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So the problem of OP is that he doesn't want to see projection of fear to a degree of realm of suffering. I can underestand that. I would tell people here to stop using the @Nahm argument when you don't have anything reasonable to say in a discussion, just say we are all one and don't provide any practical solution to a problem or question at hand. Just say something vaguely spiritual to stop arguing. That's like a a person coming up on stage and saying in a very passionate voice "everything is energy" yet few people really have healed something from energy healing and similar practices. Why? Because the solution is specific, not vague. The "you are already free" or "everything is one" is not enough I feel at least for most people. Even that has to be understood in what context you use it, what your thinking should be based in and time to integrate this concept and see the results in your meditation. So I hate these vague truths. They are truths, but they are impractical.

God bless this man. Been digging sc and sc2 scene recently.

The benefits of semen retention are there in my experience, but really happened after a long time. And I still have to meditate to "harvest" those benefits so to say. I feel more aligned with my flow of life ever since.

Social groups. Do you have hobbies? Craftsmanship, art, theatre, even dungeons and dragons, even video games, cooking, yoga, hardware, software, comedy, literature, spirituality, sports, charity, volunteering fasion, university, education, politics to name a few... Possibility to engage with people there. Women and men. Trough regular meet and greets you might land yourself a boyfriend. Though you have to practice some form of putting yourself out there, some self-reflection, maybe even working on your routine and chores as if you were in a relationship, knowing what you want and knowing what you are willing to offer. It sounds like a lot and it sounds complicated, but you have time to work on it. 5-10 years you will sill be relatively young and you have a chance to be increasingly content and happy with yourself with or without a boyfriend. Those other people who have it have their rude awakenings waiting for them, just later. Not to wish ill at them, but it will happen, because that's how life works. Also learning meditation and some kind of self-rejuvenating practice can make a world of difference. If you don't know where to start, before going to sleep, wish to be in a nice relationship, wish to be capable of living in relationship, because that can be a burden by itself. Immagine how would it look like without the possibilities or impossibilities. However I would argue to wish to be healthy first to enjoy the solitude and the company.

Jahahahaha! Love it.

My parents divorced. My grandparents had terrible time in their marriage. I don't have a good example of what relationships mean. I only see that as a symbol of status and some kind of power play thing which divides those who have it and those who don't. I see that as another thing that society tells you to do to not feel pressure about your life. Idk. Really. I don't know what the value of relationship means. And I am not family oriented also. My father figures are online hindu gurus who tell me to meditate. And I do that. And that's the only thing that works. I have an honest question to raise, what will a woman add to my life that I really needed? I don't know the answer.

Not to go conspiracy theorist and mention that Litvinenko was of a different caliber and not an UK citizen, but! "On 1 November 2006, Litvinenko suddenly fell ill. Earlier that day he had met two Russian ex-KGB officers, Andrey Lugovoy and Dmitry Kovtun, at the Pine Bar of the Millennium Hotel in London.[17][18][19]" from Wikipedia.

Diplomatic risk? Are you sure? Whatever their press secretary says, the opposite is true. Trump doesn't care btw.

Essentially yes.

Huge part of Kremlin's opposition hangs around in YT.

Makes my blood boil everytime that happens... maybe I have the same fate in the future.

got me chuckling, Leo is a good sport though This is a good example. You should joke more.

Yeah, i understand you. I don't know what to do to be honest. I just reveal more and more of what I actually am, but I am far from that. I accept that I am rejected for who I am. And I am going to be. The fact that I will be single for the rest of my life is where I start. There is always life to build. I think the answer to socialize without sacrificing your true self are trough hobbies or art classes like theater or music. You could benefit from a fresh perspective and attempt to be more in tune with your emotions and expressing them to people around you. Being too logical is a no-no for intimacy. You can talk about weather, person or an object with a woman you find interesting and convey A LOT emotionally and in body language. You don't need so much logical depth in this situation.

Again, can't we just admit that we will not do anything about the woman hating men. It's OK. No need to give me epistemic nuances or try to change something. Just say, I will not do anything about it, but will complain. I would just suggest to stop complaining then also, because it's a waste of time, nobody is listening. Maybe it helps to vent, but I digress. I will become the world when I die. Until then, it's impractical to function like that when I am not meditating or smth. It's like when @Nahm will reply to every problem we are one, just relax bro, lots of love. Yes the perception can change without the circumstance changing, but then why you still have an issue with woman hating men? I don't get that. If you did go the full circle, wouldn't you be left with nothing? What will be influenced or changed for the better of you write it here? The OP who is unwilling to change his position?

