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... Try bottom gay sex.

I think if you like being that way, then screw all these skinny-shamings. Of course as long as you get all your vitamins, minerals and proteins. I'm not sure you get all of it when you eat so little, so adding a nutritional green formula supplement could be very handy.. You might be low on energy from lack of carbs or calorie. You're probably an ectomorph whose engine runs best on high carbs

I suggest you to further your studies in spiral dynamics. Look up additional important insights. There's a lot of misconceptions in your post. Your external circumstances has everything to do with your psychological evolution. You really don't know how good you had it, don't you? You think someone else can fix their problems with the solutions that helped you fix the problems that YOU have faced. And while reading your latest post with examples how of react better - it's becoming clearer and clearer that you never had to deal with real fucking brutal environment. If you did, you would understand the necessity and urgency to fight fire with fire. But you fortunately you didn't.. because you've been gracefully given water to pour over fire, while some others have been given a tank of oil. And you assume everybody just naturally have a handy water reserve in their pocket. And thus you can only analyze the problem with your own perspective based on your own experiences. When you transcend a stage, you bring the previous stage along with the new stage. You keep the useful tools of survival from there and forsaken the limiting part of it. If circumstances has prevented you to fully incorporate a stage and now you're placed at a war zone with no underground fighting skills, it's important to go back in order not to create a shadow. And then you transcend and include. Not transcend and demonize and judge.

You guys all throwing advanced diplomatic advices as if you've never had to deal with heavy cases of stage red and extreme harsh environment. You don't pour kindness, integrity or respect to people who intentionally harms you. Do you even realize the danger of this? Handling freely your compassionate heart to your abuser on a silver platter who won't hesitate to stab it as many times as you let them? Only for the pleasure to see how much you can bleed. Well let me tell you, it trains the victim to over-compensate the shortcomings of stage-red. So much it becomes second-nature for a survivor to actually do MORE for others than they will ever do for themselves. That's why these "do to others as you would have them do to you." type of advice can be dangerous here. That's why it's important to really grasp where a person comes from before throwing any advices, because some would literally be counter-productive for their extreme situation. And that's what you guys need to understand, we are dealing with extreme cases. Not smthg you would consider 'normal' in a 1rst world society - where good-will and happy butterflies shall prevail, y'know? Anyway.. on a last note, this is all reminding me of this application I'm still working on... and maybe could be of helpful to you @Preety_India : Don't be afraid to let people work for your heart. Let them prove they deserve your love. Don't hand out your love for free. It's precious and valuable. And will only be given to those who has proven worthy of receiving it.

@tatsumaru if you really want to help someone, you first need to understand where they come from... And it's obvious you don't in this case... You see and understand the problem from your own perspective. Which is a very good perspective. I hope you keep it i love it. But it's not gonna help for this situation. Btw i threw some disclaimers and warnings for my tips. Thx for not ignoring them.

i was kiddin btw. your thread post is funny.

Maybe she wants some sugar lol. Call her baby... o wait.. somehow that one is socially accepted!

This type of advice is very good for normal people, but can be damn damaging for people like Preety and I who have been raised in abusive environment where our sense of boundaries were stripped away from us. Which in turned has caused more traumatic events to follow because it's already ingrained in us to be selfless, to please and empathize with selfish people. Advices like these encourage us to drown more into our passive self, keeping our hands clean, calling for silence & walk away, trivialization of the situation, and a non-confrontational approach. This is the exact opposite of what is needed for our situation, because we're too far in the softy spectrum. We need to build claws and fangs. Just because we get them doesn't mean we get cynical and closed off. In fact, we would get more closed off now because of the fear to be hurt again and not knowing how to deal with confrontation. They're retractable claws to put in our tool box. Normal people usually have them already, in which case your advice would be fitting. Anyway in the end, it all boils down to learn how to build healthy boundaries. @Nightwise that was an interesting read. thx

Absolutely you should!!<3 but you seem to already know the answer to your question.

This is the story of a drug addict who practiced these 3 principles rigorously "Be authentic, Surrender the outcome and Do the uncomfortable work" and how it has saved his life + ultimately led him to become a leader. @iceprincess I hope it can inspire you.

