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Night Game - What are good openers?
Night Game - What are good openers?I have a long time ago ocassionally, but not recently.
Mondafinil doesn't really solve chronic fatigue. It's a temporary boost.
To game well I have to be well-rested. I can't game when I am too tired or sleepy. My state is just too off.
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Night Game - What are good openers?
Night Game - What are good openers?1) Approaching and getting blown out
2) Shit talking with wings
3) Dancing & listening to good music
4) DMT
5) Going out consistently, building up momentum
6) Getting present and enjoying the environment, getting very calm in my body
7) Not thinking. Stop planning your approaches, stop thinking about "What am I going to say?"
8) Using funny, obnoxious, and absurd lines like: "Hi, I'm a douche bag. You should meet me." And in general just inventing new funny things to say to girls.
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Night Game - What are good openers?
Night Game - What are good openers?Avoid explicit sexual vulgarity.
Explicit sexual jokes turn off most women unless they are already very attracted to you.
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Night Game - What are good openers?
Night Game - What are good openers?The answer to that question is the heart of game. The answer cannot be told to you, you must learn it by doing it.
There isn't any algorithmic way to follow up. You must be so in the zone that you say whatever comes to your mind and amuses you, and whatever matches your sexual intent towards the girl you are speaking to. In other words, your follow-up cannot be some canned lines, it must be genuine and improvisational.
Usually the best follow-up is not interview style questions but just fun shit-talking.
Here's an example:
A girl is walking out of the restroom at the club. I tap her on the shoulder, smile, and say, "I love you." She gives me a face like she is turned off. I calibrate to that and say, "Hey, come here a second. Did you just take a giant shit in there? That turns me on. You should go back in there and take a video of yourself taking a giant shit and send it to me." I say this in way where it's obvious I'm teasing her. Her face changes, now she's interested in talking to me. So I pull her in physically and talk with her about other random stupid shit. This is not a routine I run. This is a spontaneous response generated on-the-fly to a particular situation.
Basically, your conversations have to be fun and random. Nothing serious. Nothing logical. Mostly it's flirting and shit-talk.
Your follow up has to be congruent with how you feel in the moment and your intent towards her. For example, if I see a girl I really like, I might just walk up to her, take her by the hand, and say, "OMG, you are fucking adorable. Come here..." and give her a genuine hug. Then stare in her eyes and hold her by the waist. This is not done as some "routine" or planned line. It's a fully authentic expression of my attraction towards her, specifically her, in that moment. It's calibrated to her and to my own internal state. I am also reading her face and body to gauge how open she is to me. If she recoils, I will back off. If she is open then I will escalate further. The verbals comes spontaneously, not pre-meditated.
Your follow ups have to be improvisational. This is the hardest and most important part of game to learn. You learn it by lots of trail and error.
A good way to practice this is to open with a very simple opener and then force yourself not to ask her any questions and instead make statements about her. Talk to her without needing her to give you material. Also, you need to come from a fun, positive, emotional state, not a logical state. So put yourself into the proper state first before talking.
When you are in the right state, verbals become effortless and fun. When you are in the wrong state, your verbals are logical and awful.
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Dream girl/guy. Anyone found them?
Dream girl/guy. Anyone found them?If you don't have the principles of game down, when you find the one incredible person you will immediately turn them off and lose them.
If anything, game teaches you to stop looking and waiting for your perfect 10. It's not gonna happen. Just look for girls who are good enough. You have to learn to deal with imperfect people.
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Night Game - What are good openers?
Night Game - What are good openers?Don't waste time trying to invent clever openers. The opener is irrelevant.
"Hey! Stop. I wanted to meet you real quick. What's your name?" is basically your universal opener.
The words of your opener is not what gets you the girl.
Observational openers tend to work best. For example: "Hey, girl in the black dress. I wanted to meet you real quick."
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Do you build confidence by doing pick-up?
Do you build confidence by doing pick-up?@Lincisman
As you already concluded yourself, you'll build your confidence in both ways.
Doing pick up will build this very specific kind of confidence, like becoming more confident at approaching and then flirting etc.
All other things, like your LP, interests/hobbies will build your base level of confidence and make you feel like you have value to offer.
There are certain traps though.
Don't think your life has to be absolutely amazing for you to be confident with women. This can happen if you compare yourself to other guys to much and spend to much time on Instagram or similar apps/social media. So don't create a limiting belief that you always must have tons of cool things going for you, you don't.
If you become better at the game itself this creates a new type of value too. If you're loose and fun and positive people enjoy being around you because they can let go and absorb your good energy.
