Thunder Kiss

What are you unhappy about? try practicing gratitude for what is, rather than constantly thinking about the future/past. Is it your relationship that is making you unhappy or is it your restlessness and feeling lost/anxiety? When we feel unhappy within ourselves the ego will look outwards for problems. this is something I’m also working on, as someone with anxiety disorder and pessimistic outlook. whether I’m in a relationship or not, I still feel unhappy at times, and it’s because I feel lost in life. I’ve been going through identity crisis and worry about the future of my relationship and whether it’s right for me. But even when I wasn’t in a relationship I was still having identity crisis, worrying about the future and feeling unhappy. So it’s me who’s making me unhappy, not my relationship. (This Is to say you have no real problems going on and it’s not a toxic relationship) give yourself a break from constantly overthinking the relationship, and put those thoughts to something else (life purpose, self care, self love, travel) really look and see your girlfriend, pay attention to how much you have gone through together and the bond you have. Communicate with her some of your feelings. Probably the relationship is going through a ‘boring’ stage… maybe not much is happening. This is a good time to put some energy back into it. Spend some time together one on one and just talk about life.

Do insecurities ever completely go away up the spiral? It seems many insecurities come from the shadows of mostly stage orange and below.. ..Is it possible to to change a negative self image completely as you reach higher spiral stages.. or will that shadow always be there deep down ? Feeling no matter what I do I will never be total negative image free..

A good way to meet people and build confidence would be by getting a weekend job in bar, this really helped my confidence years ago when I was really shy. It’s a very good way to talk with lots of different people and form social group with work friends…work nights out there are always the most unlikely hookups going on and you meet all types of people coming in (many types of guys and girls) This means you don’t have to go to bar alone.. you are already there with reason.. I saw many a male collegue take customers numbers or hanging out with them after the shift!

Could you share more information about this and how you learned about? Books, teachers, or perhaps articles you read.

I have dermatophagia - a disorder of compulsive picking/biting the skin around finger nails. since being a kid, I’m extremely addicted and need to stop. I have quit many times but I always end up doing it again. my nails always end up sore and look horrible, but it feels so satisfying to do it. It happens automatic and I will do it compulsively. Even the awful tasting stuff that is supposed to deter you from biting, doesn’t stop me. If someone has any tips to stop this for good it would be great. thanks in advance.