Sugarcoat

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  1. Yea because women are much less likely to catcall etc so the type of attention they give is better, women don’t pose as much of a threat to men in general
  2. It’s helpful if you’re trying to lose or gain weight, to get a sense of how much to eat. You can lose weight without tracking simply by reducing portion sizes in comparison to what you usually eat and perhaps reduce meal frequency which is what I’m doing . Tracking calories can also help if you’ve already lost /gained weight and reached your goal weight, and now are trying to figure out how much to eat to maintain weight. I think it would be cool to one day reach a point where you can somewhat eyeball amount of calories because you’ve tracked so extensively for a period, I doubt I’ll ever reach that point but it would be cool, makes it easier to control your weight.
  3. Oh I misinterpreted what you said earlier, I thought you meant it’s not obvious for other people that ~I~ have a sense of self, as it is obvious to me, but you meant that’s it’s not obvious for them if THEY have a sense of self. To that I would say, if you stop someone on the street and ask them “do you feel like you exist” I think 99% of people would answer yes to that question. I think for most people it’s obvious that they have a sense of self. That’s why I wrote how I don’t get how it’s not obvious for people and how they deceive themselves with thinking they have “reached”” non duality “
  4. If reality is absolutely without limit, undivided, no separation actually exists, isn’t that a limit of reality? That it can’t create real separation and limits. Just a thought.
  5. You can’t really judge women’s suffering by just observing them a little. I don’t know what you’re basing it on, but I can mention some things, women are more likely to experience chronic pain. Women might struggle with getting a guy that wants a relationship. Women might get sex but they might get bad sex, porn centers men’s pleasure and men can sometimes focus on their own pleasure or go over women’s boundaries, women suffer harassment and rape more than men. Women might get more attention from men but it’s not always good attention. Women might feel they’re doing unfair amount of household work in comparison to a man (if she’s not a housewife) they might feel like they’re being like a mommy to their man (I’ve heard this from some women). Women might be better emotional intelligence wise than men and feel like men don’t meet their emotional needs. Woman have pressure on them to be pretty and they obsess over appearance, have eating disorders etc Im not minimizing men’s suffering, men have some areas of struggle for example loneliness that is greater than women’s. But in general both sexes have suffering, can’t really say one suffers more like that. I understand you feel burdened by your struggles, I have my own struggles too that I feel burden me. But I’d say it’s not fair to turn it against women, that’s just extra frustration, it’s not helping your issues to compare your struggles to women or hold on to this idea that women have it easier, whatever it’s based on, even if let’s say women did have it easier , what does it help to compare and resent? It’s not productive. It’s a way to not directly deal with the problem at hand Btw I am a bit surprised this topic didn’t get taken down because of the title. But I’m glad it didn’t, I would like for this forum to be a place where we can openly discuss topics even if they come off as “offensive” or controversial.
  6. Awesome work keep it up Maybe Leo says there is no best state of consciousness because there are an infinite number of them. I don’t know that but I think he has said so
  7. Ofc, it’s my own self I’m talking about so ofc it’s not obvious to anyone else
  8. Cool but jokes aside it’s very hard to embrace suffering I’ve been trying to
  9. There could be various reasons for this. One is that we humans are made to be active in nature, we are not really made to be inside much, so it’s natural some get seasonal depression or feel low when inside too much. It could be fomo, fear of missing out of activities you’re imagining you could do outside, or comparing your life with other people, or what’s possible for you. It could be you’re not very comfortable being alone with your thoughts, the inside of your apartment doesn’t give your mind enough stimuli, so whatever is going on inside becomes more obvious and it’s not comfortable. Meanwhile in the past when you played games that was a lot of stimulation to distract your mind. Just some thoughts It’s healthy to be outside I like to take long walks that’s something you can do so you get the recommended daily step count.
  10. How is that possible? What kind of freak are you
  11. Yea it’s just a mental clip trying to picture infinity but it can’t
  12. If someone’s mind is all about non duality it could def change perception of reality so it’s mistaken for “it”. My “obviousness” is just a description of my experience. It’s obvious that I feel like I’m here. Someone said non duality is this experience without the doubt about it. That was new to me but it resonated
  13. That’s how I use the word at least but some use it to describe the entire reality. To me consciousness is duality. I’d agree
  14. I’m sorry you’re going through that. I’m not having the best time either so I can relate kinda
  15. I don’t get how it’s not obvious for someone that they have a sense of self still. Like for me it’s so obvious I still have a sense of self and haven’t realized non duality. Like how can you fool yourself this way Like it’s so obvious that you’re trapped in duality when you are
  16. We can’t think of something that isn’t some version of what we have perceived through our senses (including emotion) right
  17. Great idea you should be my manager
  18. It’s not real separation I think
  19. My question is simply: is reality limited to being limitless? But it’s kind of a paradox
  20. So it’s all imaginary , all the same substance