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Pickup/Dating Benchmark
Pickup/Dating BenchmarkIt's not just about quantity, it's about quality.
Quality approaches matter way more.
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If I intended to, could I really afford to remain computer illiterate?
If I intended to, could I really afford to remain computer illiterate?If you're posting on a forum, you arent computer illiterate.
It's not either illiterate or comp sci major, there is a huuuuge gap between those two. To the average person, comp sci is like magic, you might as well be talking about rocket science.
For the vast majority of people, their computer knowledge is limited to using social media and email, and paying bills online. Those people are perfectly computer literate, knowing just the absolute basics needed to get by.
Go sit in a university computer lab for 15 minutes and listen to the questions that support people are being asked, and you'll see just how little even the average young person knows about computers.
To the average person, even creating a free 1-page website with Wix or starting a YouTube channel would be considered in the "advanced" computer skill level. Even though you can start either in like 4 clicks and it's incredibly easy, people have self limiting beliefs like being computer illiterate that prevent them from even trying.
The main skill you need to do anything with computers is to be able to use Google. If you can look up solutions to problems you're facing, that's like the golden key that unlocks every other computer skill.
The reason parents are always like "my kid is so good at computers" is just because kids are willing to mess around and try. Theyll figure out what every button does through trial and error.
The good news is you dont need to know anything about computer code to do 99% of things with computers. Today you can build websites or even computer games without any coding. You already can build your own world or items in the metaverse with the 3D equivalent of MS Paint, basically just snapping shapes together. And everything to do with computers is only becoming more easy and user friendly with time.
As long as you've got the willingness and ability to learn how to use new programs in the most basic way, you won't become computer illiterate. If you lack the problem solving and analytical skills to do that, you probably wont get very far in any other area of life anyway.
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I've been getting blown out of many sets for insulting girls
I've been getting blown out of many sets for insulting girlsThe good news is you’re learning what doesn’t work through your own experience. And if you internalize those lessons, it will subconsciously calibrate you in the future.
This is why you can’t just blindly follow things you read on the internet and expect them to work in something as complex as socializing.
To your specific problem, there is a fine line between insulting people and teasing/flirting. Guys with charisma know how to ride that edge AND pull back if they go too far.
It can be a delicate dance because social interaction isn’t a static thing. There’s always different contexts, different people, different subtle nuances. And you’ve got to learn to subconsciously read all that in microseconds. Which is actually extremely easy once you get the hang of it, but can be challenging at first.
There’s also the element of delivery. Sometimes what you said was fine, but your delivery (vocal tonality, body language) was totally off. In that case, it isn’t so much about what you said as it is how you said it. I’d say this is actually the more common problem.
"you are so dumb that you must have a bean brain" -> did you give a cheeky half smile when you said this? Did you say it aggressively, or with a sort of sing-song tone of voice that would communicate to her “I’m just kidding”? Did you hesitate and look away? All of this, plus way more, matters in terms of how people will respond to what you say.
This is why inner game becomes so important. There’s so many subtle variables going on here that it’s impossible to consciously be aware of all of them. But if your inner game is solid, a lot of these variables just solve themselves like magic. You don’t even need to think about it. Which is exactly the place you want to get to.
So dial it back a bit. Remember, fun and light. You suppose to actually like this person. And keep working that inner game as well.
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Why Do Women Cheat? (The Psychology Behind Cheating)
Why Do Women Cheat? (The Psychology Behind Cheating)I have no interest in debating female attraction with females.
Female attraction is something a man should learn through direct experience and then keep his mouth shut.
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Why Do Women Cheat? (The Psychology Behind Cheating)
Why Do Women Cheat? (The Psychology Behind Cheating)Women are capable of it. But they have little interest in it.
The situation is so bad that I have simply given up on trying to explain attraction to women. It's a pointless effort. I know precisely what attracts them and I simply will embody it. No explanations or discussions.
Women are generally not truthful about what they are attracted to because what they tell themselves is one thing, and what they actually respond to is another.
Women create romanticized versions of attraction which suit their fantasies.
To understand what women are actually attracted to requires attracting lots of women. Attraction is ridiculously counter-intuitive and brutal.
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Dealing with Competition in Game
Dealing with Competition in Game@cle103
It happens. I've approached the same girl multiple times without knowing it. So yeah, you're gonna cross trails with other guys.
As long as your approaches are socially calibrated, you usually won't have any real problems.
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Hey, want to learn about masculinity.
