@Medhansh
Don't think beforehand or at all. Just say or do whatever you want. Don't even worry about getting bitches because they will come

It's like playing with a dog or child. You don't try to be all smart or sophisticated about it.
Playing with her is what gets you laid. Being serious is what gets you friendzoned.
They don't call guys "players" for nothing
Game just boils down to playful leading.

It's all subjective and relative. Usually if the girl isn't attracted to you she will claim it is creepy, and when she is attracted she loves it and doesn't care. The way girls use that word it means very little unless you are literally behaving like a stalker.
The bottom line is not to care about it. But be calibrated and smooth. Know when to back off.
This comes with experience. You read her face, her eyes, and her level of compliance to your leading and escalation.
When you approach a girl you can usually tell within a few seconds if she's receptive or not. But this requires experience.
If you're touching her body and she's smiling and not pushing you away, that means she's receptive and you can escalate further. When you over-escalate the girl will give you a weird face and physically recoil from you. In which case you know you went to far, so back off.
If you put your hands on her hips and she's happy and doesn't recoil, you know she's receptive. If she cries about it later that's not your problem. A non-receptive girl will never allow you to keep your hands on her hips.
Her face tells you everything you need to know.

Even the best guys will get blown out a lot. Sometimes it can be useful to plow a set a bit. It's not a big deal.
It's common to interrupt 2 girls in a serious conversation who just aren't open to flirting. Usually the best move is to quickly move on. It's a waste of time trying to plow them. Perhaps Todd was trying to show in the video how to plow and flip around a difficult set. This can be useful for a newbie to see because newbies tend to have the problem of self-ejecting too easily.
The bottom line is that you will have some cringey sets. Don't make a big deal of it. Focus on talking to more girls and don't waste time on girls who aren't receptive.

You can do whatever you want, but the wise course of action is a firm no.
Learn to set a boundary and enforce it. Do not bend over backwards for girls. They will not respect such a man. She needs to know from the very beginning that you are the kind of guy who does not put up with her shit like all the other guys. You are clear and decisive. You know what you want and you are clear about how you expect others to act around you, or they are cut from your life. This attitude is what then makes people respect you and treat you well.

Lol, welcome to learning game.
You will start attracting hot girls when you stop caring about them. The hotter she is the less you gotta care.
Talk to thousands of hot girls, sleep with plenty of them, and then you will stop caring and they will love you.

You set a rule that if she cheats on you, there are no second chances, she loses you forever.
And then you stop caring. You let her free to do whatever she wants, see whoever she wants, doesn't matter to you cause you know your value and you can replace her with another girl and she knows that too.
This is the proper frame for keeping hot girls.

If it is as you describe it, it's nonsense and you did nothing wrong.
Own it and don't worry about it. Don't feel ashamed for physically escalating on a receptive girl.
Girls don't like taking responsibility for sex, so they will offload it onto guys as much as possible, sometimes to the point of absurdity. The solution is to just own that you got a dick and if a girl is around you she should expect to get nailed. If she doesn't like it she is free to leave. Your sexual intent should be obvious and if she doesn't like it she's free to blow you out.
So just own your sexuality and masculinity and don't let girls play dumb with you too much. Hold your frame.
If anything, work on sharpening your sexual intent even more and physically escalate more but with keen calibration to her receptivity. Get good at feeling when a girl is receptive to touch or not. If she is, escalate heavy and own it. If she is resistant, smoothly back off and try again a bit later. If she keeps being resistant, leave her for another girl, don't play her games.
You did good in that you did what you wanted and didn't try to be meek or shy. Don't let this silly incident spook you.

You assume it's some act. But being icy isn't an act, you actually become icy. It's a shift in your being. You don't use it as some power game to keep her attracted. It's sorta the opposite of that: you don't even care about working to keep her attracted. And this makes you attractive.
I'm sorta tired of trying to explain game to you guys. You will never get it unless you go out and do it. These conversations are pointless mental masurbation that just rile people up who have no experience with it.
And explaining game to women is pointless. They will not get it. I am done explaining game to women. Waste of my time.

