You see the girl. You have all these thoughts like I have no idea what to say. They could be rude to me. I could get humiliated.
You don't want the people around you to see you approach. You feel nervous. You feel like that girl won't be interested in you.
You make yourself do it anyway. Generally within seconds. If you wait any longer than a few seconds then usually the approach isn't getting done. So you throw yourself in there and your brain comes up with something to say. And you just do that over and over. You get into a flow state after back to back interactions and then those thoughts dissappear for a while.
At some point something might throw you off like a harsh rejection or the girl's friend that you didn't meet yet comes in with a different vibe and it effects you. And now some of those thoughts can come back so you have to remember keep doing what you were doing. Keep approaching.
Later you evaluate what you did well and what you can improve and focus on making those improvements next time.
You become more resilient overtime and are emotionally unaffected. And you know what to do and say and how to carry yourself in these interactions due to throwing yourself in so many times.
Is this how game is learned.
I've watched so many videos from youtube and paid products and I understand the theory but when I go out and see a girl or a group of girls I'm still like I don't know what to say.
A part of me almost knows this is how its done but I'd be curious if there's any more too it. Will our brain learn what to say and how to respond just by putting ourselves in those situations a lot and analyzing what we did right and what we did wrong.