Jannes

I am in this situation quite frequently but never know how to ask without being super obvious and direct about it. Need some tipps.

I know dark triad kind of men who know these rules of communication extremely well.

If you put too much pressure on it, it can make girls uncomfortable And oftentimes its logistically the best thing. If I am still checking someone out I want to know if she would be available or not and either put more into it or not. Or I know someone from university for example and I cant quite tell if we just vibe platonically or if there is more going on. A subtle way of asking makes it easier to keep the platonic vibe going if she has a bf. And even if I found out she didnt have a bf, I would still prefer a subtle way of asking, this way I can meet her in a more chill way without that much pressure.

Playing ego shooter as a teenager

To get along

Surpressing tears and sorrow Expressing emotions in a controlled manner. Not expressing too much Celebtrating depression as deep, intellectual and beautiful

If you ask directly its like asking her if she is interested romantically or sexually. Its quite high stakes. You want to be chill.

But in two years you will perceive time passing even faster.

Training chest on monday Pretending to feel bad when something is supposed to feel bad even when you dont feel bad about it

Great that you have your values straight. Yeah you are probably too developed for this marriage to work, if values dont align its doomed to fail. Do you have other dating options available?

Why 2030 btw. ? That would be awfully long in the future.

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I just finished the LP course a few days ago. I have been thinking about this moment for quite a while as I started this course more then 2 years ago. Not that I get all the missing answers here but maybe some advice from more experienced folks who are already living their LP. I am 25 now and I live in germany. I have got inattentive adhd which made many things very difficult for me like concentration, dealing with emotions and social problems which indirectly also made other things difficult like finding study partners or getting help with emotional distress difficult. So basically I was always an emotional mess/ overtaxed/ semi depressed while getting nothing done and not understanding what was wrong with me. As a result I had difficulties answering many questions in the life purpose course because I experienced relatively little concrete success so far because I couldnt really take part in life as much. I feel like I have got as close to it as what would be possible with my blockades but I feel like the very thing that is my LP is something I cant see right now. I take meds now and it seems like many things are clearing up rapidly but and I do make quite the transformation. I feel more capable but not necessarily upgraded. The stars become less interesting and I see more immediate tasks ahead. I become a lot more concrete instead of abstract. Thats the best way I can describe it. I seem to manifest myself in reality. I was always very reflected and stuff but was like a wave without its own will it can force onto the world. I develop a sense of self now. It sounds pretty unconscious I know and I made the point myself that adhd (at least the inattentive type that I experience) makes you more conscious. But in taking my meds I can deal with reality at least. If I got emotional support/ grounding maybe I could do it without meds but currently I can only do it this way. So this situation is quite confusing atm. In terms of my career so far: teaching: I am in 10th semester of studying math and philosophy for middle school but only have enough points to complete like 4 semesters (you need 10 semesters in total) because of the emotional distress I was always in. I could probably do better with the meds now so it really isnt hopeless. I decided to study teaching though because I did some internship to see what I like and teaching was okay for a moment and I couldnt deal with the pain of being in a situation of uncertainty so I did the best thing I found at the moment which wasn't the most conscious choice. Also there is a bit of buffer as with this graduation I can do other things as well. Teaching isnt directly my Life Purpose I am pretty sure about that. But I would earn a lot of money per hour, can do it part time, have a lot of holidays and a class in school gives you many direct information to observe which can inspire you. A school class is basically a mirror of society, all the kids are just mini versions of what's to come. So that can help me understand society and psychology more which would deepen whatever I create with my LP. I already thought a little and am also teaching 5 hours per week atm and it's an okay job. So it wouldnt be my LP but it would have a good base to comfortable pursue my real LP. acting: Over the last two years I have been doing a lot of acting as a hobby which is a lot of fun but it took a lot of time and I am also thinking about doing this as a career path. It would give me a relatively unstable base though and it would probably just miss my LP. Learning to act itself is incredible fun but it can also be emotionally challenging which I might not be capable to do. My Life Purpose is generally a bit unclear to me. Being a critical thinker is very much part of my authentic self and I have also got a very creative mind because of my adhd. On their own or even combined they dont really give me a life purpose that I find meaningful. For example I always think critically but I dont see where this practically leads to. And I often come up with new start up ideas because as I love the creative process but when it isnt connected to something meaningful I loose interest in it. The closest I could with these two is working on series like Rick&Morty which comes close to feeling like a LP. But I think there is a last component, a last value that is blocked from my mind. Besides these top two values I also care about empathy, goodness, authenticity, but not enough about any of them to make a LP in combination with the two about them I think. I sometimes look in my past to where the last puzzle piece might be. I developed a very profound even mystical happiness as a kid as I think that I had mystical experiences in kindergarden. I really vibed with Jesus in that time as well. I felt like it would virtually be impossible to break my spirit because I was connected to something unbreakable. I even felt like I needed to go through some real shit, to be lost, to come out of it and from that place be authentically able to help other people. I had a feeling of calling back then. Well I am not quite back to my inner garden of roses yet. I did about 20 trips of psychedelics and never realized a mystical experience because I was in too much shit mentally I think. (interestingly never had a really bad trip either though) I formulated my LP rather vague. I couldnt find any formulation that deeply inspired because as I said I think there is some authentic part of me missing. Taking my reflection about my past and moments of reflection I feel like it has to do with healing, bliss, profound love, existential (healing), spirituality. But I cant completely make out if these things interest me because I feel like I have a lack of them (negative motivation) or if it is authentic. To make my LP more concrete I could reformulate it like this for example (but I am not sure about it): - giving people blissful spiritual experiences to make them more loving and conscious. - finding existential beauty and meaning in fucked up situations to make people more hopeful So with all of this I have no clear direction of where to go and I found out new things about myself/ unblock blockades and this is probably going on for months and years to come. All ways would help me move forwards. If I study to become a teacher that would be an acceptable path which would allow me to do lots of other stuff (LP) I am interested in as well but then I could never study to become a serious actor because I would be too old at this point. I would need to become more clear about myself and my values to see what I value most. A side thought is also to experiment with start ups (for money) as I have lots of ideas for them. Right now I am thinking of continue studying while giving myself time to process and I can on the side apply to acting schools. Chances of getting accepted are pretty low anyways and if I get accepted that would be a sign that I am quite talented. Design ohne Titel.pdf

