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@Ethan Marnewick one question: what do you include in the experience of being a coffee table? maybe that’s answering your question.

then what are you searching here? it‘s obviously not the same window you are looking at.

its pretty serious if you confuse your living situation with two women with: „White women feminism“ and then call white women feminism „honestly bullshit for the most part“. if you have to put your shared housing struggles as a representative for general phenomena and clean your name through a rant about your co habitants online, instead of talking with them or even better: be creative and find better regulations (including communication about dishwashing)! you are obviously not aware that you in your own description started that fight first being unsociable while the other girl had a hard time, having an alcoholic mom at her space, and that you just recived the payback for being not receptive. you could be thankful for the attempt that they try to teach you empathy. it‘s preposterous trying to use this as an argument against „white women feminism“. i‘d say in general though: premature scapegoating is no bullshit for the most part, all honesty aside.

@TK2021 you sound like someone who’s not to be trusted. all risks of the pill aside. it’s like you say it’s safer to not get vaccinated because of the sideffects because if you meet people you just hold your breath completely to be responsible, and you can actually play with that, because if you faint they can give you a cpr.

@TK2021 which means we are at the same point again - women only need to take the pill if they are not a 100% sure the guy would never do in the spur of moment. you are talking about a huge minority of men who this is possible with in sense of trustability. for the majority you will probably find already issues during the first ten intercourses. there is premature ejaculation and also there can be micro ejaculations you don’t even notice. it also puts a stress factor on climax in general also for the woman, same goes for condoms. (not saying it’s impossible though, maybe the sex can even improve while training on stuff like that - i‘d just still use a condom on the fertility days)

@TK2021 fun fact is that you need a more than general attentive and responsible partner for it, who you can talk about your cycle with who might even track it with you and who will not play games especially when oppinions already start to differ. both need to not only to know how a womans cycle works. they also need to track it. sounds nice on the screen. but is def not for teens and def not for changing partners.

hope you guys don’t drink from plastic bottles.

@integral it seems like it causes mental health problems to not compare the sideffects of the pill to the sideffects of unwanted pregnancy, especially produced by a guy who might want to tell her what’s healthy or not for her. i constantly hear worse stories because of the spiral or insufficient preservatives than i hear about taking the pill. if they are fourteen the guy might be fifteen to sixteen, you think they can handle that?

venta, don’t know the model.

spoooooooky - not sure if i would connect that to any kind of currency. i mean the idea in itself is nice because it would be possible to protect intelectual property data. but connecting it to a capitalistic system in sense of crypto currency is spooky, i don’t understand how this works in sense of ideas like creative commons and so on. i‘d def try to think also into this as a dystopic future. the fast money part somehow sounds suspiscious, so i don’t really buy the efficency in saving the amazonas with this.

@Craigxt22 i bought an airwashing machine when i was still a smoker - i used to sometimes smoke out of the window when i was in my twenties. it works much better in my perception than a dry filter (hepa or any other kind) the room washer eliminated the smoke smell after some hours while the hepa i tested wouldn’t. i also got really good experience with this related to hay fever and it also keeps the air moisture on a nice level. consider that all of these machines have some sound. hepa maybe less than an air washer (water filter). you can also see how much dirt you washed out of the air when changing water after 24hrs, can be a lot.

ditto i‘d rather go to a laundromat or eat a quesadilla than a shopping mall for a date. but that’s super individual stuff. some people have never seen their city by foot probably.

@bloomer not the shopping mall! except if she is a very orange personality. there must be places you like. or stuff you like to do even if you are alone. @Leo Gura really if you live in the us you really date at shopping malls? i always thought this is a joke. at the age of 21? there is not more to explore? so you only do the good stuff with friends, basically?

@ElenaO i have an ayurvedic book about pregnancy preparation, pregnancy and esrly motherhood where they describe three different kinds of nipple packs and recommendation for breastfeeding issues. Ayurvedic Garbha Sanskar in English - by Shri Balaji Tambe if you are interested. don’t know if it helps as the book contains mainly tips during pregnancy, so if you don’t want a second child you might want to sell it shortly after the first year again, maybe you can find a used one. i strongly recommend ayurvedic practices for all tissue issues, it might also contain help for loosing weight after pregnancy. and axurvedic baby massage will relax your baby, there are separate books for that. or you could contact an ayurvedic practitioner for recommendations. and from my personal intuition, i‘d try a relax day for you both together in bed with a lot of skin contact without outside stress. you could give an ayurvedic baby massage and try changing the time for brest feeding and all the other tips they give if the baby doesn’t drink. like a meditation practice for you both. a breast feeding retreat with no interference of mom or husband except for food support.