Even after sex don't be too nice or caring. Make her earn it.
In practice there is.
In practice it matters and it is different because the hottest girls are extremely competitive. So your game needs to be really on-point. The attraction triggers are all the same, but a hot girl is gonna screen you harder because she knows her worth and she will use it against you. She's also very experienced. She has enormous leverage over guys because she is in such high demand. Everyone wants to have sex with her. She gets hit on 30 times a night. Her Tinder is spammed with 100 messages. Her Instagram is spammed with 20 guys trying to get in her pants. She has extreme sexual abundance and you basically gotta match that. For a girl like that you gotta be indifferent to her hotness and have no neediness for sex. Which is really only possible if you get laid a lot with even hotter girls than her.
Generally speaking, the hotter she is the more ruthless you gotta be. Her high femininity will be attracted to high masculinity. And high masculinity is icy and ruthless.
There is a difference between low feminine girls and high feminine girls. The high feminine ones will require better game.
This is highly subjective. Depends on your standards. I have high standards. Most guys have low standards. If your standards are low then your game can be much more sloppy.
It also matters how attractive you are. How much are you batting out of your league? If you are more attractive than her then you can afford much sloppier game.

If we put thought into the woman's side of things, she would find it needy and never sleep with us.
As I get better with girls I put less and less thought into them. That's what game teaches you. Women punish guys for putting thought into them. It comes off as needy and unattractive. But then once the relationship starts the woman wants the guy to put all this thought into her. But it's too late because the guy who would naturally do that (the nice guy) she never would have slept with in the first place. Hence you end up dating guys who don't care about you.
From a guy's POV, the biggest thing you can do to increase your results with women is to stop thinking about them until after sex. And if you can manage to do that, you will probably not think about them much after sex either.
This is the reality of female attraction. The less you care the more women you get, the hotter women you get. And if you want the absolute hottest women, you have to not care at all about them. It's extremely counter-intuitive. I had to rewire my whole mind for this via brutal trial and error. And what really fucks with a guy's mind is that women will gaslight about this, insisting that, "No! Just be nice and caring. We promise to sleep with you." And they never do.

Socialize a lot more and build out your social circle to the point where you can't even handle any more friends.
This is a scarcity vs abundance problem. Build the abundance you want rather than retreating into a solitary corner.
As you do that you will stop caring about people who don't resonate with you. There are so many people in the world to socialize with that you don't need even 10% of them to love you.
Bottom line: stop brooding about this, move to a city with good socialization options, and go socialize a lot until you get this problem handled.

You need to find a replacement career for the gambling.
And as far as friends and dating goes, start going out and approach girls. You will also make guy friends in the process. This will kill two birds with one stone.
Girls will sleep with you regardless of you career.
Nothing can be achieved in life without discipline.

Isn't that obvious?
What guy actually likes those toothpick tomboy fashion models? They are good for some avant-garde pretentious art shows, but they are not what the average guy wants to nail.
If you want to know what average guys find hot and high-value, go to a porn site with user voting and search for 5-star rated videos. There you go. Not much mystery to it.
What guys like is very obvious. The problem is that women really dislike knowing what guys like because most of them ain't it
And hey, I get that. If I was a woman I wouldn't like it either. I would think its "gross" and shallow.
Women just want to be loved regardless of their looks. Unfortunately that's not how most men work.

Of course you can and should still do that.
Containment is offered by being a strong man.
And nothing I say is anti- healthy relationships. One leads into the other. Once she falls in love with you, THEN you can offer her all the perks of a highly conscious and empathetic man. But not before.
Be like chocolate candy: hard exterior, a soft interior. She gets to taste the soft interior if she's willing to open her legs for you. In the end, this is what she really wants as well, so it will be a win-win. But just don't go discussing this strategy with her because she will never explicitly agree to it for game reasons. It must be implicit. Which is why you should not seek dating advice from women.

Lol. What are you smoking?
Women worry all the time about the guy leaving her for a hotter, younger girl.
As a man you gotta suck ass for a woman to leave you once she's in love with you. It's effortless to keep women. It's much harder to keep men. A woman's reproductive value is dropping every year. A man's value increases every year if he's doing personal development work.
In this respect, relationships are much either for men than women. The hardest part for the man is the attraction phase -- which is why men focus on it almost exclusively.
Indeed

@ginger28 Nothing will get a girl to dump you faster than lack of leadership, indecisiveness, and insecurity, which forces her to be the leader.
Tisk, tisk.
You gotta get your shit together and take charge of the situation. You lead she follows.

