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@JoeVolcano I'm more thinking about how you can actually make this society as great as possible. I have had the thought of yes if everyone's consciousness rose and everyone chose freely the kind of personal transformation you're talking about then yes of course it would be amazing and everyone would be happy etc, but for me it's kinda waste of time as it's not going to happen anytime soon, further to that humans just don't evolve in that way. Development is messy and takes long, as in thousands of years. Your perspective is that things could be much better, but that could and should always be the perspective throughout human history. Where we are now is built on what was down before and where will be in the future is built upon what we do today. Saying this society is terrible and not worth it because everyone is not fully conscious and aware is really absolving yourself of any responsibility.

I think we maybe speaking about different things. But to speak to what youre saying, the more complex the organism the more teaching is required, for example chimpanzees, doplhins, Elephants etc, all have very complicated societies and they are taught how to navigate that society if only by seeing what their parents do or being reprimanded when they do something wrong. As humans we are very complex beings in comparison to other organisms on earth and ass such more direction is actually required not less, to avoid catastrophic consequences. Further its not just about survival or preventing bad things happening its how can we prepare ourselves to live the best life we can and give value to the world around us. I think in general there is a fallacy, its also in libertarian beliefs, that if everyone is just left to their own devices and is free everyone would be fine and happy. What you dont take into account is that our society now IS the product of everyone being left to their own devices, we have organised ourselves in such a way because its the current best way that we can conceive and agree on life to balance autonomy with organisation. I can guarantee you that kids that grow up with someone like the guy in the video as their father will have a very positive outlook on life and will most likely enjoy it as well as being productive. A lot of kids that grew up in hippie communes actually seek structure and go into careers like the army. Point is there has to be a balance between not suppressing kids but also giving them good role models and guidelines

I get where youre coming from but again something like 'men dont cry' I would consider unhealthy masculinity, healthy would be teaching a child how to navigate and express their emotions. The fact is that not teaching your kids anything or just having guard rails, which in some ways i agree with, is also a way of raising kids which could potentially be damaging. Kids in general do need direction and that is the point of role models and parents. Without these they can very easily slip into toxcity especially males, Leo did a video on toxic life purpose which highlights this. Also from personal experience I have worked in a charity that was supposed to help children, the most problematic boys were the ones with really bad home lives and in most case there wasnt a father figure in sight. These boys got into trouble, were watched by the police etc, when hey did have male role models and activities and whatnot you could see that it was something they craved for and desperately needed. So i would argue that you're actually downplaying the need for healthy role models, Ive seen the results first hand and its not good. Also i think there is this fear of restricting people and making them fit into a mould, the goal of a healthy teacher would be to give the guidance for that boy or girl to become the best person they can be. One example would be to teach taking responsibility for your actions, i really believe this one teaching, reinforced with consequences, would literally change a persons life if taught correctly.

lol yeah maybe, but i would say there is value in teaching the next generation but not necessarily forcing them down a certain path. Healthy values can always be passed down, keyword being 'healthy'. Say you had someone who was healthy stage yellow their wisdom could be passed down to the next generation, that is how society evolves. Even you saying adults are stupid the adults before them were probably even more stupid and caused more damage. A good example of this is if you have a genuinely psychologically healthy couple and they raise a kid, they are very likely to be psychologically happy themselves. Most boys go off the rails specifically because they dont have positive male role models, so i wouldnt downplay the importance of it, especially with how destructive boys and men can be without proper guidance. Here is an example of i think incredibly healthy masculinity being taught to young boys, the effect it must have is immense

