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Hello. As I'm watching "How Socialization Makes You Stupid," I realized that I'm going through the same thing as @Leo Gura — I cannot be myself among my peers; I'm fundamentally incompatible with most people in terms of socialization. I'm self-conscious but not in a neurotic way. I would like to crack "the mystery" of groupthink; what are the values that normies share, which allows them to socialize endlessly? How are they able to talk to themselves freely? What do they have in common? What is "that which" enables them to click as they talk? That is what I need to understand at a fundamental level. Thoughts?

Hello. I'm happy when I wake up on a dark winter morning and see that the lights are on and the highways are running. I also like to buy a plane ticket and visit my distant relatives — the possibility of doing so makes me grateful to be alive. I wonder about the people who did all of this; we have so many privileges these days, but nobody seems to notice how much work has been invested in infrastructure. We take for granted what society offers us — science, medicine, schools, and the Internet. To get off the comfort zone, the mother no longer dies while giving birth; the medical system performs a clean operation, and the baby is born. What's the cornerstone of a healthy civilization? The family unit? The thing is: we're living in great times, and it seems to me that the Golden Age will go away. Why is that?

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Hello. I'm in a relationship with an Arab woman — we like each other a lot but I'm not sure we're compatible enough. She's interested in discussing other people or events, and I'm more of a philosophical person that's into spiritual work. On a deeper level, it's hard for me to connect with her intellectually. To her, I'm a great listener and she loves talking to me about all that she has on her mind. What I wanted to ask is what could I talk to her about on my side. What type of stories could I tell her that would make her truly listen to me? Thanks.

Hello. In the past four years, I've managed to increase the level of my awareness to the point of seeing clearly how thoughts and emotions work. The only issue is that I have egoic leftovers that don't seem to go away — when I'm talking to a person, I'm getting anxious and a little bit awkward. It means that I still have social anxiety, right? I've been letting go of anxiety lately. The only issue is that it still persists. I can't find a way of relinquishing my social anxiety issue completely. I was approached by a beautiful woman today, I and in an instant, I saw myself anxious — it was like a fight or flight response. I wasn't able to control it. Why am I still socially anxious after years of meditation? I've been letting go of anxiety for almost three years now. Any thoughts?

I take this forum as my personal asset that I own — I learned to perceive any aspect of reality as mine. It's really remarkable.

Hello. I've been writing for the past two years and I made some progress; I would like to earn a living sitting at home, writing tons of articles for various publications. I could write about mental health from a spiritual and scientific perspective — we have a lot of great studies that are published online. In one of @Leo Gura's videos about the "65 Core Principles Of Living The Good Life," he said that writing is a great skill to have for survival. Do you have any tips for that? Thank you!

@Leo Gura, after I had my awakening, the projections of my mind crumbled. In other words, my ego was pulverized and my own mind had fallen into complete silence. And now I don't have an egoic relationship with my girlfriend — she noticed that something shifted in me. The only thing that I have left is my consciousness; I can relate to my girlfriend lovingly, with intention. But now we have a different kind of relationship, and she's still sticking with me — sometimes I can't believe it. I'm no longer in the range of chemistry and compatibility with my girlfriend; I am only relating to her. Is that a bad thing? To me, only her presence is enough. Is that wrong?

Hello. I've read the Neville Goddard Treasury — it is about the power of imagination. And I believe in it: everything you see around — a car, a smartphone, a building, or a hospital for that matter — was once in the imagination of a person. Here's what Carl G. Jung has to say about imagination: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AjgEOLocrus @Leo Gura posted once a fascinating idea to a person that struggled to talk to hers; he was socially anxious. Leo said that you must "lock a state in," meaning that you need to imagine yourself feeling comfortable while you talk to girls for a few months until it becomes reality. Have you ever tried to apply Leo's advice? And how did you do it?

I'm in the exact same position — due to the fact that I'm in an altered state of consciousness (Alpha Brain Waves), I don't find psychedelics appealing. I find meditation more appealing at this point, but maybe someday I'll be trying psychedelics. We'll see.

Jordan Peterson is a great [individual.] He is one of the most literate people in the 21st century. He gives you great advice. Take what's good from Jordan and learn to appreciate that. I choose to see only the good in people. He talks about freedom — we don't wanna become like China; I bet you wouldn't wanna live in a tyrannical system.

Thank you! I love the video dude. Such an illuminating perspective. Damn!