True predators usually don't have game. True predators tend to be creepy. This article is conflating predators with players. Players are smooth, charming, and women love them.
The problem here is that the sister would not be attracted to a good honest guy, she would be attracted to players. And when the good honest guy tried to do a smooth approach, you would call him a creepy needy predator. Learning to do a smooth approach requires lots of practice, unless one is already a player.
What you ladies want is a guy who's as attractive as a player, but that has the heart of a carebear. Well, good luck with that.

You need to distinguish between assertiveness and being rude.
Being rude is not what attracts women. Being assertive is. You can be assertive without being rude. Although assertiveness often comes with collateral damage to others and the woman will get damaged by it too.
By definition, highly assertive people will step on everyone, including you. So don't act surprised when he steps on your heart a bit.

To be alpha is not to desperately triangulate how to be alpha. It's simply to not give a fuck and do what you want to do without even thinking that you are alpha.
If you are worried about whether you are alpha enough, you're actually beta.
There's a difference between acting secure and actually being secure.
The point of doing lots of approaches is not to hone your act, but to make you experienced enough to not give a fuck. Those approaches help you discover your authentic masculinity -- if you do it right. Or you can just turn into a used dick salesmen.

Counter-intuitively yes. Lot of pickup actually teaches you how to be more expressive like a girl. To flow more with your feelings. Most guys are so stuck in their heads they are disconnected from their feelings. Feelings are not just feminine, they are also masculine.
You will attract way more girls by being emotionally expressive than you will by being stoic.
It's similar to how you talk to children or dogs. You adopt an over-emotionalized, playful attitude. You don't treat the interaction seriously. Likewise when attracting women. Treat women like children when trying to flirt with them.
Watch videos of men flirting with women.

Match is part of the process.
Of course not every woman will be a match with every man. That's all sorted out in the field.
It's not like if a guy has game he can attract/sleep with 100% of women. About 33% of women will love him, 33% of women will hate him, and 33% of women will be indifferent.
There's always an element of luck and personalities need to match up. That's why he chats with 10 women, 3 get attracted, 1 comes home.
A highly attractive man is actually more polarizing. Some women will absolutely hate him. But those who like him will LOVE him.
You also have to keep in mind that not all guys with game are the same. Each guys attracts a specific subset of female personality types. Because game is expressed differently through different personality types. Game is not a specific type of guy, it's general principles of attractiveness which are incarnated uniquely by each guy, attracting different kinds of women. For example, humor is going to vary from guy to guy. Guys can have very different senses and styles of humor. But learning the general principles of humor will help every guy, no matter what his style of humor is. And all girls love some style of humor. Humor can be dry, witty, intellectual, sexual, subdued, bold, sarcastic, self-deprecating, dark, physical, nerdy, etc.

You are unwittingly condemning men to stay losers.
Become a charming man is not something that happens naturally for most guys due to poor social conditioning. Becoming a man takes work! Being shy, unsociable, self-conscious, meek, fearful, angry, bitter, lonely, needy, inarticulate, poor at physical touch, bad sense of humor, etc -- these are not natural. This is the result of bad upbringing and lack of training.
It doesn't matter what source the man got his charm from. If he's charming, he's charming. That's real and girls respond accordingly because they don't care about the backstory of how he became charming.

RSD was one of the best back in the 2012ish era when I was big into it. Not sure about what they teach today since I haven't watched in a long while.
Was it highly conscious? No. But it worked for getting good with the ladies.
But there are many, many dating and attraction courses and teachers out there. I've studied dozens of different ones. Hard to remember them all. David DeAneglo is a classic. I studied Adam Lyons, David Wygant, Mystery Method (although it's super outdated), and a bunch more that I can't recall now.
The basic theory is very simple: you go to a crowded place where there are many hot women, you see one, you muster the courage to approach her, and you start talking your mouth off. Smile, be playful, strong eye contact, have sexual intent, get good a touching her early without being creepy. Repeat 10,000 times. The rest is fine details. Roll with experienced wingmen who can show you the ropes in-person.

Coaches who say that night game isn't good or effective have no idea what they're talking about. Night game is the most efficient way to get laid if you got a city with a good nightlife. It's also the most effective way to learn quickly.