This can be difficult though, the way i see it as humans we are like conduits for different energies, the masculine and feminine are extremely powerful and important energies. Usually boys and men are the best conduit for masculine energy and women and girls are the best for feminine, of course this is not to say that there cant be great conduits in the reverse I'm just talking generally. So i think its important that healthy masculinity be taught to boys and healthy femininity taught to girls, if it so happens that a boy shows feminine traits then there is no problem in teaching them healthy femininity. Both sexes should also be taught about the other energy and look for it in themselves as well. The key thing is that the other side should not be demonised, it should be understood, explored and integrated. So i dont think we should suppress or ignore this polarisation at an early age and in fact i would suggest that because we have been doing that in the last few decades, ie encouraging men to be more feminine and women to be more masculine or at least to lessen these energies, we have seen a decline in relationships not only a rise in divorce but overall happiness. Dating is also harder for men because they are no longer as masculine as they were and that is what is attractive to women. (I actually experienced this at a speed dating event a few years ago where women were complaining about the men)

Also i think the other point of contention is whether or not young kids should be able to gender themselves and start taking puberty blockers other treatments at such a young age. There have been some issues with de-transitioning, which must be a terrible thing to go through or a therapist and those around the child really encouraging them to go ahead with it when it may just be a phase or theyre not sure how they feel. I think that is a very controversial area because on one hand it could be almost child abuse but on the other it could really help if the child does really know and will stay trans forever. I aint got the answers man!

Im not sure it is a transcendence of ones own sexuality, i might have misunderstood what youre saying, but a transcendence of ones sexuality would end up at no sexuality. For example if you said someone transcended their 'self' in a spiritual way, that would be the realisation that there is no self. However with trans people they are essentially changing from one sex to another. Non-binary might be closer to what my understanding of what you said is. I mean i guess thats where the issues pop up, the sports thing and a couple other issues are the only things that really cause friction with trans people and my take on it is this just comes about from the belief that trans women are exactly the same as biological women. All in all i have no problems with trans people and am not saying theres a fundamental problem with it, i can also empathise with their situation. It probably wouldnt be much different, you should give it a try, im too conditioned to try myself

I have seen a couple of her videos actually which were very thought provoking and well laid out, I havent seen this one but will check it out. This is somewhat true, although I believe 'Black Lives matter *too*' probably wouldve shut down a few of the all lives matter crew and made a bit more sense in terms of what was trying to be conveyed. Having said that 'trans-women are real women' plays out in real world scenarios such as with sports, which then lead people to think that there isnt context to the argument and take it at face value, I think a lot of people would accept the statement if there wasnt this fight for inclusion in womens sports. Regardless if there are some trans people that transitioned early and they have no advantage, there will still be some that didnt and will also claim that they should be included, which could really damage womens sports as a category, Im not saying its a massive problem but I think without clear boundaries it does spoil the integrity of the sport category. Yes I agree she is attractive and it is hard to even know she was born male, I would probably be in the camp of not wanting to date her if i knew. Although im aware this is probably not fair, my generation and those previous and probably a lot of the current generation, will have a problem dating due to how we were brought up and the definition of what a straight man should be. There are as i said also lesbiens that wouldnt be down with that so im not sure the precise reasoning. The other aspect is having biological kids and obviously the genetalia situation. Im sure there are a lot of guys that dont have any qualms about it as well and i think this will also increase in future generations. But i think trans people have to understand that it is a big jump for hetero men that have grown up in a certain way, right or wrong.

Sorry for the pain youve experienced my friend

Im not saying they attempt to pass themselves off as biologically female (some might but its probably a minority), but the statement of saying trans-women are women would need some more nuance around it (as you are attempting to add) as people just seeing that statement will probably go to the idea that trans-women are claiming they biological women. I would also say there a section of trans women or social justice warriors they will vehemently claim that there is no difference between trans-women and real women and that straight men should have no problem dating them and also lesbiens should have no problem with dating, which is very imposing and has caused problems. Again its probably a minority but im just pointing out the extreme view for context. Definitely shouldnt be cancelled or anything like that or even have to hide. I think where the friction stems from is people feeling like they are being forced to see the world from a trans pov which includes the view that trans-women are women without any context. I actually agree with you that trans-women can be put into a category of women, this would actually solve a lot of problems with sports etc and i think its a more honest and real view. Ultimately trans people want to be accepted and there humanity seen for what it is and of course everyone can empathise with that, however to bend categories and not recognise that there is some difference is asking for a deluded view, as in a reality that we dont agree on, to be integrated into the public consciousness and i think that is a lot to ask. Just for clarity im specifically talking about the view of trans-women being the same as biological women with natural conclusion that trans-women should compete with biological women in sports. Heres an example of what im talking about in which the singer Ginuwine was labelled trans-phobic for saying he wouldnt date a trans-woman, he received a lot of backlash for this view -

