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The school of life is one of the most popular psychology channels on Youtube. They have solid content that has the potential to help ordinary folks of all walks of life. However I've felt that many of their videos follow almost dogmatic perspectives with no room for alternatives. One of their most recent videos is a case in point: https://youtu.be/BmcM6InBjM4 In it they talk about high achievers and how we should feel sorry for them because they are people who received little love in life. I'm sure that YES, there are many cases of this but it's not entirely true. What about high achievers who do their work to better the world. People who don't do the things for recognition but for the betterment of society or even just for the activity in itself such as Pablo Picasso painting a masterpiece...should we feel sorry for him?? In the video the school of life makes it so black and white with no wiggle room. Finally I also noticed they place almost no emphasis on spirituality and such topics often talking about the lessons that different religions have to teach us but not showing us how application of practices such as meditation and the proper use of psychedelics could have the potential to help people. To me their work feels quite dogmatic on the western perspective on mental health. What are your thoughts? How could the school of life improve their content? Thanks!

@happyhappy @Ulax @Breakingthewall Thank you for your perspectives. ♥️

For the most part I eat very healthy. I get enough sleep and exercise 2+ hours a week. However I've been depressed for many years. As I work on myself one aspect of my diet that hasn't been dealt with is my sugar consumption. I consume waaaaaay too much sugar... Usually I drink 2-4l of coke a week and every 2 and a half weeks consume a 1kg of sugar in tea. Apart from this I don't eat junk food and cook most of my healthy meals. I want to know wether this high sugar consumption could be fueling part of my depression? Which alternative to sugar is best and tastes most similar stevia, sugar alcohols, monk fruit sweetener? Thank you!

@Leo Gura @Arcangelo Thank you so much! ♥️

@Osaid So far I've tried stevia and it was terrible. I'd like to explore these other alternatives and also give honey another try. I hadn't thought of mixing these other substances together...I'll try it all out! Thank you! ♥️

@Danioover9000 You're totally right! I've noticed that whenever I've overbinged on soda I've gotten mucus buildup and sore throat! Thank you mate! ??

@Michael569 @flowboy @Fearless_Bum Thank you all so much! I will make this my new year's resolution. I think at this point in my life my depression has gotten so bad every day and I'm constantly in such a bad mood that I'm willing to do anything to make it stop. I had no idea low level inflammation had the capacity to trigger bad mood & depression! Thank you! ♥️

From as far back as I can remember I've been lonely. I would spend my time at school alone. I would eat alone, be by myself and never went to parties, socialized etc. Apart from that I had weird interests that nobody had or who I felt I could share with. Till the end of highschool and now in college I've been alone. This has made me very socially awkward and now I basically avoid people and conversation whenever I can (I know this is a mistake but I just don't care anymore.) Recently I read a post on this forum on how you can spot a narcissistic. People said things such as lack of love, empathy. Always talking about oneself. When having conversations with people I feel no connection to them. I don't feel love or empathy for anyone but myself and our family dog. If I have conversations it is often with the aim of getting something from them. From time to time I put myself in the shoes of other people but with great effort. However as far back as I can remember when I saw someone in pain or in need of help I always did what I could to help them. I've lost relationships with amazing people because I was told that I never listened to them or cared, that I was cold hearted (maybe I was just too afraid that if they got to know me they would just leave? The funny thing is that they always left and it probably was because of my fear of letting them in). I have these lofty ideals of love and wanting to help people but sometimes I wonder whether I'm doing this because it makes me seem saintly or something. Maybe if people loved me for smoking and drinking maybe that's what I'd be doing right now? I never open up to anyone about my inner life because I've always felt rejected for my interests by the people closest to me (I know this is also a mistake but not opening up means no pain of rejection.) Am I a narcissist or just disconnected from love? Do I need to learn to let people in? I feel If I somehow managed this last thing I may be able to build a relationship with someone and begin a trusting relationship that could lead to caring about the other person. However after having been let down so many times I feel I will never again put in the effort of letting people in. I think I also have self esteem issues but I don't know. I would love your advice because for my entire life I've felt so disconnected and lonely. I feel there's no one I can communicate this to. Thank you!

