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@Chew211 damn I love that! and crazy story dude keep doing shit like that man if you keep doing crazy stuff like that and blogging it I bet heaps of people would be curiously on the edge of their seats for your work! On the other note, I will take that into account cheers

@Uncover EQ is social skills pre much. everyone has some degree of emotional intelligence unless your brain dead autistic, but the people with the most emotional intelligence are the more social people who typically tend to thrive in other areas of life aswell. a.k.a workplace situations, finance, relationships everything haha

Much unaware ego Mr. Mitchell.

A brief context to my situation, I have had troubles socialising ever since I was a kid. My parents didn't know how to socialise, I grew up isolated with no father and no one to show me the ropes. Despite my negative circumstances and accumulative events throughout my life I am going to grow out of that for the sake of it. To improve myself and commit a life long process on the road to destroying my ego but to figuring out the things in life that no one told me and taking them to a level of mastery. My goals include achieving a level of mastery in spirituality, communication, emotions, relationships and self discipline. Its incredibly shocking to realise that I have been on this journey for so many years. However I got this shit. So recently to give perspective on what I have been doing to reverse this downward spiral of negativity is I have been going out probably nearly every night for 2 months. Just going out and approaching random people trying to better my skills at socialising. In this effort I have made a lot of progress to who I am, I don't get over stimulated walking into a club, I can hold a conversation (still fairly reactive however and in my head ), I have moments where am in a very good state and I do very well and my social skills have begun to improve. Learning how to socialise has been the single most hardest thing for me to do. I am 19 years old now and I have been EVERYDAY trying to grow my social skills for 4 years. But if you saw how crazy I was before you would be astounded. I honestly must've had aspergus growing up. Even to this day I still don't know how to make friends, I cant hold a conversation and I only have one friend who I talk to (which has been a interesting theme in my life.. ? ). So I will probably keep posting here from time to time to show what I have been doing to reverse this process. My goals and aims is to keep going out pushing myself out of my comfort zone, take a course in public speaking, go on a meditation retreat, take a course in meisner (builds EQ like crazy) and also rely on real world experience to make my assumptions.

After going along this path I realise that no person can compensate for the feeling of lack that resides inside me. Ultimately one way or another, we must all put down our egoic desires and dig deep to appreciate the beauties of life, or else our inner wounding's will never heal. HOWEVER switching to a more positive note! The good thing is that anything's possible as long as you believe in it. For the past few months I have been going out an approaching other people, and its really made me aware of how much I seek validation and approval from others, which in itself is just a limiting belief, that I choose to attach myself onto. Why do I attach myself onto that? Its so stupid, when you think about it... Instead, and its a bit counter intuitive, let go of all attachments- love and respect yourself. Do what you love and you find who you love. Let the world know who you are. What are your values? Who do you want to hang out with one day? Who are your idols? What stuff are you into? What do you love to do for fun (not to get something out of it, but for pure enjoyment)? Find out what's you. Find yourself. Love who you are and people will that in you. Be your authentic self to people. So above, as below, As below, so above. They were that you perceive this world will manifest your external. How you feel internally about your relationships will bring about the mirror of your life. Choose to feel abundant, confident in yourself. Love yourself and you will attract more love to yourself. Do what you love!

@WhatAmI Agreed. Good on you

Hey guys, I am really trying to ground my reality through direct experience. However because I've always flushed down content carelessly, and had a lot of arousal addictions, now I barely feel the willpower and strength to go out and take action. it fucking scares me. It's so emotionally labouring and it feels like I cant be fucked honestly. Idk if anyone else can relate. I know what I have to do but I guess I'm just curious to discuss this.

@Piotr Very true! I will try that asap and ill tell you how it goes!

Yo people, how long do you think is a good meditation practice each day should be? How long have you done it? How has it worked for you?

Yo actualisers. I like many am curious, like Leo has stated, to ground myself in direct experience. I'm wondering if anyone has a good action plan to follow if they're looking to build a good social life and develop the choice to choose their partner, rather than just meeting someone and settling for someone because of the lack of opportunity. Essentially I want to create a quality relationship with a beautiful girl and make new friends. Action ideas anyone?

