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Got a friend that microdoses I believe DMT or some other weird shit and got told good things about it. I always worry that somehow I get stuck in that shit, trip my balls off and lose myself.

I did some looking up and did recognize myself in the bipolar symptoms. I definitely don't wanna go back to psychologists because they already gave me a diagnosis I did not agree with. Not really a fan of the mental health care in my country, already been through that and medication is what I absolutely want to avoid. If I do have bipolar or whatever is fucked up in my brain/thinking, I want to learn more about it and how I can help myself/live a fulfilling life with it. Is bipolar something that will progressively worsen?

So been together with this girl for 5 yrs. I was 18 she was 17 when we started. She broke up with me a year ago. Always had the idea or impression I had her for life but things got complicated. She wanted out and I could not accept it. It was a big ego hit for me. Still struggling with that to this day but back then it really hit me hard. I just wanna get over this girl because its slowing my progression. As I said, im still struggling with the ego bit. In my head she ditched me because I wasnt manly enough and acted out of insecurity. I sent her some long text saying how much I loved her and was proud of her and all this sad shit just in the hopes of winning her back. I never was like this in the relationship. Never was clingy or dependent on her..Shit changed when she was the one breaking up with me. So for a long time I kept beating myself up for this weak ass attempt at winning her back with the last text message. After that I went no contact and never send anything again. Went out and enjoyed single life with other girls. I have no problems getting girls but I have to admit I do seek their approval. I know im beating myself up too much over this and what should’ve been said and what not does not matter anymore. Its past. But here I am still thinking about proving to her that I am actually the man she wants and needs. I dont want this. I wanna get over her especially as she monkey branched to another guy within 2 weeks after BU. how to actually accept the situation as is and move on. Getting tired of this shit

I think the good part about the red pill stuff is that it teaches men to be self sufficient and not reliable on the attention from girls. Also outcome independence and not giving a fuck if she doesn’t want to suck your dick cuz you got options. I do think most red pill fans are incels who are just mad they got rejected and now have this toxic attitude towards girls which in turn is giving them success because guess what girls actually like fucking assholes. Lets not argue about that because it has been proven, i’ve seen it alot in my personal life. Even the “good ones” they will all leave for a drug drealer because of the thrill. Women aren’t good at choosing partners. And when you ask them they will say its otherwise but the truth is just opposite. Also about the marriage part. I’ve seen married wives cheat on their men with low consciousness men. I think its ok to marry a girl or have a long lasting relationship but you still need to have that abundance and low tolerance for bullshit coming from her. Be always willing to drop her and replace her if needed and if she knows that you’ll have a happier marriage/relationship.

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This is true. Dont matter how many girls give their validation. Even got some girls wanting to be my girlfriend. Its just that one girl that ignores me which is giving me those negative feelings about my self. Self doubt and all that stuff. I think being outcome independent is the way to go and actually not caring at all if she responds positively or not is what a man should have. Somehow I cant be in that position yet.

You know it feels like Ive accepted it for 50%. Some days I feel like okay she has a boyfriend now and lives together and seems happy. And I feel genuinely happy for her. Other days I have this feeling to impress her. Imagining in my head how Ill act whenever I see her, acting all aloof and preferably with another girl so she (my ex) can see. Writing this out I can see how very immature that is and im done with thinking like that. I just wanna know why I do and how to fix it. Im definitely running and its slowing me down in healing. Where to start with shadow work?

how to make a girl run away from you pt1

treat her like shes your bestfriend but have things going in your life so she isn't your world 24/7. This is good for her, you and the relationship. Also if you just wanna fuck no strings attached treat her like dogshit lol

Just do what you wanna do. If you dont have fun at clubs then why go? Or go find a reason for you to enjoy clubbing and you will actually want to go there. Like going to clubs that spin your favorite music.

