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Hello. I don't know about you guys but I can't socialize after raising my awareness — I did consciousness work to the point of being hyper-aware of everything that goes in the back of my mind. I have to make a conscious effort when talking to people. Everything is pre-planned in awareness before saying a word. Don't get me wrong — I'm not self-conscious when talking to people. Or anxious. Or awkward. The issue is that I'm no longer in that frame of mind of being social. I'm no longer trapped in a social frame of mind. I'm no longer 'locked' in a paradigm of thinking like the herd. How can I solve this issue? Because conversations no longer interest me. Socializing no longer interests me. Is that normal? Has this ever happened to anyone here?

Can you elaborate on that?

My perspective on life underwent a profound transformation when I embraced spirituality and delved into consciousness work. Through this journey, I learned to let go of my ego, reaching a state of inner stillness and tranquility that I had never known before. This shift led to a significant change in my values, especially after experiencing what is often referred to as The Dark Night of the Soul. However, I have found that to engage in everyday conversations, I often feel compelled to betray my authentic self. This means participating in discussions about topics like shopping, events, sports, and other mundane things, which hold little to no interest for me. Engaging in these types of conversations not only feels like a waste of time but also places a significant amount of pressure on me. My mind constantly reminds me that I could be using that time for more productive pursuits that contribute to my personal growth and development. I have noticed that many people, particularly women, seem uninterested in discussing deeper subjects such as truth, spirituality, or philosophy. This observation leaves me feeling isolated and misunderstood, as I yearn for conversations that reflect my true interests and values. I wonder if others have experienced similar feelings. Is it common to feel this way after undergoing such a transformation? Is there something inherently wrong with me for struggling to engage in conventional social interactions?

That's what I encountered. If you are not like them, they freak out. Why?!

There is a Western radio channel on YouTube. You can see the latest updates on the Russia-Ukraine war. The truth is that Russia is losing the war, and that's a great thing. More than half of Russia's Black Sea Fleet has been destroyed by Ukraine. Ukraine has devastated Russia's Black Sea Fleet without even having a real navy. These are the Russian warships Ukraine has taken out.

Corruption exists everywhere because human nature is problematic. The ego is a trickster — making people believe in power, materialism, and thrills. No perfect country exists. Ukraine has the right to join NATO and the European Union. They have the right to a prosperous, democratic future. Putin doesn't have the right to take that away from Ukraine. As Europeans, we did lots of things for Ukraine. We'll have to arm ourselves if the USA isolates itself. Security is paramount. Germany pledges to make its military 'the backbone of defence in Europe'

Russia is not in a position to draw red lines for any country. Russia is well-known for murdering its journalists. You don't have free speech in Russia. You don't have Absolute human rights in Russia. Putin has turned Russia into a pariah state. You have no idea how many people died in Ukraine. Putin is evil. We all know that. Shouldn't we stop pretending that Russia is an okay nation? Because we know Russia can't be great as long as Putin is in power. I live in Romania. Romanians know the wrath of communism. We suffered a lot.

Ukraine is not Russia. Ukraine is an independent country with the right to create its destiny. If Ukraine wants to join NATO, so be it. If Ukraine wants to be in the European Union, so be it. Who does Putin think he is to impose limitations on a country? Putin is a well-known killer.

They don't have to start a nuclear program to be dangerous and challenge the United States militarily. Because, believe it or not, Germany is dangerously close to arming itself nowadays. Germany's military is dangerously lethal. I'm very concerned. Germany vows to make its military 'the backbone of defense in Europe' Things are serious. The European Union is an economic superpower. Europe has the best mechanical engineers in the world. I seriously hope America will not elect Trump and continue to lead the world as it did until today. If that won't be the case in the future, Europe will have to lead.

Trump is dangerous because he wants to stop the USA from giving funds to Ukraine. And he wants to isolate America somehow. He's basically against healthy globalism. I'm not for Klaus Schwab policies or the George Soros types, but Trump is — indeed — dangerous. Do you guys know that if America stops offering military aid to Ukraine or Europe, Germany will have to arm itself? Do you guys know how dangerous a military Germany can get nowadays? Because Germany has the best engineers and architects in the world. The moment Germany becomes a military power, they'll have opinions.

Thank you! Yes. I do not judge people. But after awareness, there's no connection.

I take my words back. It's different now that I tried talking to people. It's a different experience.

I hope I'm not judging people but it's challenging to socialize now that I'm in a higher state of consciousness. I'm meta-aware of what's happening beneath the surface of the mind.

Can you elaborate on that? Because I see people talking for hours — I work in a restaurant. I see couples socializing for hours at a table. How's that possible? They have an ego.

