Applegarden8

I think the point is not productive at all. Knowing you have limited time and resources in this life, better look for the few things that work and implement. You already gave yourself reasons not to try new stuff out idk man. And there has to be a part of some of the teachings that could acctually be true.

This is fine but revolutions are voluntary is what I will say to you. Peaceful systemic change (even with conflicts here and there) requires incredible, incredible amount of work. People also want to work and live there, that tells something to me at least. If you have better system, please, implement it. Paying or not paying for people's labor has nothing to do with spirituality, it's an ethical/moral question. There are good reasons I named in my comment prior. I am sorry that you think it’s useless. With all the applied models of systems thinking I am surprised to hear it's an useless exploit. I am really sorry to hear.

Very "normie" criticism. Just like saying no amount of enlightenment will save you from staring at a pair of big breasts or whatever. Bro, their quality of life and life experience is orders and orders of magnitude better than you. They are where they are because nobody has invented an infrastructure so that they could have been better, only ignorant naysayers saying like in this quote. You will fall sick and want sex (especially if you are pursuing celibacy where it will be the hardest to abstain from sex, but the benefits you will never know), so don't pursue enlightenment and start drinking and gambling? This is so funny, they are far more evolved and know what to do with their life and after all if they die it's definitely not bad for them experientially.

This is the most unreasonable criticism coming from you I have ever read. He has a life purpose, no? Dude, your teaching is workaholism. And what he has to lose? He is going on because of the vision he has and supposedly he even took account that he will be fine without surgery. Besides,he was worse when he was consecrating Dhyanalinga. I would love to know why you said this. Besides, because of people like him, people are practicing health lifestyle which cuts directly in many cartels of food, alcohol, drug and pharma industries and medical malpractices to keep people hooked on treatment forever and because of people like him people are acctually reversing climate change by planting trees on mass. I don't see any government doing this. Another point, he is creating people that will not support people like Trump and Putin or whatever mediocre politician because they have the capacity to care due to Sadhguru's work.

You can underestand that you need an alternative to waiting on her, which is to focus on your life in action and self-reflection. Yeah, I would also be fine with meeting just one which i really have some spark and mating only with her, but in today's age I don't see this happen, people have exes that try to come back into their life and sometimes even married people are married only on paper, but they had to get married for some reason I don't underestand. I think after few years if you work on yourself and your problems, you will be able to provide a more quality relationship to a person that will come eventually and your standards will probably increase as well since you will be looking for signs of emotional maturity that would lower the risk of divorce. I Don't want to marry a lazy, projective victim kind of person who cares what others have. I want somebody who will listen to herself and will listen to me, then so much is possible. If you truly want to have a partner, wish for 15-20 minutes a day for a partner (not for any particular person) and prioritize some skills that are handy for dealing with a partner like communication, negotiation, chores and the fact that your own personal decisions become limited as you are willing to sacrifice a part of your self.

That is true.

Let's tackle with this issue: - The aim is very complicated and lengthy to achieve as it is with life's purposes. What you are trying to achieve is not a static thing. Immagine if you did buy a house but now you are drafted to go to a war or you get a terrible disease, so many people in the world don't know if they will eat today and everybody can't get a house and live "off the grid", because you will be over some people in society, and there are people below you, trying to get ahead you. The thing that you are actively trying to better your life is worth congratulating. - Try to improve some aspect related to your life purpose. Take a loan for the house or switch to a job which you value more. If I was working in neem powder production company or groundnut farm or water filtering company or whatever i would really consume myself, I would really stand by it, it would make me appreciate my job more. - what you are trying to achieve is health. Are the pesticides your only worry? Really? There are other aspects to your health which you can improve to cover minimize the risk of pesticides influencing your health like finding the right frequencyto eat, type of food, fasting, superfoods and supplements, yoga or workout routine etc. etc. Which means you maybe have to sacrifice time to research it and have to quit some thing you like like coffee maybe or refined sugars etc. But in the end you will have health, and even then your health can go bad which is related to point 1 thar your life purpose is not static. - I hope this helps you to find where you stand in life and figure what mentality to have to benefit your journey further. Peace.

