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I’m the wrong person to ask. I socialize too little and have been quite alone most of my life. But I can think of at least something. There is a group of men that can come off as very lustful which might put off some women. I’ve experienced it irl and online. And there’s a group of men struggling to get women, a lonely epidemic am i right? Maybe very basic examples but it’s just what came to mind. I don’t have much of a wish for men to be different except maybe don’t commit most of the crime ahaha

Average is hard to clearly define. One could say there exist trends, shared similarities among groups.

Ok

It’s ok it’s just opinions. We’re exploring ops deeper question

I didn’t notice it. Yea I notice she has a kinda angular bit masculine jaw but I don’t think it’s unattractive But it’s ok it’s just a matter of opinion at this point

Ok I take it back I’d say they are about equal in attractiveness I thought u disagreed with me because you thought SHE was unattractive

You’d have to make sure you’re asking an average woman to get a sense of average woman psychology, if it’s an average woman you’re going for😏

I think she looks great in her age https://www.instagram.com/reel/DLnm6TYRiws/?igsh=MTRnZmc5aDdyZHV2cg==

Maybe I could say that he is more attractive than her . But I don’t think it’s a huge difference that’s my opinion

No?

I was gonna edit my post and say how the thing I said kinda goes against this idea about pursuing truth for truths sake. But I’m a bit different there. I don’t really care much about truth, I just care about wellbeing!

Maybe, I didn’t watch it

I looked her up and think she looks good for her age. I don’t think they’re so far apart looks wise. So yea in that case I think he likes her personality and she is hot ENOUGH for him.

Valid point she could have like formed a bit of an ego around having unconditional love, being able to love “despite” those disabilities. Like it makes her see herself as a good person. She likes his personality and that’s enough for her to be with him. She genuinely thinks you shouldn’t discriminate based on looks/disabilities, that’s a belief she holds that’s very strong. And beliefs can influence attraction. Just some guesses.

Valid question but my guess is that she is a rare exception. So she might have unique psychology that doesn’t represent the average woman. I think Eva Mendes is pretty btw maybe I saw her younger pics

Good

Makes sense. Damn.

The important question is: will the answer to this question truly enrich my life somehow?

So you don’t believe in all this “stop resisting” talk to transcend suffering ?

It seems the opening you talk about is a decrease in “resistance”, that one of our mechanisms that keep us closed is our tendency to resist

I know you thought something like that

It’s not always so easy to figure out why something is being said

You can’t just promise something like that. You don’t know that

Absolutely. I have countless suicidal thoughts. I don’t understand how people stay strong. I do it for one sec and then it crumbles and I’m ready to off myself again because I feel I can’t handle life

Eckhart Tolle was asked what he thinks about alcohol. And he said something along the lines of how if your state of consciousness is so fragile it’s affected by a few drinks then it’s nothing high (something like that) and I think a correlation could be drawn to sex. If you develop a solid high state of consciousness and mysticism, a little sexual desire and sex here and there shouldn’t be enough to wreck it if it’s really stable in you