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Hello. This is not a condemnation in any way. I would like to know your opinion regarding my — bizarre and fascinating — relationship with an Arab, religious woman. She's dysfunctional — neurosis, self-esteem issues, and jealousy. On the other hand, she has a good side too — loyalty, for example. In the past five years, I've managed to kill off the ego — what I have left is only egoic leftovers that arise from time to time, but mostly, I finished them off (I'm rarely under the grip of my ego, and when I am, it has no power over me; I can notice how my egoic leftovers operate with clarity). Anyways, the strange thing about my relationship is that her issues don't bother me. I'm loving in such a way that even if she's upset or sad, I can love her and be present with her, accepting her unconditionally. Should I break up with her and find another woman? I don't plan to do that; I only want to know your thoughts on this. Eckhart Tolle has said that those who are enlightened see the irrational behavior of other people (anger, jealousy, resentment, and so forth) as waves that touch you lovingly. Now matter how angry a person is, according to Tolle, it doesn't bother you at all. Thanks.

Yeah. It surely sounds like nonsense but it works for me. But here's my story — I work in a restaurant with lots of clients; it is similar to a McDonald's one, so the atmosphere there is a bit stressful. Some clients are so mean and rude that they trigger you. So I told myself that whenever I'll be triggered (it happened a few times a day) — instead of reacting — I should allow myself to feel the feeling completely, smile, and then let it go, as if nothing has happened. I purposefully used the letting go technique in tense situations — I did that in the past four years, daily. And sometimes I deliberately annoyed my co-workers — as they reacted in a negative manner, I remained utterly calm, without being triggered at all. Chimp behavior to me was an opportunity to deconstruct my ego — I learned how to de-energize any negative emotion, consciously, in an instant. And now, nothing chimpanzee-like troubles me — when a person is rude, that rudeness is like a warm wave of love. Isn't it fascinating? You can use your job to deconstruct the ego. In places with lots of people, there will be chimp behavior; your co-workers and the clients will annoy the hell out of you, so you have the greatest opportunity to evolve spiritually. @something_else — I'm trying to be a rainbow in someone's cloud. And also, to grow; I'm developing patience even for those who are small-minded (I'm not saying that in a judgmental way).

Hello. I fasted for about five days and ate a full-Swiss dark chocolate (75% cocoa) with little sugar. Before eating it, I sensed that my mind was hyperactive and that I wasn't completely free of micro-suffering. After eating the whole bar, my mind was in a state of complete silence — the burden of micro-suffering lifted, just like it does when you take Ketamine. I can speak with certainty about the effects of taking a substance like caffeine because I'm a hard-core practitioner — I've been meditating for about five years, daily. My levels of awareness are through the roof now but I still have egoic leftovers that I need to relinquish. Anyways, substances are good for learning — they lift anxiety, depression, and an awful mood (if we're conscious enough to have this perspective) just to "make" us realize that there's a state of mind utterly free of suffering, in which learning is effortless and creativity is EASY. What stands in the way of working on ourselves is the egoic mind, which produces a lot of suffering: doubt, confusion, despair, restlessness, inability to focus, and many other illnesses. The question is: "How long will it take for the ego to subside completely?"

Hello. @Leo Gura, can you give us some tips in regard to learning, comprehension, and articulating understanding? Or can you make a long YouTube video about this subject? Many of us wanna become writers and public speakers. We're into spirituality as well but we must learn how to articulate ourselves properly to make money in today's world. Thanks.

How much does it cost to have this forum on? The web hosting cost.

That would be a great thing.

Hello. Here's a great interview about the significance of reaching your genetic potential in terms of developing your facial structure. Those who don't have good facial structure have narrow, constricted airways — even their nasal cavity is thinner. That is why so many of us have sleep apnea without knowing. Since I've been doing Myo-Functional therapy (mewing), I sleep a lot better. My face is now developing properly (it is an ongoing process) and soon will reach its genetic potential in terms of mass and volume. Don't underestimate this issue. Because we have inadequate diets (we're fed Baby Formula, which means that we're not breastfed and therefore we don't develop the reflect of having our tongue pressed against our upper palate), our faces are no longer reaching their genetic potential. The significance of "correct tongue posture" has a massive effect on our facial development. Jordan Peterson is depressed because he suffers from obstructive sleep apnea — his brain doesn't enter into deep sleep phases. And I believe @Leo Gura has the same problem; chronic fatigue is not a thyroid problem; it is "an obstructive sleep apnea issue." Learn more about the work of Mike Mew, tongue posture, and about Myo-Functional therapy. Due to obstructive sleep apnea, I was so obsessed about rectifying my craniofacial dystrophy that I used my tongue as much as I could (forcefully) — I was pressing my tongue against my upper palate (the upper maxilla) so powerfully that my facial structure began to grow and correct itself; my nasal airway bone structure gained volume and it widened. We must take this seriously, guys. P.S: the face develops at any age if you close your mouth, breathe through your nose and fix your tongue posture. The trick is to develop your tongue muscles to the point of almost being able to break your maxilla.