I see so much serious discussion on attraction and what works what doesn't do my looks matter what style works for attracting alot of girls etc. The most important thing in my opinion is to have fun conversating with her and (has been said a thousand times) be your authentic confident self. I can get too much in my head about this stuff too. Overthinking the whole process starting with the texting; should I reply more or less, what would be the best answer to this that will increase the attraction and so on. Your best bet is to make her laugh and yourself. This will create bonding. Eventually you'll find some girls aren't into you as you'd like. Thats ok. Go talk to her friends lol. Don't get into your head and be feeling sad if she replies with 1 word answers. I used to get sad about that but it really does not matter. I don't know how it must be if you never fucked a girl in your life. You get desperate and shit I can imagine. But work on yourself in terms of being overal happy and you have better results if you dont take things so seriously. My 2 cents. much love

Bald and bankrupt. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zsa3XWw5hFE Some of you may know this guy already, he makes great content. Informative, entertaining and just fucking cool to watch him charm almost every single person he comes in contact with. In the video example above you can see for yourself how to properly (imo) charm a girl and have her craving your dick like there's no tomorrow. Charming, fun, flirting, very social, non neediness and just having fun with the whole situation non dependent on outcome (probably) Expert level

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yea its a weird paradox man. Here I am actually wanting to love a girl but then get asked if I can spit on her face and choke her out. is love even real lol

Im just gonna share my experience on the matter.. I found that girls will fucking love you/crave you when you treat them like shit basically. It might be attracting only damaged women but I'd say 70% of the women will get wet as fuck for the guy that is distant and not giving 2 shits about her. Seen it time and time again. Why they do it I really don't know but if your ''authentic self'' is being a weirdo and socially awkward then you will fuck it up. Women will argue against this because they are trying to save face or something but it's what it is.

Why do i get mad when i dont get the attention from girls I want Is this a problem with my ego? I want to fix this because it's really frustrating I have some girls I can hit up just for sex and they hit me up too. Now there is this situation with one girl who used to hit me up all the time to fuck (even when she had a boyfriend) and now I hit her up and she straight up ignores my request. I know I sound fucking crazy but that's because im kinda mad and I want to fix this problem. Is it neediness? What the hell is wrong with me?? I'm 24 and just want to work on my goals/life without craving the attention from girls. How do I do this? Really need some advice here. I keep thinking that i'm not wanted or some bullshit like that (i already know its bullshit but just cant convince myself or have peace with the fact that these girls are perhaps fucking other dudes or whatever) I should not give a fuck but here I am actually angry at the situation. i hate and love pussy at the same time. wtf?

Thank you. Why isnt there a actualized chat yet? Would love to private chat with you aswell. great song btw

this is spot on. it's kinda hard for me to admit but its true

To answer the first question: I feel good only if the other person is friendly aswell. Actually some years ago I was ready to fight anyone who eyeballed me for long enough. Just being a very unpleasant and negative person. If someone would say hello to me i feel good and always answer back. It's weird because I can actually feel when i'm being inauthentic. When the ego is wanting to get its fix I always kinda feel that. Being real and acting out of love is way more pleasant and I always enjoy conversations with strangers more. I'm actually practicing this already and it feels good to hold down a conversation without thinking what to say and just being present. This is something the ego would never allow me because it just needs to be validated all the fucking time.

Yea the bullying is true. Have gone through alot of that shit in my younger years. A father who was always criticizing me. A mother with borderline and also her own childhood issues. She was very loving tho. Maybe too much. Ever since the bullying I always had difficulties having normal conversations with people. I think i fixed alot of that by accepting things. Going through life more grounded in love as Leo said. Assuming the good in people instead of the negative (big change). I somehow still get stuck in romantic relationships or just people criticizing me in discussions. Perhaps some stuff of that is normal but it cant be healthy to think about if people like me or accept me. Thank you for your suggestion and also the others who posted. Im definitely going into therapy starting this month.

yes i realize that but i guess the question im asking is how to deal with this attention seeking behavior. I dont want to get in my feelings because of this situation

its difficult man it really is. Sometimes i can accept it but when im already in a fucked up mood i have a hard time accepting. Its not just with women and sex its with every relationship I have. Overthinking conversations, feeling attacked when people make simple jokes or shit like that. I'm not always like this but once my brain is convinced its under attack I just exit the present moment and continue living in a negative loop of thoughts. I dont want that anymore. I just want love and to love

thank you for your reply. I'm already looking to buy some books of Carl Jung especially the shadow work stuff. I know I have some childhood trauma I need to workout. It's true I can be extremely jealous (me and my gf of 5 years broke up because I was showing extreme jealousy and allround bitch behavior) and Leo's video on how to deal with a breakup helped me alot with becoming aware of that. Are there any books you could recommend for a beginner?