Ultimately your own personality or personal agenda/bias/psyche (which is a compliation of what you think you are, what you think the other is, what you think world is and what you think god is and it is mostly the toughts that you haven't verbalized but have access to) which is pretty vague thing but it is the most tangible software with which and trough which your life is internalized and lived. That determines what you love and hate. Your personality however is influenced by society and environment.

I have heard that is because: - you become so energetic and can't hold your samadhi in your body that you have to either give up your experience or the body; - you just don't know how to remain in the body even if you are capable to remain, so you create a desire, have jattas, put copper jewelry or whatever to somehow remain; But I think it's also because: - you don't want to go back to the life you lived prior to the experience, to whatever family situation / life situation / political situation, so you leave; From other sources where people live a simple and monastic life with a lot of sadhana I heard that they don't have this problem of being incapable to hold their samadhi in the body, but they can lose their experience in some moments in their life.

I don't even know how that would look like. 😀

I am beta on the outside but alpha on the inside x)

Master of one

I am too. Where else I say that I listen to Sadhguru exclusive religiously, try to implement radical ideas of Osho and Nithyanada which I think work better than those I learned in school and that I have a bondage/latex fetish. Where else if not here? Isn't it funny how repressed society acctually is? It's quite phenomenal. Not that all of that even mattered that I said it, but there would be actual people who would spend significant amount of time to give a shit about that and to gossip and compare endlessly and create a story around you just because they either didn't like you, they genuinely tought there is something wrong with you or they had nothing better to do with their life. But no, your cognition is so much more sophisticated and flexible that you don't need to feel guilty for who you are. Period. But there are real consequences to expressing your sexuality or say that you listen to everything some guru is saying. Due to social conditioning I am bound to feel ashamed, and to a point I am and probably will be for the rest of my life.

There was a guy called Origins who abused user Modmyth. Then there was an admin who made a copycat version of this forum. We will have those.

Relatable, it's good when Leo agrees with me and bad when Leo disagrees with me.

Some individuals in the past were very very intelligent. Look at ancient Greek music theory or Hindu temples and lingas or craftsmanship of literally every culture in the world.

There is nothing sexier than female vocalists / jazz vocalists. Period! Women's day... well, women have been abused for most of the history, so as other men by the current tyrants at whatever time in the past. Right now it's a very political day. I rather view this day as a celebration of shakti. The feminine dimension of universe. Feminine qualities we all embody such as creativity, appreciation, beauty, expression, storytelling, language, diversity, being spontaneous, motherliness, nurturing, supporting, laughter, appreciation of all emotions, feeling, playfulness, submissiveness, inclusiveness, occultism, magic, prayer, faith, trust in life etc. It is strange that we celebrate this day to accent the femininity of women while they are becoming more masculine because our economy requires it. This day reminds me of the socio-economic gender war propagated by marxist-like idea that is happening rather than celebrating a woman for what she naturally expresses. It is good to recognize some group of people in society, but the problem is that we forget about the idea about how to live sensibly and how to include everyone in society rather than pushing one agenda, otherwise Feminists and Manosphere will fight endlessly.

I think because they are like antennas, just like long hair. I guess it increases their sensitivity and stabilizes their energies in the head. The weight on your head, pulling of the skin and circulation of blood in your head area also plays some role in circulation of your pranas, it's a hard question, i don't know the answer and I am not a guru. But from the stories I have heard, depends what you use it for, it makes them more sensitive and stable in their body. Some strange things happen in the body when you become enlightened and to hold the experience or not to leave the body, they try to rely on everything they know. Buddhist tradition (for monks, but i have seen masters also like that) practicioners remove their hair on the head at shivaratri's of the year, since it centers their energies at the top of the head. Basically it has it's pros and cons, for example, Sikh men always have beard and long hair wrapped in their headpiece. Some Hindus have it too. It's even popular in middle east.