@mandyjw @mivafofa Sorry I've been busy the past few days and unable to answer. I want to heal and I know the journey is just starting. Thank you so much for the kind words! ♥️

@catcat69123 thank you! I will try to seek help. I´ve felt trapped in a prison my whole life. I looked up AvPD and it seems to be what I suffer with. Thank you for your advice and kind words.

@mivafofa AvPD I shall look it up. Thank you!

@catcat69123 I´m adopted. Untill the age of 5 me and my brother lived in an orphanage where nobody had time to tend to us or our feelings. If we cried nobody gave a shit. They made sure you had enough to eat sleep and that you where warm and comfortable but that´s it. As for my adoptive mom she is an angel. She has done so much for others selflessly. However she never really bothered about being there emotionally there for us becuase I think she just wasn´t really able to handle it. You could say she loved us but was always distant. I think she is also like me in some sense. However unlike me she helps people and goes out of her way to help those in need. I on the other hand I dislike interactions.

It's funny to think that all this has exploded in the last 12 years or so. Life without an internet connection has become almost impossible. Documentaries such as the social dilemma are begining to bring to light some of the deep issues with it. I find it amazing how fast as a society we've all adopted these technologies, how dependant we are on them and how little we actually know about how the internet affects us. Personally I've grown up with technology and I feel that as much as I've gained from it I've also lost. Vital skills such as socializing I never fully developed because I found the internet an easy escape. At times I wish it never existed but it seems the internet is here to stay. I believe that we should do more to regulate the internet and teach people about its dangers.

I'm sorry you feel this way mate. ♥️ At the end only you will be able to get yourself out of this. People can only help you so much...we can support you and send you hugs but only you have the power to change. This is the sad yet profoundly beautiful truth. Hugs from Spain.

Waiting on the new content...?

Recently I've been reading: Conversations with God (Bk 4): Awaken the Species, A New and Unexpected Dialogue by Neale Donald Walsch. In it he talks about advanced beings who move in between dimensions who are awakened and whose job it is to guide and protect humanity. Quite frankly I think that Neal has lost it but I like to leave no stone unturned and have been thinking about if any of the UFO footage currently in the spotlight could be related to this. Craft that disappear from radar screens as if they never existed? The only reason I've thought about this is because Luis Elizondo in his most recent interview with Kurt from Theories of everything he said that they where looking into the possibility of these craft being from earth but shifting in and out of our dimension.

I wonder...are we introverts on this forum just trying to feel superior? ? Maybe its true but I'm also sure there are many extremely smart extroverts out there with skills introverts lack. We are all gifted with skills in this life. I feel It's up to each of us to use our gifts and work on our weaknesses.

I also posted here about half a month ago a request for a sleep video. Would love to see his take on it. Maybe it's just a nut he has yet to crack! ?

Yes would love to see this, Leo talks a lot about this but never elaborates.

So people have to go through a lot of societal garbage in order to get to a deeper realization? I wonder how their NDE'S would compare to a psychedelic trip? I also wonder why the enteties and the messages of love? Why does does this seem to be the theme of many NDE'S?

In the interviews I've seen, the victims of near death experiences report connections with god and a higher power but most seem clueless about how they themselves are reality. Why is this? Are some people just making up their experiences? Thank you!

I don't know what to make of his work. In some of his videos he gives solid advice but much of his content has a creepy vibe to it. He talks about "the chosen ones", seems to support anti vax and many of his videos employ an us vs them dynamic. I also notice that he often uses emotional triggers (maybe this is a good thing? To get you to change?) I guess my question is if Infinite Waters is a cult and if not what kind of spiral dynamics stage audience is Ralph catering to? My final questions is for Leo. Why have I never heard you mention him or his work? Why does no spiritual teacher apart from maybe Teal swan ever mention the guy? Thanks everyone!

@OsaidThank you everyone! ♥️

I would love to see Leo's take on dreams! :)) I've read books that give purely scientific explanations of the phenomena (boring!) And I've read books about dream interpretation and astral travel. Maybe the truth is somewhere in between? I haven't got a clue!

@Osaid That's true! I'd love to hear his thoughts on him just out of curiosity! Thanks! ?