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Then you two have something to vibe over

Find a girl who only drinks water ?

Regardless of social code or anything else, doesn’t it feel weird for you personally that you would deal with someone drunk? You can’t really know their state for sure . For me, I don’t like alcohol either and go so far that if a drunk person flirts with me, even if i hypothetically would be interested back I would feel a responsibility and not want to engage a person in such state

nice nice Yimpa

could be this could that lol. Sure but thats note impression I got. Sounded more like some kind of fomo to me that some people seem to have these days in this personal development thing, he even alluded to this further down i like to point people to make space in their life to go deep into their own minds and to engage their own minds more actively instead of adding yet more consumption to their already probably hectic life and if youre the type who is quite productive too then youre probably filling your mind up with a lot already. before you add deepen what you already got...

A man could be very masculine and have no problem with femininity too if it’s coming from authentic place and higher ego development, self awareness

It’s a very deep topic with many layers id have to really sit down and think about it to have much to say

Great examples

Lol ok Ajax that’s a perspective I’ve not heard before I don’t think feminine masculine division is a problem it’s more human developmental level overall that is problem and is what shapes how this division expresses itself in society and how destructive it is, something like that

Maladaptive daydreaming is ~symptom~ of a type of mind and other factors . Treating it like a problem is a waste of effort, much more effective to focus on healing overall and changing everything around it for the better and it will naturally lessen. no I’d say it’s quite the opposite something is most effective when it’s something your body/mind wants to do naturally .

Oh yes

Yea lot to unpack

I thought about it for a minute and what came to my head : when men need to be masculine to survive they need to reject femininity within themselves and whatever you reject inside you reject outside

Daydreaming can be extremely powerful visualization that can change your body chemistry , dissolve negative identification patterns etc.

Both have their place. but . watch out if it becomes a belief that you NEED to “accept” or an attachment to this habit of trying to “trigger “ (happened to me a little while ). Because then that can become like this limiting belief that acts as a mental filter

Yea up to op to decide ??

The fact you’re questioning it is enough to suggest it’s not necessary imo or I just have a bias because I myself pretty much never watch movies, read fiction etc . Ofc something can be learnt from everything , value can be gained from everything (depends on the type of mind you have to be able to extract value) but there are more ~direct ~ ways. You said writing/speech. Id say it’s valuable if you want to write/speak in a way that fits that genre , otherwise other type of text can better. There’s so much info in the world I’d try to be as specific and direct as possible in your search. Also giving a lot of space for your own mind to come up with things itself.

@BojackHorseman yea i don’t see screens as bad so I agree there about demonization. It’s more how you use them, what function it serves for you i also have these visions about a more natural life so I can relate there too. It’s wired in us and good to include some of it..could even be simplifying your current life yea it can be hard to make yourself independent of the constant stimulation. The way I see it is that when we constantly consume info - although it has its value and place, once again depends on how you use it - it’s like something else is thinking for us, filling our minds up and it leaves less space for our own brain activity to flourish. So using it less forces your own brain to get accustomed to less stimulation and it can create stimuli for itself (thinking can be very stimulating). But ofc in the beginning it can feel agitating. But if you try to get rid of some stimuli I believe it’s best to replace it with something that genuinely gives you fulfillment I’d say…

Yea it continues like that until awakening ..then it’s rest after awakening there’s remnants left of these layers but it takes care of itself pretty much and burns of quickly naturally it’s very counter intuitive how it works also. So the very idea you’re deceiving yourself might be the next thing to die. Then some next thing…then some next thing. doesn’t have to be that way but was from my experience . Like a dying off of layers. I relate strongly to your description you’re noticing a pattern in you. sometimes you don’t have to make effort as these limiting beliefs /deceptions can break apart by themselves. But it’s understandable it doesn’t feel good. Isn’t really supposed to feel good because it’s unstable by nature, until awakening.

If you could kiss a girl after 20 min I don’t see how sex on second date seems so crazy for you

Yea since she was your ex I’m not surprised

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For some people fantasy doesn’t necessarily have to translate to reality so maybe she never did that

That was a delightful response I’m glad you’re in a better place now

You think you’re one of them?