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How do I reconcile this (it’s hard to accept): 1. That I can Be Happy Here and Now. Yes. I know I can stand at the corner of a street with the Sun hitting my face and BE HAPPY. And that The only thing keeping me unhappy is… …the stories in my mind. 2. Being happy surviving, chasing, doing But what about Contributing to mankind, building cool projects, building businesses and accumulating wealth? How do I balance being Happy NOW and still building cool businesses??? Is true happiness then Now? Or only WHEN you’ve build that business? And What separates me and the beggar on the street? the stories in my mind? The “idea” that you have more “value” than the beggar? could you sit like the beggar and be happy.Needing nothing else than right Now? This is not easy, how do I build a business and still be happy now?

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@Paradoxed @Hojo noooooo my mind can’t comprehend that I want to reach goals, I want to achieve, I want to contribute, I want a big career but My sister is a lawyer, she hates her job (In Boston Consulting Group) she always talks about how horrible the work environment is. My brother is a consultant, (in Deloitte) he constantly talks about how little he looks forward to Mondays and feels it is mostly a drag to work, only at times he likes it, but he feels like a cog in a machine. My dad is an investor—he invests in companies, and he is busy working, and he don’t admit it but he’s a workoholic. It’s tough to have a family of high achievers, yes we’re wealthy, but there are high expectations. I want to live through something that I’m truly passionate about though. I love health, I love the mind, I love writing, I love sharing and helping people improve their health and mind. I don’t wanna climb the corporate ladder like my family. I want freedom and sovereignty. The path I see is being an authentic creator sharing wisdom about health and the mind.

@Hojo but you can’t just be happy RIGHT NOW AND HERE? You can’t just do NOTHING and be happy? I mean you have to build on your life purpose, relationships, learning, understanding and accomplishing something. You have to reach goals and get far in life, whether you’re a teenager, adult or an elderly—you gotta accomplish something right? Yes I get FOMO because I need to make something out of my life! I can’t just sit around and meditate, That’s a waste of time, right?

I can get overwhelmed when I feel I have 1000s of things I ‘should’ do and focus on. And then I tend to distract myself & feel anxiety. I’m curious if you guys have sort of a “reset ritual” when you have overwhelm? Note: I’m a ‘high achiever’, I play tennis, do gymnastics, skiing, and my family is economists, lawyers & business people and they have expectations, and I have expectations for myself. My purpose though is elevating the health and consciousness of mankind. These are things I try to tell myself: “There’s no one to show, impress or get validation from.” “There is no amount of money you must make, gold medals you must win, places you must travel to, girls you must chase or success in career or life you must obtain.” “There’s no need to rush to anywhere.” “Everything’s ok”, “Life’s a game”, “There’s nowhere to go & nothing to accomplish”. “Life is perfect now, has always been & will always be.” Take 5 deep breaths. Take a step back. Get rid of noise & distraction. Notice signal. Write reflections, write your story of what happens this moment. Slowly recalibrate, and love existence now. What are you guys’ ways to deal with overwhelm, anxiety and distraction? Especially when you build on Life Purpose, Actualize and Grow.

Hopefully you’re joking.

@Leo Gura lol

@Someone here Yea I get what you say. Sometimes I have this want to completely get rid of all responsibilities and purely live life of purely magic and adventure. NO adultery confinement, NO rationality or logic, PURE fun, playing and exploring, for hours & hours. Exactly how I could get lost in nothing when I was young. When I could laugh in the nature, sun, ocean and grass fields and just play and be. The childlike awe without any adult beliefs or dogma layered over existence. No preconceived story, no old patterns or traumas layered over the world. Completely getting rid of ALL that indoctrination from kindergarten, school, parents, highschool or University, and purely seeing Life as mystical. Purely seeing humans, animals, birds, cars and trees like mystical beings. (Even though humans do have their egos, their worldviews, way of surviving, ideas, way of thinking and pragmatism). I don’t let their worldview inflict with Me seeing Them as Mystical beings—they’re God and they’re mystical, They are just not aware they’re Mystical Gods. At the same time I need to take responsibility, I need to survive, I must understand business, survival, politics, government, society, human behavior, science and psychology. I need to be serious and pragmatic. I need to have a clear understanding of the kind of society and world I live in, but STILL be able to live in that child like awe, bliss and wonder most of the time, where I don’t think—I just imagine, play and be. But parents, family and Unifriends are ‘threatened’ when I live too much in the former category—as a wonderous child who sees life as an unserious game.

How do you strike the balance between thinking vs not thinking. Just being present, getting rid of all conceptual frameworks vs conceptually understanding the world, learning, understanding & practicality surviving and going through life— How much time should you spend learning about life, culture, history, art, politics, different perspectives, human behavior, business or other life fields vs how much time should you completely get rid of ‘trying to understand’ the world and just be present. How do you know when to contemplate and think about deep topics, trying to understand the world, and when do you just turn your mind completely off and not think about ANYTHING, but purely feeling, sensations and being (the more Buddhistic way)?

Wow that was some very helpful answers. Makes a lot of sense. ‘Dumb it down’ tell them what they want to hear, without making it too complex. My family “feel” I’m growing, but they don’t know why. They don’t understand the work I’m putting in; understanding human behavior, bias, improving my emotional awareness, life purpose building and all the other deep topics we love and care about on this forum. It’s nice to have someone that “understands” you. thanks

When you go on this journey of personal growth, spirituality & life purpose building, there will be/is a lot of stuff that is difficult to explain to family & ‘friends’. Although they don’t understand everything, You can still love and be together with your family, they might not understand your interest in pursuing God, psychedelics or spirituality. Or building an authentic life purpose. You might not even mention it because it’s too radical. Should you just hold these deep topics to yourself and only share with people who resonate with deep topics LIKE the people in this community? And should you Not try to explain these topics to family members & open their mind, But INSTEAD keep it for yourself and let them FEEL that you’re growing? How do you reconcile personal growth and spiritual growth while having healthy relationship and communication with family? How do you communicate your want to grow?

Thanks all for the answers!

I was recently on some extravagant, exotic holidays with family & friends to Egypt, where I did snorkling and bathing in Red Sea, nice beach and great food as well as in Switzerland where I went skiing. What can the problem be with doing extravagant traveling? and building wealth so you can have those exotic experiences? Why do you travel? To ‘escape’ the ‘normal’ life? To escape the everyday? To not look into yourself? I feel when you travel you don’t necessarily look inwards, introspect & bask in simplicity. You’re chasing extreme/exotic experiences. Appreciate if you can elaborate your thoughts of traveling, luxury & exotic experiences.

@Shodburrito Be aware of the attitude and defending your position. Some of your points are fine and good, and so are Leo’s. His video and answers are nuanced, not black-and-white. For me his socialization episode was one of the most insightful & enlightening. It’s just hard to wrap your mind around if you cling to socializing, and if that’s all you do mostly.

@Leo Gura To shortcut my process—including yourself; who are the highest level meta, big picture, systems thinkers in the world, historically & present? People like you who’ve consumed and synthesized many big pictures? Do we have a thread where I can find such high level people? People reaching Infinite Intelligence-like levels. @Ishanga Very Interesting thank you!