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@Peter Miklis I wanted to share my fascination on the matter, just like you. @Shin already addressed your points. I quoted him.

@Harlen Kelly hahaha this is actually funny What fascinates me is the extend on how too many men would project their desire onto the woman to the point they actuallly think the woman want it too. So then all her "No ?" or "No " really look like a "No~???" to him. On point.

Funny you'd confirm it right after I mention how most men are not aware of what's rape. Don't take it wrong, we're all learning here but that last sentence reminded me of what one of my female friend shared with me.

And also, if any men here wondering why a woman wouldn't physically push away a guy forcing themselves on them, it's also out of fear. We are quite aware, believe me, quite aware of our physical limitation, especially when the moment arises. Honestly what good can it do against a man? What if he hits back? He already displayed he's not afraid to cross boundaries. Now you're not just raped, you're beaten and raped. Sometimes You Make Your Rapist Breakfast If anyone interested, here's an article that covers well how women have a natural instinct to "tending" and be liable when they're faced with violence. It's a survival technique.

Because most of the time, they're not aware it's rape. They think if a woman is wet, it's consent. Or if she didn't push him physically, consent again. I had a couple of guy friends who said they were accused of rape and went on crusades on bringing awareness of misaccusation. To always ask the man for his story too. That it's also the woman's responsiility to make it clear. (Truthfully the woman is usually clear, but the man decide not to acknowledge it). So I asked for their stories and guess what? All of them actually raped the woman they said they didn't rape, but they refused to acknowledge it. None of them could confirm she consented. They just went around like "well she did that and that.. so that's consent". No man can acknowledge they're rapist and be okay with that. So the best course of action is to deny there was a rape, and it wasn't rape.

I'm gonna speak more about the former because, unlike the later, I experienced hell of danger from this. "Attack" is not the right word to describe it. They don't "attack". They just go for it when your guards are down or won your trust as a friend. It could be as simple as going to rooms, being intoxicated (drunk), or having friendly sleepovers or even watching a fucking movie on the couch. Y'know you guys drank and went to each other's room a couple of times before, like friends do, it was all safe. Your trust is settled. Your friends knows him well too. Then that's when it happens. When you're consciously faced with that situation - by the hand of a man you trusted wholeheartedly would never do this - 99% of the time you will freeze out of confusion and terror. And the rapist will use this as consent. And nobody, rarely anybody unless they went through it themselves, would understand or believe you. Everyone including yourself at first will victim blame the whole situation (shouldnt have drinked, shouldnt have slept, shouldnt have gone to his house, etc). Even though the so-called guy "friend" literally plotted and tailored the incident from the beginning, it's still the fault of the woman. It's quite awful. Obviously. I don't know many women who didn't experience this or at least some coercion into sex. But thx to this, my red flags list is really detailed and reliable now. Just sucks these kinda things are learnt the hard way.

Ohh giirll I'm sorry I don't wanna go against you here but I'm a little bit cringing at what you're saying here ? You sound like one of these men she's literally talking about.. For the stuffs she explains, I felt it, all my female friends felt it. Even in couple. Could you please not spread misinformation here..? Especially seeing here the men are making a legit effort trying to understand us. You're just gonna confuse them. I don't want to shade you I really don't want to debate this. I'm really sorry if it comes out wrong, but please if you can't understand anything, avoid critisizing, try listening. Maybe have a little more experience of the outside world to raise your understanding. Thank you.

Thx for this thread. To me the biggest problem doesn't lie in the streets among strangers, it lies among those you trusted and thought they were friends. There are so many men who would just play the cards right until the opportunity rises. The world can be so scary.. Because she's fcking great? Idk what to say if you can't understand her videos... maybe try watching them without bias and add patience. (?)

@Shin ill never forget the memes you posted there though ? that was hilariously revealing

That's a shame.. There was so many heartly posts in this "Why there aren't more females in the consciousness forum?" from several people towards the end. Which probably triggered this "Dear women of this forum" thread. The later thread blew overnight 11+ pages. It was an "Ok let's do this right" Gone Wrong moment after few pages though Thxfully for me I sometimes type in a note memos before posting it here, so a couple of my posts were saved, but without context they mean nothing ? Edit: @RendHeaven I'm just a bystander witness to this but it seemed it was closer to.. "Male vs Male vs Female"

I just wanted to say, despite the non-concerning-you joke I made after, I really appreciated what you said there. Not many men seem to be aware of this fact and too many women ends up having to learn it the hard way. Consent should be included in sex education for both men and women. Countless women get coerced into sex or manipulated into it only to later realize much later it was rape during therapy, or while dealing with ptsds. A lot of men don't even know what consent is. They think if the woman is wet = consent. Or the man has an erection = consent. Men who face sexual assaults get ridiculized and diminished. Their reality laughed at and their pain trivalized from priviliedged people who never gone through the abuse themselves. And sadly, just like you said, most guys just can't understand it. Then they come with their high horse on how to deal with the situation. How to heal better. How you should've reacted better. How the blame is ultimately on you because you weren't strong or spiritual enough. What a privileged ignorance* So anyway, thanks for bringing awareness on the table.

