Max Green

Hi all! I never liked physical exercises. During my years in school and university i always hated PE classes.I was always trying to slack of as much as i can without getting a major problems with my grades. But after i graduated from university i realized that one can not be healthy without some healthy dose of physical activity. Since then i tried lifting weights, HIIT, running, hatha-yoga, ashtanga-yoga. I liked yoga the most, but it seems like not enough, cause i can't stick with it seriously. After any little distraction (i.e. getting ill) i can't get back on rails for about half a year (omg). So, guys, i need your advice. How can i turn myself into health-lover? How can i like physical activity as much as some people does? I know some humans that just saying that they can't imagine themselves without doing a workout, cause they feel bad that way. I myself feel bad when i'm working out...

Hi there! I'm currently in the middle of the very difficult break up. We've been living together almost 5 years. Our relationship was kind of difficult from the very beginning. My (ex)GF is a women with very high sex drive and i'm struggling from premature ejaculation all my life (i'm 32 now and i never had good sex). She was very supportive and gentle and always was encouraging me to solve this problem. We tried different techniques, but nothing helped. It's so sad to realize that i can't satisfy my beloved woman and that we need to end relationship just because of one thing - lack of sex. It's really like that. Those 5 years together was the best years of my life and i learned a lot. There is one more difficulty with that break up. I kinda don't know what to do best. The situation is: we still living together in the separate rooms, because she has nowhere to go she can't move out, because she don't have enough income to move even in a smallest appartment. She's like goddess of the hearth - she can do home stuff very well (she made our nest super cool), but she can't work at all - it's too painful for her. so we talked all that stuff and decided that we live together until she finds new partner and moves to him. i have a clear (more or less) plan for myself, but i'm worried about her. I wish her a good life and i want her to be happy. But i hear her crying loudly almost every night. That breaks my heart. And her heart is broken too. We're so messed up. So, wise men, i ask for some advice here.

I told her once about a victim mindset. She said that i treat her like a man. She thinks that for woman it's ok to be dependent on her man, because woman is more weak and vulnerable in nature.

Actually she found a job recently (about 2 weeks for now). But it's 3 times a week job, not fulltime. The fee is not enough to rent even the smallest apartment. She had a 2-3 different jobs during our relationships, but all of them wasn't full time and lasted 3 months max. She tells it's too painful for her to work 40 hours a week for such a small amount of money. I think it's originated in her early 20s when she was working as a dancer in night club. She tells she could work 1-2 days in a month and it was enough money to pay rent and live.

We tried all of that. I finish quickly even on third try. And after three ejaculations i feel so exhausted that i need to force myself to do a fourth try. And even then it's not long enough. And by not long enough i mean 5 minutes max of very slow and careful penetrations with a pauses every 30 sec. I wasn't giving up for 5 years but now she tells that she do not have thouts about having sex with me anymore. She says it's too dissapointing because as soon as she gets aroused i'm already done.

Big thanks to all who replied! All advices are good. Need to summarize all of them and make my decision now. I wish all of you a great life!

Actually i offered her to have an open relationship with two partners, i'm ok with that. I know that i can't fuck her properly, so what's the point of being selfish? She didn't accepted my offer though - she said that she wants only one partner.

Actually i'm pretty sure i can tolerate the pain of breaking up. If she just finds the guy and leaves, the bridges will be burnt. But just kick her out? Maybe i'm too weak to do this. Her relatives always drinking alcohol, smoking and screaming at each other, and she got no friends. She herself are doing yoga and meditating and do spiritual work, she cleans the house very well, grows plants and all that stuff, she's always clean, not drinking, not doing drugs and alcohol. And all 5 years she was very supportive. How can i just kick her out, considering that i'm pretty much responsible for our break up?

Technically it's not my apartment, but i pay the rent. So, i think i can say yes, you got it right.

Hi there! How can i enjoy being masculine? I never enjoyed it. I am a creative person - i love to paint and to play a piano, but i don't feel like i need to "penetrate the world" as Leo said in one of his videos. I just like to play piano for myself and for the pretty women beside me. But, ofcourse, as a women, she wants me to penetrate not only her, but the world as well. I can't do both. I mean, i enjoy sex, but only if she's in charge In fact, i can last long enough only when she's on top and i'm lying down relaxed and surrendered. When i'm on top or behind her i cum immediately. And it's interesting that i like seeing other man being rough and super-dominant in sex (when i watching porn). Any advice?

