Applegarden8

I can resonate as I have had similar experience. But I found quite a few solutions, cheers man. Still up to the collab if you want.

You know, I gave my microtonal guitars to some very educated guitarists to play and it was very amusing that they were so affected by it, it's like something invisible is affecting them and making them confused, laughing and causing such a reaction to them. They had a well tought out and calibrated model about the concept of music which is so deep in their cognition and when this base changes they feel like children again.

I would go even further and tell he can handle and is good at being famous and social. But yeah somehow he can take any topic and just drag it out, as opposed to many people here running out of things to say. There is nothing wrong with silence, but we lose our engagement and impact if we were to attract somebody if we are not talking and it's not bringing any emotional value, but he is very good at it, I agree.

I like few things about artistic people that others do not seem to have so much. Ther ability to create something out of nothing. They are more open-minded, they are more comical, especially about their field; you will hear jokes that are acctually funny. There is depth, at least to me, to what they make, so it's interesting to watch them do it. They have a strong personality and insights to share in regards to how to deal with people and cultivate creativity. They are somewhat self-reflective already. They are just more interesting people to me, even when it comes to how they speak and present themselves. And of course I have some ability to do art together with them or to appreciate it and they like more sophisticated art themselves usually. And their values are usually not just money or whatever is the common theme nowadays.

There is so much you can do. You either go and shark out the root cause of your voice problems and continue to heal it and not give up. If that is not possible you can learn an instrument, teach, manage people in the industry, compose for people, organize concepts for people to be inspired etc.

Maybe needs firmware update, but I think it's OK.

Yeah, My standards are kinda high, but for specific things. My dating strategy is either I will settle for what I want authentically or I will be single for the rest of my life. So, what do I want? I only want to date artistic people. Why? To build something with them. I have seen that with like minded art people you can build something that really builds you and them up and creates a very good atmosphere for children, but I don't want children at the moment. Otherwise, I am building my life so that my finances are taken care off, I spend the money on the minimum side, my purchases are well calculated. My environment is easy to clean, minimalistic and safe, I am working on my health and diet and spending time alone and improving my sources of entertainment and mental health. Then I would be the most ripe for a relationship, although I have close to no experience in dating or sex. I believe that my artistic desires will attract the right people in my life. But all this dating stuff, sex, reading the other person, communication etc. You can learn this and talk this out. Also one important thing I am looking in my partner is that she has to understand that she can change her triggers, patterns of behavior and that she has to tell me what she likes in my behaviour and does not like and it needs to be talked from time to time or it will explode in an argument or something. Of course there might be things I will have to accept and I will try my best. Also, no alcohol, drugs, smoking. I am also a vegetarian, I don't think I could handle a lot of sex, but I could have little to no sex for long periods of time I think. I have already accepted that I might be single so I am working on my life and contemplating things to prepare for death so that after 20 years I have a feeling that I don't even need this body and there is nothing else to live for and I am ready to die at any moment when it comes.

Share your vision and you will find the quality of people you are looking for... and a few enemies too.

Yes

I think ultimate health is loss of boundary and loss of an identity. Death is the ultimate health. Edit: I don't think I want to post such things in the future, because I feel bad that people read this and believe this. Maybe this is true in some significant aspect in my life and I have my reasons for why I think so, but somebody else now will justify suicide with this which I am not justifying etc.

In the long term, you will ace them. Just keep going. Does not matter about short term. If they insult and troll you, it is very clear. They are not your friends. After 5 or 10 years they will look at you and it will be irritating for them. Something very subtle is changing in you. It seems like you have some answers now. Just ignore them and keep going. Just because those life choices are popular does not mean that you have to chase them. The ironic thing is that I know some group of people that have about the same values (house, car, pets or children, family, profession and what our economy has to offer) and from these people I (like my neighbours) receive the most questions about how I live... well because there are vast number of ways how to live that people acctually choose or are forced to live, but they don't want to hear it. They can laugh all they want, just to get angry and upset 1 minute later about me for reaons they don't know. This is my and your constitutional and human right to be how you want to be. Don't take it lightly. I use this argument if I get very weird criticisms, do you know your rights? For example. There is no paper stating I have to make children, besides, compared to 100 years back, do you really need kids that much? There is 8 billion people. We need to improve those who are already living otherwise my son will go to war aginst your son due to some stupid ideology and we will drown into garbage we produce. Acctually read what you constitution says, it is pretty refreshing. Understand, you SHOULD HAVE THAT FREEDOM what is written there. Nobody can request you, don't do it because I don't like it or you should do what I do as an open criticism to you - this person is a total loser who doesn't know his rights and does things basically because somebody told him to. You will be very irritating to average materialistic person which will be your friends in some time going forward. You will lose some "friends" when your interests change. You will lose some of the even when your food choices will change, there is no more time to hang out and eat junk anymore.

