It's very simple. Just tighten your taint muscles like you're trying to hold your urine in. Tighten your butt hole too. Tighten that whole area and hold it tight. It will feel stressful.

@onacloudynight Then you can emphasize meditation more. But 3-4 rounds is really nothing. I recommend you do 12-24 rounds at least. The point of yoga is to move that prana up your spine. Open those chakras. Then you can meditate.
Otherwise, you're not really doing yoga, you're meditating. In which case just meditate and forget about yoga.
Yoga is not for everyone. For some people, meditation will be a better path. Find what works for you.

@REALNEGA As the book says, only after a few years of practice.
Don't worry about them. You don't need them. The basic Kriyas should be enough if you just do them seriously.

@abundance Stop wasting time and just get to Pranayama already.
And stop skipping days.
Don't make a simple thing complicated.

@str4 Yes, his method strains the eyes. This is not a problem per se. Sadhguru, for example, teaches you to focus your eyes upwards about 6 inches in front of your 3rd eye. The strain goes away with practice. It's not painful, it's just some mild tension. Do it gently.
Or you can focus on other spots in the head, like the crown, which is what I do these days. I like the crown cause that's the most important chakra we want to open.

@Phrae Yes, you can basically do up to the First Kriya right off the bat. Pranayama is really the heart of the practice. Everything else is secondary.
Focus on learning the spinal breathing. Really master it. That is the key to it all.

Time is limited. And following too many various techniques becomes confusing.

@Salvijus I've done his initiation.
Then I replaced most of his techniques with Pranayama.
Different strokes for different folks I guess.
Yes, the question is not whether his yoga is good, but whether Kriya is better. I cannot say definitively, but I had to make a choice. I like Kriya more. But I have not done Sadhguru's advanced trainings, so I cannot speak to that. Maybe he has some killer advanced techniques? I dunno.
Also, I interviewed one of his advanced students and when I asked him about enlightenment, he said, "I don't know what enlightenment is", which was a big red flag for me. I highly doubt most of his advanced students are enlightened. But I could be wrong.
There is a big difference between doing yoga and being enlightened.

The books we're talking about.
I think they can be life-changing, although personally, to me, I found his yoga not as potent as the Kriya we're discussing here. It probably gets more potent as you go to his advanced programs, but his introductory program didn't seem potent enough for my liking. It would make sense to me that he, being very responsible, would save the most potent techniques only for his most advanced students. And I don't like jumping through all those hoops to get the most potent techniques. I want something I can learn at home on my own. Hence I prefer Kriya. But this not to say you shouldn't do his programs or that his teachings are bad. He's knows what he's doing. He has to be very careful about taking his yoga to millions of people. At those scales, a lot of things can go wrong, so you have to teach very responsibly and focus on safety.
Generally speaking, the more mainstream a teaching gets, the more watered down it gets.

I do a mix of Pranayama 2 + the Pranayama described in Gamana's book.
You can play around with different versions, the essence is the same. I like to visualize energy flowing up the spine to the very top of the head through all the charkas. I think the more precise your visualization gets, the better.
Gamana says not to visualize the energy flowing up each chakra, but I feel it's more powerful to visualize it. I find that doing a detailed visualization also helps stabilize and focus the monkey mind.
Experiment around and see what works best for you.

Yes, it's a bit paradoxical.
I like to experiment and tinker with stuff and do things my way. I accept the risks.
For newbies I suggest you pick a book/school and stick with it.
I don't think the differences between the two books is as great as it might seem. It's variations on the same basic thing. There are dozens of schools of yoga because in practice, people end up making tweaks and variations to suit themselves.
Because most yoga is taught dogmatically, many schools sorta lie to their students that "You must do it perfectly the way I teach it, or it will not work". But this seems obviously false since there are many different masters from many different schools. So there's clearly some degree of leeway. The question is, when have you taken it too far? And that cannot be easily answered. You will only know by trail and error.

