Something Funny

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    @The Renaissance Man I've thought of a nice metaphor / experiement. I am not an expert on drugs, but there is probably one that will make even the most introverted and shy person very confident and outgoing. 

    If we take that person, give them the drug, and put them in a social situation where there are opportunities to find a girlfriend / get laid. Do you think their chances to get laid will increase, compared to them being sober?

    Yes or no?

     

  4. Posted · Edited by Something Funny

    @Emerald I said that you ignored Leo's response, because you didn't really address what he said and then just went back to saying the same thing in your very next comment to Princess.

    Can you answer this: why is it hypocritical to criticise porn while also watching porn?

    19 minutes ago, Emerald said:

    I do pay taxes to pay for the bombing of children, and I do contribute to climate change.

     

    Does that make you a hypocrite if you talk about those issue? If you say that war is low consciousness, then do you have a low level of consciousness for paying taxed that are spent on bombing children?

    19 minutes ago, Emerald said:

    It's just if someone makes a claim like "people who make porn is unconscious", it would be inconsistent to then believe that watching porn isn't also unconscious.

     

    It can be unconscious, it doesn't have to be. As Leo's case seems to show. So no, it's not inherently inconsistent. 

     

    19 minutes ago, Emerald said:

    That's why I was talking in more general terms and referred to the person as "the judger". There is a pattern with people who judge porn stars, while consuming porn. And this tends to come generally from sexual shame that gets projected onto the porn stars. I know this because I used to do this when I was in my late teens. But I see others still doing this now.

    My issue with this is that instead of focusing on the point a person presents and addressing it at face value, you are instead making it about that person (a person on an online forum you know nothing about), basically dismissing they argument entirely because of who they supposedly are.

    19 minutes ago, Emerald said:

    But when was it that I said "judging things is wrong and unspiritual"?

     

    That was referring to the comments Princess made, I see that talking to you both at the same time was a bad idea.

     

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    1 minute ago, The Renaissance Man said:

    But if you suck and social circle hasn't worked for you, because you suck with women, what do you do? You can

     

    Are you able to at least entertain the possibility that this is an issue, not your lack of pickup skills?

    You don't suck, you don't have to be bad with women, you don't have to be awkward.

    Plus, you don't even have to limit yourself to just your social circle.

    Randomly talking to a girl on a bus, while you are on your way to work isn't pickup.

    Meeting women at a pottery class, or at the gym, or at the gaming convention, isn't pickup.

  6. Posted

    @The Renaissance Man I had a friend in uni who was a super nerdy Turkish guy. Back then, I didn't even know what reddit is before he showed it to me. His favourite game was hearts of iron IV.

    He got a girlfriend just because he had a girl friend who he would hangout with and go drinking beer with. And eventually they started dating and have been in a relationship for like 5 years since.

    All he had to do was to be a normal person. Not act needy, desperate, not be into any weird red pill shit, etc.

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    10 minutes ago, The Renaissance Man said:

    @Something Funny Lol the point is that you can't get it without the skills. Don't underestimate the amount of people that can't get a girlfriend.

    You do realise that 99% of people who have a girlfriend, wife, family, are not into pickup, right? You do not need to have "skills" to get a girlfriend. This is actually a limiting belief. Have you seen most guys in a relationship? They are just your average guy who plays video games, has a 9 to 5 job, and some friends who he drinks with on Friday.

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    @mmKay I think most people do pickup for ego (or personal development in rare cases like Leo), not because of Libido. Having a relationship is probably the easiest way to get your sex needs met.

    10 minutes ago, mmKay said:

    At least satisfy whatever you're working with so you're not a horny desperate hyena and can focus on stuff you find meaningful

    If you do that by trying to get to 10000 approaches then you are spending a shit ton of time on it. Time that you could have used to focus on that other stuff. 

    I think pickup is really inefficient if you just want to satisfy your libido.

  11. Posted · Edited by Something Funny

    4 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

    Yes, you are stating the obvious. Nothing was said in this thread about getting results from those approaches. Only about doing 2000 approaches and that wasn't enough; 10,000 is needed for mastery. To me that sounds like years and years of approaching. Five years when you do the math of approaching 2000 in a yr which is still quite a lot. Nothing was mentioned about the techniques used in the how to get laid series either. You are just mentioning that. To me, it's like the emphasis is on approaching and not the results. Why say you need 2000 approaches when you can get results within the first 100. 