Too narrow topic i think. I think it will be interesting to consider war theme in general, not just that particular one.

90% of the times it's a woman. Tried watching gay porn once or twice - was not disgusted, but not entertaining either.

Speaking in a deep voice, clear and decisive. - It feels super-unnatural to me. When i tried it my girl said that she liked it. But I'm not always able to reproduce it intentionally so i can please her. Lead other people, guide them and tell them what to do. - I can tell people what to do, but they're rarely hear me. And i'm not interested in proving something to them. Create space, first for yourself and then for others. Ground your bubble. - Didn't understand this. Maybe because i'm russian and english is not my primary language Heavy exercise. Something like boxing, sprinting, weight lifting or even just push ups. - This is like HELL for me. I never really was into physical activity. Even in my childhood i tend to avoid it and play calm games. In school during physical education lessons i was always slacking off. Look out for others in need, manage their situation for them. Create a container. - Don't like it cause i can fail and that will affect someone besides me. Breath deeply and be present. - Practicing it daily. Don't avoid tension. If you have the urge to change the topic or leave. Stay. - Doing it, because i think this is the only way to eliminate that tension. But it's not enjoyable by definition. Step into tension. Say whatever is on your mind, be loud, get noticed. Touch others. - Trying, not always successfully. Not enjoyable too. Handle conflict. Don't avoid conflict. - Trying, not always successfully. Not enjoyable too. Hold eye contact. - Practicing it. Sometimes my girl says that it scared her Smile and be self-amused with other people. Do things for fun. Or to make the situation more fun. - This is enjoyable, but the only people with whom i can do it is my colegues on work and my GF. My only friend is my GF and i don't know how to make friends anymore. In the past i had a lot of friends, but our friendship was based on alcohol and marijuana. Now i stopped using those substances (not drinking for 7 years, not smoking pot for like 2 years) and i don't know how to make friends. Sad but true. When you talk to an attractive woman and feel turned on, embrace that feeling. Don't hide it. - I'm turned on but i don't know how to express it properly. Or maybe too afraid of doing that.

This two. 1. I like the idea of penetrating a woman, but i kinda afraid of it, because i never did it successfully. When i think of sex i mostly fantasise about oral and anal penetration, rarely about penetrating a vagina. 7. Never tried, but maybe i'll try it someday

I dont drink alcohol for like 7 years now. But when i was drinking it was not much better. I lasted 1 minute instead of 1 second. Anyway, that's not enough for most woman i think.

I never had a truly satisfying sex. I can last long enough only if a jerk off like 5 times before sex. But obviously when i do so i'm also can't enjoy sex. I tried all those techniques like start-stop technique, slow breathing, squeezing muscles, etc. Can't enjoy sex while doing all that stuff. Is there a method to cure PE in such a way so during sex i can set myself free and really concentrate on pleasing my girl and feeling my body? I heard that circumcision can be the thing? Is there anyone here who solved the problem by doing it?

Guys, how can i develop self love? Can you share some practices? I tried metta meditations when i was on retreats, but instructions wasn's clear i think. It was something like "imagine small little cute animal, how you care of it, how you feel about it and then transfer that feeling on yourself". When i do that i don't feel pretty much anything. That makes me feel even less self-loving, because i start thinking that i somehow can't love myself.

Thanks man! Something clicked within me when i read this post.

For example what avenues?

@RedLine interesting. Can you describe it a little bit more detailed please? Maybe some advice, related videos, books, articles?

I'm pretty attracted to that kind of woman but they're typically expecting a male to approach them, not vise versa. They're too shy and feminine to initiate interaction. And i'm not masculine enough to initiate it myself

@egoeimai the problem is that my women asks me to fuck her, but i can't. She's great, i love her. But she's suffering without a proper fuck and i can't give it to her. And i even offered her to find second partner for sex, but she tells she can't do this - she wants one man to cover all her needs.