When you lie down in bed every night do you go to bed feeling that you put it all on the line that day? Do you go to bed fulfilled and ready for the next day? Do you wake thrilled for the tasks at hand?..If you could create your dream reality in the snap of a finger what would it look like?.. Who would be around you?.. How much freedom would you have?.. What do the people around you look like and what legacy are you leaving behind in that dream? These are just training wheels to gain abit of motivation and inspiration to build momentum but when it comes down to it, what differentiates the successful from the average is that they act on their beliefs, intentions and passions everyday to the fullest of their abilities and they don't ask any questions about it. Period. They maintain their self belief despite what other people think or say - they are prepared for the mobs to come knocking at their door. They stick with other like minded individuals and rely solely only on themselves for the responsibility of their dreams. We all have the potential to achieve greatness. What are YOUR goals and plans to achieve the best? Write down some of them here I'm interested to hear. Peace.

That's good keep trying

Moving towards your goals is not an overnight thing as cliché as that sounds. If you can enjoy and embrace the incremental steps towards achieving your goals, remove procrastination AND REMOVE ADDICTIONS. Man I cant even stress how important this is for everyone. Most of us, and I speak mainly for the younger generation here like myself, have been baptised in the "magic pill" philosophy whether we consciously make the choice to do so. Out of this complete desensitisation to long term activities, we have become convinced that convenience is best. But you know what... fuck that. I challenge that view loudly and boldly I plant my flag, not wavering the slightest in my beliefs - if you want to achieve the best, you better be willing to put in the hard work and make it a passionate obsession to the point where everyday you wake up thrilled or else don't try at all. I believe that us actualizers need to rewire and reprogram our desensitised brain to reality. Make a complete 180 and commit to a life long journey of incremental success. If you join this journey - choose to make this U-turn I GUARENTEE you will find whatever it is your looking for. Anyway putting my thoughts out there, take it or leave it, your choice. but its time for us all to face the hard truth and not waste any more seconds of our day. ! REPLACE ALL addictions that give you instant gratification. If you are like myself then replace your current addictions with new ones that gear you towards self actualisation. Make a list right now of everything your addicted to that offers an immediate gratifciation - porn, Instagram, Facebook, tumblr, you name it. As charming as they may see anything of this nature will give your brain and inaccurate reward response to keep you stimulated and those dopamine receptors at work. and for the love of fucking god do not listen to what anyone has to say. Stop sharing your ideas with people, use the energy your penting up with passion towards taking action. Don't let these automated beings seduce you to their level with their dull, distasteful negativity. Show those motherfuckers what you can do, prepare for the crabs to try and pull you back into the bucket and conquer the world .

"Most people live as if they're destined to live forever". One of my favourite quotes. My name is LifeLife. I am recently 19 years old, from Australia and I love the idea of self-actualisation. Ever since I came across Leo's channel I've been hooked. Like an audio book I love to listen to his fucking long ass videos! while I do things that would normally bore me (e.g chores)- it just makes time go by so much easier. (honestly highly recommend doing that if you find yourself lacking the time). As for my interests in making this journal, to be quite honest I've always wanted to create blog but I've never really found a good website to plant my flag. I knew I wasn't looking for a cliché travel blog, or anything else for the matter so this forum came quite hand in hand given self-actualisation encapsulates pretty much everything I know I've now found what I've been looking for. NOW. Changing topic a bit here.. I figured ( in my experience of searching for good forums ) not many people if all really post photos of how they're progressing, what they're doing, where they've gone etc. In this thread I hope to change that; to show anyone who comes across this thread that self-actualisation is a very real and tangible thing, to show what results it can produce and what results I have produced by doing what I'm doing which I will also document. Long Term Goals: Enlightenment Be fluent in 5 languages Travel the world Know how to defend myself Become a Vegan Develop a huge skillset Have a fucking awesome beautiful girlfriend. Become the strongest version of myself. Grow spiritually That's all l I can think of at the moment, i'm sure I will come up with more later. Anyway, keep in touch. If you enjoyed this thread leave a comment, if you have any feedback you want to give drop it in and yeah I'd love to interact with you guys ! Peace and love xx

