Sugarcoat

Well I would actually agree with you once again. What I would say tho is that I doubt that the majority of these guys with these conventionally unattractive personalities really are “authentic “ . So for example those gamers in moms basement are probably driven by some psychological addiction and perhaps past trauma acting through them making them be the way they are rather than that being their authentic self, even if they seem fully embodied in their personality. So being able to embody authentic self takes work to undue all those forces acting through you - and that authentic self would probably be different than that isolated gamer guy - probably more attractive to more women but maybe this is just my own disconnection from myself where I feel nothing is really truly me

Yea I see. I have my own struggles so don’t really know what to say here much.

I see your point here actually, and I agree. if your goal is to increase your likelihood of creating that early attraction with women in general then yes this is true But then when it comes to attracting just the right girl for you then this authenticity is crucial even if you have a not conventionally attractive personality . Because even if most aren’t attracted to it there will be someone out there. And whoever that will be will be just right since you’re showing your true self so it will be that deep resonance it’s perhaps a harder path in some way but simultaneously authenticity is effortless

Isn’t what is worth it the man you become from this process? ” That does not make girls give me choosing signals, “ well feeling shitty about yourself doesn’t either. So what is most preferable to you? “Having to "win them over" with my "personality" makes me feel unattractive. “ well then it isn’t your true personality . The quotation marks says it all what one could say is the basis for attractiveness is this authentic energy you are expressing rn so that’s something to build from I would say

That music go hard ngl

Lol

I cried writing it, crazily enough exactly what I wrote happened a few minutes previously so it was from pure direct experience .

Do you seriously believe you will be able to become some ultra actualized spiritual person who changes the world when you cannot even deal with one of the most basic human desires? you are deeply confused about what is the cause of your “incompetence”

Facts

We are so wise to have realized this no wonder our standards are high ?

Can you notice how somewhere deep down you actually love this shitty feeling? How it seems to serve you somehow in some weird twisted way What you truly want is to allow it fully, to bask in it so completely, and experience it dissolve in this allowance. Watch what happens if you do

This had me rolling for some reason ???

Okay I see your point here. It’s really an exception to the norm . I wonder tho…doesn’t it still feel a little humiliating to one’s sense of self to have to pay someone to do this. Don’t you deep down want someone to want you for free, because you are you. I understand it can feel hard to attain but isn’t putting in the hard work instead more satisfactory then buying sex ?

Well if it’s not fucked up and makes you the money you so want then why don’t you yourself go sell sex to a bunch of men and we’ll see what you think about it ??

I’m dying at your descriptions ?????

I’ll go first My intuition has made me dance on top of mountains in the woods by myself…no drugs involved your turn

That’s amazing ! Not to be that person but sometimes I believe even if we communicate with “love “and “openness “ it doesn’t guarantee that there won’t be a negative reaction I know my family enough to know I couldn’t possibly tell them all of this without inducing worry so I’m doing them a service by keeping silent ?

Wow imagine not having to keep all of this to yourself so your family doesn’t walk around in severe worry about you

I actually thought about exactly this when I wrote my post , how suffering can be equally as deep no matter the context of it. But I didn’t bother to edit as I still got my overall point across I think. Im speaking to the average sex buyer and about the average prostitute. Sure there are perhaps exceptions with these luxury escorts but the average doesn’t look like that I guess in a way I’m trying to highlight how actually both the buyer and the prostitute aren’t benefitting from it. I bet you most men who buy sex don’t actually want to be the man who does it, they don’t want to have this sense of self as this man who buys sex, it’s quite humiliating to their own self image. At most maybe it could be a temporary relief from deep pain but nothing more than that . Sure if you on the brink of suicide and buying some sex helps a little I understand but I don’t believe the average sex buyer is coming from that place so this suffering argument doesn’t hold there…. how can I know how the average prostitute suffers? Well firstly simply being a female gives me some understanding of female psychology I would say, also my own research into this topic that has somehow fascinated me from a young age (held a speech about it in 9th grade lol) . Reading inside stories from former prostitutes watching documantaries etc also another thing. I think what this all sort of boils down to is that I have this inherent ability to internalize my own suffering in some way, and then perhaps I’m holding other people to such a standard but perhaps not everyone has this ability to internalize their suffering so they do experience that their suffering is inherent to an external situation (for example lack of sex) . But maybe I’m trying to point out how you actually are doing yourself also a disservice because yourself don’t want to have that sense of self as a sex buyer okay I will stop here ? it’s exhausting to try to concoct all these perfect answers I’ll let them be messy asf. But also I’m not really defensive about this I’m just trying to share what I sense about stuff

Personally shaking my hips and I’m sorry if it sounds silly but especially twerking helps in pulling this energy downwards in my body and “evening it out” for me also engaging socially …it kind of “pulls” energy outwardly .. I feel if I spend too much time with my attention on my mind (inward) then it can kind of reinforce this energy in my abdomen

To be honest, I find non dual talk quite boring and no “food for thought” ? So there isn’t really a psychological itch here related to that (although I can’t deny having psychological itches at all ?) It was more that meditation has been on my mind recently and the energy I sensed from you created in me a sense that whatever you would have to say about meditation would be something that I could draw from in my understanding of it. And I was genuinely impressed by your language level as I myself have this desire to improve my language skills , particularly in English (it’s my second language) . So reading what you wrote is actually helpful for me in this regard. I can sense what kind of impression you got from me - and I can totally see how what I wrote could give off that impression- but it isn’t really where I’m coming from with this ? and yes it’s pretty obvious you aren’t here for the social part. We differ there? and hopefully me and that other persons silliness doesn’t seem disrespectful or something

Just like me then

I bet your presence is intense ?

Healing that inner child

A clean environment def supports a clear mind