Sugarcoat

How

I don’t see that

Relate. I wanna die.

@Schizophonia I’m surprised you’ve stuck with me so long despite my craziness , I just talked to a woman here on the forum that stopped replying when I told her my weird struggles (despite asking for it)😹

The human brain is wired for intermittent stressors related to survival. That’s the natural way we’ve been living. So it makes sense it would be easier to be happy. One could wonder though if those people under those circumstances have simpler psyches and that’s contributing to their happiness, but I would guess the psyche is the same globally but the circumstances people live in affect their psyche differently. I have wondered if people have differently dense egos. I think the human ego structure is similar all over the globe generally but the outside influences it. So the neurosis in the modern world will be different than in the third world. Doesn’t mean a heavier ego. More comfortable lifestyles allow for more self absorption and self centeredness rather than being occupied by survival so more time alone in the head overthinking is possible and all kinds of neurosis’s. What you describe as a more “simple” psyche is what I would also describe as a more “extroverted” psyche so someone being more focused on the immediate outside world rather than inward in their heads. You seem not to use the ego to describe the human self overall (which I do) but as more of an aspect of the self, like self absorption and self centeredness/inwardness I can relate to ego suppressing empathy. It’s like when we are caught up in a negative thought train about how someone did something bad that it overpowers the empathy and understanding we could have for them That’s cool you experienced that on lsd. It was maybe because it softened your ego. You don’t have to respond to all of this I’m just writing from my own mind a little expression

Omg I relate to this. I was almost gonna write in some thread “the greatest change comes with some ego dissolution” so it’s like it consists of layers of identification kinda. And we have a certain identity and operating from a certain paradigm, so if we get rid of a problem we have to get rid of the identity layer to that paradigm. So dissolving a layer to ourselves.

Enlightenment ?

Hehe We will see

59: Something I thought is about how your level of happiness is limited by your own psychology. So outside circumstances can make you happy, but how long that happiness lasts and how strong it is, is limited by your psychology. So a person could have the right lasting outside circumstances but it ends up feeling “normal” to them so they don’t feel happy about the same things anymore. A relationship that turns stale, being rich becomes stale so you turn to drugs. So you can change the outside circumstances but it’s all limited because your psychology limits your happiness. The human psychology. That’s why I wonder if it’s a good idea to work on your psychology. Whatever that would mean. So it becomes a more happy one. I wonder how much potential is there to change it

I can’t promise anything yet until I get there😹

Good thanks for the video.

40 for looks and 60 for personality is reasonable yes.

The true answer to this will depend on the woman and what she is looking for, a hookup or a relationship etc. There’s not a simple answer to this kind of question. There’s a lot of nuance. A thing I could say though is the type of mindset that asks this question could be a turn off for women. But then again if you think “I will stop thinking like this because women won’t like it and I’ll come off as needy” then you’re back in the same mindset again 😹 thinking about what women want hehe. It’s natural and normal but you won’t come so far with it

That’s why it helps to have a task at hand too. Like in school I remember it was always easier to talk to people when working on a group project. Because you’re caught up in the work and have something to talk about and not run out of words about.

You have a point, although the first approach can still show something significant enough of how the personality is. And women judge on the looks too

This is how it is for most women. Being approached my men they have no interest in

Yea

I haven’t been diagnosed with psychosis but the doctors speculated if I was in the beginning phases of going into one and say I have delusions so it’s somewhat close…

😹I know how it is. I once managed to make a layered chocolate cake look like landslide

I relate to this. Although for me it wasn’t related to particularly spiritual events. Let me know when you find a solution 😹 I have some understanding and “theories” of how it works in myself but I don’t think it would apply to you.

Keep it up👍🏻

😎

Cool 👍🏻

Pain would still be pain (if a sense of self is there) But yea I guess it’s true what the Buddhist say…

Presence. Deep breathing. Relaxing the body. Reducing stress, neurosis. All those things can make your system need less energy to work (a more stressed state takes more energy for example) .