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Is it something you were born with or is it a bad posture thing.

@LastThursdayyeah, that's what I meant. Your fully actualized version. I just meant, creating that version according to your own vision vs what women want.

@LastThursday wouldn't you also want people to like you for who you genuinely are? Instead of trying to be someone they like

But the whole point is to be yourself and be whatever this vision of your best self is. Otherwise you are just trying to get other people to like you. And that's not something a high value person, before who everyone drops to their knees, is concerned with.

@Hojo like a law of attraction thingy?

I am starting to wonder, why am I even bothering with chasing girls. Thinking about how to approach them, initiate conversations, ask for their number, worry if they like me or not. It should really be the opposite. Girls should be the ones wanting to be with me, chasing me, and seeking my approval. The way I see it, approaching someone by defaults puts them in a position of being higher value than you. So naturally, you should seek to be in this higher status position. I am not there yet, and I think all the "pickup" stuff is nice at the beginning as a self-improvement tool, but eventually I think I will transition to simply working on myself, building my social status and charisma, developing a good social circle, and having women try to date me.

Lol, and if Dana White gave Trump a peace prize you would also say "America gives Trump a peace prize"?

Dude, I knew it was you!

Yes, there is an aspect to lacking confidence that comes from actually feeling anxious and nervous in the moment. From, trauma, social anxiety, lack of experience, or whatever. But I have noticed that a big part of it is you having this identity and self image of: I am shy, I am not confident, I am ugly so I can't afford to act confidently and need to be a people pleaser, I am a loser, etc. And then you restrict your behaviour in such a way to fit this identity because acting out of identity feels scary and threatening. Like: "How dare you be confident! You are so ugly, what are people going to think about you!?". You basically feel like you are not allowed to behave in a confident way, that you don't deserve it. *** I am super glad that I became aware of this because I am starting to notice it now in my behaviour all the time. I literally notice how I could just as easily act like a boss in some situation, that it would cost me nothing to do so, but how I don't out of a habit of old identity. And once you become aware of it, it actually doesn't take much time to change your identity and also to start correcting your behaviour in the moment: "Ah, my voice is high pitched and weak right now not because this is how it actually is or because I am physically unable to speak deeper due to anxiety that I am actually feeling. I am just afraid to look confident in front of these people, because of what they will think about me then. This is bullshit, I can actually start speaking with a deeper voice right now" You are literally afraid to change you identity to a more confident one because you feel safe in your shy identity. I think this is ultimately coming from being afraid to disturb the social hierarchy. Which was a valid fear in the past since it could get you killed. Nowadays, there is really not much survival benefit to doing that, you are basically just screwing yourself over for no reason, out of some primal fear.

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@Leo Guraand positive emotions are not selfishness because they occur naturally (or at least can sometimes), not because the ego is upset at something?

@Natasha Tori Marusome people here are nuts, lol.

@Someone herethere are lots of different goddesses out there, actually.

He is gay. And he is everything. So obviously, everything is gay

Let me know how it goes. I also have no pics of myself, lol