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Sounds more like incompatiblity. You also have needs and if your partner can’t or doesn’t want to meet them then you’d be better paired with someone who is comfortable with meeting your needs too before you label yourself as codependent or not masculine enough first look at incompatibility, instead of blaming yourself. make sure that from the beginning you are prioritising your needs In the relationship, so you will attract someone who is more compatible with you.

That’s why the safer more Naturell option is to meet girls through friends and In social circles.

Start going out and socialising with friends and form a social circle, and if you don’t wanna do that then you gotta go lone wolf and approach 1000s of women on the streets until you find one who is up for a 1 night stand

What the actual fuck?! That’s absolutely disgusting. Just found the original videos on YouTube. I’m in shock.

Think also of the younger generation who has grown up without Taliban rule the last 20 years and now their world is turned upside down. It’s worlds apart from what they are used to. Maybe a very older generation will resonate with the Taliban but younger people don’t want it. And they can’t escape. there was many students who had planned scholarships to the U.K. and now that’s not happening because the U.K. embassy can’t process visas. They have been pleading and begging ‘please give us our visas or we may never get out’

I’m afraid my mind has been poisoned with everything that gets talked about on this forum regarding male and female roles and how things should be or what is expected. I’ve started over analysing every detail in my relationship about masculine and feminine. I’m judging myself or judging my boyfriend about whether things we do day to day are masculine enough or feminine enough and whether He or I are being too much of the opposite. I’m judging silly things. It’s driving me a bit crazy. How much of this is just societal programming and what is actually real?

Yes. But I have anxiety disorder and it’s hard for me not to overthink and get easily influenced by things and compare myself.

My problem is that I think I’m too masculine

I am aware of it just needed to write out some thoughts and understand what I’m thinking. I’ve even had a few nightmares. I’ve also been analysing other couples to see what the dynamic is in their relationships and comparing it to me and my relationship. In the Grand scheme of things how much do these gender roles matter?

So true!! I’ve always been independent from a young age, working and doing everything for myself so in a relationship it’s hard for me to not be ‘doing’ so I feel like I’m not ‘true feminine’ I’m really confused about it all. I used to choose emotionally unavailable guys so I have been used to shielding myself. now I’m in a healthy relationship and I feel too masculine because I always have a need to get stuff done and tend to bulldoze myself, then judge myself that I’m too manly. lol.

Funny, expressive, likes music, dark hair, likes nature, sociable and easy to get along with

Are you saying this is a good or bad thing? I’ve heard no bad press about the Pfizer or moderna but a lot of bad press around the others like Astra and Johnson. I don’t know what is the right choice.

Being in the presence of someone and being yourself without feeling judged or like you have to put on an act. There is a feeling of warmth and trust. You feel relaxed with them. They feel like home to you and you feel like home to them.

I have huge anxiety around the whole thing. I understand both sides, I understand why I should take the vaccine but I’m still afraid because of the anti-vax perspective. I have even more anxiety though around what I can and can’t do regarding rules and am afraid to travel incase I get trouble for something at the borders, or I get trapped somewhere. I used to travel a lot and feel excitement to do things, now I just feel apathy and have no lust to do anything because the thought of it is all so stressful. I have my appointment booked for the vaccine out of pressure and because taking it might make my life a bit easier. But I’m afraid to take it, and the stress of making a decision (which one to get, what if I get a bad reaction etc) whilst under pressure is driving me crazy People constantly asking me did I take it yet?! I’m really tired of everything.

I think if a girl is asking you directly to buy her things on a first date (or even in general) it shows immaturity and lack of awareness. Maybe she is a bit spoiled and used to getting what she wants? I noticed this with a lot of young girls/boys these days and genZ/instagram types. There is a huge feeling of entitlement towards things without putting in any effort and just wanting everything handed to them on a damn platinum platter. They think that if they have a few thousand followers on Instagram that they are some kind of a celeb and everyone else are their minions who should be running around after them. I dunno, I’m kinda just ranting now, but maybe try dating more humble girls and not brats lol

