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Paradoxically it seems that allowing negative sensations and emotions to be when they get triggered, not resisting them, is what helps in getting less of them, overcoming them. So actively going into situations that trigger those emotions in you allow them to be overcome

lol 😂

Ok

I don’t know what you mean

This is kind of like life with poor mental health

I meant if you think the purpose of learning game etc for you is to find a partner then that’s the same goal as you working to find a soulmate so it’s just about what route you take. But if you’re doing it for yourself then it’s another thing

Hard to say if your standards are too high if we don’t know what they are or how you are

it seems youre stepping into an approach that is more, lets say, advanced. So it can be scary because you might fear not getting the results you want as you got them in pickup. But that's okay because this is new territory for you it's normal to be a little doubtful and perhaps scared. Youre being true to yourself which is good, and this new approach feels more authentic and aligned to you, so its a step in the right direction and youre doing good.

ok i see your point, but I don't think its so common

if this is really important to you, you could conduct your own research. Go ask people on the streets, whatever

I think its simple what I wrote

lmao what. What does fewer energy blockages have to do with looks, what u mean

@Rishabh R i havent experienced it yet but im sure its possible to have a crush without putting them on a pedestal

it can be hard to unwire this. Us women fall into this trap too I just meant attraction in general, both instant but also when youre getting to know a woman´s personality. But in regards to the "instant" attraction, yea I guessed too its very looks based for most men. And the hotter the more of this "instant" attraction is felt. I don't know what the cause of it is, if its mainly biological or more because of society, and how much of it can be "worked on" and "rewired" or not. its not a problem per say, but it connects to this point about looks being put on pedestal, so it could be contributing to your issue. by attraction I also meant your attraction to a woman as youre getting to know her, as youre dating. Here I wondered, lets say you like both her personality and looks, is looks still the main factor, if so it could be contributing to the issue since it also ties into this point about "pedestalization". But you said to fall in love with a woman other factors take importance if not more, so here the answer is no, looks no longer play the most important role. But Im guessing when youre really early in dating a woman and you don't know her much, looks take the first place in your attraction to her and its pedestalized so thats contributing to your issue as a woman, maybe im unique, but Im not really capable of getting attracted to a guy because of his looks, it doesn't happen, it did happen in younger years but as I got older it stopped, so I believe it can be "rewired" to a certain degree. But its maybe different for men and for women. it might be able to be "rewired"

I’ll keep an eye out

@Schizophonia are you bringing non duality into this again eh😂

You put looks on pedestal. do you feel automatically more attracted to her if she’s physically hotter? Maybe you can’t deal with the intense attraction you’re feeling when she’s more hot physically. Some insecurity could block you from feeling confident in your attraction to her and owning it im speaking from my own experience of having in my past this crush whom I pedestalized (because of his personality) and couldn’t feel comfortable in my very intense attraction to him due to insecurity in myself. So it was like it was too strong attraction to deal with, maybe you can relate idk

@Buck Edwards that’s a good book👍🏻

That’s good it’s something at least. i don’t have a specific diagnosis yet

Can I ask you are the antidepressants helping ? I’m also on it

🤷🏻‍♀️ it’s up to you

You could start a thread if you want

Lmao what😂😂

That’s right now that u say it

@UnbornTao I’m surprised you didn’t tell him to “contemplate” 😂