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Everyone reading this I gotta clarify I did NOT like that 😂

Because it makes you more horny because it’s “forbidden” . I had the same tendency

It kinda depends on the reason why you have difficulty continuing the convo. If it’s fear then getting yourself completely relaxed is a game changer. Like if any insecurity is holding you back. But then you can still not know what to say even if you’re relaxed, it happens to me. Then it could be other factors such as lack of genuine interest in the other but I guess it’s not the case because you said you’re looking for genuine connection so that genuine interest is probably there, it could be lack of interests in your life in general so not having richness in your own life to talk about. It could be too stuck in head so it’s like you’re closed in on yourself, so you’re not able to react as spontaneously to the other person or connect to environment/the other person. You might have ideas in your head about how convos should go, what’s relevant to say or not, what’s appropriate so it’s kinda limiting your flow. Imagine that when you talk, your responses are impulses and they are traveling like on a stream in your head, traveling in your brain to your mouth when you speak. It should be quite a flowing stream, things shouldn’t be blocking it. It’s like you have a connection to yourself, that is your connection to your own stream. Anything that’s blocking the stream is a block in that connection to yourself. So the more your go into yourself, and clean up your psyche, clean it from trauma, insecurity, unwanted societal conditioning that doesn’t align with you. You are cleansing the stream so it can flow better

Sex can reflect other parts of a person yea

Ok I’m open to it.

@Basman Ok

Why is conventional fluoride toothpaste bad?

Does evidence prove the decrease in rape is directly correlated with the porn? Because a decrease in rape can be because of other factors in society.

As a contrast I could do experiment where I watched porn “neutrally” without thinking and it’s just seen as it is and doesn’t necessarily trigger arousal

I found in my past imagination plus porn watching simultaneously to be the strongest hit. It’s like you watch the porn, while simultaneously adding your touch of fantasy to it that matches what you’re watching. If that makes sense

Porn is a byproduct of our society simultaneously as it’s contributing to creating our society. It’s playing into what is already on people’s minds but also fueling it. It’s like a wheel. One question I have is do people have the capability to get turned on my their own mind or do they need to view sex externally in the form of porn to get off? Because if they can’t get turned on by their mind only, then it makes sense that porn offers a kind of sexual relief . But also it makes you crave even more, because it’s like it gives you too much dopamine, so you want it even more than if you wouldn’t watch porn at all. So it both gives you relief but can create toxic cycle of needing even more . So dependency

I agree but the only thing I’ll say is that in my experience letting go off attachments, beliefs etc are directly correlated to the dissolution of your self since what makes up the self is your self image and also all your attachments and your worldview kinda. It’s like this one mass. That’s at least how it has been for me. I struggle with maintaining my self while deconstructing the rest.

Ok I see your point yea you’re smart I lowkey take back what I say.

Thanks

Suffering is the hardest thing a human can do

I think it’s pretty clear to me why I feel this way

I don’t seem to be able to do esp at the moment. I just wonder when the suicidal thoughts will win

I just have a bunch of suicidal thoughts. It’s like my way of dealing with things. Maybe I’m weak

Basically you’re maximally boosting his ego by making him feel like he is the shit It’s quite feminine indeed. Like being more stoic and detached would be more masculine, it’s a more “giving” position, meanwhile the more emotional expressive one is the receiving one. Theres different components to sex. If you can master them all you’ll be doing the best (potentially overwhelming him if he feels you’re much better than him). So if you know the physical techniques to physically pleasure him, that combined with the psychological factor of boosting his ego. You making him feel good in both body and ego. Sincerely, your fellow virgin. (Take all I say with grain of salt)

“Most” this is a reach 😂

One time in high school there was this conventionally attractive guy who joined our class in the middle of the year and a ton of girls flocked to him. So it can happen in the opposite direction. I bet it almost exclusively happens when the person is at least somewhat conventionally attractive.

Maybe maybe

Reproducing may make humanity live longer but what is that worth if quality of life is less

Hahahahahha yea I know it’s not normal. Nothing normal about me. I already see doctor and they give me meds but it doesn’t help AT ALL

I think what’s important in the world is reducing the suffering of all living sentient beings. Then what happens to humanity, if we eventually die of or decrease in amount doesn’t matter. It’s not like someone is sad for not being born lol , why is population increase important . Maybe some say it benefits the economy or something but there are other ways to sustain the current populace without the need of more humans, we just have to work smarter