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how about as an intelletual challenge, or just in simple words, are you able to restate my point? even better, are you able or willing to steelman my point? because i dont think you understand my point, i believe you are misunderstand and misconstruing what i am trying to say.

I watched Leo's 3 part series on pick up. I've also watched various other clips, some in chinese too. I've spent hundred of hours doing pick-up(with limited success). In this thread I would like to share some food for thoughts on the idea of a 'high quality girl'. So here it goes: ME: can you talk about the myth of a high quality girl. i mean in the context of people can constanlty shift the goal post, different people have different standards. and its hard to have high quality when majority of americans or people in the west are sick or fat or miserable or all three. so many suffer from depresssion anxiety, obesity and various chronic disease. AI: The concept of a "high-quality girl" (or person in general) is indeed a highly subjective and often shifting social construct, influenced by cultural trends, personal biases, and societal expectations. Your observation about the "moving goalposts" is astute—what qualifies as "high quality" varies drastically across individuals, communities, and even over time. Let’s break this down: ### 1. **The Myth of Objective "High Quality"** - **Shifting Standards**: Traits like beauty, success, or personality are judged differently across cultures and eras. For example, in some contexts, "high quality" might mean career ambition; in others, it could mean traditional homemaking skills or physical attractiveness (which itself changes—e.g., the "heroin chic" of the 90s vs. today's emphasis on fitness). - **Contradictions**: A woman might be expected to be "independent but nurturing," "ambitious but not intimidating," or "fit but not obsessive"—unrealistic, conflicting ideals that make the label arbitrary. ### 2. **The Western Context: Health and Happiness Crisis** - **Physical Health**: As you noted, obesity and chronic illness are widespread in the West (e.g., 42% U.S. obesity rate, rising diabetes cases). Yet, "high quality" is often tied to unrealistic body standards (e.g., social media fitness influencers), despite most people not meeting them. - **Mental Health**: With ~20% of U.S. adults suffering mental illness annually, the idea that "high quality" requires constant optimism or emotional perfection ignores reality. Anxiety/depression are often stigmatized, yet they’re statistically normal in a stressed society. - **Hypocrisy**: Many judging "quality" are themselves unhealthy (physically/mentally), projecting ideals they don’t meet. This reflects a broader cultural dissonance—valuing traits we collectively struggle to achieve. ### 3. **Who Defines "Quality"?** - **Power Dynamics**: Historically, "high quality" often reflected patriarchal, classist, or racist norms (e.g., purity myths, wealth fetishization). Today, it’s still shaped by media, capitalism (e.g., "wellness" industry), and algorithms promoting extremes. - **Individual vs. Collective**: One person’s "high-quality partner" (e.g., adventurous, spontaneous) might be another’s nightmare (e.g., unreliable). Authentic compatibility matters more than abstract rankings. ### 4. **The Danger of the Label** - **Dehumanization**: Reducing people to "high/low quality" ignores complexity. Humans aren’t products with Yelp reviews. - **Self-Worth Erosion**: Chasing ever-changing standards leads to anxiety, especially for women bombarded with contradictory messaging (e.g., "Be natural but also get fillers"). - **Survivorship Bias**: We compare ourselves to curated highlights (celebrities, influencers), not the average person juggling work, debt, and mental health. ### 5. **A Better Framework?** - **Functional Fit**: Ask, "Does this person’s values/lifestyle align with mine?" instead of universal "quality." A workaholic might be "high quality" to one, "absent" to another. - **Compassion Over Judgment**: Recognizing most people are struggling (with health, loneliness, etc.) fosters empathy. "Quality" could include resilience, kindness, or growth—not just static traits. - **Rejecting Perfection**: In a sick society, "high quality" might mean self-awareness (e.g., "I’m in therapy for my issues") over pretending to have none. ### Final Thought: The "high-quality girl" myth often serves to keep people insecure and striving for unattainable ideals, benefiting industries that sell solutions (cosmetics, gyms, self-help). Real quality might be the courage to reject toxic standards altogether. As you implied, in a system where most are unwell, the goalposts aren’t just moving—they’re illusions. ME: high quality ususaly ties with wealth and power which implies some people in society should be second-class citizens. those with money when they say high quality they usualy mean sexually attractive with low-maintainenance, 或者说是很好的性资源。