@Twega Ok... we're not talking on the same page here. We're not even arguing the same cause. You're so far in the spectrum that in your view you think I'm literally against veganism lol. I am not arguing against veganism. Most people here aren't either. Every single points I've made was trying to explain to you that veganism is simply not for everyone. Can you accept it? Apparently not. You think there's smthg fundamentally wrong with me or ppl who get sick or weak from the diet. Because you believe factually that it's a diet that fits for all. What I've been arguing against all this time was your biases and dogmatic beliefs about veganism, not veganism itself. This is a big difference, and the fact you cannot see the difference shows how far you've gone in your partiality, to the point you see neutrality = against. This may be an impossible concept for you to grasp but someone CAN be supportive of veganism, without being vegan. Now before you go "That doesn't make sense. You can't support veganism while paying for animal slaughter!" I want clarify that I'm also supportive of carnism, of paleo, of keto, of raw dieting, of cooking, of fasting - I'm supportive of any diet and lifestyle that you feel striving on. Here's another funny one I've heard "You must have not done it right." I'm very health conscious when it comes to diet and training since a young age. I'm an athlete and most likely I'm healthier than the average healthy ppl you meet. The worst sickness I've had was chickenpox as a baby and maybe a flu. Oh and a bad case of diarrhea when I tried to eat a salad washed with the dirty water in China. It was kinda funny though, the water was poisoning all the foreigners training there and we were all fighting for the toilets. When the Master aligned us all, there was a longer line to the toilets than there was in the cafeteria. Lol. Anyway back to the point, I also look more than decade younger than I am. Admist all my flaws & shortcomings, in compensation health was always my blessing and advantage in life. So no, there was nthg wrong with me in terms of health before veganism. I didn't do the diet wrong. I have a normal biology. I choose not to be vegan today not only for personal well-being, but also it's just not my calling anymore. Edit: I wish you good health as well.

@Max Green this is an old knowing method, perhaps too obvious to even suggest it, but anyway, have you tried putting on a condom to feel less? 2 layers for good measure. The cheap ones tend to be thicker

@EntheogenTruthSeeker Ok what... is your point exactly? Leo has already went through all of these points and accusations countless times, in forms of warning signs, disclaimers and beware, misuses, careful not to misinterpret or twist. And you're literally doing all of it lol. If anyone is aware of his shortcoming, it's certainly himself. Not you. Or anyone else. It's easy to point fingers at the teacher when things goes wrong for you. And so ungrateful. You speak as if you play no role on your own short-comings. With your current state of mind, maybe what you need right now is not spiritual and psyche teaching, but an actual psychologist for you're well being. I mean seeing what you've been through, clearly smthg went wrong in the application. And at this point neither Leo nor any other guru can help you in this. seek therapy and psychologists

[Disclaimer - this is an advice only intended for someone who has tendency to be in the extreme spectrum of being soft, not good to a normal regulated person! Read everything before applying!] @Preety_India Ok so basically you have to show that being the bigger person and not engaging a fight is a choice. Not just your default mode that you're unable to deviate from. Otherwise, they will see and treat you like a doormat and prey upon you like lions. Knowing that you only play high cards, they will use this opportunity to hit you under the belt with low cards 'cause you've simply got no defense down there. So how to show this is a choice and you've got options? This is easier said than done, but basically you gotta show you can go both ways - how to be clean and how to fight in the mud. Only then, they will respect you 'cause they can't mess with you. In the language of spiral dynamics, you could say that red stage respects power, strength and dominance. So you have to communicate in their language. Kindness and integrity is irreverent and won't save you here. I mean I guess you already know all that, that's why you're asking how. Ok so these are some of below belt hits that you can use that I've been studying, and I warn you ahead, these are extremely dirty methods that might grind your gears: Use something they have confided in you against them - So they might have told you a family secret, or something they have done they're embarrassed about, maybe smthg they wish would happen for them but it never did. Basically, they've opened up their heart to you at some point, and what you do with that info? You bring that up onto the table and stab them right in the heart. Attack a disability or a deficiency in them. Something they see as an impairment and that they cannot change it no matter what. It's the kicking the cane off their hands and laugh at them falling type of method. Target an unspoken insecurity - This one comes from your own observation. They're so insecure about something that they won't even talk about it. But you can see it... and usually you would walk around eggshell to make sure to not scratch that sensitive part of them. But now, this is the time you expose it all and roast the shit out of them. Attack an open-wound. You use their trauma and PTSD against them... (ex: A mother who has lost her infant. something dear was lost and that wound will never heal, that's why it remains open) This is like adding acid to a burned survivor. I can't stress enough how important it is that you make sure you use these ONLY when it's absolutely necessary: for self-defense. And ONLY when they strike first. Words can cut deep and traumatize people. But also make sure not to hesitate when the moment arises. If you see them using one of these methods and they punch you dirty down there, what you do is you pull out the sniper gun and splatter their guts away (metaphorically speaking)

oh okk, in that case I think learning how to hit below the belt is a very useful one and quite challenging if you're always used to be the bigger person. I'm myself working on it. You make sure to you use when someone does it to you instead of being the bigger person everyone teaches you to be

why would you want to develop such traits..?

