Algi
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@cly I see your point, I am intertrested in retreats, but this was not about that. I have tried the kinda things you talking about. In other cases when you are not thinking about solitirary confinement then is good to get out.
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What @JevinR if the subject is something part of your long term goal? Like I hate maths but I love teaching exercise to people and be a PE teacher? Motivation for that is average at the moment.
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@Evilwave Heddy great! Fuel must be cheap where you are! Lol. Not even if you are sick?
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@wolfywales I feel you, I was gambling my life away between 2012 and 2014. My cash cow was Floyd Mayweather, however as all gamblers I hit a high and a big big low later. As you mentioned I woke up with "someone controlling me" I was on betting app before I would eat, brush teeth ect. Feel anxious all day coz you are worried about your high stake bet? I did. My way was which I know it may not work for everyone. Go hard or go home, cold turkey. Either always feel anxious and live the high or invest my energy in something else that would be opposite to gambling like working for free as a volunteer somewhere else. Working for free is opposite to gambling. It is an antidote to your brains wiring plus you will reap the rewards of making difference to the people. Try it, I am certain if you put all you got into volunteering the same amount of time you spend gambling- you will succeeded. Beware of 2 week withdrawal period, remind yourself it is temporary. It is a tough pit but you already out by accepting it on here, congrats!
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@Nic Wow thank you so much! Your effort in writing that will not go to waste. I have overwhelming feeling in my mind as of right now, I meditate daily for 3 and half months, but for sure I will apply the dissecting progress of what you just wrote. It does not sound sick at all, in fact my internal dialogue sounds more ridiculous. I will take a look at the programme you linked too. What about if you have an overwhelming feeling of something like serious break up of 5 years or a death of the loved one? Would you go ahead and repeat all of that over and over again until you are exhausted and driving yourself crazy? Another thing I read in self esteem book: There is no point to block a block, accept your resistance and move on. Does that contradict dissection progress or in fact works well together?
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@Nic @SkyPantherThanks guys, I have little experience in what you call" dissect a trigger" but I can see it working and I like the idea of antidote to the trigger. Mindfulness and meditation may help you spot the trigger but it isn't a direct method of solution.
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@oschi GREAT! I can relate to what you said about not having passion right now, sometimes I do things like charity work and judge other people to stroke my ego; telling my self how advanced I am on human psyche stage model. I am envious of your encouraging dad who tried to show you the way of life, that is the person I would like to be in a near future. Regards to Leo's videos, I know exactly what you mean, I feel like I internalised 5% and that is being generous on myself the rest of knowledge I picked up was not practised and if anything did oppoisite. Thank you for sharing your story!:))
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@NicI am not a big writer, we can Skype if you a free.
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@Nic It sounds like your really want to help your brother to see between the lines which is good. I do the same, I can talk the knowledge really well without knowing it or practice what I preach. In Islam it says hypocrasy is the worst kind of sin, which I am fully aware of how judgemental and hypocrite I am lately. Why do you want to chase enlightenment? Do you think it is possible to live a live with a healthy mindset without going for enlightenment? The only reason I looked into it is because I wanted to get rid of my neediness and attachment, neurotic behaviours, once I feel I am no longer neurotic for a week I look into places where my ego will be glorified. Probably an understatement so say the least. Thanks for sharing, made me think more deeply about my own ego.
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@SkyPanther thank you, is it so simple what you said and obvious but by no means easy to practice consistently. Also I like the idea of using pain to change and turn into reward from a good motivation speaker Eric Thomas
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@SkyPanther OK do you have any similar problems that you used the the right antidotes to the ego? Like a good example, if you don't mind.
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@Nic Thank you Nic for sharing that, I can feel how much it would take to say my ego loves even this forum. It is so subtle but so strong and neurotic. I am a firm bielieve that the only way to get different results it's to change your approach like Tony Robbins says.
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Basically cut straight to the chase: I have insecurity instilled in me from childhood and I fully admit that. The person who I love, it makes them miserable and I hate seein her that way as well hate feeling insecure. I have strong fear of being abandoned because I was abandoned as a child by my mum and my dad. I don't wanto soppy pity messages;in fact I am looking for some solid material of exact how to style approach to reduce neediness, jelousy and fear of abandomment. I am considering therapy but I am looking for a strong material that chases the problem to the core. Thank you people
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Basically cut straight to the chase: I have insecurity instilled in me from childhood and I fully admit that. The person who I love, it makes them miserable and I hate seein her that way as well hate feeling insecure. I have strong fear of being abandoned because I was abandoned as a child by my mum and my dad. I don't wanto soppy pity messages;in fact I am looking for some solid material of exact how to style approach to reduce neediness, jelousy and fear of abandomment. I am considering therapy but I am looking for a strong material that chases the problem to the core. Thank you people
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Thank you guys for great detailed responses, I ' l take a day out and have a look what's the most benefitial. Much appreciated!
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@smd Thanks, I will definitely check them books, I am currently half way through the power of now. How is the confidence program working for you so far?
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@AlexB hey, great book. I read 3times. It did help a lot, but I guess I need something like to relive trauma, I will work with stem sentences too but I want to see if there is a different way.
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That' s all good and well in long term. I understand y@Henri your point. So you saying I should research "heart chakra" I do youth projects which I do not get paid but I need something daily like affirmations etc alongside what I am doing
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@Neill Bolton Rationality is limited just like it says in Leo's latest video. Map does not represent the territory.
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Hey everyone, I am currently working on perfecting my affirmations. Working on being it more specific, length of time, more identity based. What is your affirmations? How well do they work for you if at all? I found that " I am winning" affirmation was quite helpful for me; although I been only saying it for 3 weeks missing 2 days. My new affirmation will be "I have an A" and yes it is for my coming up exams:). It makes sense to me that the more emotions I can evoke whilst repeating it in the mirror the better the result will turn out to be right? I noticed that anything that I approached in life was more positive, not on grand mass scale but definitely worth the effort.:))
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Great idea! Is it like Skype type of chat? I have joined.
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@SkyPanther Fair enough, interesting reply. I hope you don't mind me asking this, if an entity came down from the sky standing on a Statue of Liberty claiming to be God, would you say it is an illusion of an ego? It might be far fetched but technically we cannot say it won't happen.
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@vizual I understood your great analogy with a car; however I struggle to see why worshiping a hierarchy by humbling yourself in a prayer and following the Creator's ultimate knowledge which is superior to yours or mine instantly is "ego thing inside an illusion"?