Hello. In 2017 I was depressed for the first time due to a significant setback. As I lost my source of income, I saw myself lost as a result — I was using my career as a crutch for well-being and stability — that wasn't a wise decision nor a good thing. I realized that there's more to life; I knew that every human being has the potential to save himself. Then I discovered Actualized.org — it told me that there are no shortcuts in life and that I must bite the bullet. Luckily, as I was learning to read and write, I also pursued enlightenemt. I don't wanna get into the details but it is possible to pursue enlightenment and self-help at the same time. To me, is the most potent combination. It works!

Hello. I'm struggling to develop this skill, despite the fact that I've been writing almost daily for the past three years. The problem is that often I'm at a loss for words — my perfectionistic side is getting in the way, telling me that other writers have a complex vocabulary in comparison to mine and that my too simplistic way of writing will never be appreciated by the audience. I managed to develop this skill for the sake of writing clearly, but people like Jordan Peterson or Michael Pollan — both are using complex terms when they write — seem to be appreciated by the public just because their writings appear to be scholarly and academic. Would it be a great idea to relinquish my need to write using complex terms and embrace my uniqueness? And sometimes I'm struggling: I don't have ideas to write about. My working memory doesn't seem to work properly but for some reason, I can write because I forced myself to write. Other than that, I don't remember what I read. Thanks!

Damn! Thank you. You're highly aware of what the process of writing entails and how it should unfold by itself.

Thank you, everyone! The thing is that I would like to take my skill to the next level — in the past few days I managed to lower my "ADHD" issue and I can better focus on a topic. Any tips for taking your skill to the next level? In this case, writing. Does reading more matter? Because I write all the time but when it comes to reading, I'm not reading often.

Since Joe Biden has become the President of The United States, almost everything is a mess — inflation, and high gas prices as he did attack the energy sector. I only have to look at the effect of 'the Biden administration policies' to realize that I won't be voting for Joe again.

Romance is the most important thing in a relationship. Sex is secondary.

It's all a mind game — the one who plays for the sake of enjoying the process will ultimately succeed. Let me elaborate on that. The neurotic individual takes everything too seriously, and then he struggles because he doesn't realize that the end goal is not so important as the practice itself or the ongoing process. You must fall in love with doing the work; the process should be like opium to you. As Curtis Jackson has said, reality to him is the biggest drug — it is the main thing that motivates him to crack its mysteries. You can do things with willpower or you can do the work effortlessly. Which one would you choose? Willpower which is a struggle or the effortless state of mind in which creativity is highly enjoyable? At first, it is important to grasp that willpower has a role — you must use your willpower to deconstruct your neuroticism so you can do things effortlessly. For those who don't understand the foundation of self-help and personal growth, it is imperative to work on their minds so they can be hyper-aware of what's happening in their psyche. As long as you won't notice your dysfunctional patterns — the lack of focus, or the need to distract yourself with trivial things — you cannot be in the right frame of mind from which an individual can be effortlessly creative. When you begin to increase your level of awareness, you notice things that were previously hidden from you. For example, the frustration that arises when you're doing an exercise of concentration — you know that it's difficult but you don't see clearly why you're getting frustrated and how your limiting beliefs about yourself are stifling the process of your growth. To be more clear, you're not aware of how your bodily functions work. And if you start to use your willpower to build your awareness muscle, over time, you will see with clarity the things you need to deconstruct, so you can do the work without too much effort. 1. You start to increase the level of your awareness by focusing on something — it can be an object or your breath. 2. You know what to expect — frustration, anger, lack of patience, and a lot of darkness, especially if you had a traumatic childhood. 3. In the meantime, you strive for knowledge — reading lots of books or watching great YouTube videos will certainly help; it will put things in perspective. 4. You have faith in the process — even though you're making many mistakes, the brain learns on its own, and mastery will be guaranteed only by gathering information and doing the practice.

Although I'm into spiritual work — countless hours of 'consciousness' work — I've never tried psychedelics. All I did is to focus my mind in-depth on an object, on my breath, or on my awareness — you can be aware that you are aware. And I pushed myself to get the practice — in a unique manner — to the next level. The quality of the practice matters more than the quantity of it — you can focus three hours straight or you can do it ten times a day but with less intensity. 1. Focusing on something for three hours without pause. 2. Focusing on something for ten minutes, ten times a day. It is a huge difference. The good news about consciousness work is that you can heal yourself mentally and physically. Your biology is not separate from your mind — your body is an organism; all of its functions are intertwined. To truly experience well-being, you need the capacity to stay present effortlessly, for hours on end, just like a Zen monk does. Being anchored in the present moment is a skill — it requires lots of practice and @Leo Gura knows that. Leo discovered so many things on his own because he succeded in biting the bullet — he took the practice seriously and applied it often, despite that pain that surfaced when he figured things out alone. Without enlightenment work, is it very difficult to understand yourself, how your body functions, and how the mind operates.

