Medhansh

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  1. I have a naturally introverted personality. Barring 3-4 close friends, I don't feel very comfortable and fully at ease with new people. It takes time for me to open up. Overall I feel very low confidence with who I am whenever around new people. Also, I am very bad at small talk and non-awkwardizing things/ interactions. But whenever I go out and party, socialize, dance, laugh, etc. my whole personality opens up. I talk more loudly, care lesser about what people think, have these bursts of high confidence, want to meet new people, etc. This doesn't happen suddenly but takes some time of partying (like 2 back to back parties or a long full nighter party or a 1-2 days trip). After some time of partying/socializing like this, there comes an infliction point where there is a switch in my personality, which is quite opposite of what I naturally am. The same I can experience while cold approaching. I have only done about 30-35 approaches, but did some 18 approaches in a single day within 5-6 hours. And during those approaches, after the first 7-8 back to back approaches I got way less anxious. I started taking rejections lightly and started feeling more confident. Basically built State. But right now I have left partying and socializing since a few weeks, and haven't cold approached since 4-5 months. And I am back to the point of sitting alone in my room viewing online content and spending time with only my close friends. And I know for a fact that all of my state is back to zero. I will be 100% awkward, underconfident, unsocial, etc. when I next go out. But that will again be improved by me going out and consistently partying. So my question- Is pickup/ cold approach/ socializing/ flirting skills/ small talk, etc- just a function of momentum? I see party goers in my college but they do it on a regular basis- atleast twice a week. I mean, to maintain my state do I need a constant flux of highly social, high energy activities happening every few days? Which would basically imply that a large portion of pickup is just building a lifelong snowball momentum by partying and going out regularly- and not letting a gap of more than 1 week before 2 adjacent social activities? Is my interpretation right?
  2. A couple of intermediate gamers I talked to told me that they gamed sporadically and not continously, they gamed on and off a few months, then left game after getting a gf/ getting busy with other things. And then they got back into game after their breakup, getting free time, etc. They did not go out continously for years on end. Yet they are still at a very good level. And as for me, currently I can't game for more than 4 months at one stretch- my current studies don't allow continous gaming for longer than that. Also, during those 4-5 months, I will be sarging in daygame on weekends only: 2 days per week, target is 20 approaches per day, translating to 40 approaches per week. Accounting for buffer and some missed days (external events, approach anxiety, bad days, etc.) I am estimating nearabout 500 approaches in the timespan. But those approaches will not be continous- only on weekends, so every 2nd day of sarging is separated by 5 days. I would much rather sarge daily for state but that is not an option. My question is- does this approach have potential? Or should I change it and look for a better way? (Both for the purpose of building long term skills and also getting results in the short run).
  3. I can relate with this. Whenever I am having a busy day, tackling multiple differing tasks at hand my social ability improves because my attitude changes and I start taking lesser bullshit from people. That sense of busy-ness and getting a lot of work accomplished makes me more confident, assertive and bold to ask people favours. And also increases my inherent value within my mind. But some days I have no tangible task at hand so I end up consuming content online and those days are the days where I am the least capable socially.
  4. How much continous effort does it take to come to the point of building those permanent skills? Is there any approximate benchmark? Or does it differ from person to person?
  5. I used to have bad dreams(nightmares is too much of a negative term) as well, a couple of years ago. Had them for a few months, then they disappeared. Possible cures/contributing factors towards cure- Eating light dinners, well before sleeping Not drinking too much liquids before sleeping Having a fixed sleep schedule, not sleeping during the day Increasing sleep soundness and quality by exercising, etc. Stress reduction Anxiety elimination- this is very important. Any sort of anxiety disorder will directly impact sleep quality and can induce nightmares.
  6. Not even the son of a rich upper-class business man, who is pissing away time by burning money, attending parties, etc.? And is also enjoying the fruits of perfect health, young body, high energy, etc. Knowing that he has everything backed up in terms of wealth.
  7. So I have been suffering a major imbalance in my Manipuaraka Chakra (Solar Plexus) for the past 2 years. Along with that, I have an imbalanced Mooladhara chakra as well. My question is, how to bring balance to my chakras and cleanse them? I have tried- Isha Hatha Yoga Kriya Yoga (from the JC Stevens book in the booklist). Although only the basic Kriyas. Meditation Medicines and herbs. I have in my mind, for trying in the near future- Advanced Kriya Yoga (Navi Kriya, etc.) Qi Gong But I want more methods. My current list of methods is exhausting and I have gotten little to no results. Anyone who has knowledge in this field, help me. I want to correct the imbalance in my Manipuraka Chakra--- This is my main area of concern.