It's not hilarious, it's another sad distraction from who Putin really is. It's like passive propaganda in contrast to the active propaganda his administration runs in Russia for two decades. People literally die from it now more than ever, and make others die.

I think you have to come in terms with this. For the most part, the daily life is boring, repetitive, spaced out between events, minimalistic and even when there are events, they may not even be satisfying. But where you are in life in the most direct sense (needing something or not needing something, relying on a belief or not having to rely on belief) is very very important. You creating a sober and sustainable lifestyle is fantastic by itself. You having the mental stability, abstain from something that hurts you and being in line with the large things you value makes most of the difference. But to have that you will need a lot of awareness and a lot of sielence, contemplation, shadow work and time spent on entertaining ideas contrary to what you believe now. And it is boring, but the boredom can be cured. Really. It will take you a long time, but if it can be cured it is worth it! And another thing you not only need to push it but you need to pull yourself from the future by constantly visualizing the life you would like to live. Have you even spend a consistent amount of time visualizing of big things and little things you want definitively? Yes, life will narrow that down, but you will have few authentic desires left which you will follow with ease, no matter how hard it is to upkeep. But it is a part of a boring, organized and healthy lifestyle not based on much sensory stimulation but inner bliss. And to get that boring, healthy and organized life you have to do some boring research which will come inspiring because it will give you the health, work ethics and technical problem solutions in any field. Don't waste time of you thinking how life is going to shit. Better start searching for what it is that you want, how it would feel like and how to get there in babysteps. For example how cool it would be to live alone and not to bother with anybody but to design your own lifestyle. There is a possibility of you becoming blissfull, ecstatic or whatever (something that you and Iclearly cannot immagine and cognize, just fantasize) in some people's experience it's possible.

Because people want violence, chaos, excitement and their lives just fundamentally suck because they haven't found an inner solution to their violence. Just look at Putin. He likes inflicting mass murder and destroying the lives and futures of russians and especially Ukrainians for basically no reason other than that he thinks he can. Putin loves to emotionally torture Ukrainians by stealing their children and re-writing history and their culture. Putin likes when children's hospitals and schools get destroyed. Yes, we have such people. Putin also loves silencing his own people, making them weak and stupid and treating them like war pets just to take their money. What a trash human being. Period.

So am I. Here is how to deal with it, please, listen: - with imagining her every moment in your life you are not imagining how you are going to live your life and your life suffers, because the destructive tendencies you have express themselves unchallenged, remember that you have a life to live, you are capable of being alone as a complete human being and you are interested in living a healthy and adventorous life in which you create this meaning by visualizing and acting; - have you entertained the idea, at least for a time, ok, right now I decide I don't need anybody and just proceed with it. There are good reasons for it like, there are people who really have nobody and they can cope extremely well with life and that realistically she doesn't give a fuck and the woman I am "obsessed" doesn't care either. She is a free human being protected by constitution just like you, which means that your attention holds a lot of power, anything you commit your life to is bound to yield to you, better learn some skill, build something or relax completely. Make yourself in such a way it's easy to get laid. - Natural forces and societal conditioning. You have to have because everyone has. Most of the media reminds you that you have to have a spouse, right now. Sometimes you feel like wanting to share something, some intimacy, ok, you don't have it, but this loneliness taught me very important life lessons. Quitting jerking off helped me the most in this aspect because I don't feel so identified with the body. So this obsession is so passive in me right that that this person does not trigger anything really and I have strong sense of purpose that losing this person means nothing really, the sun will rise and I will do what I planned to do and keep reflecting, since this is actual tangible thing a human being can do to improve his position in to the existential. Good luck!

