Sugarcoat

Thanks

I understand how hard it can be to find like minded people. If that’s not a criteria for you then you could find something to connect over with different type of people unlike you. That’s how I try to think, there’s always something to connect over even if the person is different. I try to be open towards the possibility always. But it takes two to tango so if the other doesn’t show interest in engagement in friendship then one has to eventually back of from attempts. So I know it can be hard. I wonder how it will be for me in uni. Maybe it differs from country to country too some cultures are more sociable like I live in Sweden and it’s not the most sociable country … But I’d suggest not giving up, not pushing it with people who don’t show interest back but keep showing interest (if it’s there) and eventually someone might reciprocate

If it was hard in college it’s gonna be even harder outside of it. Why was it hard in college? I am going to uni this autumn and I believe I will struggle too because I’m quite quiet and can be a little awkward although I’ve overcame my shyness. I’m open to the possibility of making new friends but it’s not a need I have, I’m fine if I end up alone too. But I understand you aren’t because the average person is wired for relationships.

Wow yes

Thats why I wrote a post a few years ago “spirituality fell away spontaneously “ because I saw how it was my own mental construct and it dissolved. Although now I could hypnotically practice spirituality without it being a mental construct but it took a lot of unraveling of mental constructs to get to that point

That could probably bring about a change

My intuition says the best way to stay protected is to stay incredibly grounded in yourself

Average mindset produces average life. Nothing wrong with that. It’s easy to say “the sky is the limit” “don’t limit yourself” but one requires radical shift in mindset and work ethic to make that shift into someone who could do better. From the framework you have now, yes it’s the best you could do. Self acceptance can be very healing,far from everyone is destined for greatness and that is okay. If you’re pleased with your situation then nothing wrong with staying there, if not, a fundamental change needs to happen

You mean you think I talk decent amount from your experience? I can talk more but sometimes

Thats true, I dont speak much in general.

Yea

I don’t understand what you mean or what it has to do with my response

Yea becuase your brain is literally wired for socialization. You get dopamine from good interactions with people you like. It might sound obvious what you and I say but sometimes seemingly obvious things can be deep new insights. Whats crazy about socialization is that sometimes even the mere presence of another human being is enough to make you feel fulfilled of that need for socialization. Like how it is to live with family for me, we don’t even have to talk.

Ok understood

So what are feelings then if not emotions?

Feel as in physical sensation or emotion? So cellular organisms have emotions? What?

That’s why I wrote the two most precious things is good mental and physical health (although mental health is for most people dependent on certain circumstances so it can’t be singled out like that)

Me neither

No problem Okay good Yea you must have in order to write this

Sometimes the seemingly obvious things can be deep insights. But it seems to me it’s just a way to comfort oneself of the need to feel loved

Thinking no woman will love you is likely due to low self esteem. The reality is there is probably someone for everyone, there’s people of both genders at all walks of life. It can be a comforting thought for someone who needs to feel loved by women for his self esteem. Wanting to feel loved is natural but it’s not always sustainable and will lead to eventual heartbreak. But that’s the melody of life that few escape, the impermanence.

It was a very cool text even if I don’t get the concepts. Were you able to write this because you have studied the concepts from various teachers?

Because society puts beauty on a pedestal so you've been conditioned to do so, and maybe because you lack experience with women that would demystify them for you

How am I gonna be able to study nutrition if I can't even get this

Everyone has a sense of mysticism about life. And many ascribe that to a god. And to imagine god as being this separate entity you worship suits the human mind that experiences itself as separate