I think OP wrote somewhere in the forum he dislikes having to be masculine. He'd rather be the bottom energy. In that case, maybe a lesbian type of advices and approach would be more suited for OP (I hope I'm not offending anyone). Basically the decisive action-prone strategy you're throwing here might not resonate with OP's way of doing. I like your advices though maybe sprinkle some empathy in the bucket soup of to-do list could do it, idk

I also found that it has more to do with surrendering than positive mood or setting. I remember I was depressed the first time I took some, and was told not take it in that stake, but I did it anyway because I felt I didn't have anything to lose anymore. I came out of the trip with a new found love for life and massive self-love. I wondered why I didn't have a bad trip despite being in a bad mood. Then I read a study somewhere that females are less susceptible to have bad trips than men, because by essence they're more naturally prone to surrender. So when I surrendered and embraced death with open arms, it was a beautiful trip and it healed many mental blocks within me. Then I did the mistake of trying to be a guide for someone WHILE tripping myself... which means I had to be responsible and be in control. Needless to say that was a horrendous trip because I wasn't letting go and trying to take control over the psychedelic too much for the sake of the person I was trying to guide. Anyway bad guide I was lol at least the person had a great time.

sounds like she's leading a parasitic lifestyle

The only place I really see myself judging nowadays is bad parenting, unconscious bad parents, and some people with cluster B personality disorders. Because I suffered tremendously by the hands of these people, and I'm just not ready to let go

I didn't say that. Definitely not what I meant either lol. I see you're pulling bunch of articles bias towards veganism there and there. Honestly I read enough of those while I was vegan. Anywhere on the internet you will come across articles that either tell you how plants or meat, oil, oatmeal or potato, etc is horrific to our health, or the complete opposite. Then later on some other articles that debunk them all, following another that debunk the debunks, it's a never ending cycle. Your own bias towards whatever diet you're inclined to will just narrowly look for articles that back up whatever you want in nutrition, and you will easily find them nowadays, because literally everythg is healthy or detrimental to one human to another. So what do you trust in that case? Yourself, your own experimentation. You try it as long as you can and feel the difference. Your body doesn't lie, only your mind. What works for you might not work for another. Can you accept this? Also I didn't have any pre-existing gut condition or any health conditions before, that's a funny vegan propaganda you've been fed.

We have only 4 to choose from?! Good gracious, my math is flying off the window. I guess if we don't count like every single mammal, bird and even reptile on this planet known to be a source of food depending which country you're from, not to mention the wide variety of sea creatures within fish, crustaceans, shellfish, molluscs, echinoderm, jellyfish, turnicates. That rounds up over millions of species. I guess if don't count that, that must make 4... Edit: ok jokes aside, i know what you mean, but there are nutrients in animals that is absorbed in the body in a way plants can never do. I know vegans refuse to acknowledge this, you like to think every nutrient found in animal product can be found in the plants kingdom. Well if that were true, then by that theory you could turn every carnivore into plant eaters. But you can't. Because no amount of plant will supplement the complexity found in a single egg. The same way no amount of animal product can supplement the complexity found in a broccoli.

I found that our intimate relationships (and sometimes even the friends you choose) are like a direct manifestation of the relationship we have with ourselves. Because love is invested, your emotions magnify, and that causes pain to be more unbearable and happiness more euphoric. Maybe you have unchecked traumas within you, unusual childhood upbringing or bad parenting that makes you gravitate around these types of relationships. If you don't heal that part of you, it's pbb just gonna continue following you around until you learn the lessons from it. (Speaking from personal experience, because I used to always wonder why I ended up into weird fucked up relationships despite being sane. Took decade of heartaches, but it was finally "fixed" after I realized my fuked up childhood, buried traumas, then finally discovered self-love. From then on, I was showered with healthy loving relationships)

@Windappreciator Except I actually am sincere. I do hope it works out for you and that it lasts.