We are living in a very interesting and fast-paced time. What a time to be alive! And I don’t blame you if you can’t keep up with it. With social media, messaging, dating apps and pick-up culture it is getting more complicated to date and form meaningful bonds with people in general. Psyches of people are getting more complicated and in a lot of cases, quite confused and complicated to where people do not know what they want and completely get lost in life chasing some illusions. Whether it is men projecting imagination of women’s bodies to the point it becomes an industry or women projecting imagination of how much they can get and get away with with their beauty alone. Of course, some kind of raw physical beauty plays a role and women are sexier than ever due to make-up, plastic surgery and gym culture (I almost got seduced by a very fit woman 10 years ago who had the best asscheeks I have seen and she had a boyfriend who would smack my skull if I hit on her, I know and then I had no idea what I want from life also, so it would be not the same Applegarden as I am today). Also I do think that 20 year old man is not really comparable with 20 year old woman. I think women do have a lot more going potentially which is what red pill gets right. But despite that some evenly aged couples find their happiness that way, but I also agree that a man has more advantage in the later stages on his life due to development of his character, accomplishments and drive to work really hard and see the biggest picture possible as the most idiots and geniuses are men statistically. So, I came up with some observable list of questions which you don’t need to ask directly, but you can find some correlations with yourself and your values. You can answer these questions yourself and compare if you would like to have such a person with those values and how they would act, what their tendencies show about them, because those can’t be hidden that easily. If you spontaneously meet some women or men on a friday night at a bowling event, music event or when going out on a date and you have some extra tools to identify some red flags. I personally think it’s better to live alone than trying to fix an inherently unhealthy person who has a tendency to exploit you or barter with you and marry them just to divorce them with allowances for kids. This list does not prevent that but might reduce some risks. Also your dating pool probably is limited, therefore maybe for you it’s better to have something than nothing if you really want that intimacy, sex, kids, companionship, protection when you are old, satisfaction from fear of loneliness, spreading your genes, continuing your nationality, having somebody to teach, having somebody to tie you up before sex (hey, I don’t judge) or whatever it is. So, what is a good spouse to have? Actually you have all the questions you can come up yourself related more to what you are interested in, but there are mine I came up with in about an hour. I vaguely categorized these questions, but this categorization is incomplete, as I am not an expert in the field and you need to evaluate these questions yourself and what patterns you will see and what false positives you will get. I think this is an exercise also for me to understand what I would like in a person if I could get it. What I would like to reward If I were to help this person to improve themselves and grow with them. The best possible answer for example would be that I want a woman who is a musician and we are working on a music project together and are involved in it head to fucking toe. We would create something very beautiful that we are refining performing together, possibly finding a niche work in the music industry as time passes by in this project so I and this person can dedicate our lives to music. Here is the list (don’t pay attention to she, you thing going on) Attributes: I have at least some kind of natural masculine-feminine polarity attraction, she makes me want to touch her just by her being there and looking at me. Willingness to help out with basic tasks. Personality: Is she creative? Is she bossy, how bossy, does she want to control everything? Can she be alone? What does she want in life? Has she done any self-development? Can she adjust into Masculine character or to Feminine character if needed? Can she make decisions when needed or can she accept to be lead when needed? Does she want kids? Will it be ok for her to have kids or not to have kids in both cases? Can she communicate what she wants? How ambitious is she? What media she consumes? Does she follow through with her goals and how many things she finish and not and for what reasons? If needed, can she abstain from sex? If I would want, could we have sex x number of times? Does she have fetishes, can she communicate about them? Is she bisexual? Does she talk shit about her friends with me? How she explains me her problems with people, what are her conclusions? What is her opinion on herself? Does she wish bad on somebody? What would she say to her enemy? Is she peaceful? Is she combative? Is she projective? Is she overly logical (yes, I have met such women)? Can she relax and let go? How does she deal with stress? Has she had pets? Does she have pets? Can she live without them? Do you sort out the trash? Have you studied something additionally besides school? What is the most extreme lifestyle change you have performed or tried to do in your opinion? Do you feel you always have to make sense in a conversation? Do you like hard discussions? Do you like arguments? Do you like being playful? Are you a jealous person? Do you think you possess any societal or personal double