Hello. I plant to use psychedelics to understand more about my ingrained childhood trauma. I'm dealing with toxic shame as "my core identity." I'm not identified with toxic shame but it's very persistent because it manifests unconsciously. It gets triggered when I'm in public or around people. It's so powerful that it completely overwhelms me — it's basically overpowering me. Humans are triggering my toxic shame, which makes me anxious around them and highly self-conscious. Words don't come out naturally when I talk to people — they're always forced, and an interpretation of what people are saying. I somehow understand how the mind creates reality but I'm still unable to relinquish that toxic sense of shame that is murdering my authentic self. What type of psychedelics should I use for toxic shame? What do you guys recommend? Are psychedelics a viable option for understanding why I'm shame-based and unable to relate with people?

Interestingly, your happiness is not directly related to the external world at all. It’s related to your inner level of consciousness. We see this in people who win the lottery and become multimillionaires overnight. Often, when people experience sudden fame and fortune and are unprepared for it, it destroys their happiness. The correlation between happiness and level of consciousness is almost 100 percent. At certain levels of consciousness, it doesn’t matter where you are, you’re going to be happy and gratified, no matter what’s going on. Your happiness is not dependent on external forces. You’ve stopped placing importance on the external, the fame, the glamor. For instance, a lot of young men want to grow up and become athletes, and they look at the most famous sports stars with envy. They project that feeling onto the athlete.

Drugs can't make you happy. Partying can't. Sex can't. Only awareness.

Hello. Look at the women around you. They easily talk to everyone. Lots of eye contact, smile, and laughter. There's nothing serios about them. If you pay attention, you notice that women are not inside their heads most of the time. They socialize to exchange feelings and put themselves in a good mood. As a man, you must have "the woman inside you," so to speak. You must have the capacity to be playful, fun, easygoing, smile, and speak without giving serious vibes. You must also have the ability to be a good listener --- because women speak way more than men. For a man to get a woman, he must be a woman without sacrificing his masculinity. There's no other way around.

Her femininity?

Hi. I found this video on YouTube. Dr. Walter Kaiser has an interesting take on promiscuity. If you are 100% impartial, what's wrong with his points of view?

Please, let me break it down to you: 1) Zizek is NOT saying one should leave one's house untidy, but simply that we can have it both ways: not just set our house in order, but ALSO try to change the world in the meantime. They should not be mutually exclusive things. Zizek's house is meticulously tidy (look at his VICE interview). The argument that Zizek is just trying to justify his mess at his house is not only nonsense but childish; 2) Zizek is just saying that real change does not begin with personal responsibility (like Gandhi thought with his famous "Be yourself the change you want to see in the world"), but by addressing the way society itself reproduces itself. Individual responsibility, for Zizek, is an ideological trick whose ultimate aim is precisely to AVOID radical change, a false bargain. His example of ecology goes in the same direction: the more we are told we are personally responsible for ecological catastrophes, the less mega changes in the way the system reproduces itself are made.

Wow! What a beautiful perspective! You can rarely find a person who is not promiscuous nowadays.

Stop eating refined carbs and sugar. Remove rice, bread, potatoes, and any form of sugar. Eat only meat, butter, and vegetables. I guarantee you will feel 10x better.

One is not really ruled by the mind at all. What the mind reveals is an endless stream of options, all disguised as memories, fantasies, fears, concepts, and so on. To get free of domination by the mind, it is only necessary to realize that its parade of subjects is merely an arbitrary cafeteria of selections wending their way across the screen of the mind.

Hello. Socially awkward people don't understand that socializing is a pre-verbal. All social people have the ability to enter a state of mind in which they feel comfortable around people. Socializing comes naturally to them --- they never think about what they are going to say next. They enjoy smiling without feeling like they must make an effort. Here's a list of what's wrong if you are socially anxious, self-conscious, and awkward: 1. You can't smile easily. If the other person smiles to you, the exact opposite happens in you --- you can try to smile, of course, but it is forced. 2. You are self-conscious. That awful state of self-consciousness must be turned off if you want to be comfortable around people. Otherwise, you can't socialize effectively. 3. Anxiety. Your heart beats faster, and unless you calm yourself down, talking to people won't be possible. 4. You are ashamed of yourself. Your authentic self can't be expressed because it is blocked by the toxic shame you are experiencing when you are around people. That sense of toxic shame must be deconstructed. The only way you can overcome those awful aspects of yourself is to bite the bullet and approach people. You can start with small steps. 1. Before you interact with people, do hundreds of eye contact from a distance. It may seem creepy but you have to do it until you get used to it. I did it a lot and then that fear of making eye contact went away. I did it with women mostly. 2. Just say "Hi!" to people as you cross each other, then continue to move. Try to smile as you say 'Hello!' Do it hundreds of times. 3. You continue with 'Hi!' but you add an 'How are you?' Don't expect a conversation first. You just want to transcend those awful feelings of anxiety and feeling self-conscious. First, you must lower down the anxiety and all those awful feelings you experience. Remember: small steps are enough. You are trying to lower down that anxiety --- that is the 1st thing that must be done. Then, do it for hours, daily. You get outside the house to practice for hours. Like 6 hours without pause --- daily. Otherwise, you won't beat this awful anxiety.