Andrew John

Drinking alcohol or at least regularly has to be a big one.

Thank you. I know you are correct. I’ve read the power of now many times as well as maybe a hundred similar books. I’m trying to be honest with myself and I think it boils down to me not wanting to get better, even if that were possible. I know deep down a relationship/sex is not the answer. But these failures just contribute to my lack of self worth.

I work, look after my dad who has early dementia, read. That’s it. To be honest, I think im pretty depressed. I go to bed early every night because I can’t find the will to do anything. I have suicidal thoughts more these days. I know I need to forget about women but it’s just more evidence of a pointless life

It’s because of the amount of failures and humiliation I’ve endured. I need to promise myself I won’t try anymore. I don’t really have a social life, I’m 42, don’t have many friends and I don’t drink.

Appreciate the advice but I can’t go back to trying to get dates again. I do appreciate the insight though.

I practice semen retention. I’ve not timed it but it’s been about 4 months since I last ejaculated. I think it’s really helped. I very rarely get erected or have detailed sexual thoughts but still feel a strong pull.

I’ve not had sex in 3 years, I’ve not been in a serious relationship for 10 and not for want of trying. I’ve finally given up. This may sound like I’m feeling sorry for myself but I have to face facts and try to cope with life. That part of existence clearly isn’t for me. Whenever I see an attractive girl I feel depressed. I feel a strong attraction but know it’s something that I cannot experience anymore. How do I manage this? I can feel my mental state worsening gradually. any insight is greatly appreciated.

Wow dude. You know your Stuff.

If you met the right person (presuming you’re heterosexual) and we’re deeply in love, you probably wouldn’t need to ask that question.

Just wondering if anyone has any views experience with these meditation apps? I have a VR headset and an App caller Tripp on there is pretty good, feels like I get benefit from it. Interested what people think.

I know experientially that what you say is the truth. This is as advanced as it gets but part of me thinks the world isn’t ready. We have non enlightened government because if we had the opposite, people would destroy themselves. People need their drama. Obviously as a people we need guidance but part of me thinks your stuff is too advanced. Do you have any thoughts on this?

Do you mean should you move out?

So what’s the question dude? I’m a little confused

You need to understand what fear is and then transcend it. But easier said than done. Leo’s videos on fear are probably as good as your going to get.

What would you say drives your perfectionism? In some cases it could be ego, but I sense it’s something different with you.