I think theres been some interesting talking points in this discussion as well the battle to 'win' the argument. @Etherial Cat's take on it is makes me think because it makes sense that the energies we all have are masculine and feminine and in the example of trans-women, in theory lets they have the same amount of feminine energy (however you quantify it), as a biological woman, then the only difference is the body they were born in. But then the only thing I would stop short at is calling them women, as you could for example have a strong feminine energy and still have a biological male body and even present as a woman. I'm not trans so obviously I cant speak for their experiences or how they feel but if you do get to the point where you have to get rid of (quite an important body part) wouldnt there be something to be said for accepting what you are? As in accepting that you are a trans-woman rather than trying to be a biological woman. It seems contradictory to want acceptance from others but then also want to change your body, this doesnt seem healthy mentally. Where I can relate and its by no means the same thing or even close, but growing up I always had a large chest which Ive just recently learnt is called Gynaecomastia, now it doesnt look too bad because Ive been weight training for years, but when i was younger and skinnier in my teen years it really stood out and I would be incredibly self conscious and had an ocd compulsion about it, I would hate when anyone noticed and i never took my top off even on holiday. Essentially it betrayed what i thought i was as a male, I basically had tities! So there was a point where i felt that the only way out was surgery, I even phoned up a place to see how much it would cost. But eventually I realised that the best way out was acceptance, this was me its a part of me and i have to find a way to accept it, it was not easy but i did manage to do it, now I rarely even think about it in a self conscious way and people even compliment me sometimes. All that to say, it seems with trans-people they want to be seen as exactly the same as biological-sexes and i just think fundamentally its not correct, they are different and that should be accepted by both themselves and the outside world. Thinking about it I think this is where a lot of the hate comes from, because youre asking people to buy into somewhat of a delusion. This comes to a head when you have womens sports because it just doesnt make sense for a trans person to be classified as a woman in this context.

There was Racheal Dolezal and she still hasnt said that im just white -

Thanks everyone for taking the time to reply, I am feeling a bit more positive about it. It is a challenge definitely but thats what life is about and im kinda looking forward to growing myself more which i can see now stagnated whilst in this relationship. I guess its a faulty belief just from being out of the game for so long, the quality thing is important as ultimately thats what im looking for but at the same time it doesnt help to look at the end goal and get overwhelmed, which i tend to do sometimes, just gotta take it step by step. Thanks for the kind words about the podcast and you're right, its just a matter of pushing myself out there and testing the waters. Yeah to be honest ive probably had the best growth coming off the back of break ups, so it does feel daunting but it will grow me and thats the main thing. It was more me that broke up with her as it just wasnt really working for me anymore and i felt like i was limiting myself. I was using a lot of energy to keep it going and i did feel a bit of relief when it ended, although i was still sad at the same time. Thanks man, its been a while since I was trying to attract 21 year olds lol. One thing with this relationship is that it has given me a certain clarity on what i want and I dont think thered be many 21 year olds that would fit into it, for a long term thing anyway. i think minimum would be 25. But yeah youre right theres a lot there to work on and not even for women but just to grow myself and become better. Yes youre right, I am sceptical about those thoughts, but these are just the thoughts that are coming up, I think it just feels like a massive task but also its the way that im thinking about it which makes it feel like that. Yes it comes from fear and maybe gives an excuse or a way out so its like a way of handling that fear, but in reality there is no way im going to give in to it, I can feel that thats the case hence why I even wrote the original post, i guess I just wanted some motivation and a bit of empathy. Its weird because Ive always done quite well with women but there has always been a fear there of not being able to attract them, it probably comes from some messed up stuff in my childhood but i see a therapist and have been working through this. The emotion thing is something i have been working on so i will continue with that, I can be really hard on myself and not accepting of certain emotions so this is a very important one. Love and thanks again to everyone

