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I feel porn watching has a tendency to escalate so it starts of with the soft stuff then progresses to more and more hardcore just by how it works on the human reward system. Kind of similar to how many teenagers nowadays have short attention span partly because social media use that starts of normal then escalates to only being able to watch 15 second tik toks where the most interesting and funny content is compressed into short time doesn’t mean everyone who consumes porn or social media for that matter will fall into these traps. Someone could watch it sparingly or watch long pod casts so having good attention span. But this above scenario has a risk of happening and it happens a lot. I think I’ve heard of men developing sexual attraction to teens because of porn who didn’t have it previously, it’s this escalating dynamic I think.

Lmao made me laugh for some reason, the second sentence was so unexpected

Something I’ve been thinking about, is why (here I’m referring to western culture) do we hear men talk about how to be a “real man” but we don’t hear women as much talking about how to be a “real woman”. We don’t really see discussions amongst women about this, speaking in that manner. Why is it so? I think it’s because for women in the west, being a high value woman is simple, it’s means looking good. A woman generally speaking doesn’t think how to be a “real woman” or “high value woman” she just goes to the mirror puts on makeup and makes herself prettier because that’s what gives her that value . So it’s pretty simple. Ofc other traits matter too in societies eyes but for women in the west nothing gets even close to how much good looks is valued (which has conditioned women so they feel so about themselves) so it’s the number one thing. For men tho, being a high value man, a real man, it’s more “broad” what it means. It doesn’t mean one thing like it does for women. There are several things that fall under that category , such as being confident, charming, leader, looks matter too to a degree like being tall but it’s not the main number one thing like it is for women. So this is not all ofc, but maybe one reason we don’t hear women talk about how to be a high value woman/“real woman” as much is because it’s not needed because it’s pretty simple what it means, it means looking good so no need for so much discussion. But for men the term is more broad in meaning and not so clear that’s why so much discussion and it being heard more. just a thought

What you did sounds reasonable I don’t think it needs changing

Because you still feel like it matters

I see

I don’t know how known she is around here but wanted to share as a recommendation. I like how she doesn’t only speak in this “non dual” neo advaita (or whatever it’s called) type of way, she speaks “normal” too about relative stuff. I’ve heard her speak about chakras for example

why I don’t get that impression at all she seems genuinely “non dual”

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@Davino like this

Stress is associated with the self yes our dopamine systems are not adapted for this world for sure

The self is cause for a lot of shieet

Who knows . You can update us how it goes if you try

I’ve wondered about it too. How the hell this self arises the why and everything

Isn’t it like the ultimate “gave up on yourself” thing to do

20 isn’t even that old. Will you feel better about yourself after doing that? I bet not

LOL schhhh🤫

Yes and she has a soothing voice too

David Goggins seems to me to have a very self centered brain. How that would relate to hardcore exercising might not be obvious but I see it. He is fascinating

You think ?

I feel many people describe it vaguely . Not saying there is one correct definition or one version of it, can probably mean different things. I’m not afraid of conceptualizing either, it doesn’t hurt anything, I don’t hold onto ideas, no thought is able to exactly grasp at anything anyways. I had one massive shift which I would describe as a permanent dissolution of my mental self/mental reality. It was like my sense of self was permanently detached from my mind. I remember I stood in my kitchen and boom my entire being was released from attachment in the mind and it was permanent. I don’t consider myself enlightened because I have a sense of self still but it’s not a self attached to the mind/mental self. im just sharing this description based on direct experience

That was nicely written. It’s a broad word yea

No but it’s fine

Yea. There’s maybe different kinds of awakenings. Different levels, or not idk

Depends on if there’s different kinds of awakening , maybe the non dual stuff can’t be explained but even some non dual “teachers” can kind of describe the drop in self. im not saying theres one strict definition, as i said concepts don’t grasp at anything anyways but one can still form an conceptual model in some way