Jannes

At some point your body makes you ejaculate in your dreams. You dream that you take the greatest piss on earth. At some point I even learned about that trick of my mind and could sometimes even block myself from ejaculating in dreams. MADNESS

I cringed pretty hard from the title but you are describing a real struggle you have in your life that should be adressed. I am reading it like you dont feel confident, assertive, capable .. ? If you feel overly taken care of then going on your own and not working at your families business is a good first step. Do something on your own, that will built some confident. Travel the world on your own and that will really give you a boost. If you struggle with socializing the only way to improve is by going out, you can make a lot of improvement if you are not that skilled at it. Consider learning pick up ..

I am wondering how adhd folk even survive.

Today at a seminar a girl looked at me for guidance. I established some of that the dates prior through adhd medication, but not today. Men I didnt even know that this is something I wanted, or well yes I knew but I kind of buried it.

Men I feel kind of sick. Maybe it was a bit much this week.

I think its important to go through these points one by one. Yeah the male loneliness epidemic is a thing and feminism is a factor but not the only one. The internet, covid, remote work ... all play into it. How much women/ feminists are judged for it I dont know. I also think its cruical that men find ways to meet their emotional needs without soley relying on a romantic partner. Heck its a big struggle in my life and I put a lot of thought and strategizing into it. I think men are just a lot worse at doing care work for each other hormonally (less estrogen) but its also what masculinity entails. For masculinity you need to split up a part of your personality, make a part of yourself numb, stoic and functional. Vera Birkenbihl once put it like this, when a couple sleeps at night and some kind of dangerous noises arise, the women sends the men to look for a potential threat. He might feel all sort of negative emotions about it, like he might be scared but isnt allowed to feel those emotions, so he tells himself to not be a pussy and splits up that scared part of his personality and numb it. But then that women will also complain that he isnt emotionally available. Well both things cant exist at the same time, a men cant both be the stoic functional protector or whatever other role he needs to fill and at the same time be perfectly emotionally available. That explains why traditional males cant emotionally regulate themselves and others as well and why traditional males needed emotional support from feminine women. Maybe those old gender roles are outdated, survival pressure isnt as big as it used to be and women take some of that pressure off so logically men can reduce their split personality, be less menly and more emotionally available in the process. Thats a big shift for both men and women. Men would need to reinvent themselves and women would need to signal that they want and reward more feminine men. I think its one direction/ trend we are going into. Or maybe menly men are needed in todays society which would mean though that those men need external emotional support. Then the question would be how to manage that emotional support need more consciously.

Just had an interesting idea. That women have a vagina and are physically weaker then men is kind of a bad combination, because the vagina is more prone to abuse then the dick, because the vagina is used for birth. So what if women we genetically engineered women to be as or stronger then men physically. Then they would have the more abusable sex organ but also the muscle to defend themselves. So rape would probably be less of a thing because it would make less sense.

I definitely wouldnt go that far. There are still many jobs that are more suited to men (or that women dont like to do). And change happens gradually and often in waves, women changed a lot through feminism. Imagine what men might conjure up with their movement. Can you elaborate on that? Hold up, todays Looksmaxxer are doing pioneering work out there.

Recently I really noticed differences in how I feel around men and women in comparison. Yeah women are often more subtle and emotionally attuned and you feel more emotionally heard and connected Men are much more direct and honest about things. Its not as pretty, but much more grounding. Ever talked to a not so socially aware and autistic dude? No games, everything spit out, like a hard piece/ structure that you can grasp/ predict. So damn grounding.

Its obviously some kind of clickbait. But I would actually agree to a more nuanced take, that the mens strengths (which is creating raw survival conditions to comfortably live in) arent as important in the modern world (which is pretty cushy and actually needs more feminine diplomacy) as they used to be. So men are in a bit of a crisis and need to redefine themselves to make themselves more useful.

@ladelle How did spirituality get in your way?

Btw. Sam has adhd right!? It seems so obvious, he always notices shit first, can only be productive when he does something he is really interested in, is creative ...