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You are right, @Leo Gura! Cheating is not right. If your girlfriend sleeps with lots of men, that can't possibly be right. Casual sex is not right either because it has a negative impact on people. This hookup culture is a delusion. I wonder why did people buy into the idea of casual sex. Or the notion that going to parties will somehow make you happier. Why not do self-help work and party so much less? Why not less stimulation? I had a lot of questions when I was young. I was wise enough to not waste my life with mindless activities like dancing in clubs or partying for fun. We need limits when it comes to hedonistic activities. Am I right?

Can I find it in pharmacies?

Consciously — I'm not identified with toxic shame. The issue is that toxic shame is unconscious; it gets triggered because it has its autonomy. It's a subconscious mechanism that I have no control over. It's so pervasive that it can't be easily relinquished. I need to wait until it subsides.

You are right about that. However, the anxiety people experience is debilitating. it makes people so uncomfortable that they don't want to be around you. That is what must be overcome.

America will be fine if Trump wins because Congress is much stronger than The White House.

Sex keeps you stuck in a delusional state of emotionality, thoughts, instincts, and ultimately chemistry. And of course, it fuels the ego. It's never a viable option for experiencing lasting well-being. If you want to get enlightened, sex must be transcended. If people want true satisfaction in life, they must go beyond their mind/body. Sex is a trap that keeps people stuck in egoic loops — it doesn't work.

True. What comes next is civilizational suicide because people no longer have kids. Birth rates are so low that there won't be a next generation to sustain technology and advance it. We won't have enough young people to continue the economy. Growth requires human labor. Demography matters. Demography is destiny. Another thing about this hook-up culture is that casual sex does grave damage to society. And sex is overrated. So, so overrated. But people continue to practice it, paradoxically. Sex is no longer used for procreation. Most people use sex to gratify themselves; they use it for pleasure. As long as we don't correct course, YouTube won't exist in a few decades. We won't have airlines. BMW's. A stable infrastructure. And so on...

Because they grew up in relatively healthy families. They were socialized by their parents, and they continued to socialize in school or at parties. They weren't traumatized or abused. Your psyche can't help but learn how to communicate effectively when you spend lots of time with your peers. You become like the ones you hang out with. But people who have social anxiety were toxically shamed. They were abused by being neglected in many ways or abandoned. They were not allowed to be themselves, nor encouraged to express themselves properly. There's no such thing as "social anxiety." You developed defensive mechanisms that allowed you to survive the trauma you tragically experienced in early childhood. You just have to talk to people a lot.

Hi. I recently saw a YouTube video of Leo talking about being authentic with women. That authentic self has to be discovered, of course, but how? Do we just approach women? We just go and talk to women? How does it work?

If I talk to women on the streets, I make them uncomfortable momentarily. I don't care if or when I get uncomfortable — the issue is that I don't want to make those girls uncomfortable. But if I go with what @Leo Gura is saying, I'd approach many women on the streets regardless of how I'm making them feel. The only solution that would work is TO NOT CARE HOW YOU MAKE THEM FEEL AT THAT MOMENT. In other words, I just approach people without caring about the outcome or how they'll feel.

Most people aren't socially anxious, @Leo Gura. They talk without worrying about what they'll say next. I was toxically shamed in early childhood, abused, beaten, abandoned physically and emotionaly, and left alone as a kid. My father was an alcoholic, and he never had a job. My mother was cleaning bathrooms so I could survive. My mother never interacted with us because she was depressed and emotionally distant; she was very narcissitic. But I don't blame my parents because I'm not a victim --- I'm only talking about my family background to ofer context and understanding. Tragically, that sense of shame was constantly lurking in the back of my mind. I was unconscious of it, but toxic shame was active continuousy (non-stop, every day, hour, minute, and second) --- it operated through me without pause. I was the toxic shame itself. When I wanted to smile, that shame got triggered instantly, never allowing me to smile properly. People who aren't toxically shamed have no idea how painful that feeling is, and they don't know that it's always there, even when you're not with people. When I was in public, I was painfully self-conscious. When I had to go to work, I was anxious before getting there --- my heart was beating fast. When I talked to people, I was saying words or opinions about what they said --- I just couldn't interact with them authentically; I was forcing myself to come up with something about what they said. My toxic shame was noticed by people, and they rejected me because I was making them uncomfortable. I was awkward --- it was so intense that it repelled people. They had no idea what the heck was wrong with me. So they despised me. Sometimes I wonder why I wasn't fired by my boss. Maybe he knew I was struggling, because he's way more conscious than most people, so he understood that I wasn't like that on purpose, and that I was struggling with a severe mental illness. I also had ADHD, if that exists. I had brain for and I could't articulate my thoughts. I could barely get out of bed in the morning, because I wasnb't able to sleep more than four or five hours a night, but that wasn't deep sleep; it was a light sleep that didn't much for me. I was sucidal! The suffring was so deep that I wanted to die. How am I going to compete with those who grow up in better families? Are they luckier than me? Because people see you as a victim, but they have no idea how painful your life was. Because someone that doesn't have enough pain can't possibly understand what you've been through. But I managed to pursue spirituality and raise myself from death. I was running after enlightenment because Leo inspired me to get enlightened. That toxic sense of shame is so much less intense but it's still there, miniscule, almost unnoticable --- somethimes it's so less intense that I believe it's gone. It will be gone at some point, but the ego is so tricky that when it's almost gone, it makes you think you've transcended it. The final stage is so tricky; the ego is almost unoticable, and you fool yourself into thinking that you've overcome it. Has anyone gone through enormous suffering?

