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its sad because what she meant was that race is just a second order phenomenon, the same that slavery has not been or is not about race. before hitler addressed it as a racial discrimination jews have been discriminated for religious reasons since centuries throughout europe. then they were hated for what they were allowed to do for a living, for being smarter and politically more sharp, hitler wanted to get them racially, that’s true, he also got other political opponents though, seldomly talked about in that context. if she gets canceled upon this, that’s the same. its not really racist but it also is. whoopi goldberg has a different stance on it, like some progressive jewish speakers from the past in europe might have had as well. would have been better if she would have said: not only racism. she did not say it was no genocide, though, it clearly was, she didn’t want to claim that. its a/the soft spot probably. who canceled her?

@fopylo are you more unhappy about him finding a path, or him showing you, there is another path? why do you think you can’t change the turn of your life? are your decisions set in stone and unchangeable? why did you choose your path? maybe what you are doing currently is merely a stepping stone. don’t compare to him, maybe the younger one can be a leader and a roll model, too, sometimes. why do you think he got so much selfesteem? you don’t really think psychedelics will help you, do you?

@OBEler doesn’t sound too good, can’t you get her out from there - i doubt she can heal there. sometimes we think we can handle trauma only by confronting ourselves with it (there is a reason for shaddows though. in this case the shadow eats up her light energy, but you want it the other way round, if you love her) in psychology destabilizing confrontation is not seen as a healing process, it’s not. there is no place where she can escape the memories, not healthy, distance would be better. she also needs therapeutic support.

is it more because it’s comfy or because you don’t want to open your eyes? you maybe need to find a rule, only to do it on weekends, and then do sth nice while in bed, like breakfast or reading, morning meditation, bed yoga. if you do it, enjoy your time, make your bedroom a place to relax and recharge energy - might be its something you need and your body is taking for itself to recover from stressful situations. i don’t know if a hard approach on the other days of the week is the best, like forcing yourself to stand up. probably at the beginning - and also a ritual in the morning out of bed, you like to do which works like a teaser but also like a reward, sports is not bad, but could also be a walk, maybe you just need some time for yourself in the morning, sth which is a motivator not sth you need more motivation to do. there is probably stuff you can do to make standing up not so hard, like putting on music some minutes before you do.

ask yourself why her subjective opinion doesn’t seem to matter?

@Preety_India chill. its generally like that, the more expectations in morals and peacefulness people, religions and countries give the more is expected of them. why? because humans seek roll models. same effect why we then forgive our countries „little“ sins, because we try to keep up the positive identity as long as possible. you can do this and still be critical about the conflict. but it’s ok to get affected by onesided blaming. the thread was propagandistic and a bit onesided from the start. (you know why you are the only one being pointed at do you? - same phenomenon)

yeah wrong peers. not worth it.

wrong peers, too. its a technique, like kundalini has techniques, like breathing technique and so on, the way you use it is supposed to teach you elements of tantra. it won’t if you do listen to others all the time. there is probably a reason why some say to stay with it for a certain time. if you don’t meditate on that, you won’t find out. if i tell you to eat sugar while on a sugar diet, would you be someone who finds an explanation why you ate sugar then, when i told you, or maybe would you blame me? i don’t tell you to blame, far from it, just notice control mechanisms.

no of course they just make you blue a bit like osmosis.

peer pressure is dumber just realize who controls your mind.

@BeHereNow he probably won’t.

@Insightful27 yeah i read the post - whatever age you claim the phenomenon stays the same. if it’s super difficult for you to read the situation: at 18 women don’t like guys who oversex situations, if you signalize them you think with your dick and not with your central nervous system you are through. its as easy as that. they search for guys who value them as a human being. if you don’t like her she’ll notice fast and she will be unforgiving. you used her and she noticed - end of game. if it was not mutual maybe your friends reach her through? i bet you are inventing the whole story - it sounds set up. get clear with your ego issues. (wondering how you didn’t know this in advance, 3of your friends, huh? they didn’t tell you your buddies?) whatever, i doubt you are sweet innocent 17 @insightful“27“

can’t believe they had to stand up for this and leave the spot. it seems more like a jackass video, or candid camera thing than a pua thing. i laughed definitely - why so serious guys?

