I’d like to share my experience and hear people’s thoughts on this. My goal is to become a more attractive man and my experience with PUA is that it only works when it’s done from the right place. When I first got into PUA I forced myself to approach women consistently and I feel this was only setting me back. The reason for this is because I felt I needed to do it to reach my goals and this squeezed all the fun out of it. Everytime I saw an attractive woman it made me go into “performance” mode and I had to approach her because I must take action. Surrendering this need to take action and becoming relaxed in my body through meditation made me way more attractive than any approach I forced myself to do.
Women pick up on intentions very easily and when it comes from a place where you are genuinely having fun and not doing it to ‘practice’, you are reinforcing better habits that make you more attractive. I don’t think the answer is as simple as ‘just approach 500 women’.
How do we solve this paradox of taking action but it also being genuine without the emotional charge of forcing yourself to approach and reinforcing bad habits? Honestly, completely letting go and just staying relaxed makes me way more attractive, but I also feel limited because I don’t approach as much. Kind of a weird paradox, but letting go feels like the right thing to do.