For those of you into Kriya, I would highly recommend that in addition to reading the original Kriya book I suggested, you also read the books of Santata Gamana. I now prefer his more simplified techniques. It's a much more streamlined version of Kriya which I think will be even more effective. I found too much needless complexity and variety in the other way.
Right now my technique stack is very simple:
Mahamudra x3 Kriya Pranayama x24 Kriya Supreme Fire x3 One-pointed Concentration for 5 mins Eventually, with lots of practice, you should aim for something like the following stack:
Mahamudra x3 Kriya Pranayama x36-x72 Kriya Supreme Fire for 10-20 mins One-pointed Concentration for 10-20 mins (Bonus: Yoni Mudra x3) (Bonus: Kechari mudra) EDIT: ideally, do this stack twice per day. But if you don't have that much time, at least once per day.
Don't attempt to do this second stack right off the bat. It will not be sustainable. You need to gradually build up to it, like with heavy weightlifting.
I think the original book I recommended is still very good as an introduction and foundation because Gamana's books are so short and thin that they do not provide enough information about Kriya to a total newbie. They are aimed at people who have already been initiated in one school or another.
If you are strictly following the original book, that is okay. You can keep doing that if you want. Or you could switch to this more streamlined version like I decided to do. I don't like learning too many complicated techniques. But that's just me. Both ways should work in the end. It's mostly a matter of style. Although I actually think the streamlined version will end up to be more effective because it concentrates your limited time on the most powerful techniques, and less time is wasted on learning new complex techniques.

Don't follow it dogmatically. Make it your own. Develop an intuitive understanding of what the technique is meant to do and follow that, rather than the mechanics of the technique itself.
Make it natural and intuitive to you. Later on you can refine things. You will have lots of time for refinement. You can experiment and see what feels most natural and most potent. Do your method in whatever way feels most potent for you.

Yes, it seems that way because detachment from outcome is very counter-intuitive and paradoxical.
It is a larger point than just dating or girls. In life the best results come when you have a very clear and strong intent to achieve something, but at the same time you're detached from outcome. Yet even though you are detached from outcome you will work like hell to make it happen. And if you should fail, you immediately let it go and move to the next thing.
This isn't just the secret to getting girls. It's the secret to running a business and many other pursuits. So you would be well to learn this lesson.
Guys shouldn't chase after girls. But once you got a girl in your bed, you should move mountains to close her. She didn't get in that bed to play patty-cakes. If it takes 5 hrs of foreplay to get her to open her legs, that's what it takes. If you want her, you do what is necessary to get her. This is not neediness. This is getting shit done.
I gamed from 12am to 10am to get that girl. 10hrs! That's how you get shit done. Apply this attitude everywhere in life and you will see great results.

You're doing great. Don't logic with her about sex. Just seduce her and get her horny. She will clearly have sex with you, you just need to seriously seduce her into it with proper physical escalation and old fashioned romance.
Took me 2hrs once to get a girl to let me fuck her once I got her into my bed. 2hrs of patiently escalating and slowly seducing her despite her token resistance and coyishness. I had to pull her pants off inch by inch. Every inch took work. 2 fucking hours in my bed till sex. The sun was already up! Finally she said: Go get a condom. This was the hottest girl I ever fucked. She played so many games with me.
Girls will play silly games with you. Ignore all that and be persistent. Do not let her games throw you off your course.
And if she's on her period, fuck her anyways. Use condoms well.
Don't wait around. Lead and make it happen!

Spend 30 days going to nightclubs and opening every girl physical and do rapid physical escalation. Get lots of blowouts. This is just for practice.
I have spent months practicing physical openers in loud ass clubs. You literally gently grab girls and pull them into you until you develop a magic touch. It takes a lot of practice to be able to do it without creeping girls out. You learn to get smooth so the girl doesn't bristle. You have to do it with rock solid confidence. If you hesitate it comes off creepy. That confidence comes with massive experience. Practice, practice, practice.

No one ever said incels are bad people. Some of them simply create a toxic online ideology which has nothing to do with reality or truth.
Even dwarves can get laid if they go out and socialize.
Most incels can get laid, they simply have too toxic of a mindset to do the work necessary.
It's true that women will not sleep with you out of pitty. They are selective for strong men. Which you can become through hard work if you drop your toxic incel ideology.

@Podie45 I would keep researching the issue and troubleshooting it if I were you. There should be a way to fix it. Try to find people who had it and lost it, and ask them what things they tried.
Maybe changing your diet, maybe some detox protocols, maybe some psychedelics.... keep trying stuff with the hope that something will help.
Some medical conditions can be very hard to figure out, but they can be figured out.

Lol
Girls bilk clueless guys for $25 drinks in this town every day. And more. Arrest them all.
Give her a little taste of her own medicine if she starts acting up. She might actually start to respect you.
A hot girl texted me to buy her jewelry after I got her number. I laughed in her face and told her to take a hike. A week later she texted me back asking for a date. I was probably one of the few guys who called her out on her shit so directly. Which is exactly what a hot girl wants from a man she would date as opposed to just use. Hot girls know how to use guys. They know most guys are suckers. Those are the ones they use and never fuck. The ones they fuck are the ones who don't put up with their BS.
Set the frame: I'm the boss here. Hot girls are attracted to strength. So set a strong frame. Hot girls will test your frame to see if you are man enough to hold it or if you will fold and supplicate to her just because she is hot.
The hotter she is the more strict you gotta be with your frame. Like a rock. If she doesn't respect you she will not get wet for you.
So be unfuckwithable. Be a man.