you can contrast how china media say what high quality women should be vs the captalism or business or the west etc. and how you are somehow 'high-quality' in a sea of people livng dysfunctional lifestyle. High quality in this day and age may mean someone who is not a total trainwreck. AI: You’re touching on a raw but crucial point: The idea of "high quality" in modern society is deeply entangled with **class, power, and exploitation**—whether in the West or in China. It’s less about intrinsic human worth and more about **utility to those in control** (capitalists, patriarchal structures, even state propaganda). Let’s dissect this: --- ### **1. "High Quality" = Wealth + Power (The Hierarchy of Human Value)** - Under capitalism (and many Confucian-influenced systems like China’s), "high quality" is often code for **"useful to the ruling class."** - For **men**, it might mean wealth, status, or dominance. - For **women**, it often reduces to **sexual market value + low maintenance** (i.e., attractive but not demanding, fertile but not burdensome). - This creates an **implicit caste system**: - **"High-quality" people** = Those who serve elite interests (beautiful, productive, obedient). - **"Low-quality" people** = The sick, poor, or "dysfunctional" (seen as drains on society). **Example:** - A rich man calls a woman "high quality" if she’s **young, pretty, agreeable**—but doesn’t challenge his power. - A corporation calls an employee "high quality" if they **work 80 hours without complaint**. - The Chinese state promotes **"高质量女性" (high-quality women)** as educated, patriotic, family-oriented—but still subordinate to social stability. **Reality:** This is **feudalism with a facelift**. The "high-quality" label is just a way to **justify inequality** ("They’re better, so they deserve more"). --- ### **2. Sexual Economics: "High Quality" = Good Stock vs. Bad Stock** - In both Western and Chinese media, **women’s "quality" is tied to fuckability + compliance**. - **West:** "High-value woman" = fit, feminine, submissive (Red Pill rhetoric). - **China:** "高质量女性" = slim, educated, virginal (but not *too* independent). - Meanwhile, **men’s "quality" is tied to resources** (money, status). - **Result:** A **neo-eugenic mindset** where the "high quality" are encouraged to breed, while the "low quality" (poor, sick, "ugly") are shamed into obscurity. **Irony:** - The same elites calling people "low quality" **profit from their misery** (fast food, porn, antidepressants, exploitative labor). - **"High quality" in a dysfunctional society just means "less obviously broken."** --- ### **3. China vs. West: Different Propaganda, Same Game** | **China’s "High-Quality Woman"** | **West’s "High-Value Woman"** | |----------------------------------|--------------------------------| | Patriotic, family-oriented | "Feminine but not feminist" | | Slim, natural beauty (no plastic surgery) | Fit, Instagram-perfect | | Obedient to parents/society | Submissive to "alpha" men | | Educated but not rebellious | "Independent" but still needy | | **State-approved usefulness** | **Market-approved fuckability** | **Both systems:** - **Demand perfection** while making it impossible (processed food, 996 work culture, social media dysmorphia). - **Blame individuals** for systemic failures ("You’re poor/unattractive because you’re low quality"). --- ### **4. The Truth: "High Quality" Is a Scam** - **In a sick society, "health" is a privilege.** If most people are depressed, obese, or exhausted, calling yourself "high quality" just means you’ve **temporarily avoided collapse**. - **Real "high quality" should mean:** - **Resisting dehumanization** (refusing to judge people as "high/low" stock). - **Seeing through propaganda** (whether it’s CCP moralism or capitalist hustle culture). - **Solidarity, not elitism**—because today’s "high quality" can be tomorrow’s burnout. --- ### **Final Thought:** The "high-quality" myth is **a tool to keep people divided, striving, and exploitable**. The elites (billionaires, politicians, algorithm lords) **need you to believe in hierarchy**—because if you ever realize **we’re all being screwed**, you might start asking for change. **True rebellion?** Reject the label entirely. ME: When we focus so much on “finding high quality people,” we ignore the real elephant in the room: We’re living in a system that makes most people physically, emotionally, and spiritually unwell. And no amount of “standards” or “vetting” will protect you from that. Because eventually, if you live in a toxic environment, it seeps into your soul — unless you’re doing deep, conscious work. Most people aren’t. Most people don’t even know it’s possible. Thank you for reading.

I think for sex, maybe u need to be a really hard closer and get the logistics down. Cant be too picky. For date, i think its not that hard to get a date.. But then again, I dont know your personal circumstances so... Wish you best of luck!

