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@dflores321 i really thought about it - is there any duality in your selfishness model? sounds a bit like existentialism - ofc it’s a legitimate worldview if you fancy that. it’s so tricky

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@Michael569 no problem, it’s really about this pressure into a personality who should always care. without defining where energy can also sometimes be spent to reach own goals. one part is probably time management. i‘m really having similar problems in these aspects.

sorry but it sounds so much like an excuse and ego trap - i wonder if you ever get into conflicts with that view. but hey if you can do the mind math everytime then, congratulations, sounds less impractical than the dual version. it‘s like what all sages teach: be selfish every day a bit more. or so (can’t be right, can it) i know some people like to get ultimatively nondual with one or the other. @Preety_India i‘m checking out some brainstorming methods - would that be a start? maybe it would be a good start to contemplate what more specifically you’d like to get more selfish about.

you are confusing your models with real self value problems. ofc is survival selfish - and therefore you are selfish as well telling someone who‘s going about root chakra healing a distorted way of selfishness. ofc you can’t heal ego problems if you can’t heal your own distortion - the aggression towards someone else who dares to want to achieve sth for themselves. which might be connected to just finding a work aligned with their life purpose or a partner or other immaterial selfishness.

@Matthi i‘m really happy if i could help you!

it’s not a bout using the word i or me it‘s about skipping oneself - probably (into non existence if not cared for at some point) and the last me is also not a me but only we know that. sorry, back to practical stuff: i‘m happily jumping on the let’s be more selfish train (reality wise).

ofc she does - she has a lot of self esteem expressing herself. what she talks about is working towards stuff or situations she might feel is not appropriate to claim for herself. claiming a right to do that stuff feels selfish. might be because of upbringing or because of culture or because of self blaming - random example: because everyone else can’t afford it, buying/doing this or that is selfish. but feeling it is, not thinking it is. it‘s an internalized model which is connected to many social factors. this can also manifest itself in a path always giving in to requirements of others. even though there would be other things to do she needs or wants to do for herself, just because the „i“ (as in self) does not show up the moment when her presence is asked for the self is not allowed to take that room/space.

@Wanderer91 depending a bit on how old you are, too. how much are you different? to what extend? dressing differently, playing rolls? mirroring others having some kind of shared language or style or stuff you do together is totally fine. having a social function and is happening automatically if you like someone. although in some cases it can get you into trouble, if it’s too much and the other person feels intimidated it can feel like an identity threat for the other person. or if you have the feeling you have to behave in a certain kind and therefore you play some roll. supposing all of this is not what you were talking about - there are still sensitive boundaries sometimes you can get aware of. and finally it’s nice to be aware of the authentical changing/unchanging self, your own way of expression.

@Travisty good to hear you are on the right track! the health retreat is bit difficult - there are so many approaches. it depends a bit on where you are, too. if you are already supervised do you want to focus on psychological work or more something to regain body energy? i‘m guessing a lot of retreats/health clinics focus a bit more on either or.

there are actually programms and clinics against gaming/online addiction - if it’s severe. and many ways how to overcome addictions in general. a cold turkey approach like with heroin would be probably one. although it might not be enough - might be it’s more severe. you have to read studies about it if you fancy to find out. when i first heard cigarettes are equally addictive to cocain i was a bit surprised.

no it’s not different - and addicts use to get aggressive over stuff like that. so maybe a bit of self reflection? or you can also tune in to the self forgiveness thread. it’s usually those who talk about forgiveness who need it the most - like catholic church. blank was someone - i might even have told you to better leave when you started to write here. might remember. ofc it’s never like this - with alcohol, drugs, sex, food, power, special emotional cicks.

nothing is wrong with suicide - something is wrong with society.

yes of course - best thing to do is treating online addiction with youtube videos - it’s the fastest and lessest stressful/laborious way to get away from your online device.

you will get deeper into problems in the forum. probably. it‘s too much talking and additional to your own problems you get into problems of others, some of them actively drawing you in. (yesterday a forum member even got threatened - it’s shit crazy aggressive at times) low consciousness stuff about sex and gender bombs almost every thread and you get confronted with some guys personal sexual tally sheet if you are searching for spirituality or not. additionally you might be told to find what you have lost around here in a book. sth insignificant like self esteem or healthy habits, a life etc. best thing to do as you already have a therapist maybe an additional coach or a health retreat (not the wellness type, but more medical or psychologically supported) get a rest and redefine your physical life regarding your values, while similarly working on your values - find different sources for that, best in an everyday setting.

it’s not about the leangth. how weird.. do all men always think in leangth measurement? probably a superstition, and then again such a basic insight.

@Leo Gura yes and, where does that umbilical cord go to? it‘s still is very much connected to the material world isn’t it? planet earth is not just an abstract. i understand that every practical skill to change anything must be learned in advance (it’s a time consuming process). if @TrippyMindSubstance is catched up in a lower stage of the maslows hierarchy of needs - the situation is perfect, but not. so practical skills might be despite everything spiritual still needed to make life better - it’s not that anyone is born and hey - perfect - no changes needed any more i stay this way. we would have gotten stuck in the middleages (if we haven’t).

why? why can’t you? maybe it’s because you are fast goal oriented. so your life gets worse every day? sounds a bit like it. concentrate on what you can change for a better instead of concentrating what is not possible right now (it might be in the future).