Don't overdo Kriya. That can be dangerous and counter-productive. 2hrs is plenty.
3hrs per day would be for someone who's already done it for years and is very advanced.

The bare minimum for my routine was about 60 mins. And then twice a day.
It's a serious commitment.

No, that's not how Kriya yoga is done. Do it properly or don't do it.
Kriya yoga is a serious, rigorous practice, not something you lazily toy with.

@Holygrail If you are serious you should be doing it twice a day.
Again, if you're going to do something, do it seriously or just don't do it. This half-assing of things produces horrible results.
Decide what you want. Be clear. And then do it full-bore.

They can be the easiest. Often it's just a front. Don't listen to any of those "conservative girl" stories. Treat her like a normal girl.
"I'm not that kind of girl" is the biggest BS. Every girl thinks she's "not that kind of girl".
Just ignore it and proceed to escalate. You don't listen to her words, you observe to her physical compliance or lack thereof. You escalate and feel how she reacts. Keep escalating until she rejects you or gets into it.
If she truly friendzoned you she will quickly rebuff your escalation. At which point you dump her for wasting your time. I would just stand up and walk out leaving her alone if she pulled some shit like that on me. I've walked out on 10s in the middle of a dinner date, leaving her with the bill.
I doubt she friendzoned you. She's probably just being ditzy and playing coy. Don't doubt yourself with her.

Ok guys so i will give you a short report and a situation i have which i find really confusing.
So i met this girl from a friend, we all went to do an activity together. We vibed a bit and talked and stuff but nothing crazy. We also touched hands a bit because of the nature of the activity but again, all relatively innocent stuff. Afterwards, i added her on instagram and we texted a bit back and forth, mostly replying to each other stories. After exams ended (we are university students), i told her to meet up and she happily agreed. We met up (just me and her) and we went on this bar in the center and sat on these chairs where u can touch the person but it is not really a couch. We spent there like 3 hours, talking about different things, making jokes, having fun etc. I paid the first round of drinks (a  0.33 litter beer (around 5% alcohol)) and she paid for the second round. Towards the last hour or so i started touching her hand and stuff and we got comfortable with touching each other hands. I would say i hit state during the last  45 minutes or so, i sexualized a bit and at one moment we were both holding hands and she did not remove it. At that moment i kissed her, a small make out. After that, she leaned on and she kissed me.  She told me my lips were a bit rough because it is quite cold these days and said "next time you go out with a girl apply some product to make your lips softer". Afterwards we left, she said "that was fun" when we were leaving. Then i walked her to the train station (she lives in a nearby city) and went home. Considering this girl was quite pretty and cool i am very happy with myself that i had the balls to make the first move because usually i chickened out and this costed me like 4 girls so far.
Now things get weird and bad.
I reply to her story like 3 days after we meet and we text a bit, then i suggest to meet later on the week (sunday and this texting is on tuesday). She says she is busy that weekend but suggests to meet me next wendsday (so 1 week exactly from the moment this texting is happening). I agree and we pick a time and place. I do not really text her after because i was busy with my stuff and partially because i did not want to mess up anything with bad texts (i am not that good in texting atm).
So today (wendsday) i go the place we arranged to meet but she is nowhere to be found. I text her "where are you" and 20 minutes later she tells me that she forgot and was sorry and shit.  I got super pissed but refraimed myself for saying anything nasty, i just told her not to do it again and lets find a time again to meet and stick to it. 
She suggests friday after class and says she is also meeting some other friends. I get bit confused and tell her if we can meet on the weekend because on friday i am busy. She tells me okay but i am not sure yet and then says something weird to me. She asks me "if this is a friendly meeting because things got a bit weird towards the end of our previous meeting". I am like WTF to myslef, you legit kissed me, said it was fun and we even made jokes after when i walked you to your destination and now "it was weird"?????????
I text her like "Is it really friendly tho" and "What was weird about last time"
She says something like "yes very friendly" and "haha nevermind, beer in empty stomach i guess".
I am really really confused with this shit. 
Most of my friends are not thatttt experienced with girls so i feel like asking here for advice because i really want some good advice.
We talked for like 4 hours almost before i kissed her and it was mutual, she accepted it and even kissed me back. We did not even drink much, she never said she was tipsy or drunk and seemed perfectly mine to me. I am really confused.
Any advice would help. Sorry for the super long thread but i wanted to give you guys a clear assesment of the situation.