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So with this girl I am getting to know the only thing I am unsure about is her looks. She looks okay to good, not hot. No makeup whatsoever though. Would love to know how she looks with makeup. I am just noticing that my mind is making it a pretty big deal, I feel like I could get someone "hotter". I follwed my heart and got to her though but looks are part of what triggers emotions. Basically I like her character but my mind is making out, if the deal is acceptable or not and its pretty uncomfortable. And basically every other aspect she seems like a green flag though.

I just finished the LP course a few days ago. I have been thinking about this moment for quite a while as I started this course more then 2 years ago. Not that I get all the missing answers here but maybe some advice from more experienced folks who are already living their LP. I am 25 now and I live in germany. I have got inattentive adhd which made many things very difficult for me like concentration, dealing with emotions and social problems which indirectly also made other things difficult like finding study partners or getting help with emotional distress difficult. So basically I was always an emotional mess/ overtaxed/ semi depressed while getting nothing done and not understanding what was wrong with me. As a result I had difficulties answering many questions in the life purpose course because I experienced relatively little concrete success so far because I couldnt really take part in life as much. I feel like I have got as close to it as what would be possible with my blockades but I feel like the very thing that is my LP is something I cant see right now. I take meds now and it seems like many things are clearing up rapidly but and I do make quite the transformation. I feel more capable but not necessarily upgraded. The stars become less interesting and I see more immediate tasks ahead. I become a lot more concrete instead of abstract. Thats the best way I can describe it. I seem to manifest myself in reality. I was always very reflected and stuff but was like a wave without its own will it can force onto the world. I develop a sense of self now. It sounds pretty unconscious I know and I made the point myself that adhd (at least the inattentive type that I experience) makes you more conscious. But in taking my meds I can deal with reality at least. If I got emotional support/ grounding maybe I could do it without meds but currently I can only do it this way. So this situation is quite confusing atm. In terms of my career so far: teaching: I am in 10th semester of studying math and philosophy for middle school but only have enough points to complete like 4 semesters (you need 10 semesters in total) because of the emotional distress I was always in. I could probably do better with the meds now so it really isnt hopeless. I decided to study teaching though because I did some internship to see what I like and teaching was okay for a moment and I couldnt deal with the pain of being in a situation of uncertainty so I did the best thing I found at the moment which wasn't the most conscious choice. Also there is a bit of buffer as with this graduation I can do other things as well. Teaching isnt directly my Life Purpose I am pretty sure about that. But I would earn a lot of money per hour, can do it part time, have a lot of holidays and a class in school gives you many direct information to observe which can inspire you. A school class is basically a mirror of society, all the kids are just mini versions of what's to come. So that can help me understand society and psychology more which would deepen whatever I create with my LP. I already thought a little and am also teaching 5 hours per week atm and it's an okay job. So it wouldnt be my LP but it would have a good base to comfortable pursue my real LP. acting: Over the last two years I have been doing a lot of acting as a hobby which is a lot of fun but it took a lot of time and I am also thinking about doing this as a career path. It would give me a relatively unstable base though and it would probably just miss my LP. Learning to act itself is incredible fun but it can also be emotionally challenging which I might not be capable to do. My Life Purpose is generally a bit unclear to me. Being a critical thinker is very much part of my authentic self and I have also got a very creative mind because of my adhd. On their own or even combined they dont really give me a life purpose that I find meaningful. For example I always think critically but I dont see where this practically leads to. And I often come up with new start up ideas because as I love the creative process but when it isnt connected to something meaningful I loose interest in it. The closest I could with these two is working on series like Rick&Morty which comes close to feeling like a LP. But I think there is a last component, a last value that is blocked from my mind. Besides these top two values I also care about empathy, goodness, authenticity, but not enough about any of them to make a LP in combination with the two about them I think. I sometimes look in my past to where the last puzzle piece might be. I developed a very profound even mystical happiness as a kid as I think that I had mystical experiences in kindergarden. I really vibed with Jesus in that time as well. I felt like it would virtually be impossible to break my spirit because I was connected to something unbreakable. I even felt like I needed to go through some real shit, to be lost, to come out of it and from that place be authentically able to help other people. I had a feeling of calling back then. Well I am not quite back to my inner garden of roses yet. I did about 20 trips of psychedelics and never realized a mystical experience because I was in too much shit mentally I think. (interestingly never had a really bad trip either though) I formulated my LP rather vague. I couldnt find any formulation that deeply inspired because as I said I think there is some authentic part of me missing. Taking my reflection about my past and moments of reflection I feel like it has to do with healing, bliss, profound love, existential (healing), spirituality. But I cant completely make out if these things interest me because I feel like I have a lack of them (negative motivation) or if it is authentic. To make my LP more concrete I could reformulate it like this for example (but I am not sure about it): - giving people blissful spiritual experiences to make them more loving and conscious. - finding existential beauty and meaning in fucked up situations to make people more hopeful So with all of this I have no clear direction of where to go and I found out new things about myself/ unblock blockades and this is probably going on for months and years to come. All ways would help me move forwards. If I study to become a teacher that would be an acceptable path which would allow me to do lots of other stuff (LP) I am interested in as well but then I could never study to become a serious actor because I would be too old at this point. I would need to become more clear about myself and my values to see what I value most. A side thought is also to experiment with start ups (for money) as I have lots of ideas for them. Right now I am thinking of continue studying while giving myself time to process and I can on the side apply to acting schools. Chances of getting accepted are pretty low anyways and if I get accepted that would be a sign that I am quite talented. Design ohne Titel.pdf

I recently started diving into fantasy games like pen and papers, magic and stuff like that. And when playing these games I started to notice some things which are spiritually relevant. For one, when I am into an imagined mission in pen and papers, I take decisions and consequences in this imagined world more serious then I would have thought. Like when something goes wrong or if we enter a dangerous situation it feels a bit unnerving and there is a thrill to it. You also feel things like guilt when you do immoral things in this imgagined world. Of course to a lesser degree. But this makes it a bit transparent that the "real world" is simply a deeper imagination. Also when you live in a world with dragons, goblins, werewolfes and so on these things can feel kind of real. Like they are almost part of this world. ... I love some artwork in magic btw.