So last week I broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years. It was tough because I do love her but i think there were some major differences between us, eg she was a perfectionist and generally im more go with the flow. There was also quite a big culture difference im from the UK shes from South America, although she could speak english fine I found the communication quite tough, this could also be related to personality as well as she was quite serious but also could be immature when it came to disagreements (silent treatment etc). Generally though it felt that i was kind of limiting myself and personality to try and make it work, which is obviously not great and i was getting so many signs that this wasnt the one, even if she did have a lot of good qualities and I loved her. Anyway, when we broke up i did feel a sense of relief and freedom, however it does feel really daunting stepping out into the world and eventually trying to attract other potential relationships. Ive always done pretty well with women and had a little period where i got into pick up (not heavy) in which I was really confident, pushed out of my comfort zone and was quite successful. But now I dont feel that same confidence, Im 37 and for the first time Im feeling a bit insecure about my age, looks, hairline, weight etc, like can i still do it? kinda thing. Ive never really felt like I needed or wanted a relationship, they just kinda happen and im not even sure i want one now but I like to know that if i did want one I'd be able to get a quality woman. For whatever reason theres this fear that I'm just not going to be able to. A bit of a ramble there but yeah just feeling a bit weird after the break up, grateful for any advice

I'm not really an expert but as I understand it transsexuality is when internally you feel that you are a different gender than the sex you were born into. But where it makes more sense to me is someone who was born with a brain that is structurally more similar to the opposite sex, which there is some research regarding mri scans of transgender people. In this case it would make sense that gender dysphoria would occur, however I wouldn't say that a male with gender dysphoria is a woman, I think trans woman makes more sense as they've had completely different experiences in life, not to mention different bodies. Regarding the Mr. Girl quote, I don't know the full context but it does seem a bit harsh considering the brain structure stuff. It's difficult to label people that are otherwise fully functioning as sick especially if they're not hurting anyone, but where I'd agree with him is, that some of trans-women insist they are 'real women' and I think this is a delusion and can also be harmful when pushed on others. But yeah I don't know, what's your take?

How are you defining body dysphoria?

Yeah definitely not crypto ? I think for the investment, property is your best bet just because of the leverage, so if you have 100k you could put down a deposit and make income plus any rise in equity on an asset that is worth 400k while only paying a couple percent on the loan. If you compare that with investing in stock, you'll only get profit on what you directly have, so if you have 100k and it goes up 5% you got 105k but the property could go up the same and then you've got 420k plus rental income. But there are pros and cons, for example property is very illiquid, meaning its hard to get money out once it's in. Also it's not completely passive you have to look after tenants. (Airbnb could work a little better though). Stock market investment doesn't have these issues. My advice though would be to really research property investment, find out what a good deal would look like, look at locations, types of mortgages etc. Once you feel relatively confident you'll want to pull the trigger. The travelling is a great idea in general, I think it might be better to work out the investment situation before you travel though, just so you've got income that can cover it rather than just saving and spending that. Esp if youre family is willing to help you with it. Just to double up on the point - fo your research!

Just had to share this, this guy is amazing and i think the literal definition of flow state! Also notice how he directly feeds off the energy of the crowd, a great example of an exchange of positive energy between people

Well is funny because op said she got in trouble for tweeting about Kobe Bryant being a rapist after he died (which if i remeber correctly he was cleared of). Either the guy who called her our or the guy who retweeted the joke, defended her, so interesting that in that same situation they chose to be compassionate. But my guess is she's building up a lot of negative sentiment towards her from other people, the more her tweets of this nature get out there there'll be more that would want to see her downfall than her success. So envitably she's either going to go to far and get something disastrously wrong and offense or something will come out about something she's done wrong, either way when it happens, unfortunately for her the consequences will be so much worse than what they would've been. (Loss of career, public humiliation etc). On top of that it's interesting that someone with such an obvious bias can operate so freely in the mainstream. I would say she's anti-men in that she picks stories to specifically highlight how bad men are, there's little nuance or understanding attributed to these men, only negative judgement. Now imagine if a right wing commentator highlighted only stories where black people were the bad guys and showed the same lack of compassion, they'd rightly be considered an outright racist, race realists for example. There's no way they'd be able to operate in the mainstream, so it is highly hypocritical what she's doing and I hope for her she realises this before the karmic repercussions as you say catch up with her.