  8. @Ulax Ok will look into it. Do you have any resources you could link here, for a beginner?
  9. @undeather Can you provide some inputs by seeing my post below?
  10. @Leo Gura Do you have any idea about these kinds of issues? Please see my post, where I have explained this problem in detail- https://www.actualized.org/forum/topic/88501-please-suggest-tools-techniques-and-methods-to-balance-ones-energy-bodychakras/?do=findComment&comment=1254441 Even if you don't have the knowledge, how would you suggest me to go about curing such a subtle and almost invisible disease? How should I go about the whole process? I hope I am not coming off as a superstitious lunatic here. I really have this issue.
  11. This ia what I am getting when I click on your signature link.
  12. The issue is I am unable to find a competent enough expert. I will pay money, but to whom? I need at least 1 person capable of curing this disorder. Or atleast have some depth of knowledge about this issue, more than my knowledge. But it has been incredibly difficult finding such a person. Turns out, most people in the medical fields (alternative medicine as well) are sheep who went through the mass-manufacturing process of acquiring a medical degree and getting a job. They don't have the necessary expertise and experience to cure such subtle ailments. Sad state of medicine. Even sadder for people like me, who are stuck with a simple yet seemingly complex issue.
  13. This is half of the problem. And I don't think there is any way anyone can tell precisely if an expert is legit or not beforehand. A lot of money, time, efforts, and emotional labour could be saved if I could somehow generate the ability to foresee the outcome of any treatment plan/s before even starting them. It would save me from a lot, a lot of bullshit. I do have my own past experiences and intuition for this problem. But my best ability right now is refined hit-and-trial, based upon my past experience. I know which system of medicine is capable of recognizing, diagnosing, and curing my issue and which is not. But that's a very wide spectrum. It doesn't help me much. It is still not enough to get to the point where I can precisely pinpoint a treatment or expert beforehand- whether it's going to work or not. And I think it's not even possible for a normal person to make such predictions. So that leaves a lot of dangling around and experimentation left for me to do. Well, well.
  14. It is mostly a mixture of physical, physiological, and psychological symptoms. Since such an imbalance doesn't show up in any lab test or report, we have to rely heavily on the patient's own experience, and the guidance of an able expert who has experience with this stuff. Also, there are some methods to check this imbalance that have been used for hundreds of years. This problem is known very commonly in India, so if you speak to 5 random people, at least one of them will know one or the other thing about this issue. The exact signs and symptoms depend upon the direction in which the navel chakra has been imbalanced, and it also varies from individual to individual. Yoga experts nowadays have broadly categorized this imbalance into 8 directions, as shown in figure 1. The green spot shows the approximate current location of my navel chakra. It is also related to an energy channel (Nadi), which goes from the heart to the calves via our navel. Just like the vagus nerve. The only difference is, being a Nadi, it doesn't have a physical existence. It is a major Nadi amongst the channel of the 72000 nadis in our body. It should ideally pass through the center of the navel, but in people with this disorder, it beats through the navel as well as the area around it. Mine beats in the navel and on the green spot, signifying my imbalance is in the top-left corner. We can check the palpitation by making the concerned person lie down, and then pressing down on and near his navel region with our thumb. This is one method of checking the imbalance. Another method is to check the distance between the left nipple and the navel, and then between the right nipple and the navel. Both should be equal. If the distances are unequal, we say that your navel chakra is displaced. This method is used only for males. We usually measure the distances with the help of a thread. (Figure 2) Another method is to sit on a chair, and open both your arms straight to the front. Your arms should be at the shoulder level and your elbows should be straight. Then another person joins both your hands and matches your Surya line with the Chandra line. Then, he checks whether the last line of your pinky fingers match or not. If they are equal, you are fine. If unequal, you have this imbalance. (Figures 3 and 4: pics of a healthy person). I have also attached the pic of my hands, which I checked a few months ago. (Figure 5). It shows a considerable difference. The last lines of my pinky fingers are unequal. There are some other methods as well of checking the navel, but these 3 are the most famous, well-known, and reliable methods. Yoga Gurus and Ayurveda doctors use these methods. One person has been making proper graphical reports of navel based upon his checkup through the thumb-pressing method (Figure 6). It is a 3 inch circle around the navel and he makes dots for representing the palpitations. Big dot for a prominent palpitation, small dot for a comparatively less prominent palpitation. Other than these methods, we have symptoms. A navel displaced upwards will lead to