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Yep https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10508-024-02943-0 Many individuals belonging to this population would seek (median = 42.3%), or have sought (median = 46.5%), treatment to cope with their sexual interest or with potential related mental health repercussions.

I am reading something about 50% of pedophiles seek professional help. That number could get higher if people treated pedophiles more nuanced, so in a way where they saw pedophilia strictly as a sickness and appreciated pedophiles when they took professional help. But that takes sooo much openmindedness HOLY ...

The equivalent would be hitler going to theraphy: "Hi, I have got a lot of built up rage because I feel unfairly treated because of ... , not getting into art school, ... I have got a lot potential energy in me to harm people like I could become a dictator and start a war and shit, can you help me deal with my emotions so that aint gonna happen? 😇

What an act of love and selflessness that would be! But it could get a lot better. Imagine a place where pedos get professional help. I believe those exist, heard an advertisement once "no one needs to become an offender, seek help." Imagine a born pedo seeking professional help because he doesnt want to harm kids and through the combination of his effort and the effort of very openminded professionals he lives his life never remotely doing anything inappropriately. Aint that real spirituality?

A pedo who lives out his fantasies Being born with pedo tendencies is freakin bad luck

Destroying his family with 10 years of prison because of it though? Love is rough I can even remember that the women were split between empathy for him as a family men and revenge.

I think guys tend to underestimate the damage rape can do to a women. Many people put it on roughly the same level as murder. ( https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/38267597/ ) Makes sense, if you are really damaged for the rest of your life afterwards and dont find joy in life anymore it can be the same or worse. I cant completly relate, thats a task for further development for me.

Perfect time to meditate yourself to enlightenment, No?

Simply from the fact that I opened up emotionally to this one girl to the point where I really want to have intimacy, I kind of look for it at other places as well now. Like at my social spot yesterday.

This wood background is super minimalistic but a bit more interesting then black yet very calming. Just found it and feel like sharing it. https://external-content.duckduckgo.com/iu/?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwallpapercave.com%2Fwp%2Fwp4792785.jpg&f=1&nofb=1&ipt=d3ace8df869e7ff96c88ac4ec81d5517dec3d6fff51826c1be70c870badab226&ipo=images

This is a genious move to gain control over your social media usage. I cant stress the impact that this can have on your life enough.

Just looked at the available apps. You pretty much get all the basics. I minimalized my phone manually and basically found all my apps on the list with the exception of an adhd app and firefox. Firefox I slimmed down a lot though so it would probably be similiar to chrome. So the only thing that would change would be the design and even that can be mimicked. I think the only strong benefit this has over manually minimalizing your phone is that it takes no will power to do it. For those who struggle with re-downloading social media and stuff like this, this can be very useful.

Things like this existed before. The problem I have with something like this is that it isnt flexible. Some things which may be seen as a distraction are actually quite useful. Like I have my calender and to do list conveniently as widgets on my phone and I need them. Couldnt really do that with that system. You can minimalize your phone manually to a very strong degree though. I have only got my essential apps, put them in grey colours. My browser blocks all distractive websites. I dont know if I would gain much if anything from switching to this.

Mmh I feel like I got a lot more grounded and less idealistic. I see people more for who they are ... While I matured I also dried out a little though when it comes to loving people. Before I could kind of connect their twisted actions with the understanding that it is done out of love. Cant really do that anymore, I just see more of the corruption. I am more blackpilled if you like. I also cant really feel that the source of all things is love anymore when I could somewhat gasp in that before. So I gained some and lost some.

Yeah was in a theatre group and am now in an impro-theatre group. Regular theatre can be very very time consuming when you prepare a play within a month or so. Impro can be done once a week without any preparations, so you can do it better as a side hobby. Both are a great place to explore some aspects of yourself, be creative and meet new people. If you are an overthinker like myself impro might not be super easy at first though.