     

    I think the idea is that if you do that many approaches, techniques become redundant. Your brain just start to making intuitive connections on how to do it. 

    Kind of like learning hand-balancing. Sure, you can learn as much theory as you want, but to actually learn how to stand on one hand you just need to stand on your hands for 10000 hours to allow your brain to learn it.

    And of course you need to be really into it to do 10000 approaches. To you it sounds like a grind, and "why doo all that if you can get results in the first 100", but some guys probably just enjoy the act of approaching itself. So for them it's a non-issue.

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    @Leo Gura I really love the idea of becoming really good at something through practice, but isn't feeling like you need to get good because of "what am I going to do if my girlfriend leaves me?" a bad mindset?

    It sound kind of neurotic. I recognise it as such because I often have the same way of thinking in many other areas of life.

    Realistically speaking,  if you were able to find your current girlfriend, then you should be able to find another girlfriend in the same way afterwards. So there is no need to stress too much about it. Sure, finding a new girlfriend won't be as efficient and automated as if you were a professional pickup artist, but most people don't need it to be that efficient, I think.

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    2 hours ago, Emerald said:

    As long as you're being consistent and believe that both the production and consumption is varying degrees of unconscious. 

    It happens far too often that people will be hypocritical and hate on porn stars... while simultaneously being avid consumers of porn.

    2 hours ago, Emerald said:

    Yeah, that type of hypocrisy is very common. I think it tends to come from general shame-based attitudes towards sex.

    And then, there's some kind of cognitive dissonance that helps the judger cleanse themselves of their shame around the enjoyment of porn by projecting those shame-based feelings onto the porn stars, which turns into disgust and contempt.

    @Emerald @Princess Arabia why, after both nagging Leo with "aren't you watching porn as well" you just ignore his response and keep singing the same tune? I would like to hear your thoughts on it.

    Is it hypocritical to call out something if you participate in it? Like Leo said, production of your phone is unethical, yet you still use it. Does that mean that you now have no right to raise this issue because it would be hypocritical?

    How is that different from watching porn while also raising issues that it has?

    If we are not allowed to do that, then how are we supposed to improve as a society? Because this applies to basically everything: "Oh, you don't like climate change? Aren't you causing it as well by driving a car to work, hypocrite?" Where does this attitude lead us? Literal crabs in the bucket situation.

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    Also, I love how both of you say that judging things is wrong and unspiritual, while you in turn judge people on this forum for raising this issue. And instead of acknowledging that they might be to a degree, just weaponise psychology and therapy talk to dismiss them:
     

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    I think it tends to come from general shame-based attitudes towards sex.

    And then, there's some kind of cognitive dissonance that helps the judger cleanse themselves of their shame around the enjoyment of porn by projecting those shame-based feelings onto the porn stars, which turns into disgust and contempt.

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    No, it's a way of expressing the anger inside. 

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    I don't think decenticization of porn leads to more hard core stuff. If anything, it reduces the need for porn entirely and probably lowers one's sex drive but not necessarily. Just my opinion  

    "There is nothing wrong with porn, there is something wrong with you if you have an issue with it" is basically what you are saying.

    @Emerald if you really cared about helping people get over their shame based feelings around porn, wouldn't the first step be trying to emphasise with them and acknowledging that some things that they are saying are valid? As opposed to, you know, entirely dismissing what they are saying and just shaming them more?

  18. Posted

    Hi @Leo Gura,

    I am trying to update my email address for the courses account, but it doesn't work.

    The page only allows you to change email and password at the same time, not separately. Otherwise, it gives you an error saying that passwords don't match.

    And when I try to change them both at the same time, only password changes, and email stays the same. There is a message saying: "Verification email sent. You must now confirm your new email." But nothing arrives at my new mailbox. Instead, I get an email at my old mailbox saying that my password was changed.

    Do you know if something can be done about this?

  23. Posted

    My speaking skills are bad. And big part of it is because I am simply afraid to talk and express myself.

    I haven't tried it yet, but I think AI can be really good and helping me to fix this simply because it will allow me to talk as much as I want without the fear of being judged or saying something stupid.

    An alternative way would be to start socializing a lot, going to toast masters and do other stuff like this. Which is great, but it's a much bigger commitment and I don't have time an energy for it right now.

    So I think an opportunity to practice your speaking skills without "getting out of bed" is really nice.