standards? What are your happiest memories from your life? Do you like to qualify yourself to other people? Can she appreciate culture and art? What kind of music does she listen to? What music did she listen 10 years ago? Does she want to be popular? With what/for what? Does she joke? Does she get bored easily? Does she enjoy your presence? Does she like to be quiet? Does she like to be physical? Values: What are her values, does she care about things, people, close people, current events, principles? Does she believe what her parents believe because her parents believe something? What is she dependent on? What does she think she is dependent on? What does she think about current events in the world, has she got any opinion on it? Does she lie often? Do her stories and fallacies match? Does she wish to return to the past? Or go on with life to experience new adventures? Does she play games with people, what boundaries she has with people? Is she religious? Is she a minimalist or does she have to have a lot of things? Does she throw them out, give them away or is she a consumerist? Has she donated to charity, what kind of? What is her political stance, personality type if she has one? Does she have to have and do what other people around her have to do and have? Can she tolerate me being trash talked and provoked into conflict by somebody? What is your relationship with death, have you thought about it? What religious scriptures have you read? Are there topics that shouldn’t be talked about, taboos that can’t be questioned or joked about? Can you handle a contradiction or cognitive dissonance in somebody’s actions and words? Are you vocalizing that other people are like this or should be like this (like I want and they are not the way I want them to be) and I don’t like it? What are your expectations of other people? Are there people you think shouldn’t exist? Are all people equal? Are you spontaneous, or are you very methodical? Does she say thank you, does she wish, intend good things for people? Does she reward people? How does she transact with people around her? Does she think she have to? In what ways? How does she react if she doesn’t get something she wanted? Or when she failed? Or when she did something bad to somebody? Or when she didn’t do something? Mental health: Is she depressed? Is she on meds? Can she self-reflect? Is she receptive to culture shock and other narratives for life? Her relationship with feelings, can she abstain from something and can she flow into something that requires work but is rewarding. What does she like? Can she clearly express it? Is she abusive? Does she get angry with you for what things? Is she manipulative? Can she be in the present moment? Is there something that makes her unable to be happy? What is it? Does she feel guilty and repressed about something? Does she accept her body? How compulsive is she? Can you not take things too seriously? Can you joke about serious things? Are you too hippy-like (too much neo-spirituality to the point it’s delusional)? Do you like expressing yourself? Do you like to offend people when you speak? In your opinion, have you done that with people or me for example? How often do you laugh? Can you laugh at yourself? Do you feel like you need to be entertained? Do you think you have low-self esteem? Do you need validation from other people, to what extent? Are all men trash? Can she say no to people and spontaneous situations that arise? Can she get embarrassed easily? How does she handle embarrassment? Can she do something that she thinks is crazy? Health: Does she smoke, drink, do drugs or eat meat? Does she cook, what does she cook? Has she fasted? Does she have excess body mass? Does she do yoga? Is she healthy, does she aim to be healthy? Is she fit, is she athletic, is she militant or the other way around? Have you meditated, do you currently? Socio-economic status: Can she be independant (financially)? What kind of friends she has? Does she have orbiters? Did you have both parents growing up? Do you have children? Why do you want to have a relationship?

If you take care about the basics to make a sustainable lifestyle and have some kind of independence from other people, like living alone and having your debts paid, it is quite a bliss and you really underestand that you can change even your base assumptions about life. In that case, why does your age even matter? If you will not fight for health, then your life is predefined to implode into a downward spiral (it still can, however at least your health will not decline by your own merit).

But you don't realize that you and me don't want to get involved to end the war, it's not some third person, politician or group of politicians or whatever. We don't want to end (majority of the people) wars, conflicts, tyrannies, shadow governments, marketing exploitation, human trafficking etc. Even the idea of charity, tremendous action goes into the charity, it's a full time job into an invisible infrastructure which you won't see the result if you don’t do it for long enough not just to give money to somebody. The ideas people believe are based on self-preservation. My family, my friends, my hometown, my homecountry, my nation, but it's never bigger than that. Why? Well, if there is no enemy, nobody to blame but you have to change and act for reasons bigger than you, it is unfamiliar, hard and unsettling. There is no comfort and yet there is relief doing something that the world needs. Otherwise our lives are just some survival, gossip, entertainment and abuse of the other. We are not interested in stopping this madness, for many people it's not even having the desire to learn something new!