kamwalker

Nice to see someone finally who gets it

I voice my thoughts out loud when I’m alone. They don’t even seem like thoughts just whatever the fuck I feel and it comes out. This made me a much better speaker.

Do you still get hung up on your flaws? Have you stared into a mirror while in a vulnerable state and analyzed every aspect of your face and body? What helped you accept the way you look and how you think others perceive the way you look?

Think that lines up pretty well with me at this point in my life lol

OP has a point because it's actually a detriment to other people who are learning. Be honest about where you are really at. Otherwise people who read all these posts end up frustrated and confused as to why everyone else seems to be comprehending these topics so easily (when in actuality they don't). If there is any doubt in you about what you're about to post then please don't give off the impression that these are things you have fully realized. And if there's a sense you're only saying it because you want to sound like one of the people who "gets it" then you should ask yourself if that's the case before hitting that submit button.

I started doing it about two years ago, changed my life. Before doing it I used to think I was a pretty calm chill person. I was but only when things were going well. In stressful situations I realized I didn't hold my shit together as well as I thought. I had become super attached to one of my friends at work and she was leaving for another job. I didn't like anyone else at the job and I was also getting a promotion which meant all these people I didn't like would be coming to me with all their complaints. On her last day I went home and basically broke down knowing I was going to be all alone with this. I was in a really negative headspace. I had heard of Wim-Hof before so I gave it a try. I couldn't believe how fast it ripped me out of that headspace. Heart stopped racing and my thoughts became more positive almost immediately. After that I baked it into my daily routine. Every morning before work and sometimes before sleeping. I feel so much more centered and things that used to give me anxiety just float away.

I think the weird thing is for someone to think they already know everything and don't need to learn. So don't feel bad about not knowing. None of us really understand anything until we work at it. Lots of dudes think they already have it figured out and end up being creepy or only attract girls with low self-esteem.

Eh I'd say just suck it up and get through whatever state of mind you're in. If it's as temporary as you say it is then what's the big deal with waiting a bit more? You mentioned you don't think it's an addiction because of the number of women, but you've obviously created some sort of dependency on it. If your need for sex is that powerful maybe it makes sense to take a break and recalibrate a bit. Go back to it once you have a better understanding of its control on your state of being.

I met a girl who seduced me in an elevator and asked for my number. The next day she asked if I wanted to meet up for drinks. I have to admit I was suspicious and thought she was a hooker. But she just straight up told me she just enjoys sex and was looking for a guy equally comfortable in their sexuality. It was rather interesting and I was shocked with her confidence to try that.

No actually the arrogant part is simply choosing to believe one thought over another and creating a bias towards it which is what I see some people doing with God. It becomes so obvious by the descriptions people use in their posts. I'm not sure why you think people are not capable of doing such a thing.

If you can't cold approach and online dating is off the table then getting a job with people your age or enrolling in some classes is a good way. It's obvious enough but most people pick their mates based on convenience. Finding hobbies that have people of the gender you're interested in is another good one in theory although in practice I've haven't had luck with this one. I used the Meetup app but most of the people attending the events I was interested in were much older.

It is true that the words don't mean much. I think it's clear that some people mistake their thoughts for direct realization. I've seen many posts on this forum about people that develop anxiety and depression over their apparent God realization, but it seems obvious to me they are still caught up in thought and projecting a meaning on to God realization. Even worse some people develop yet another spiritual ego about it. If Love isn't at the forefront of your being then you need to reevaluate where you're at on this path.

It seems like you're painting the picture in your mind that a person who parties is doing something egotistical and the person who sits at home and meditates is not. So you're creating an ego by making an identity through meditation and contemplation. I disagree with any notion that spirituality involves withholding yourself from desires. What is really happening is that the deeper you go into spirituality the less you want to participate in those superficial acts in the first place. You still can but it just becomes secondary to other things. And when you do decide to drink and party you just enjoy it for what it is.

Accept your parents for everything they are. They are a result of social conditioning just like you are. They made not be able to express love towards you like you wish they would, but they perhaps might have a different way of showing it. My parents, especially my dad, are a bit emotionally disconnected. They never showed romantic behavior towards each other growing up and that affected me. They only knew how to show love by providing. I don't blame them for that.

I haven’t read the whole thread. How long has she been “acting” this way?

See title

How can there be infinite without war? Everything has to be for anything to be.

Yes. People get so wrapped up in turning the work into this super serious, no fun attitude and it makes no sense to me. It's almost a paradox. Spiritual work is serious, but if you take it too seriously you essentially defeat the point. If you're not feeling good about life on a routine basis then you need to re-evaluate what you're doing. Something isn't right. I bliss the fuck out every time I do MDMA. There is no anxious come up or come down, nothing but pure acceptance of existence in the moment. Love for everything that is. But this is unlikely to happen if you continue to hold on to beliefs about your sense of self. That's fine it's normal. That's what the substances do, help you to work through your personal shit. But once you've worked through all of that you should be able to bask in the bliss of the moment only.

First off great episode! Good insights about not rushing the process and trying to bypass certain material desires. I have felt this in my own spiritual quest and how I know it is holding me back. You mentioned in the video one of the things you're still craving is a more spiritually profound, intimate and romantic relationship. Not necessarily just casual sex with someone who you aren't really compatible with. I've been in this boat for a while now as well and feels like one of the limiting steps in my spiritual development. On one hand I understand the possibility that it sometimes just doesn't happen for some people. Some people spend a large portion of their life trying to obtain fame and money and don't reach it so the same sort of applies here. However I do feel if you focus enough of your energy on something you really want, eventually you'll get it. My question is what's your plan to fulfill this specific craving? Keep running day/night game? A dating app? Meet someone through a friend organically? I struggle with figuring how to allocate my time here

Psychedelics can help with many of the things on your list. I wouldn’t tell someone they need to have all of that figured out before they start tripping, you can still do both

Not really. I almost don’t hear it these days unless I want to. Very occasionally it becomes louder and then I assess what is going on.

What is your definition of progress or results from personal development? What answers are you hoping people will give you?

I don’t understand the premise. Self-improvement is exactly what it is. You find ways to make your experience of life more enjoyable for yourself. It’s not that complicated. It only doesn’t work if you don’t actually do it. if you watch videos of someone else telling you how to help yourself but you ignore everything then of course nothing will change

Yeah I agree. My reason for starting this thread was to kind of show that the term wage slave really only applies if you choose to see your work that way. Exchanging service for money is necessary in today's society. Not everyone can work for themselves.