshole to some but still very present and generally really not giving a damn. People/girls also get attracted to me more. They want to talk to me and give me shit I dont even need. But then other days I get hit with these thoughts on how I should act and check if my ego is not getting too big, which in turn is making me extremely self conscious to the point I have difficulties being present even with friends/family. I kinda lose all that confidence and suddenly I’m even conscious about the way I fucking walk for ex. It’s this stupid loop im constantly find myself in. Its like 1/2 months I have that present confident the world is mine feeling and then I get hit with that ego check or whatever you call it and it makes me get to a low point. Triggers seems to be when people around me start poking at my ego (me and my friends generally joke around in a way thats insulting but still friendly (there is a word for this I forgot) just random bullshit banter. Sometimes I seem to take shit to heart and will be dwelling in thought about it for days which will trigger that loop again. Another trigger can be for ex. me fucking up talking to a girl and not getting her number which will make me start thoughts like why did I fuck up did I make a fool of myself? Also any time if I feel I said something stupid (people laughing at me I can, or my ego) consider that insulting in some way and I immediately get in defense mode. I just hop out of presence and start the endless thoughts in my head calculating if this stupid thing someone said in fact is an attack and how should I respond. The end result is always coming from a place of ego instead of presence and I make a fool of myself by clearly showing Im on defense mode when its not necessary at all. (I know my friends love me and respect me and will not just say shit to hurt me) I know I have this insane amount of confidence in me and I want to unlock it for ever not this sort of 30 days trial shit and then its back to mental exhausting myself to fucking bits. How do I do this? Im 24 btw

I will try this. What would be the best way to use? https://www.gezondheidaanhuis.nl/en/product/46057/Rozenwortel-Rhodiola-Rosea-Hanoju-90-capsules Saw this online, would capsules work?

If I have bipolar it would be a very mild case then. I don’t experience the extreme highs bipolar people experience. When I talk about the periods I feel good, I just feel very confident in what to say, words come automatically, things feel natural. The lows can be pretty low tho. Never attempted suicide but did have those thoughts. I dont self harm but I can cry intensely and feel sad for a full day, then it becomes lighter each day. As I said, I want to avoid medication at all costs and need a better understanding of myself I think

Definitely have those feelings of flow. Feeling good and expressing love. But then also do not. When is it too intense and considered bipolar ?