Your Soul's Plan: Discovering the Real Meaning of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born If I were to summarize this book in very few words it would be “it’s all good”. If you agree with the author’s perspective on life (which includes more than just this physical life), then everything happens for a reason and for the ultimate good of all concerned. The premise of this work assumes that you accept that we are eternal souls and we live many lives in order to learn and grow. Apparently, most of that learning is by experiencing the opposite. For example, we come into this life and forget who we really are, and then we experience anger as both victim and perpetrator so we can forgive ourselves and the other person and move past it, discovering our own divinity in the process. Then when we cross over into the more sublime reality where there is no anger, we appreciate the love we express and receive all the more. Had we not experienced the illusion on earth of negativity, we would not value so highly the positivity of the heavenly worlds. I am a seeker of truth and I have searched both outsides, through books mostly, and within via meditation for answers to the mysteries of life. As I have some past life recall, I am a ready audience for the premise of this work. I also have some revelation that some things are definitely planned. But I do not know if they are planned to the extent given here. Do we have full say on whether we reincarnate? And do we really decide all the major goals and factors that our life will entail, and then we make the necessary agreements with other souls? Schwartz claims that oftentimes very negative, even criminal behavior is not what it appears. A young man planted a bomb and grievously injured a young woman. But this was not the evil act it appeared to be… it was agreed upon prior to their birth. Thus the young man incurs no negative karma for this although he doesn’t recall the agreement and is ashamed of what he sees as a random act of evil. The victim learned to forgive the unknown man (in this life) and move a step further toward gratitude for his act because it compelled her to make great strides in the unfolding of her true nature. This kind of makes sense and I’m still working on the extent to which I believe this is true and how it fits my understanding and long-held beliefs. Perhaps the biggest loose end in this book was its brief and casual mention of walk-ins. That’s the idea that a soul can depart from a serious accident or illness but the body survives because another soul has stepped into that vehicle. The new soul would inherit the memory and some personality traits of the previous soul but would be a different being. I read about this many years ago in Ruth Montgomery’s book and I brushed it off at that time. While it seems to fit with the concept of the present work (that it’s permissible if the two souls have pre-agreed to this) it is creepy to ponder that another entity might be looking at us through our loved one’s eyes. Of course, we ourselves would also have pre-agreed to this in a state of being where we wouldn’t find such a thing so disturbing. Another thought-provoking point made by Schwartz is that when a person learns to love and forgive and becomes one with their true higher nature, they uplift all humanity. The pain and suffering overcome by the woman who was a victim of the explosion were transformative to the whole planet even if no one ever told her story. That’s because her energy is felt by us all. This gave me a new take on the concept that Jesus died for our sins. In the context of Schwartz’s work, we could say that Jesus’s love and forgiveness despite his intense suffering, uplifted the whole world. This may be where that concept was derived from. I would have liked to have seen one more chapter, and that would be a story where some act of evil was not planned. Don’t some souls go off the reservation so to speak, and what happens then? This book may not be for everyone, but if you are an open-minded seeker of truth like me, consider this a must-read.

Everything Dr. Jordan B. Peterson is saying here is common sense. Very rarely do we see such honesty and passion for the lives of the people of this Earth, especially nowadays. True words like these, are rarely spoken. The death that will happen to less fortunate countries is beyond grief, and it is disgusting to know that it will be because of leftist virtue signaling, motivated by powerful people for personal gain. Frankly, this should put the fear of God in all of us. Dr. Jordan Peterson seems to be the only person who has the courage to speak about this freely and who has a sincere concern for what could be a bleak future for many. The problem is we can't expect hordes of malign narcissists (among those in charge and common people) to acknowledge their problems and mistakes. I’ve had a feeling of impending doom for a few years now, and I’m generally a positive person. It’s just been a feeling that something is seriously wrong with this world. Unfortunately, it seems I was right to feel that way. Thank you Dr. Jordan B. Peterson for this beautiful work!

Do you still hold the same views, @Leo Gura? I'm planning on giving up coffee. What are your thoughts on this? As a daily meditation, should I eliminate all stimulants?