Yep https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10508-024-02943-0 Many individuals belonging to this population would seek (median = 42.3%), or have sought (median = 46.5%), treatment to cope with their sexual interest or with potential related mental health repercussions.

I am reading something about 50% of pedophiles seek professional help. That number could get higher if people treated pedophiles more nuanced, so in a way where they saw pedophilia strictly as a sickness and appreciated pedophiles when they took professional help. But that takes sooo much openmindedness HOLY ...

The equivalent would be hitler going to theraphy: "Hi, I have got a lot of built up rage because I feel unfairly treated because of ... , not getting into art school, ... I have got a lot potential energy in me to harm people like I could become a dictator and start a war and shit, can you help me deal with my emotions so that aint gonna happen? 😇

What an act of love and selflessness that would be! But it could get a lot better. Imagine a place where pedos get professional help. I believe those exist, heard an advertisement once "no one needs to become an offender, seek help." Imagine a born pedo seeking professional help because he doesnt want to harm kids and through the combination of his effort and the effort of very openminded professionals he lives his life never remotely doing anything inappropriately. Aint that real spirituality?

A pedo who lives out his fantasies Being born with pedo tendencies is freakin bad luck

Destroying his family with 10 years of prison because of it though? Love is rough I can even remember that the women were split between empathy for him as a family men and revenge.

I think guys tend to underestimate the damage rape can do to a women. Many people put it on roughly the same level as murder. ( https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/38267597/ ) Makes sense, if you are really damaged for the rest of your life afterwards and dont find joy in life anymore it can be the same or worse. I cant completly relate, thats a task for further development for me.

Perfect time to meditate yourself to enlightenment, No?

Simply from the fact that I opened up emotionally to this one girl to the point where I really want to have intimacy, I kind of look for it at other places as well now. Like at my social spot yesterday.

This wood background is super minimalistic but a bit more interesting then black yet very calming. Just found it and feel like sharing it. https://external-content.duckduckgo.com/iu/?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwallpapercave.com%2Fwp%2Fwp4792785.jpg&f=1&nofb=1&ipt=d3ace8df869e7ff96c88ac4ec81d5517dec3d6fff51826c1be70c870badab226&ipo=images

This is a genious move to gain control over your social media usage. I cant stress the impact that this can have on your life enough.

Just looked at the available apps. You pretty much get all the basics. I minimalized my phone manually and basically found all my apps on the list with the exception of an adhd app and firefox. Firefox I slimmed down a lot though so it would probably be similiar to chrome. So the only thing that would change would be the design and even that can be mimicked. I think the only strong benefit this has over manually minimalizing your phone is that it takes no will power to do it. For those who struggle with re-downloading social media and stuff like this, this can be very useful.

Things like this existed before. The problem I have with something like this is that it isnt flexible. Some things which may be seen as a distraction are actually quite useful. Like I have my calender and to do list conveniently as widgets on my phone and I need them. Couldnt really do that with that system. You can minimalize your phone manually to a very strong degree though. I have only got my essential apps, put them in grey colours. My browser blocks all distractive websites. I dont know if I would gain much if anything from switching to this.

Mmh I feel like I got a lot more grounded and less idealistic. I see people more for who they are ... While I matured I also dried out a little though when it comes to loving people. Before I could kind of connect their twisted actions with the understanding that it is done out of love. Cant really do that anymore, I just see more of the corruption. I am more blackpilled if you like. I also cant really feel that the source of all things is love anymore when I could somewhat gasp in that before. So I gained some and lost some.

Yeah was in a theatre group and am now in an impro-theatre group. Regular theatre can be very very time consuming when you prepare a play within a month or so. Impro can be done once a week without any preparations, so you can do it better as a side hobby. Both are a great place to explore some aspects of yourself, be creative and meet new people. If you are an overthinker like myself impro might not be super easy at first though.

@blankisomeone Not buying or having an aversion against Apple products when you are in more educated circles. ( I am kind of ashamed of owning a Mac although its a great product for me )

Most of it, but there are Apple Products out there with good price performance ratio, like some Macs

I feel like I kind of play myself in pen and papers. I play a female character and am quite feminine for a dude. And I play very methodical, careful and always find creative strategies to solve problems. The last one is something I havent really reflected about myself, that that is something I may or may not do. Maybe I should also explore different faceits of my personality... or I am already quite settled...

@Judy2 Damn, I had no idea something like this existed ... Well, if you imagine to be a fairy good enough whats the difference.

Magic cards can be so cool. I missed out on the whole fantasy sphere.

What about the military, would they ever disobey orders?

I have been following politics avticely maybe for 2 years now. Well trump did a lot of shit like the stupid tarrifs which damaged the whole worlds economy, attack iran, ... and while he got critique from some republicans the majority of them stayed loyal to their strongmen. So yeah, thats pretty sobering, I forgot. But a nuke would be a new level. And with trumps approval dwindling the republicans must fear loosing their voters if they keep on supporting this madness. Not saying the republicans would all be against him then, but maybe a big enough chunk would support an impeachment.