mamad

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  1. do yourself a favor and read "six pillars of self-esteem" by Nathaniel Branden and re-read it every year. problem solved
  2. I can accept my parent but I can't love them. They want more communication and quality time from me but I dont enjoy their companionship and while talking to them feel contempt toward them I want to change it Any suggestions?
  3. @Leo Gura you said alot that once you were a life coach. I want to choose it as my career. What was the pros and cons for you? Can I make a living fromt it?
  4. I finished it in 2 days in that 48 hours I slept less than 10 hours. I couldn't take a break from that bloody storyline. The amount of fight-and-flight hormones in my body was crazy. I remember when the rat king chased me in those dark dungeons and how my heart was ripping off my chest.
  5. The Last of Us part 2 was the most profound art I ever experienced better than all the movies, tv series and music I ever encounter The last part of the game was unforgivably mesmerizing that it could dissolve your ego and give you an awakening experience;)
  6. Her name was Mahsa Amini Now we are protesting for a week and police are killing us My parents asked me to not join the protest because lots of people are dying by iranian police(30 people untill now) but I cant stop going out and protesting We are angry What would you do Would you risk your life or would stay safe and put up with injustice
  7. Drop all the suggestions to trash Your problem is not physiological its neurological Search for "pied" (porn-induced erectile dysfunction) and you will find the answer I had this problem years ago and I recover from it
  8. Power is Control Desire to change or maintain a situation Forming a healthy relationship with power means he has accepted and taken responsibility over domains that he has control over and those which he doesn't have control over, in both personal and interpersonal level As a man in a relationship with you, he knows his boundaries, his limits to enforce his will upon you, he knows when to stop and he knows when to give the power to you and submit without feeling less of a man and insecure If he has checked this checkpoint He knows when to protect you, when to manipulate you, when to let you go and when to let himself be protected by you If he hasn't he would be either a dictator who always wants to control or a soft man without any sense of protection for you and your future children or Not at all But it requires a hell amount of inner and outer work to develop yourself in all of these areas which most people don't willing to do that But by knowing yourself and your priorities you don't need to find a perfect man Choose your top 3 and stick to them For example, if you are a goal-oriented high achiever woman who is always on her head and rationalizes and strategizes her way in the world aim for 2,3,6 a man who brings color and joy to your life Or if you are a relationship-oriented woman who values family and raising children the most aim for 1,4,5 a man who brings structure and safety to your life and other possibilities and combinations of traits... But Another point is its sustainability of it. the formula for a healthy and long-term relationship is the growth of both parts. if you find a 236 man you should assess his openness toward growing himself to being more 145. Being undeveloped in a field is one thing but having shadows, and demonizing that field is another thing. For example, if he is not a social person but accepts it as a defect in himself it's something normal but if he considers social people as fools and judges them it's a bad thing. Look for any closeness and judgment it's an obvious red flag.
  9. 1. Has found his inner meaning for his life 2. Has found the inner joy of his life 3. Has established his outer strategy of socializing 4. Has established his outer strategy for surviving in life 5. Has formed a healthy relationship with power and domination 6. Has formed a healthy relationship with emotion and his body You would never find a man that has conquered all these But by knowing yourself you can prioritize this list and find the best fit for yourself
  10. It is an obvious red flag but his honesty is the pivotal point of the story If he didnt mention it himself and you found out by yourself then you must break up he needs lots of inner work Talk to him Communication is the key
  11. In recent presidential election which was 2 years ago only 49% of adult people participate and most of them were government employees and participate for its obligation(becuase if you dont participate you may loose your job) and they are adults New generations are completely against regime So 70% is accurate but 30% compliants are alot for changing these stupid rulers and most of these 70% are not willing to get out and risk their lives So your estimations is correct we shouldnt expect any change in a century
  12. Most of those pictures and scenes are fake and are for years ago 70-80% of iranian are not like that. They are against current regime But you are right we cant reach an appropriate result until we are one solid voice This country is doomed by blue ideologies and corruption
  13. Thank you for your wisdom I feel your empathy through your text
  14. I agree But its hard to watch these and not taking action 4_5872950710185758352.mp4
  15. Doesn't making changes in society(dectatorial society like Iran) require some sacrifices?
  16. @Preety_India Congratulation. your vulnerability and honesty are remarkable. What were your resources for this journey? Any specific book in this field of sexual healing?
  17. As a guy I mostly struggle with approach anxiety, not being too needy , sex performance and trying to be more protective. What are the most things that you women are struggling with in the field of dating and relationships? What are your challenges?
  18. Is there any high quality source for women in terms of attracting a guy and navigating him in the road of commitment Books or any courses?
  19. what do you do when your best friend grow in different direction and you have less in common. do you reduce the interaction and make it less intimate or you still stay close together?
  20. you are in good place buddy. you realize the game. it is all ego game . survival is completely pointless when you see the Truth. but instead of asking yourself if its a game what is the point of playing it? ask yourself if its a game what is the point of not playing it?
  21. our gender must determine our love languages or it is irrelevant? as a man in a relationship to a woman if your love languages would be word of affirmation and quality time instead of act of services , does it make you more femenine in relationship and kill the attraction in the long run? whats your opinion about this?
  22. like it. it requires deep work to transcend all the languages and see the unity through each one of them and of course when you become that enlightened you could happily live forever with anyone even Adolf Hitler himself but I prefer a partner to relate to her in both surface and depth we are the same