Daniel Lopez

Hello guys I hope you're doing great! So I've watched Leo's last video (how to get laid) and I felt like I needed that so much! It came in the exact right moment in my life. We can say that I currently have no friends, in part because of my own choice. I used to have some friends, however most of them were a bit toxic, and not great people in general, therefore I decided to slowly walk away from them. Likewise I had been going out with a girl whose name is Daniela, however things didn't work out pretty well, mostly because of my being a bit awkward and socially uncalibrated. I remember that she was the one who got attracted to me at the beginning, and we were dating for a few months, but in the end we just naturally split and got away from each other. I feel like a part of me still wants to be with her, but at the same time I just want to let her be free and not force a relationship that is not meant to be. I've never really been good with women or with people in general, but I'm willing to change that and work hard on myself, I feel like I just need one final push. At this point it's not hard for me to accept that I suck at relationships since I've been working on myself for a few years and I've become more confident when it comes to talking about my weaknesses. I've been watching Leo's content for quite a while and I like it a lot, however for some reason I've been denying this part of life (relationships and dating), I think because I sucked so hard lol. Well the main reason I'm posting this is because I feel like I'm attached in a non-healthy way to my old friends and also to Daniela, I feel like if I started going out, making new friends and possibly getting a new girlfriend I would be betraying them and I would break Daniela's heart (even though she may have already gotten herself a new boyfriend). In a sense I still think it was the right decision to walk away from them. However I feel like they would hate me forever if they saw me happy with a new group of people, let alone girlfriend. I know this sounds a bit irrational, but It's just the way I feel right now. It's a feeling of guilt and a feeling of not deserving new healthy relationships for some reason. Have you guys felt this way also at some point? I would appreciate any advice and/or resources that could help me. I'm sorry for my somewhat lengthy post, I just wanted you to know a bit of my background to better understand my situation. Anyway thanks in advance for reading and also for your help

@Zigzag Idiot Yes I can totally relate to your story, I knew something was very wrong with the way I was living, thanks for sharing!

@Flowerfaeiry Yes I totally agree, I think most of us at a certain point half-ass this work to some extent until we realize that it's not the way, I remember I used to read books just for the sake of reading, I thought just by reading I would improve a lot. Only when I really got serious about it was I able to see some significant changes. Thanks for sharing

Hey guys! Lately I've been thinking about how I came across all of these concepts, I consider myself so lucky to have stumbled upon self-actualization, especially from Leo. What really inspired me to start this journey was the crappy life that I was having, ever since I can remember I was extremely shy, I was too afraid sometimes to even talk to people, as I grew my shyness waned a little, however I was severely bullied, especially in my early teenage years because I was too skinny, people would call me all sorts of names and I thought that was completely fine, that it was my fate, that I totally deserved it and people made me believe I was really worthless. During these times I would even have recurring suicidal thoughts. Also since I was too bad at dealing with people I had never had a girlfriend and that's how it all started lol. I remember I was on youtube for advice on how to get a girlfriend and that kind of stuff, then I think I came across one of Leo's videos on relationships. Later I saw the one about not caring what people say, and that video inspired me so much that something clicked inside me, and from that moment on I started doing this work. Of course it hasn't been easy, sometimes I would say to myself it didn't work as I wasn't seeing results in the beginning, I would sometimes leave it for a while and then picked up on it again. Until I realize that this really worked and I started seeing big changes in my life. I'm currently at a point where I am getting a fulfillment that I thought wasn't even possible for me, and I'm very glad to have found this, it's ironic how having had a shitty life for many years was what really gave me the drive and do this work, and that's the main reason why I'm posting this. Is this also the case for you? If not, how did you came across self-actualization? Sometimes I feel like a totally different person, and of course that's true in many respects. I'm from a "third world country", Colombia (and I was born in Venezuela which is even worse), so virtually no one here knows about this, however even if I feel lonely I am enormously thankful to have discovered these ideas. Anyway that's my story until now, I was just curious to see what inspires people do self-actualization work. I'm sure there are some fascinating stories from many of you

@mavelezm Hey I'm from Bucaramanga, Colombia It's not very common to find people from our country here!

Yes I agree, and I saw somewhere on his blog something about learning from our dreams, it would be cool if he explained a bit more about how we can do this as well

Wow I've never thought of it this way, but thanks that really makes sense and it also helps a lot!

OMG Leo is this really you??? I can't believe it!! I'm not entirely sure I understand all you just said, but I will think on it deeply and make sure I understand it. And thanks for everything! Love from Colombia ♥

@Nahm For me meditation and emotions would be definitely the most important thing to be taught, and one other thing that comes to mind is money psychology, it would be great if kids were taught how to throw away all the limiting beliefs that many parents pass on to their children, e.g. only bad people are rich

Thanks for the answer! I will be researching more and hopefully get over this soon!

lol even though it would bring me pleasure that's not ultimately what I want. I want to be able to enjoy sex, and perform in a good way to make it enjoyable for my partner too

Will definitely give it a try, thanks!

Thanks! That helps a LOT!