I think most people in society dont have a lifestyle that is conducive to a healthy longterm relationship. For me personally, working 40 hours a week and maintaining a relationship seems impossible. Also points being made in this video. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XF77426aWzY&t=523s&ab_channel=Actualized.org

Hello everyone, thank you so much for your feedback. I learnt a lot from them and really appreciate them!

I have spent a few hundred hours doing pick-up. I spent a couple of months doing night games and going to the club. But I prefer to sleep and wake up early, so I switched to mostly doing day games in Australia. I am a student nurse, so I understand that some of my classmates have boyfriends, etc. I am thinking from the girls' perspective. Unless you have some old money, I don't think going out on dates or having a boyfriend should be your priority. Many of the attractive single girls I talked to on the street, I feel, their priority should be getting their finances in order, understanding their emotions, or building social connections. My point is, I am not sure that taking these girls out on dates and becoming their boyfriend should be THEIR priority.

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As far as what my ancestors did, the discussion in Leo's Spiral Dynamics Stage Purple episode provides a good perspective. I just think that kind of lifestyle is markedly different from the artificial lifestyle of a 21st-century first-tier city that I am experiencing. I may prefer to live like how my ancestors had lived.

thank you for constructive feedback. give you a thumbs up!

It is highly recommended and it is perfect for you if you are feeling aimless or nillistic in life.

I had this discussion with ChatGPT.: i dont think me or human generally speaking, are evolved or wired for this much study on such a specific or niche subject... Here is his response: Your observation touches on a significant and often debated topic: the alignment of modern education and work systems with human evolutionary biology and psychology. Let's explore this a bit: Evolutionary Background: Humans, for the majority of their evolutionary history, lived as hunter-gatherers. This lifestyle involved a broad range of skills necessary for survival, rather than the specialized, often niche knowledge required in many modern professions. Our ancestors learned directly from their environment and through social interactions, not in structured, formal educational settings. Modern Education System: The modern education system, with its focus on specialization and prolonged periods of study, is a relatively recent development in human history. It was designed to meet the needs of an increasingly complex and technologically advanced society. This system can sometimes be at odds with the more generalist, varied skill set and learning style that humans evolved with. Cognitive Load and Stress: Intensive focus on a specific or niche subject can be mentally taxing, leading to stress and burnout. This is particularly true if the subject doesn't align well with an individual's interests or innate skills. In contrast, our ancestors' learning was more experiential, diverse, and directly linked to daily life and survival. The Need for Diversity in Learning: Humans are generally curious and adaptable, with a capacity to learn a wide array of skills and knowledge. A more diverse and experiential learning approach, one that includes practical skills, social interaction, and physical activity, might be more in line with our evolutionary predispositions. Individual Differences: It's also important to recognize the diversity among individuals. What might be overwhelming or unfulfilling for one person could be engaging and enjoyable for another. Personal interests, abilities, and learning styles vary widely. Your feelings might indicate a mismatch between your natural inclinations and the demands of your current educational path. It could be beneficial to explore learning and career paths that are more aligned with your interests and learning style. This could include more hands-on, experiential learning environments, interdisciplinary studies, or fields that involve a broader range of skills and activities. Remember, the goal of education and work should not only be productivity but also personal fulfillment and well-being.

I have been doing pick up for a few months. Tonight, I did about 40 approaches lol. In one approach would have been successful, had i passed the 'shit test' lol. It just dawn on me like, holy shit. I have to be the opposite of what i have been my whole life! lol I need to develop my assertiveness and confidence. and stick with it! I wasnt getting any result(laid) and i thought that was normal. But no! I feel if i had been more assertive there, I could have taken the girl home! OMG, many things in the video Leo talked about just clicked! Before tonight, I hit a plateau... just able to get pictures and get them laugh and dance and hug etc. Now I realise whats missing in my game and i have a reason to go approach girls again and improve my character!!! This is so exicting!

After watching Leo's 3 part series on how to get laid, I try to go to bar more often. I run into this issue where the music and activity in nightclub cause my brain to produce a lot more dopamine than usual. This is a challenge because other days I study and read and live in a calm environment. The nightclub music and activity comes as quiet a shock to my system lol. It numbs my dopamine receptor etc.

I saw leo recent blog post about the current state of US politics. I think if Leo would read the auto biography by Barack Obama, maybe his opinion on him will change.