That's because they can't connect with people — socializing puts immense pressure on them to be like the herd. That's not possible in a high state of consciousness. Socializing is not interesting to a highly conscious person. You sit with someone and talk about mundane stuff? That's alright but it is not fascinating. Am I wrong, @Leo Gura?

Hello. This may seem strange, but I do not know if I should be social. Because I work a nine-to-five job and I'm in solitude for the rest of my time. Socializing doesn't stimulate me that much — it doesn't impress me. When I socialize, I don't get hits of dopamine or good feelings. I'm in a neutral state. I'm not looking for people's approval or to validate them. Maybe I don't like socializing? Or probably I see it as a waste of time. I still don't know... Or when I go to a club, I don't find it that enjoyable. For me, a solitary lifestyle seems appealing. I love cracking the mysteries of my subconscious mind. I enjoy doing consciousness work. Furthermore, I get joy from learning and understanding. Mastery to me is like oxygen. Am I too unidimensional?

Can you give me a few line-openers? What could I say to people?

Hello. @Leo Gura was saying in one of his YouTube videos that Yogis and Mystics (the ones who meditate all their lives) are in states of consciousness that resemble MDMA, heroin or Ketamine. Or somehing similar, so to speak. Meaning that those Yogis and Mystics are in blissful states of consciousness by default. Does anyone know which video that is? I can't find it. But it's true --- when you look at brain scans of Yogis or Zen masters or Mystics, their mental health is out of this world. I was stunned when I saw images of Zen masters brain scans. It blows your mind, seriously.

Hi. I've been part of the pickup community. I talked to many girls in the past and I've had many girlfriends. But no matter how much sex I have, it doesn't make me happier. The more sex I have, the more awful life becomes for me. I can't explain it properly. I feel like I have a void inside. Is anyone in this situation?

Yes. Both.

I prefer my cup of coffee in the morning, mate. I would not trade coffee for sex. Today I talked to people about sex, and they told me that sex gets boring after you do it a few times.

Do you have a video about this, @Leo Gura? I'm really interested in the subject.

How can you talk to women in a non-logical way?

I agree. I was a smoker before and I loved it. Smoking is better than sex, except for your health.

Yes. Socializing makes us stupid because we don't see beyond our peers; of how they think. We conform.

Hello. There's no such thing as a non-sociable person — everyone can do it if they train themselves, including the introverted ones. The only issue is that people get lost in socializing — they get so immersed in it that they can't find their way out. They're stuck in a maze. Most people — I noticed — are socializing to escape reality. They aren't interested in character growth, I observed. While there's nothing wrong with being social, the issue is that it can be detrimental to you, and that is because you get hooked on parties, mindless talks, and casual sex (lots of it for most people, and it's not good for your soul). One strange effect of socializing is that you start to think like most people. You become like them without even knowing it. You unconsciously become a conformist. Your mind gets infected with their way of thinking, and it happens unconsciously. Regarding learning how to socialize properly, the issue is your uncomfortableness — a feeling or state of mind that doesn't allow you to express yourself freely. You're locked by a feeling of inhibition, mixed with self-consciousness and anxiety. And the antidote to that is facing it by being in the presence of others until it is transcended. You must feel the anxious feeling until it goes away, in the presence of other people. Any pros and cons regarding socializing? I want to know your thoughts.

Civilization is impossible without relationships, and the human species will soon die out.