@ValiantSalvatore didn’t you say you contacted her and she was asking about where you would take her? it sounded like you had a date. oh sorry - that was @something_else i confused you both for this and the last post. was not expecting a second similar story. if you have fun, you should go with that flow for a while until it’s basically satisfying for you to having fun without the need of closing. a lot of women really can feel that as a pressure, if it’s too intense it doesn’t matter if they liked your overall appearance (physical and basic vibe) they will opt out because they don’t like to be trophies. you might underestimate how women likewise might have a hunting instinct at dating and don’t really have fun with being a prey for an end result.

its actually funny how anti vaxxers basically support pharma because of anti social and medically badly researched and false statements, while the real problems of the medical system are really not vaccinations in general. not all pharmaceutical medicine is „bad“ - in some area there would definitely be room for improvement. rather than on vaccines alone there should be more focus on infrastructure of medicine, a focus on medical personnel, a pandemic plan which includes mrgn bacteria as potential future threat, a focus on natural medicine as replacement where it‘s possible and as support for severe illnesses, better food in hospitals (its not healthy at all), and still better research in gender/ethno/age medicine for sideffect reasons. why is most energy used up in the denial of vaccination instead of asking for the development of better vaccines? or a better information for example about the risks of live vaccines? i really wonder how this might play out if some day we have to take the meat off the table because of this general ignorance.

it probably would help to evolve the medical system a lot, if there was not an overemphasis on this as a single phenomenon. next big thing will be multiresistant bacteria, and that’s widely connected to pharma and animal farming. this virus is handled in a spiral dynamics blue way which will not work if antibiotics are useless for bacteria - at least everyone should know the difference between bacteria and viruses right now, which might be a growth in consciousness. it also produces a black and white thinking because of different perspectives on medicine. it sometimes seems like alternative medicine and pharma would fight about their legitimacy. pharma might win big in vaccines but loose big in their handling of other meds.

@ValiantSalvatore i‘d also not bet on closing after the next date. depends on what you want or expect of this. a lot of women won‘t sleep with any guy no matter the hotness scale, before at least the third date. if she invests she‘d expect you to invest as well. (don’t know about that scarcity mode you mentioned before but it sounds like you expect the wrong currency for pay offs) both of you have fun! is the most important part about it.

@CuriousityIsKey the misconception of this is that there is an illness you could actually „fight“ against - if god would not want medicine there would not be medicine in the first place. if there was no cure, no one would be able to find it, no one would be able to get relief or „healing“ or protection. in the most cases we stand ourselves in the way of the sun, which produces shadows.

@Rilles principles are like rules you set for yourself, it’s a codex you live by, they mark your moral boundaries you want to obey to. can be fierce stuff. especially if it’s close to a code of conduct and you encounter people with principles of perceived less integrity than yours. values give space, they set the mood for how you enact and behave in a social surrounding and what is important in setting goals. values are moral mood shapers/modulators. they are also playing a roll in how you choose principles. principles and values are part of a value system.

@ValiantSalvatore perfect to ask her to do sth she likes to do in berlin. you could tell her you are still exploring the city. because believe me, if you think you saw it all in 3 days, you did not really see it. it‘s like the imaginary metaphoric photograph leo probably never took (no one took of him). try ordering „pussy juice“ at a bar, it will be difficult to get, except for some places. by the way if you both went for the music, you could equally make it a random club date. (unfortunately its covid time)

@ValiantSalvatore if in berlin you probably need to be more creative than a drink. ask her to do sth fun. don’t do the classic pic up stuff, it only works if you don’t have to talk much. superficial does usually not work out for long in berlin, too many options and already difficult to make longterm friends/relationships. also read the atmosphere of the club - it was probably not a dark room. so she robably went there for dancing. ask her to do sth fun, berlin fun, if she ghosts you afterwards don’t take it personal. people also sometimes hunt for one night experiences.

this is so much open for interpretation - you need a really good social judgement/empathy (which of course every guy writing in this forum has) the self deception regarding that can be enormous depending on the narcissism/ego factor of a personality.

@Bob Seeker choose one with a nice day life - austin is more quirky and much less orange as a city. culturally austin has muuuuch more potential, you can even access the city by foot or bike, while that’s just impossible for vegas, which is a bit missing out on the green cultural vibe, the amount of one person by car is generally insane in us-american cities, but vegas is almost not accessible without. which means you almost always have to meet people in a commercial environment.

@JDemiralp nice