Hello yall! Keeping you all up to date to where I have been over the past couple of weeks, I have seen tremendous improvement in the quality of my life. Not only have I become used to feeling fulfilled off incremental steps towards my goals I have made new goals and my view on my beliefs and passions have become much more honed in on ever before. I have learned basic French so far, still learning to master a conversation but its on the horizon! Ironically not fapping has been the best thing that has ever happened to me. I have so much more energy and willpower to do more things. My gym progress has plateaued after tripling my strength so I am hopping onto a 5x5 program to progressively overload past it. The lesson I guess I give at the end of this blog entry for anyone reading is that moving towards your goals is not an overnight thing as cliché as that sounds. If you can enjoy and embrace the incremental steps towards achieving your goals, remove procrastination AND REMOVE ADDICTIONS. Man I cant even stress how important this is for everyone. Most of us, and I speak mainly for the younger generation here like myself, have been baptised in the "magic pill" philosophy whether we consciously make the choice to do so. Out of this complete desensitisation to long term activities, we have become convinced that convenience is best. But you know what... fuck that. I challenge that view loudly and boldly I plant my flag, not wavering the slightest in my beliefs - if you want to achieve the best, you better be willing to put in the hard work and make it a passionate obsession to the point where everyday you wake up thrilled or else don't try at all. I believe that us actualizers need to rewire and reprogram our desensitised brain to reality. Make a complete 180 and commit to a life long journey of incremental success. If you join this journey - choose to make this U-turn I GUARENTEE you will find whatever it is your looking for. Anyway putting my thoughts out there, take it or leave it, your choice. but its time for us all to face the hard truth and not waste any more seconds of our day. ! REPLACE ALL addictions that give you instant gratification. If you are like myself then replace your current addictions with new ones that gear you towards self actualisation. Make a list right now of everything your addicted to that offers an immediate gratifciation - porn, Instagram, Facebook, tumblr, you name it. As charming as they may see anything of this nature will give your brain and inaccurate reward response to keep you stimulated and those dopamine receptors at work. and for the love of fucking god do not listen to what anyone has to say. Stop sharing your ideas with people, use the energy your penting up with passion towards taking action. Don't let these automated beings seduce you to their level with their dull, distasteful negativity. Show those motherfuckers what you can do, prepare for the crabs to try and pull you back into the bucket and conquer the world . Peace and love brothers an sisters . I'm out. That's my rant.

Thankyou ! :DD I will

Hahaha yes I know what you mean man and you raise a really good point. I will look into what parts/things I want to master very intently tonight thankyou ! Appreciate the advice brother. Peace x

I don't know what it is but something about typing down your thoughts is so therapeutic. Obviously it doesn't compare to real life communication but just expressing and streaming my emotions into words is a very addictive feeling. In light of recent excitement I've come the conclusion that I would love to keep writing these daily logs. Its definitely a habit that i am keeping, regardless of it's popularity. In essence, I am excited to look into journalistic skills and find ways that I can improve on my writing - to make this blog experience feel fun to you as it does for me. To bring everyone up to speed; in the past few days i have Secured a job Re-joined the gym Been learning French (20 minutes a day) of a really good app called Duolingo > seriously amazing if you want to learn any language. Been meditating 20 minutes a day Still have not fapped Sooooo much more to come in these blogs I am only barely getting started. Peace and Love xx Video of the day

Thankyou for the advice! I definitely understand what you mean though. I haven't actually made short term goals even though I am at the moment incrementally moving towards my long term goals everyday, but I will be sure to do that now Peace and love x

Daily habits from now on: Stretch twice a day, morning and night Learn French using the Duolingo app (awesome if you haven't tried it) Work (making that dough to pay off debt and expenses for when I go travelling soon) Go out with people, meet new friends Gym Meditate (half an hour a day) Read a book (more to be added but this is just a start) Updates: I am going to be starting Leos 30 day meditation challenges as of tomorrow. I forgot which video it was on.. it could've been one of his videos on enlightenment where he talks about deeper meditation. I'm sure you can find it out Also good news, I'm looking into meditation retreats to see where and where I can sign up.. I think I saw one near my house so that should be exciting. I shall be posting photos soon once I get the ball rolling. Anyway i'm off to meditate right now. Peace and love xx Interesting video of the day: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU - The Great Porn experiment - Tedx The information in this video will change a mans life. Worth a watch.

Thankyou brother I appreciate it!! Peace x

Fuck yeah Ida! The fact that you are even thinking about bettering yourself is such a huge step in itself. I went through depression and social anxiety, I know how much it sucks, but you will overcome it, sometimes its just a phase we're passing through even if it feels like its going to last forever enjoy this beautiful experience called life ! You ARE beautiful! Stay positive and keep going ! I believe in you! Peace and love x