constipation- because all the organs, especially the intestines, experience an upward pull and their motility is restricted. A downward shifted navel, on the other hand, will lead to continuous loose motions, because the intestines lose their holding capacity and quickly throw out any substance they receive. These are the general trends with navel displacement patients. And all patients will have lots of psychological troubles and mental fluctuations. Simply because the Vayus of the body are disturbed (more about this later). Then there are more symptoms like breathlessness (Diaphragm gets affected a lot by upward displacement of the navel chakra). I have an upward shifted navel(and slightly left), and I have constipation. No amount of fiber or exercise will help me(except forceful purging via laxatives, purgatives, etc.) in relieving my constipation. Because the navel is shifted upwards, and it has restricted the motility of my intestines. Most people have a case of their navel being shifted upwards and slightly leftwards, like mine. The reason behind this is that the stomach bag is situated on the upper left side of the navel (Figure 7). The stomach bag, when it remains filled with gas for a long time, causes the navel to be displaced top-left. The gas rises up and gives the required pressure for the navel to get shifted. Obviously, this process takes years and is often accelerated by wrong diet, improper treatments, excessive medications, etc. So that's that. About the Vayus. Navel chakra imbalance is directly interconnected with the Pancha Vayus of the body- especially Samana, Prana, and Apana Vayus. (Figure 8). That is why navel chakra imbalance must not be confused with Hernia (whether Umbilical Hernia or Hiatus Hernia). Navel imbalance is not a dislocation of our abdominal organs. It is just a major imbalance of our Manipuraka Chakra/ Navel chakra, and our Samana, Apana, and Prana Vayus. It is a disorder on the plane of the pranayama kosha, not the physical body. We can only see its effects on the physical body. The cause is on the level of our energy body (Chakras, nadis, vayus, etc- Figure 9) In terms of Ayurveda and Vata-Pitta-Kapha, this disorder is a combination of Vata and Pitta imbalance. The most simple way to explain this is- the vayu starts functioning in an improper way, and the vayu starts working in a wrong direction (upwards in my case). Hence, it starts interfering with the normal motility and flow of our gastrointestinal tract. Thus, causing physical symptoms. Navel displacement is not a very famous problem even among experienced experts in the alternative medicine field- Yoga, Ayurveda, Tibet, Chinese Herbal, and middle eastern medicine. Although all of them recognize it, still there are very few knowledgeable experts on this matter. Most of these experts rely on home remedies and quick fixes, which work if your issue is new (a few days/weeks old). But in chronic cases like mine (I have had this imbalance for more than 2 years now, and stomach ailments for a total of 4.5 years), these don't work. I require a proper analysis, diagnosis, and treatment. As far as I know, only one person in India has the proper and permanent cure for this problem- he's an ayurveda acharya. He is the one who makes these graphical reports (Figure 6). But he is not seeing patients currently, so that leaves me experimenting around on my own. He has cured thousands of patients with the same problem as mine, and he is my last hope. Although I personally know more than 50 people who are suffering from the same issue, not even a single one of them got cured. They are just like me- hopeless, confused, desperate, and depressed. All of us are trying, but we haven't got the cure yet. Although one thing worked for me till now. Isha Hatha Yoga, which I learned back in June, did a lot for my navel displacement. It gave me a lot of relief in my navel, relaxed my stomach, and even brought my pinky lines closer! It literally moves the lines of my hands over a period of 1 month. But then I got sick, plus the effect plateaued. I got significant relief, but it peaked and didn't move further. Then I had to quit it because of fever and cold. Funnily enough, when I restarted it in November, it didn't give me any relief. I did it for 25 days- 15 days only morning, and 10 days both morning and evening- in a hope of getting relief, but it did absolutely nothing this time. I don't know the reason- may be because the season is different? It is winter season right now, and June was summer here. Maybe because of climate? Maybe something else? After 25 days my practice broke once again because I got fever and cold, once again. Otherwise, I was planning on doing it for a longer duration- regardless of the results. And I will restart it tomorrow. Anyhow, this was my attempt to explain this seemingly complex and twisted topic of navel displacement to you, Michael! Hopefully, I was able to convince you that this is an actual issue, and that I am not a crazy, psychologically disturbed person selling you woo-woo stuff! Please remember that I am not an expert in this matter- I am still learning. People have made lots of videos on this, but they are in Hindi, so it wouldn't be of much help linking them here. Also, I found 2 research papers on this topic. These are very small-scale and simplistic research papers- but they do offer a lot of value to people like me who are stuck in this problem. I will attach those as well, so you can take a look. 872d0f0d4384376a6561a6241246e881.pdf nabhi.pdf