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One thing I am wondering about is, why do we even call it "cheating." What is wrong with having fun and celebrating your sexuality...? I mean, I understand why women call it "cheating."Women are naturally mono so calling it "cheating" makes sense from their genetical perspective Men on the other hand are naturally poly (there are of course exceptions). But really one has to admit that there are no real reasons why "cheating" should even be called "cheating." I mean what the hell, it is just a celebration of life, of sexual energy, you don't own your partner...

About the new Vid on the blog: as far as I understand they are not talking about "real infinity" not existing but the mathematical construct called "infinity" which is used to calculate various phenomenon not existing. I think the statement of the video is correct; in the physical sense we know that physical phenomenon are a certain way. The mathematical construct called "infinity" is not in alignment with the physical descriptions of reality as physical knowledge only tells us that the world is limited (which is obviously the only thing it could tell us due to the limited nature of the physical method). Still infinity can be used for calculations and it works and this paradox from the physicists point of view is legitimately paradoxical which the scientists in the video are pointing out.

Don't do it. Reduces sleep quality. Which then results in reduced life quality.

Thanks for your suggestions @Natasha

Thanks for the detailed response, 20 rounds seems like not so much to me. How long was 1 round for you? Propably more that 3 days (?)

If that is the case, who is experiencing "no conciousness"? If nobody is experiencing it, it doesn't exist. Note that you never find a gap in your conciousness, just different content within it. "Waking up in the morning" is also just an experience that can only be present in the light of conciousness. Your conciousness never stopped. It just imagines that it had slept and "wasn't concious" which is just another experience within conciousness:)

Same thought

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There is nothing cute in that. The only reason it seems to be cute is because it entertains your beliefs and feeds your ego... In a few weeks or months when the guy leaves you or cheats on you because of your wishful thinking and because of your own behaviour, drama will be big. Looking at the conversation so far I guess you won't realize that all that drama was caused by your own behaviour. Propably gonna be something like "he was just the wrong one..." or "he was just such a delusive person"... Whatever, I'm out of here.

You didn't. Also I have to apologize because the first answer I gave to your topic was kind of rough... Still I believe that there was some truth in it. I appreciate the fact that you really try your best to make sense of the situation and are always being kind/polite/constructive... I'm not sure weather you still feel like you need help to understand why your boy called you "stupid" and "crazy." I think although I do not know him personally that I know exactly why he called you like that. It makes perfect sense to me. And I feel that many of the people who replied to your post also perfectly understood that... And tried to explain it to you. The problem now is, I do not know how to explain the same thing that so many people in this post already tried to explain to you. It seems to me like your mind is tricking you to pick only the answers you want to hear and call the other ones wrong... (I myself might be wrong with this) At this point I don't know how to make things more clearer or explain it better. Wish you all the best with your dating life... In case the relationship with this guy should fail, try to see how you yourself caused that failure... Then you might avoid it in the future and see how to built a relationship that is durable. Cheers

You have never met him in real life... How do you know that he is a "great great guy" and that you want to "be devoted" to him if you have never even met him???

He called you stupid because you were behaving stupidly. It is nothing personal. He just clearly saw that you were doing something foolish. You should be greatful for his honesty. At least he gives you the chance to see how you are behaving foolishly and not just exploits you.

You said that you would do anything for him and even sacrifice your life. This is the equivalent of saying that you would tolerate anything. In spite of never even having met him in real life... Can't you see the obvious?

You are behaving in a VERY NEEDY way, can you see that? @Preety_India Behaving the way you do indicates that you don't value yourself a lot and feel like you need another person to make you complete. Telling a guy you obviously DO NOT KNOW that you would do ANYTHING for him is extremely foolish. You should never say something like that, it IS stupid. Can you see that? You DO NOT KNOW HIM. Why the hell would you tell somebody that you do not know, that you would DO EVERYTHING for them??? Simply stupid. (We all do stupid things sometimes but you need to see very clearly that your behaviour was absolute sillyness). Behaving like this is THE CAUSE you come together with the wrong guys. By saying that you would do anything for them (NEVER say that, NEVER, don't even THINK that)... by saying that, you basically say: "You can do whatever you want, I have no standards and do not value myself very much"... No wonder that the guy then cheats on you or leaves you. If I would be dating a girl that would behave in that way, I would propably leave her.