An older person that I know has incurable cancer. Started out as a melanoma, which spread to the lung. The person was an avid sunbather and heavy smoker. I also had conversations this week with 3 other people, who told me about their parents or someone they knew who has cancer or has recently died from it. when I was around 18-23ish (now 30) I would sunbathe once a year on holiday. Now I don’t sunbathe ever and use cream with sun protection on my face daily. What is the chances of me getting skin cancer when I’m older from this? Should I have any moles removed whilst I’m young ? I’ve also been reading a book about how emotional suppression can cause cancer and illness. Any advice?

from last year, but very interesting. it's very compassionate towards todays masculine, which is nice to hear. - How can a man receive the archetypal feminine? - The animus breathes a new soul into a woman - The archetypal layer to Bioshock Infinite (brief tangent) - Can one prepare themselves ot meet the 'Divine Feminine' internally, now? - The absolute state of the dating scene in Western Culture - Avoiding becoming an NPC - Sex culture in the West, explained through the anima/animus

The thing with pickup is that it's not really about the woman at all. It's about men competing with eachother, and a woman is just a pawn in their game. so, they can exploit this knowledge and fake being emotional just to pull the girl.

I'm wondering if these types of books are still written today? most profound books I read are very old or at least from before the 2000s. maybe I'm missing something? I know there is alot of self help type books, which usually take ideas from older teachings. but I'm thinking really profound and difficult to read type of books. Are there any?

Thanks @Emerald I watched the video, and it sounds like me in regards to the vaguness, lack of direction, etc. I thought I was supressing my feminine, but maybe I need to integrate my masculine properly? It's really confusing. I feel in a constant state of limbo.

pickup guys will be hating you right now I need more advice on this one. How can I be more in my yin energy? as a female whom created a negative self image, built alot of walls and have a protective shield I like to hide behind and I have lived more in my masculine energy as a protection mechanism. Receptivity is not easy for me, it feels unnatural. I end up running myself into the ground and then hating on myself. I have this deep rooted feeling of unhappiness and avoidance. This makes me sometimes act cold or, as some would say, a bitch. But at the same time I can be loving and creative and have a warm personality. But I restrict myself because of my negative self image and feelings of unworthiness that force me to retreat and isolate myself. I think I'm turning into my father. Actually, I remember reading something here before when someone said that a child will embody the more dominant parent of the opposite sex. So if the father was the dominant one, then his traits would become embedded in the female child. and if the mother was a dominant one, her traits would embed in the male child. I don't know how accurate this is.

I don't know. what is your skin tone like? I think about 15 minutes of sun per day is ok, to get some vitamin D. I think the problem is sunbathing for hours untill your skin is crisped and burned. the paler the skin, the more damage will be done. My italian friend has olive skin so she goes a luscious golden colour when she has been in the sun and she doesn't burn. I don't know how damaging that is for her skin though. Is this true? I find it hard to not wear sunglasses when the sun is bright, I can barely see.

Make your own ‘pizza’ I used to enjoy having pizza bagels years ago. basically cut a a brown seeded bagel in half, top them with a tomato sauce and add some toppings, then bake in the oven. Just don’t call it ‘pizza’ to any Italians, or they will sacrifice you to the pizza gods. Pizza bagels

I’m working on my negative self image, it’s so difficult. Currently I’m feeling apathy. Other feelings like: unworthiness, comparing myself to others, pointlessness, feeling ugly, not understanding how someone could like/love me. Feeling fearful of the future. Afraid of getting older. All of this makes me want to isolate and hide away from the world. I just want to be free of this but it’s just a part of who I am and don’t know if it can ever stop. I have grown a lot; but seems the more I grow the more depressed I become. I don’t feel enjoyment with anything..Feels like there is no point. It’s constant battle between trying to be happy and not be moody and miserable. I feel melancholic. Feel Apathetic about life but at the same time I feel so deeply and sad. Caring too much. i just want to be fun loving and carefree. Those days are gone.

Yes it’s normal for insecure people.. but it’s also normal to simply not connect with everyone. Most people are just acquaintances it’s rare to make a good friend. But what I have realised is that confident and secure people have no problems with being themselves no matter who they are around. Yeah maybe they won’t get along with them for whatever reason, but that doesn’t effect their behaviour or make them want to isolate or act different. It’s a way to not be seen by people, a fear of people seeing the ‘real you’. usually it causes people to have ‘different personalities’ depending on who they are hanging around out of fear of judgement. work on being yourself without worrying how you are perceived by others, rather than isolating. It’s a long road.