Yeah and I saw some ppl thinking unsolicited smooches in a middle of an argument is fine ? *goosebumps*

I suppose you're talking about another thread where I gave up because you couldn't understand what was being tackled there. It's called self-defense. @Preety_India was asking for self-defense tactics against stage red. Not about transcending and solving. It's too soon for that. You can transcend and solve maybe after you're protected and safe. Before that it's dangerous and honestly, impractical. And I'll ask back, why are you so avoidant to revert back to red? If you had such a strong foundation in your current stage, then you would have no problem going back and forth. Instead, you're afraid as if your integrity would crumble the moment you revert. It just shows how shaky your substructure is. When substructure is deficient, your higher layer is very much based on a façade. You could've learned something down there to strengthen your structure, but no... you're too caught up at your perceived goodness and treating lower stage as beneath you. There are utilities to be learned at every stage, no matter how corrupted it is. Stage red has the strongest sense in boundaries. You'd need that facing psychos. You need to protect yourself and survive before saving anyone. I'd recommend you visit a 3rd world country and live there for a while. It will humble you. @Windappreciator @tatsumaru With the greatest intention I'm sure, you guys care too much about what you interprete as my feelings or traumas or triggers lol. You think too much about me rather than the message itself. I don't know what to tell you other than it's off-topic (irrelevant).

I find it funny, almost exhasperating, yet unsurprising that the people who speak highly about rehabilitating psychos, never actually encountered one. The main limitation here is your lack of experience. @Windappreciator @tatsumaru To find a real functioning solution to a problem, you first must truly understand 200% the danger it involves and the complexity the task implies. Do you realize your jolly theories hold absolutely no value when you have no experience in the matter? You guys are acting the same as bystanders telling how to coach a ballerina better. Who do you think will know better how to make a ballerina excel? A random good coach? Or an equally good coach with years of ballet experience? All you guys do is theorizing and not even consider the warnings of people who actually faced these situations and tried countless time to resonate with stage red, DID do the dirty work you didn't do. Come back with experienced insights. And you guys still think your fairy tale theories could work nonetheless. That's being idealistic with a lack of pragmatism. You know what, let me throw one for fun too: "We could prevent injuries in wars by making the soldiers immortal" There. your only limitation is your imagination You say that but you can't even access to their frequency. If you did, you would've understood better what it implies. Try embodying stage red for a day. Be egocentric, predatory, ruthless, exploitative, power hungry, out for blood, dangerously corrupted. Can't do? Well what do you think you can accomplish now you can't even do step 1

This. Because after all, you can't help them, let alone heal them. It was a painful reality I had to face too. Only them can save themselves when and if they're willing to. It's no one's else burden to do so and frankly, it's an extremely heavy baggage to take on. It would suck your soul empty. It's emotionally, mentally, physically, financially, spiritually draining. You come out of there with several PTSDs, having to book your own therapists and earned yourself a life long time of healing. Congratz and for what? For one Narcissist to potentially consider therapy as an optional supply... maybe. yay.

Excuse me, I speak from personal experience of dealing with actual psychos. Unlike you, clearly. And fortunately. Your theories sounds like fantasies based on ignorance on these individuals.

I haven't tried it yet... but maybe you could try nail polish and manicure.. or manlycure if you prefer This woman said her 3 years old son wanted his nail painted, so she did.

@Windappreciator Try understanding what is said to you too. Dealing with psychopaths is no joke. It's not as naively simple as pumping them with 5 meo or pouring one-directional love to them. This is totally gonna work against you. This apply only to non-psychopaths. They don't work like the rest of us. Of course you probably can't fathom this until you actually meet a psychopath, which I hope you won't for your own sanity and waste of love.

@StarStruck if I were you, I would date other girls simultaneously.. Increasing your options so you don't come off as desperate and needy. Until it's official and exclusive, you're a free man

Well.. I understand why you say that, while it's not entirely true, most women needs a lot more time to feel attraction. Only then she might want sex. Sometimes a woman could feel attracted without even wanting the sex (yet). A woman could also come to a date just for fun, curiosity, exploration or just to vainly flatter her ego. But I understand that "she showed up to my date = she wants my D?" is actually a very important notion for men to keep in mind while dating, in order to stay motivated and asserting confidence. And when done properly, this confidence might trigger an attraction in the woman that wasn't there before

There are certain things you can only learn and experience through facing your own imminent death and aging

I really love reading your posts. Sometimes I resonate with them, sometimes they just make me think. I find your posts very unique here, because they're just so authentic, outspoken, simple and fearless. You allow yourself to be emotional, unlike anyone I've seen here... and that makes you say things most people wouldn't dare to say unfiltered - probably out of fear of being targeted, harassed, bullied like it happened to you. Seeing you being so emotionally free inspires mild emotional vampires to engage in a fight with you just taste a bit of that freedom and emotions. It says more about them than it says about you. That's the impression I get when reading their dismissive messages towards you. I'd love to say they don't deserve your time, attention and emotions... but you're your own master, whatever you choose and wherever you go in life, I hope you keep that fire in you.

I usually invite men that I only consider friends lol. If you're at my home, then you're already friendzoned.. it might be just me though Urghh This is horrible. ?‍♀️ what a lunatic

Oh interesting.. never thought of it that way Yes very very true.. I really do give all the clear signs when I'm ready. But that's also why I feel it's silly when they ask whether I want it or not. It's like Now that you've asked, congratz you've just turned me off. I can't help but think he's being either a wuss, or just an idiot for not getting the obvious signs. Pardon my judgement. I also agree to this, it can be quite frightening when a man confuses assertiveness with aggression