I can speak from my own perspective on this, since I have been a child that used to make fun of kids who were struggling. For me when I was a child I saw some other children as inferior to me, or as weak. For examle if a child was fat and couldn't jump as high as I could in sports, I would see that and then judge him in my mind as being "silly", "fat" or "weak" and then express this feeling by bullying or laughing... I think it has to do with the fact that children don't really filter their impulses as much as adults, they just express anything that comes to their mind. So when I saw a "weak" kid, I just thought in my mind "weak kid" and then expressed my thought by making fun of it. Apart from the "expressing-aspect" I also got a sense of gratification out of doing this, because by putting the other person down I could see myself as superior and by comparing myself to these "weak" people my own self looked better and I could feel better about myself. What I noticed is, that not all children do these things in the same degree. Some do it more, some do it less. I did it more than most kids and I think it has to do with genetic factors, as well as upbringing factors. A had a decent childhood and never had real struggles / problems in my life. Still I used to be like this. I think being like this had to do with the fact that I was less capable at controling my impulses at that age in comparison to other children. Also I always needed external gratification from others and hat a need to feel "special." I needed more external approval than most children at my age. Propably the reason I needed to compare myself so much to these other children and felt compelled to make fun of them / put them down. But I also think that to some degree all people do this, adults as well. We all sometimes in our mind judge other people for whatever reason. We all have those "dirty" thoughts about others like "well, this person is just lazy / silly / a fool / whatever". Everytime we judge somebody in our minds we essentially do the same thing the laughing child does. The only difference is, that we do not express our thoughts and hide them from other people and even sometimes ourselves. Hope I could add some value to the debate;)

Well, I've been searching proper dieting on the internet for a few days now... Many sources claim that a man at my age / size should eat about 300 Carbs per day. Now I'm wondering where the hell I should get that many carbs from..., and whether it is even true one should eat that many carbs. I used to eat carbs in the form of bread or oatmeal. Especially when I ate oatmeal, I used to feel very tired and weak the hours after eating it... Are there any alternative sources which contain high ammount of carbs? Thanks a lot for your responses!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=dj4WqeJfy9o&ab_channel=DanielLondon This one is about LOVE. One of the deepest an amazing songs that I know. You won't regret listening to it, I promise!

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That could have been a whole breakfast for Connor Murphy...

Thanks a lot for the response. I'll try it out!

Hey guys, Which kinds of food do you suggest to base a diet upon to get : maximum ammounts of wakefulness concentration ability and conciousness/clarity into your daily actions (?) Thanks a lot for your suggestions! Greetings Gregory

How would you guys go about it? Stop eating shit and start by only eating 1 thing and then slowly reintroduce different kinds of foods? And how long should I experiment before introducing new foods? 1 week? 2? Thanks for your suggestions!

Mainly Bread, Veggies, Eggs, Nuts, Fruits, Milk/Oatmeal sometimes

I remember also having had that urge to vomit a few years before I finally succeeded in gaining normal weight (this is what I meant with developing a "psychological aversion"). Back then I didn't have the right reasons to take on weight and tried it in a very forceful an unnatural way. I only allowed myself to eat the "healthiest" food and also I forced myself too much. @JohnnyAbmakes a good point. Get more calories by eating food that has lots of calories. You will then eat more without increasing the volume of the food you eat. I think you could combine that tip with the "always eating a little more" technique, but again, don't force yourself too much. One point that I forgot to mention above which I think also helps with eating more than your used to is; eating many different things. A lot of the time I eat a certain kind of food and cannot eat any more of it. It feels like I'm full, but when I then start eating something different I can eat again and even want to eat. Diversity of food really helped me and maked it a lot easier for me to eat more than I was used to. One meal would be like; Bread with Nutella, Banana, your favourite Chocolate, a fruit smoothie, some chips, or whatever you like. Don't limit the diversity, eat as much as you like and as diverse as possible. And of course, eat food with lots of calories, like Cheese, Milk, Bread, Nuts, Chocolate, Chips, Burger, Meat, noodles, whatever feels good;)

Again, I want to mention that I am not an expert at this. Ideally you should go to a doctor or an expert to help you. I think that your "noise irritation" and "little energy" might be connected to your low weight For me it was not that difficult to force myself sinse my body adjusted pretty quickly and I had a huge desire to get a healthier body. I forced myself to eat more than I usually ate for every meal. A week or two weeks, don't remember exact time, eating that much became my new normal and the body actually started to demand more food than before. I'm not 100% sure about the science of this but I once heard that your stomach is strechable. If you eat and drink more, it is hard because your stomach has to strech. When it streches often, it widens over time. When you stop being hungry you reached the point where your stomach has to be streched in order for more to fit into it. This theory makes sense to me and is congruent with my own experience. But I think you have to be smart about this; Do not force youself too much. If you force it to much, you could develop an aversion against food, which might make it psychologically difficult for you to eat and even worsen your problem. (Of course forcing it a bit won't cause such problems, just listen to your intuition about this) My suggestion for you would be to try and eat more than you usually do, every meal for at least 2 weeks. Also eat at least 3 times a day. Push yourself but don't overdo it. Buy tasty and delicious food, buy a lot of it. Always eat what you want to, not what you "should eat." Chocolate, Burger, whatever you like. This will make it more likely for you to be able to eat large amounts of food. In my opinion getting a few pounds is a lot more important for you right now than eating the healthiest food possible. Once you got a few pounds, you can clean up your diet step by step. Cheers