She strikes me as someone who is actively looking for conflict in regards to showing how sexist and bad men are. That's not say men can't be bad or sexist but something like calling him out on twitter really shows no compassion, it's an attempt to get him fired and set a mob on him. If she had gone to hr or her boss internally, the greivance would've been sorted out. For me this extra step can only come from an actual derision of either the person or of men in general. Looking at her past tweets she's in support of amber heard, even though it was proved in court that amber heard actively tried to ruin Johnny depps career. If there was ever a recording of a man shouting at a woman the way AH did to JD she would've been completely in support of the woman. So I think this is a level of hypocrisy in which her world view and bias overrides her relationship with truth, which is not good for an established reporter. Having said that, the male reporter probably shouldn't have posted that joke on his own account, but it shouldve been handled better.

Just some figures but for a full time stock trader on wall street 20%-30% on average is considered top level, Warren Buffet for example had an anual average of 22% from 1980-2003. If youre doing day trading potentially you could make more but the risk is a lot higher, so the average day trader would make 10% per year but this is heavily weighted in the top 1-5% making great returns while the bottom 95-99% lose money. Even the top 1% would be lucky to make 5% roi per month consistently, also keep in mind the time and losses it takes to build up the skill of day trading. I would guess from your post youve only really got into trading or investing in the last 2 years, in which case it has just been astronomical growth for the whole period. This is the problem ive been seeing from a lot of people thinking that its so easy to make money 'investing', its kinda like if you only started watching football when your football team was winning and then you say 'footballs easy, my team always wins'. So it gives a false confidence and people inflate the market only for it to pop and for there to be tons of losers, this has been the case with a lot of things recently but crypto was definitely the worst hit, luna dropping 99% and bitcoin dropping 50% in the last few months, these are massive real losses. The proof of any long term investing strategy is how it performs over a long period not over a couple years. I agree with @Yarco this is potentially very dangerous advice and its funny as you said dont go to this forum for financial advice and basically proved your initial point with your financial advice.

Consciousness is of course subjective but when someone provides information and presents it as "true" there has to be some criteria for that. For example if someone made the statement 'The election was fraudulently won', they would have to have sufficient proof to verify that claim. If there is sufficient proof that there was no fraud had taken place then there two subjective truths and the two viewpoints should not be weighted the same, one is an idea or a theory and the other is what can be verified as true. It might have been true that there was fraud and if theres evidence thats fine. Now you can have a subjective opinion or even speculate, thats fine but it cant be equated to something that is provably true. What we're seeing in recent times is that people are taking speculation and opinions and weighting them the same as if they were verified truth. This is potentially dangerous as we've seen with various incidents already including jan 6th. So I think the problem really is deception, if youre presenting something that is opinion or speculation and is demonstrably untrue and potentially dangerous, should that be allowed on public platforms?

I think the argument for free speech should be reframed, when you say free speech its too all encompassing so the argument should be made for why everyone should be allowed to share - misinformation, propaganda, baseless conspiracy theories, hate speech etc. For the most part people who are arguing against freedom of speech absolutist are cool with people saying whatever. So i would like to hear the argument for way potentially damaging speech should be allowed and not at least be labelled as false

This ones not great as i agree with pretty much everything the exec says and i think if people get over the gotcha part of it they probably would as well

Its framed as a kinda gotcha where the catch the exec on camera under false pretences but its interesting to hear an unfiltered inside perspective on free speech and Elon Musk. Its basically what i expected them to feel about it. Its also funny how aware he is of how people can get like how he did Thoughts? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QZLdAgHj-zg