Hey, want to learn about masculinity.Be independent Don't ask a woman too many questions Work on your insecurities Be vulnerable but not weak Be nice but not a doormat/slave Have boundaries Have self respect Have moral integrity. Have grit and determination Do something out of life Have a sense of purpose Have a healthy ego or rather cultivate Make decisions without asking a woman Be a provider or at least have the ability for it Treat women with respect Don't be overly needy or desperate Have the courage to say no Learn to not be brainwashed or manipulated by women Challenge a woman when she does wrong Have a go getter attitude. Get it done. Be decisive Be polite Be disciplined Do your duty Take responsibility Show bravery when needed Be logical Take up challenges and overcome them Sustain under pressure Be a comforter Learn to show anger and also learn to control temper. Modulate.
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Should you only approach off of ioi's
Should you only approach off of ioi'sLol no.
It’s extremely rare that a girl will give you a serious ioi before you approach her. It doesn’t work like the movies, where she seductively bats her eyes at you from across the bar and then you slide in.
In reality, it’s more like you just insert yourself into her world. No invitation, no permission.
Of course if she doesn’t like your approach, then of course you back off. Consent, consent, consent. But don’t be sitting around waiting for her to flip her hair at you before you talk to her. You will go home likely have done zero approaches.
Well yeah, if you stare and her and then she keeps looking at you, that’s probably a good sign. But I would never rely on that.
Awesome, keep it up ?.
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Socially awkward guys
Socially awkward guysOf course guys with autism/Aspergers tend to struggle especially much in this area, however, today there are so many guys who are not autistic who are socially awkward simply due to lack of experience -- because they spend so much time online or playing video games. I used to be very socially awkward, but not because I was autistic, simply because I lacked experience.
The solution is to go gain massive experience in this area.
Owen from RSD is autistic. He is an example of how a struggling abused autistic kid can turn his life around. His videos show you the effort and principles it takes to do that.
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Thoughts on shoe insoles?
Thoughts on shoe insoles?I'm 5 foot 6 and my girlfriend is pretty much a 10/10. In no way am I trying to blow my own horn here, I couldn't care less about bigging myself up, but I think I'm living proof that girls couldn't give a fuck about height because I really am as small as they come. As long as you've got stellar game they will fall head over heels for you, I've never had an issue with attracting girls, my height doesn't even cross my mind. Stop focusing on your looks/height and start honing the positive aspects of your personality in order to attract high quality females, it can be done.
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Eye contact game in the gym
Eye contact game in the gymYeah, that's why gym is not a good place for approaching. You'll burn through it pretty quick and it will start to feel creepy. There's just not enough volume there.
I would only do it as a one-off if I saw a girl I really liked.
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How Often Should I Post On My Blog?
How Often Should I Post On My Blog?You're not going to like the truth.
Blogging as you're probably thinking about it died more than 10 years ago.
Do you have a favorite "blogger"? People have favorite Youtubers, TikTokers(?), and most other platforms. But not bloggers.
Do you have multiple blogs bookmarked that you check multiple times a week for updates? It's not really a thing any more.
If you aren't doing keyword research, your blog is never getting off the ground. It doesn't matter how many posts you make per week, or how many total blog posts you make. You're dead in the water before you even start.
People don't follow blogs for personalities any more. People do Google searches for specific information, and then go to the websites that have the most relevant information. There's no attachment to the person writing in 99% of cases, it's just a commodity.
You need to reframe it as writing articles, moreso than writing blogs. If you're doing this to build an audience or to earn money and you aren't willing to do that instead of being a "blogger personality", don't even bother starting.
Assuming you've done proper keyword research and identified topics that people are actually searching for, that are neither so competitive that you can't beat the top Google results that already exist, nor so niche/obscure that it doesn't get enough monthly searches...
Post frequency still doesn't matter.
On Youtube, when and how often you post is an extremely important part of the algorithm. It prioritizes people who post regularly, and even specific days of the week and times.
Blogging isn't like that. You just put your content up and it starts ranking.
Blogging is like planting a tree. The best time to write a blog post was yesterday and the next-best time is today. So you just want to write as many as you can, as soon as you can. Or at least get a schedule where you can consistently post to amass a big catalogue of posts for the long term.
It takes 3 - 6 months for a new blog post to reach the peak of how many monthly views it'll get for the rest of it's life.
Most sources on blogging are 5+ years out of date. Even Neil Patel is way out of date and has no idea what he's talking about any more. Backlinking and all the stuff people talk about isn't a thing any more. Posting about your blog on social media is wasting time that you could be using to write more blog posts that'll rank themselves. There are no more tricks or shortcuts. All you can do is post genuinely helpful and unique useful information.
