Sugarcoat

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  1. Then what about atheists that keep on living
  2. So you’re saying the structure of the self is as real as the structure of the table in my living room? But then maybe what the non dualists say is that there’s no separation so there’s not a separate table. In the same way there’s not a separate self. So that’s the illusion, that there’s actually a defined separate self. So maybe you’re saying you could see the totality so that is absence of limits, then within that the self is the same except it’s no longer experienced as “absolutely separate” (the normal experience) So for example right now I feel absolutely real so there’s no illusion in that?
  3. There is a group of people who gain hope from religion
  4. It’s like hidden gems… Its crazy to me how someone could feel pain without suffering it
  5. I am fascinated by people who have suffered a lot, what has kept them going because I notice I tend to resort sometimes to suicidal thinking when I face challenges so I’m confused about what keeps other people going. Theres something respectable about someone who has suffered a lot. It’s like there comes something deep from it, some kind of wisdom sometimes
  6. It’s hard to stomach but I’m open to it
  7. Ok cool. I might experiment Workouts is the only way I suffer so might as well experiment with it Yea
  8. I think it’s fine as long as you’re aware of it being in the dream. So it’s like right now I am aware that I’m in operating from the dual dream. So you’re not fooling yourself.
  9. Yea right. That’s why I’m open to different perspectives. There’s different ways of talking about the absolute
  10. I think a kind of natural niceness comes from your own wellbeing, but you don’t have to do extra beyond basic respect and manners, meaning going out of your way to be nice. That’s not necessary. So a natural niceness doesn’t have to pay off because it’s a reflection of your internal state, it’s how you carry yourself it doesn’t have to benefit you. Being nice in a natural well mannered respectable way (not the extra way) shouldn’t be an outstanding quality of yours, but rather just how you naturally are, the bare minimum.
  11. I’ve been wondering lately if there is some truth to this detoxing thing
  12. Yea I also resonate with some non dual talkers who emphasize that it’s hopeless, nothing to get etc because there’s no you to get it. That’s how it is in the absolute sense. But it seems that in the relative domain, in our normal life, it can happen that the self structure can soften or partially dissolve. That’s kinda what I feel happened to me. So it’s like the self seems to have many “layers” to it, it’s thick and dense, and layers can shed. But it’s still mileeees away from the total absence.
  13. It’s one thing to know the idea about this all being a narrative vs actually seeing through it. The latter seems the hard part
  14. Damn that’s tough❤️. I can overthink suffering in my mind too. And wonder to myself how others can seem so chill about it, but maybe it’s just how they seem on the outside, can’t know how they are on the inside unless you explicitly ask. I wonder to myself if resistance causes suffering or is suffering something inherent. So is a negative emotion or physical pain inherently suffering , or is it the resistance to it (something the mind does) that causes the suffering? Maybe I should make a post about it
  15. Do you also have this problem of imagining yourself suffering in your mind when you are presented challenges and it’s like your imagination is worse than it actually is? Maybe just me
  16. I’m so chill I have used my far sightedness so little that I’ve become nearsighted. #modernproblems
  17. Hope is lowkey illusion of the mind. Either something happens or it doesn’t, either it gets resolved or it doesn’t, what you believe in your mind and which gives you strength to continue is all in your mind. Not saying it’s a bad thing tho, illusion doesn’t mean bad
  18. Maybe I’m biased but the profile pic kinda makes you look insane