Hello. I've come across a fascinating topic in a great book (Transcending the Levels of Consciousness) written by David. R. Hawkins. While I'm not against people who believe in moral relativism (everyone is entitled to his or her own perspective), personally, I don't think 'moral relativism' is good for the individual, civilization, and society at large. What are your thoughts on moral relativism?

I agree. When it comes to ego, we should be mysterious. You can hardly find a spiritual partner these days.

No. It is not. @Leo Gura is right. Women get bored easily, especially when the guy is too available. Women love mysterious guys. I never take relationship advice from women, in the sense that women don't even understand themselves (like what they respond to in a guy). Women are driven by emotions. If the guy is too nice, he gets rejected. If he's too available and chats non-stop on the phone, it is just a matter of time until the attraction wears off between the two of them.

Indeed.

David R. Hawkins continues by saying the following: Furthermore, David R. Hawkins notes: Is David R. Hawkins wrong? I would like to know your thoughts on this.

Fair enough, @Leo Gura. I would like to know if there's a benefit or an advantage to guiding civilization and society at large based on moral relativism.

Fossil fuels aren't the issue; you know that to be the case if you are wise enough. During the Roman empire, the temperatures were a lot warmer. Climate change is real — it is actually a natural phenomenon that shouldn't scare us. Don't fracture civilization by imposing renewable green sh*t that doesn't work in the long run. I believe that we're heading towards an ice age.

Hello. As I was thinking about writing a column, a stream of self-deceptive thoughts bubbled up: "You're not capable of writing a great article. You cannot formulate ideas concisely. You cannot express yourself." Those inadequate thoughts had been followed by a gnawing feeling — it felt like I couldn't formulate a sentence or an idea. Not only thoughts can be a problem (which are objects of distraction), but your feelings also. Observation. Introspection. Attention.

Great stuff here.

Hello. I'm not interested in memorization for the sake of retaining words. I would rather make an effort to grasp the meaning of an idea, concept, or word. To me, deep comprehension is crucial — I don't wanna take shortcuts when it comes to learning. There are tons of books on memorization. I'm reading a popular one — Unlimited Memory by Kevin Horsley — and although the author's techniques are working, it doesn't feel like the methods are good for comprehension. You can remember tons of words without knowing what they mean. The question is: "What's the best way to get the meaning of a word?" Repetition? Recalling? Profound observation? The act of patiently striving to understand a concept even if it doesn't make sense to you? I would rather understand a concept in depth, even though it would take more time end effort to comprehend its meaning. Could @Leo Gura give us some tips, please? Or if there's a video about deep learning, could you share it with me? Also, it would be great if Leo would make a video about the intricacies of hyper-intelligence; I would like to learn what needs to be done to develop sheer reasoning powers. To me, intellectual ethics and integrity are key.

Hello. You have a scattered mind plagued by shamed-based limiting beliefs. Focus. Attention. Concentration. Observation. Be aware of anything that constrains you — deconstruct your neurosis by relinquishing that which bothers you. Raise your awareness, again, again, and again. Raise the level of your consciousness, daily. Unless you become conscious of how the mind works (it might take you a few more years of meditation), you'll be inclined to learn through concepts and irrelevant, limiting beliefs. Don't think that you should retain all the information you read but rather strive to understand the meaning behind it, as much as possible. Be okay with not remembering — until you develop a memory capable of recalling takes time. There is a great book written by Nicholas G. Carr — The Shallows. In it, there is an illuminating chapter on how memory works.

I became suicidal after experiencing a minor shift in consciousness — a phase called The Dark Night of The Soul. The so-called "meaning of life" crumbled after only a year of meditation, leaving me severely depressed and in a frightening state of despair. All you must do to overcome such difficulty is realize that it's a normal phase — it will pass in a month or so if you sink deeper into the feeling of depression. Process your depression by feeling it completely, and allow it to subside at its own pace. Don't give in to the notion that your depression will be permanent — that's only a trick of the mind. Face your depression courageously by remaining comfortably aware in the middle of the feelings it creates.

I don't have a good source for buying LSD.

Hello. As I'm watching "How Socialization Makes You Stupid," I realized that I'm going through the same thing as @Leo Gura — I cannot be myself among my peers; I'm fundamentally incompatible with most people in terms of socialization. I'm self-conscious but not in a neurotic way. I would like to crack "the mystery" of groupthink; what are the values that normies share, which allows them to socialize endlessly? How are they able to talk to themselves freely? What do they have in common? What is "that which" enables them to click as they talk? That is what I need to understand at a fundamental level. Thoughts?