Interesting topic. I haven't had a relationship because I guess I did not want it enough. Right now I really want to make my life sustainable and healthy/stable in the long term, meaning that I am healthy and I have a place to stay and earn my income. I also really want to focus on my artistic desire which I am really focusing on my free time. Then I do some stuff like yoga and meditation to be healthy and not be depressed, and think about how to implement a more sustainable lifestyle. Then, I kinda have no energy for relationships. If that was to happen, well, I never really approach women or initiate, though I think I could, I do not know how that would escalate in real time, it would be entertaining of course, but if we are talking seriously then the only reason I would have a relationship is to have an artistic power couple. Means I have an artist or a musician by my side and we talk, keep each other updated, emotionally relieve ourselves and help each other to grow artistically and maybe join our artistic projects. One scenario would be if she was like a singer or performer I would help her get the technical stuff or make a duet as a side project or if she was a visual artist I would make pads for her exhibitions or even provide with music etc and the other way around. Otherwise I feel that relationships are pretty shallow and involves the same mindset and arguing about the same things for decades. Or he cheated she cheated kind of thing and endless drama about it. Better to be involved balls deep with a person and find some creative solutions to your problems and really support each other. But I will probably not get that and I will just do it myself anyway when I can.

I had a guy tell me he had to choose between 4 women recently and he had "nothing serious" with them. I am clueless what to say until this moment even. I can't even give you advice when you have to choose between 0 women.

hahahahaha, me too

I have had 0 in 27 years. Damn, maybe i should get some, in a row especially!

This is a self-dev forum, good to ask how many ppl play and how beneficial it is for people that want to build their life, it's good he is asking.

No you are not missing out, in fact, if you are still young, better get into something more tangible and social like music, painting, video editing, wood crafting, 3D printing, theater, sports, dancing, camping etc. unless you want to create/program video games, there is not much point and it will make you waste a lot of the time, but it can be fun, as the other things I mentioned are, but these other skills will develop you into a well rounded, practical and social human being that will serve to your advantage.

I believe generally bad for one reason, regardless of the gender. If you do sex or masturbation thinking about your commited partner, that's great! Great to feel wanted and want somebody and it goes full circle and it's an enjoyable experience. If you do hook up with multiple people and jerk off thinking about different people, then you will be more mentally and emotionally fragile and unstable, form my experience. If you do longer periods of no fap like a more than 2 weeks, your perception of the opposite sex will change. The natural triggers will not trigger as they would and you are able to think about other aspects of life more clearly, the impact of importance about what people think of you also reduces and there is no emotional investment and expectation how things should go from your crush or person you like if you do no fap. I am not talking about whether you should, shouldn't or suggesting that you feel any way about it. This is just purely my observation. I think it's sad that everything is so sexualized for monetary gain and people are chasing some kind of illusions just to blow one off or get laid or maintain an abusive relationship (to not be lonely) although life may be about entirely something else. And then ANYWAY you are left alone and couldn't in fact run away from it, time to sit with yourself and address it.

i believe this is true or I believe this is not true, in either case, will you find out by believing any one thing?

Having a solid and written down business idea to appeal to investors or government grants, also having a team of few people ready to go.

I do not like this soft style, except when Osho does it, it's at least funny that he is calling out somebody.

Yes

The concept and implementation of balance

Well, don't take what I said it too literally, but I can say I know something in this field by experience because of practices and some willingness to know the Truth. I don't know how big or small is this or how close or far I am, but I have some system, some infrastructure organized that works and I try to maintain. I do not feel that I am close to anything yet, these things just happen from time to time with a tendency to happen more regularly and intensely over years. I feel this is my karma to have a such a strong influence on spirituality in my life and i feel that it's my destiny. But any one can prioritize to spend time with themselves, desire the truth and do some sadhana so that eventually they have developed the receptivity to experience these things. I would love to think that I am very connected to the Source, but I have no instruments to measure that in the short term, so the only thing is to keep practicing, keep being healthy and active in life. I am not a supporter of neo-advitic terms of "it will somehow happen" or "it can happen any time", I have never seen this work for anyone I know, but I have seen practicing monks and they have a different energy about them.

yes, i have had moments where i experience extended sense of self or no-self, this usually happens when I am sitting with my eyes closed. This feeling seems to be located around seeing and breathing and somehow turns this perception turns infinite or very large and you cannot understand how much space you are taking, within minutes it goes back to normal. Pronounced feeling of energies, blockages, bliss and chakras exist in my day to day experience. There is sometimes intuition when I have done a lot of meditation the previous day where I know there will be a person around the corner and I walk and they are there, this is very sudden, non-repeatable and spontaneous but i noticed it. I have had a few other, but they are not so significant.