Andrew John

Drinking alcohol or at least regularly has to be a big one.

Thank you. I know you are correct. I’ve read the power of now many times as well as maybe a hundred similar books. I’m trying to be honest with myself and I think it boils down to me not wanting to get better, even if that were possible. I know deep down a relationship/sex is not the answer. But these failures just contribute to my lack of self worth.

I’ve not had sex in 3 years, I’ve not been in a serious relationship for 10 and not for want of trying. I’ve finally given up. This may sound like I’m feeling sorry for myself but I have to face facts and try to cope with life. That part of existence clearly isn’t for me. Whenever I see an attractive girl I feel depressed. I feel a strong attraction but know it’s something that I cannot experience anymore. How do I manage this? I can feel my mental state worsening gradually. any insight is greatly appreciated.

I work, look after my dad who has early dementia, read. That’s it. To be honest, I think im pretty depressed. I go to bed early every night because I can’t find the will to do anything. I have suicidal thoughts more these days. I know I need to forget about women but it’s just more evidence of a pointless life

It’s because of the amount of failures and humiliation I’ve endured. I need to promise myself I won’t try anymore. I don’t really have a social life, I’m 42, don’t have many friends and I don’t drink.

Appreciate the advice but I can’t go back to trying to get dates again. I do appreciate the insight though.

I practice semen retention. I’ve not timed it but it’s been about 4 months since I last ejaculated. I think it’s really helped. I very rarely get erected or have detailed sexual thoughts but still feel a strong pull.

Had my first drink in 8 months last night just because I was on a date. Did not enjoy it at all (the date and the drink lol). I don't like the way alcohol makes me feel anymore in my head. It's like it lowering my consciousness and doing harm to my body. I was a heavy drinker until I was in my late 30's couple years back. The issue is this has isolated me socially (i know no one that does not drink) and makes me wonder if I am being boring. I am interested in people opinions on Alcohol?

Wow dude. You know your Stuff.

If you met the right person (presuming you’re heterosexual) and we’re deeply in love, you probably wouldn’t need to ask that question.

Just wondering if anyone has any views experience with these meditation apps? I have a VR headset and an App caller Tripp on there is pretty good, feels like I get benefit from it. Interested what people think.

All I have at the minute after my workout and cold shower is a bowl of granola, and a fruit smoothie with Turmeric and a couple of supplements. Can people advise what would be a better start to the day?

I know experientially that what you say is the truth. This is as advanced as it gets but part of me thinks the world isn’t ready. We have non enlightened government because if we had the opposite, people would destroy themselves. People need their drama. Obviously as a people we need guidance but part of me thinks your stuff is too advanced. Do you have any thoughts on this?

Do you mean should you move out?

So what’s the question dude? I’m a little confused

Leo, you’ve obviously accomplished a lot, worked hard, grown spiritually along the way whilst helping people and not giving into greed. Do you feel a sense of pride for what you have done or would you say that is ego?

You need to understand what fear is and then transcend it. But easier said than done. Leo’s videos on fear are probably as good as your going to get.

What would you say drives your perfectionism? In some cases it could be ego, but I sense it’s something different with you.

She doesn’t come across as desperate dude.

I would say most women are the same as the mature in my experience, and some men but not as many.

Interesting. Thanks for your response.

I think you’re not convinced that it’s the truth or you wouldn’t need anyone’s opinion on the matter? i would say as long as you’re content and it’s not fuelled by negativity there’s nothing wrong with it at all.

Just looking for people's take on this. Someone whom I have known for 25 years has not since his children for 3 years. Me and a couple of others friends tried to speak to him about this and he mainly deflected and blamed his ex (whom we know well) and even the children themselves whom are now teenagers. We know he is just being lazy because it would have been difficult for him to be an active father and he never seemed to have much energy. He was my lodger for 3 years and I allowed him to have his children once a week to my inconvenience, and I did that for him. Now he has to stand on his own to feet he is to up to it and that really gets to me. I want to make sure I am not making unfair judgements but i want nothing to so with him anymore and its difficult because we were close. If I man does not show love for his children I find it inconceivable as I had step daughter whom I raised for a few years who I can no longer see because I have no legal rights nor permission. Am I right to cut ties with this guy?

sounds about right. Thanks.

thanks for the insight. To be honest he does not drag me into his drama. I wanted to help him but he feels that he is doing the right think by abandoning his children. Thats what I cant get past.