I strongly believe that everything starts with desire. Only "discipline" you need is to regularly and continously project what you want. For example, you want to be healthy and what does it mean for you. Then rest of the "Discipline" or effort does not feel like a discipline and there the grudgery and dread is minimized. Without this component any discipline is dry and dreadful. Even success can be depressing. That's all I meant. Sorry if I caused some confusion. I think the emphasis is more on the Value you describe than to master the discipline. The practice of desiring what you want (it's rather internal than external force) consciously will make you relaxed and mindful.

I disagree. Discipline alone is dry and causes existential dread. I think it's too much emphasis on discipline. You have to want what you are after, something has to pull you. You pushing yourself is not enough. I would rather master being mindful, projecting what I want and spending time desiring something and then doing. That adds life to what you are doing, while there might not be much meaning, because you just want to express or do something and in a world where there is not objective meaning.

So we are doing nothing about it, that's OK. Just admit it.

I didn't say you can't underestand and because you are a woman. I am saying you don't want to, then there would be no criticism. We have no solution for that as a society. Same goes for other issues.

I don't think you can underestand or relate to his problem and the problem men historically and now always had in this field of life. We have to accept that it's what it is and then provide a solution as a society. Without mass self-reflection it ain't happening. Ok, there are angry and woman hating men. What we are going to do about it?

What blew off the cover in your opinion? I am just interested. Nevermind, I image searched. Yeah, got em.

Acctually when you say that, it starts making sense, you could be right... Who would complain about about something they don't really care about in the end, but I will give her benefit of doubt until I will see something fishy.

I hear you. But youthful women, the more attractive the worse, will be very flaky and discard, disregard the most potential mates and have no feelings attached to it as they are used to it. It's just how it is. Maybe not the whole truth without some nuances, but I think it's pretty close. Wether they are a decent person is another thing. Some people just use other people and throw them away. Some people are very disoriented and can't decide on anything, don't know what they want, can't start what they finished or are just in an unhealthy state that they can't appreciate the other. They don't have love for a fellow human and you can't force it. We are in many ways very ignorant of our surroundings. This is the meta and it disappoints me too. Even at work people can't say hello to me for some reason it's very hard for them to show common decency. I understood that I have to do the same, it's the language they speak, same as in dating. Just re-group, the rejection may not have been so much about you anyways.

What the hell. Do women do that? I rarely touch anybody in my entire life. Sometimes a hug or handshake is unwanted. I forgot to even touch people that I am interested. Thanks for sharing. So, do you still have it as a problem to reflect about, because I see that you still get and at some point got annoyed or it was not something you expected or you are just sharing your story?

Just because they are into you for their own reasons, something deep or problem solving talk can be a massive turnoff. They might feel some way you make them when they just met you, they will have a negative projection of how you are. It's too early for that. She wrote to you, that's a big thing acctually. You can’t blame her for having options in that phase. We are all from used car dealership. Women are ruthless in some sense, yes. But so are men, in different ways. If you didn't like her appearance, you would reject her or not even spot her. I am ruthless for looking at very specific things to the point I may not have a partner like she has to do music to some extent. This is the mating game. It's ruthless. But that's what it is. You get the love for what you do or qualities you have firstly and then maybe for the experience or intimacy or your personality/quirks and there are competitors. I had one favorite, which I really vibe with, but she didn't respond to me usually, even so I went on a date with her that and I had to confirm on that day with her so it even happened. And I was not forthcoming enough or I didn't want her enough. I underestand that she felt very frustrated, because many men hit on her and they are "easier" and know what to do. etc. Try social group method where you meet women that are familiar to you and spend more time knowing/interacting with each other. That will make things easier. It's like starcraft multi-player, first you have a standardized build order where you get to meet her carefully which is point A and then personalize with her which is point B (point where yoh can build your own builds, because you have survived the early game).

They even make surveys for FEEDBACK! Immagine if blizzard did it!?