He wants to earn his independence by creating a YouTube channel. He genuinely wants to be a massive value provider. But he has an "ADHD" type of mind, leaving him unable to retain the information he reads or studies. He's unable to articulate understanding. He has mental health issues due to childhood trauma — the tremendous lack of love he didn't receive in early childhood is debilitating. He grew up in poverty with a violent, alcoholic father and a cold, depressed mother. He realizes that he has mental health issues that could be cured only through spirituality. He gets to work. He starts to read books. He struggles to focus but he pushes through anyway. As the future is uncertain, he has no idea where he'll end up — but he continues to be vigilant and persistent.

Hello. I'd like to share with you the most delinquent tips for overcoming any type of addiction. But first, I wanna give many thanks to @Leo Gura — he made a video on the staggering depth of awareness, and I used it to my own benefit, just like a selfish person would do. See, life is all about being aware — even Leonardo da Vinci has a marvelous quote about the potentness of awareness: "An average human looks without seeing, listens without hearing, touches without feeling, eats without tasting, moves without physical awareness, inhales without awareness of odor or fragrance, and talks without thinking." As I kept my awareness ongoing, I realized so many things about my body — the incessant stream of thoughts that I was having, my positive and negative emotions, and my cravings and impulses that were generated by a vague image that appeared in my mind. The more you stay consciously aware, the soberer you become and the more clarity of mind you experience. I didn't try to refrain from eating junk food — I continued to eat unhealthy food but I was aware of what I was doing. And it wasn't only a few seconds of awareness; I had to remain aware the whole time I was consuming sugar, for example. At some point, I become so aware of the dysfunctional behavior that anytime I look at junk food, a feeling of disgust towards it manifested inside me. The bizarre thing is that even if I were to force myself to eat sh*tty foods, I couldn't — I consciously and unconsciously have an aversion to it. To overcome any addictive pattern, just be highly aware of the unwanted behavior and you will notice that in a year or two you will no longer have cravings. You'd rather avoid it because it will make you sick. The cornerstone of growth is your conscious awareness — a new dimension of experience that takes care of any so-called problem you have. It's never about force but rather about the depth of your awareness.

@Leo Gura, I've found your YouTube channel in 2018. Since then, I'm meditating on a daily basis — my consciousness has increased exponentially. Back then, I had no idea about the dark side of meditation; I blindly started to meditate. It was out of foolishness and enthusiasm at the same time. After a year and a half of meditation and mindfulness inquiries, I plunged into "The Dark Night of the Soul." It was so scary that I didn't know or had no idea if I'll make it through — that was dark man. But somehow, after two months of being patient, without suppressing my awful moods, I started to feel better. And now, when I look back, I laugh so hard because I no longer have a false sense of identity. I only have egoic leftovers. It was due to you that I've become interested in spirituality, and for that, I'll be eternally grateful to you. 1. Less suffering. 2. No more junk food — just a little from time to time so I won't harm my body. 3. I'm a lot more confident. 4. I let go — daily — of anything constraining. 5. I'll soon be enlightened, meaning that I'll be able to lock the enlightened state as long as I'm alive. 6. I can stay present for hours, effortlessly. 7. I don't take everything too seriously; the present moment itself is a joyful experience. 8. I'm no longer nihilistic. I'm falling in love with reality. Thanks, Leo!

Thanks for asking.

Sometimes I'm feeling self-conscious, especially when I'm talking to people — I have the impression that what I'm saying is wrong or weird. Or when my girlfriend calls me, I'm at a loss for words due to the awful feeling of self-consciousness; I just don't know what to say or how to get out of that tense situation. Although I'm confident enough because I've been meditating for the past four years, I have egoic leftovers that are pretty strong when they get triggered or activated. I've done my homework in terms of consciousness work. I'm aware of anything that happens inside my own mind or aware of the feelings that I'm experiencing at a particular moment. In the past, I've had severe social anxiety, but right now I'm pretty much okay — the only thing that I need to overcome is my self-consciousness and my slightly awkward moments when I talk to people. To offer some context, I grew up in a dysfunctional family — my father was absent, violent and an alcoholic and my mother was depressed and emotionally distant. I grew up in poverty. I really wanna fix my impostor syndrome issue. Do you have any tips for that?