The only people I would listen to about blogging in 2022 are Income School: https://www.youtube.com/c/IncomeSchool/featured
At least watch their videos. If you're really serious about turning blogging into a full-time business then pay $449 for their Project 24 course. It's by far the best blogging resource I've come across, but I realize that pricetag is too steep for the vast majority of people: https://incomeschool.com/project24/
(I'm not affiliated with them, aside from buying the course and paying to be a member for the past several years, and getting great success with my own 4 blogs from following their instructions.)
If I absolutely have to give a number... you need to be banging out at least 15 blog posts a month for the first year if you want to have any chance of turning it into a full-time job. I wouldn't bother blogging if you aren't going to write at least 2 posts a week, at least for the first 6 - 12 months.
Most people should write 30 blog posts in Word documents on their desktop before they ever create a blog. If you can't do that, don't bother starting it.
Of course if you're just doing it as a hobby, then do whatever you want.
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Eye contact game in the gym
Eye contact game in the gymIt's weird if you make it weird.
This was 10 years ago.
She told me she had a boyfriend before the date, but she agreeed to go on the date with me, so I didn't protest. I wanted to see what would happen and how girls work.
As part of my learning game I have pushed ethical lines. Sometimes just to see what girls are willing to do and as a way to decondition myself from being a nice guy.
My natural impulse is to be too nice with girls, so I had to untrain that.
I don't recommend sleeping with girls with boyfriends or husbands. Bad karma.
I do consider it unethical to sleep with girls who are taken.
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Thoughts about marketing?
Thoughts about marketing?Unless you're doing something truly groundbreaking, somebody has probably already been where you are and derived "the secret formula" (or one version of it.) So there's not really a need for you to brainstorm and try to figure it out from scratch through trial and error.
When I took an online course on freelance writing, it included a list of job boards where you can land freelance writing gigs. Plus how to cold pitch clients, and exactly what to write in your email that's proven to work. (And it worked great for me)
When I did a game dev course, it included pre-marketing before your game launches, how to get people to wishlist your game on Steam, how to pitch game publishers, which publishers are indie friendly, what genres they prefer, what kind of income splits they offer, how to create a successful kickstarter, how to have a successful launch, etc. Stuff that would take you forever to research, or that you wouldn't even think to consider when starting out.
I've seen similar courses (or just straight marketing materials) that you can buy for how to be a best-selling novelist, how to run a farm, how to run an etsy store or shopify store, how to market yourself as a video editor / wedding photographer / you-name-it and get clients. You can even buy sales pages customized for conversion in your industry, entire email campaigns proven to convert where you just plug in a few details, etc, for a fraction of what it'd cost to get someone to do it for you, or that would take hundreds of hours of your time.
Look for a cheap solution that already works, especially if you're just getting started. You can always customize and optimize later
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Eye contact game in the gym
Eye contact game in the gym3 second rule. You see hot girl and you approach. Don't wait for any signals.
I once saw a girl at the gym running on the treadmill with earbuds on. I walked in front of her treadmill. Did a big wave at her. Signaled her to stop running and take out her earbuds. She complied with all that. Then I told her I found her cute. We exchanged numbers. We went on a date. She had a boyfriend. I made out with her. But she refused to come home with me. And that was that.
Don't let any minor obstacles stop you. If she's on her phone with her mom, you stop her and tell her to hang up on her mom. I've done that and gotten laid from it. Hot girls are attracted to leadership.
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Is getting rejected a lot normal? How do i improve my game?
Is getting rejected a lot normal? How do i improve my game?@assx95 Yes, 40 approaches is a good start but not enough to get good at flirting, but another thing most pickup guys will not tell you, is:
High self-esteem matters much more than flirting technique.
So do whatever it takes to get you to honestly believe you are an awesome, very attractive man, and everything else in the flirting and game department will become easier.
This may involve you getting better friends, a better life purpose, better clothes, a better place to live, or completely changing your life direction. Whatever that is for you, do that.
It may also involve therapy and/or trauma release. Unprocessed pain from the past is often in the way of having high self esteem.
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Girl treated you like dogshit?
Girl treated you like dogshit?If you want to get laid and have women respect you, yes.
It's not even that extreme. It's just radically being yourself.
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Girl treated you like dogshit?
Girl treated you like dogshit?@Medhansh Another thing you can do (when it's authentic), is when she says something negative about something you like, whether it is her criticizing Leo Gura or saying some music artist you like is lame, instead of half-heartedly agreeing or trying to find a middle ground, you just look her straight in the eyes and tell her that you actually love this X or Y. Look at her with a vibe of being fine with the awkwardness of the dissonance, and being mildly entertained at the same time.
If she backpeddles and corrects herself to agree with you, you basically already know she's yours if you want her.