Wars are extremely costly and have negative side effects like terrorism and mass immagration waves. So a little less bite would actually be beneficial for the us in a strictly selfish way. And the diplomatic nuclear deal with iran would have been orders of magnitude cheaper then bombing the shit out of iran over and over again.

The moment they speak english is very interesting. From seeing them as different and a bit strange to part of myself.

Bruh, the us IS the bully

Nukes are there for deterrence, in a nuclear war everyone looses. Even if the US and Israel could nuke Iran harder, even getting nuked "a bit" is catastrophic. So if Iran had nukes, Israel and the US wouldnt have dared to attack Iran in the first place. Its in the absolute best interest of iran to get nukes.

Actors increase our spectrum of love. When they play really though roles and find the right words to decribe whats going on inside them, in a way what they do is collect a lot of love to face and make conscious a faceit of reality which is usally to hard to make conscious. Thats what great dialoge is about.

I have felt some weird energies yesterday. Some chi - ish energies. Its usually when a lot of energy is in movement. I dont know how to make sense of that though.

Yesterday I took half the dose of Elvanse medication and I felt a bit of a difference. Today I took a regular starting dose and it feels like I am tripping. Especially outside its very different. I saw some people through the crowd I probably usually wouldnt notice. Which is weird, as I would think I would notice them more without medication. But the reason could be that I can regulate my emotions more, so opening up becomes easier and therefore engaging as with a crowd as well.

Just found out that there are likely some costs coming if I just want to maintain an empty company. That really sucks. I just wanted to create a company to just have it done once so that it wouldnt feel as scary anymore. Well one thing I can do is create my own website.

The EU Pay Transparency Directive -- Its intended to fight the gender pay gap. In short companies must be transparent about what they pay their employees. If the other gender earns more for the same work you can demand the same or you can sue the company. Women often undersell themselves, because they dont demand as much, they dont get as much salary, even if their work is equal to mens. So its a legit point. On the other hand I also know some workaholics and those are usually males. Women are usually more balanced (not neglecting the social domain). So if some workaholic males would outperform women but cant get compensated more for it that would be unfair as well. But thats my only big criticism.

Mmmh this brings me right back to feelings of the past