it means: give up the will to control! at least to a certain degree, you can’t control anything really you need to accept that an artist is always co-creating in tune or off-tune with the chi. if you play music it’s mostly not you but your instrument, if you paint it’s the canvas which is patient and the flow of your brush the texture of paint. art sometimes is not more than scribbled along, not more than a fingertip on a momentum screen noticing the beauty of the moment or it’s uglyness. if it’s art or not sometimes is only decided long after its gone.

self development is what you do if you learn anything on your own or ask questions, starting with your birth, learning doesn’t stop anywhere in the future except if you do stop learning. if you use it only for personal gains regarding status questions you either are in orange or (disregarding the spiral) you did not get the whole concept yet.

thank you! (still want to feedback this) i realized for myself before, but more so while reading this: without proper self monitoring self development doesn’t work it’s difficult to start again with it if once having stopped doing it, it’s the #nr1 tool in self development but has different techniques it would be nice if the forum had a project/workshop section, not the journaling section! where over commenting is banned, but people can work for a longer timeframe on tangible changes in their life in groups

@Aquarianwolf999 might be that despite spiral dynamics being a good model to explain a lot of historical phenomena in sense of phylogenesis and also developmental in sense of onthogenesis, it might not give answers to social phenomena in sense of linearity of time or regression in sense of its idealism. the current green is sometimes lacking in true support, it can be rough, superficially orange and create a feeling of loneliness and schatteredness in the face of reality, or a future, if there is no tangible community with a value system at hand which also gives a blue/regulatory moral framework. all to often green can play out orange or red. some people seek the love of community before liberty. if both feel untrue in their claims they choose the ones more loving in their actions it’s the same phenomenon as with cults, if not mainstream probably perceived as purple. it all resolves as far back as into beige from where all thoughtstreams arise. its no-choice and choice, sometimes at the same time the more important part about it is: choice.

aren’t you calling yourself thought art? maybe you are artistic enough to find an answer to that question yourself.

i don’t try to scare him i try to make him think. notorious shoulder patting won’t help him in that situation. i see nothing but circlejerking in these stories, always victimizing males who „escalate“ mainly themselves. why do you think young guys think it’s appropriate to do that? what happened to consciousness work in this perfect anonymity?

@Insightful27 if you think it’s appropriate to sexually escalate on a school dance with anyone you just hung out with several times it’s probably that you can’t at all read situations. might be she was interested to get involved romantically, maybe just polite you know the difference don’t you i’d most certainly cringe as well in your situation. sorry no absolution - better you learn it now than later. your reputation will take some time - maybe not with girls in that school anymore, though. all in all, if you want to get more clarity you have to talk to her directly (phone is ok, too, maybe in your case best option). sounds like you guys are around 13+. or maybe you are a teacher?

@PurpleTree how much of this fear is tied in with situations in which others showed clear discomfort towards behavior of yours? is this more connected to reactions of others or more connected to your selfesteem/limiting beliefs. how much of it would be connected to a change of behavior? and how do you change that completely regardless of other people being involved? don‘t get me wrong, desensitation is one method in self actualization - and in some cases probably also relevant (if your emotions stem from non rational fears, or hypersensitivity) but some stuff is connected by classical stimulus reaction chains.

@TheSomeBody forget it, don’t experiment on anyone - better not. and don’t write a paper on it, for reasons of logic.

@TheSomeBody you want to experiment with psychedelics on children… but basically ask how to skip the whole clinical process. sounds a bit like a story of pharma abuse. no wait let’s keep the pharma out, it sounds like heavy childabuse.

you think this is a great idea? like seriously you want to make it available to children while disliking the research part. for your credibility. reconnect to earth brother. that’s not a life purpose that’s a nightmare.

if you would ask me i‘d say yes + integrated/expressed/experienced/exchanged/changed for a better process. you probably are able to work on processes so why not use it to your advantage sometimes?